A Virgo female asks:
I have read a lot of different horoscopes about Scorpios and Virgos. Are we really compatible and are these two signs a good love match? Also, my Scorpio man and I have been seeing each other for over a year now. I have revealed to him that I am in love with him. He has told told me that he loves me, but that he is not in love with me, but that he cares for me deeply and that it takes him a while to fall in love. Is this normal for most Scorpios and does it usually take this long for a Scorpio to fall in love? Also, I have no proof but at times I feel that my Scorpio may be involved with other women and I know that Scorpio’s are very sexual and lustful. Is it possible that my Scorpio man is telling me the truth that he does care for me deeply, but that due to his lustful nature he can still juggle other women, while having deep feelings for me? I have asked him in the past if he is involved with anyone else and to please be truthful with me. He always replies that I worry too much and that he is not seeing other people. However, my gut instinct and intuition makes me feel that he is. Should I take it that if I do feel that something is going on that it probably is and that he is being dishonest with me? If so, does that mean that he does not care deeply for me as he claims? Do you think that there is a chance for a Scorpio and Virgo to have a deep love bond, so much so that my Scorpio man will give up all other women and fall in love with me? Please help. Virgo girl not sure what to do.
“He has told told me that he loves me, but that he is not in love with me, but that he cares for me deeply and that it takes him a while to fall in love.”
Since you’re a Virgo, you will bear with me as I linguistically parse these phrases (with apologies to George Lakoff).
- When he loves you, he is performing an action, because love is being used as a verb. He is willing to care for you.
- When he is in love with you, both of you are in a box, for LOVE IS A CONTAINER.
- When he falls in love, he is not in control. He slips and falls into the “love box,” against his will.
As we know, Scorpios are control freaks, so it is not so easy for them to allow themselves to do anything against their will, to surrender. For a Scorpio, giving up control opens up the risk of hurt and betrayal, so perhaps it does take him a long time to fall in love.
One way to guard against surrender is by having affairs, for it keeps him at a distance from the love box. However, you may just be a Virgo worrywort. Just because you feel something is going on, does not mean that it is. But you also should trust your gut, especially because Virgo rules this part of the body. You likely have good “attention to detail” (Virgos love to put this on their resume). What would be “out of place” if your Scorpio were cheating on you? Would you notice? I’m not telling you to poke around his private affairs, for that will certainly make a Scorpio run for the hills. But think logically about what would be “out of order.” Also keep in mind that Virgos are self-critical. Maybe you don’t feel good enough to have a man devote himself wholeheartedly to you.
Virgo and Scorpio are a good match, but this is not what your concern is really about. I’d suggest that you look at your relationship history. Have you been cheated on before? Do you feel worthy of being loved? If after your own self-exploration you still feel in your gut that he is cheating, write back and we’ll see what we can do.
Comment below: Well, what do you think?