I am a Gemini lady who has the hots for a Cap guy. Problem is I am a few years older than him–but still attractive and very “lively”. This man has shown some interest in me and I catch him watching me a lot at work, but we have never made any outright moves on each other. I try to show him I care by being interested in his well-being and generally showing concern for him but I think my master plan has backfired. He has started calling me MAMMA! I’m not sure if he means “hot mamma” or that I’m acting like I’m his MOTHER! I’d like to laugh but I’m not really sure this is funny… Any ideas?
Work-places romances come with a stigma. They are frowned upon in some company policies, and it sucks having to see your ex everyday at the office. But there’s more to it. The office is kind of like a family. We bring our old issues to this adult environment, where we often spend more waking hours than we do with our roommates or loved ones. It is natural to project our childhood stuff onto our colleagues. Hence, sleeping with a co-worker can have incestuous overtones. If your colleagues find out, it’s like your siblings have learned your secret. Do they tell the Boss (Mom/Dad)?
For a Capricorn, work is sacrosanct. It is nearly his identity. So, he may be even more loathe than others to sleep with a co-worker. This conservative sign doesn’t want to risk the security of his career.
Are you being maternal? Words like concern and well-being have a care-taking flavor to them. Using solar houses, nurturing Cancer is on Capricorn’s seventh house of partnership. He does look for the mothering type to balance his more dry orientation, someone who can bring the feeling element into his life. But Taurus sits on his fifth house of lovers. If you want a fling, it is better to be sensual than doting. If you have the hots for him, why are you not being flirtatious, instead?
It should be easy to tell the difference between “mother” and “hot mamma” when he calls you Mamma. Tone of voice, the look in his eye — these are cues to which you can pay attention. He may be using the mother sense of “Mamma” to put up a safe wall, stating (unconsciously) that work-place relationships are a no-no. Or, he may be teasing, calling you on your Cancer moves, when he wants something more earthy. Only observation — or a direct question — will give you that answer.