Listen to this article[ad]Forgiveness is an integral component of the world’s religions, one of Sag’s favorite topics. Intellectually, he knows that holding on to resentment hurts him more than it hurts you, so he need not wait for your apology. Therefore, Sag may not have any problem letting bygones be bygones. The danger is that he may be holier-than-thou when you do make amends.
For the Archer, to be right is to be righteous, so it can be a challenge when you’ve wronged a Sag. You want absolution, but you also want to pop his balloon of self-aggrandizement. Forgiving does not make him better or more exalted. It just opens up his heart. Or at least it’s supposed to.
Sag may have just a little too much ego when it comes to granting you a pardon. Until he gets out of his own way, he’s acting more like the institutionalized Church than the compassionate Son. When you ask for forgiveness, wear a “What would Jesus do?” T-shirt. Hopefully, the message will knock him down from his high horse.
Comment below: How would you apologize to a Sag?
There art two kinds of people in this world.
Ones that point the finger outwards. (blame others)
And those who point the finger inwards. (blame themselves)
Because i dont know how far she would take this lie. Shes lying about us having sex. We did, together. Shes using alcohol as a scapegoat to say her actions had no meaning. That i forced myself onto her. When in fact it was a decision we both made. Anyway shes lying in order to maintain a relationship with that new girl. And that new girl believes it. So they’re inflating the whole mess. They might even say i forced myself. And make a false police report. And send me to jail. But im just being paranoid. I did nothing she didnt want me to do. Shes crazy.
Dude. I’m sure the police officers take into account that you had a history with her. I don’t know your whole story. I don’t know how old both of you are. All I know is what you present in this blog. All that aside. The advice here is. You are still playing the game…. Its all in your hands man. Id walk away from this game coz the rules suck… Id find another game that’s more fair to me. Let it go man… This shit will eat you inside. Your a good guy. Don’t do this to yourself. All you will get is more hurt…. You wont win this one. If you keep playing you will loose everything. Get out while you still can. Look at the odds here. One guy vs two bitches. The game is over… Sag24/7 and I and who ever reads this blog knows what she did to you. Your a good guy. Let that one go. No point in sailing into a perfect storm when you have other options.
Look at it this way. Look at her new relationshit. Yep its all based off honesty and truth NO? …. Lesson learned. For sure… She changed her game and the way she thinks. She learned for sure. Its all blue skies for her now. She will finally be happy. I’m laying on the sarcasm fairly thick so I hope you get it.
She lied to you in your relationshit. And the wheel goes round and round.
Do you see her foundation. Its all Bullshit and lies….
Give it a year if that. Don’t even shed one tear for her. She doesn’t dissever it. Let her stumble blind and stupid through life. Let her go. Shes too stupid for love.
My advice is over. Walk away Danny. Walk the fuck away.
Danny
You’ve got to get over her and find a new woman…..You need some deep intense loving to get rid of all that misery that she caused you. Find a nice girl, (they hang out at the library, hint hint) I have a wonderful Aqua man in my life that healed all my scars from before, you should have a good loving relationship, and omg once you do you will swear you were crazy to live like this today. I wish you a lot of luck…
Well im 24 and shes 22. But our experiences are what matures us. And i was her first rerious boyfriend. She knows nothing about life. I know. Ten years sounds adequate. Its a shame. Having to see her hit rock bottom. I hope she closed that book though. No matter how much word of mouth is passed around who we know, we know how we felt and what happened. Shes got problems. And she dumped me 4 inadequacy. Hahaha. Thanks 4 the talk. Blogging is pretty helpful.I use to think she was too good 4 me. HahaHa.She was like. ”Its been a year since weve known each other. U dont know me” im the only one who truly knows her. I can c right throuh her. I think shes brainwashed or something. Last time we spoke she was not as inflated and persuaed. Idk.
Danny
I think she changed. At your age some people are just becoming the people that they are going to be. For you, it probalby happened when you were younger but for some people it hits them early 20’s. I had a few friends do that, we were all kids and life was fun and great and we were there for eachother, then hit our teens and I felt our bonds get stronger then hit our 20’s and what the hell happened? I’ve seen people change right in front of me! The prioriies changed and all of a sudden they became some follower with the wrong people. It makes me ill when I think of how many friends of mine turned out like that. But I have my pride. I stayed me.
Danny. I got respect for you man. Ill still be here to talk. If you need me. But as for my advice. I may be blunt, and an ass sometimes. But I’m honest.
In your heart and head you already new the answers. Before you even posted one sentence on this blog. You did nothing wrong.
NO. Thank you for the talk Danny.
Go to the library and find a good book. 🙂
I feel good knowing others read this and feel for me. I wish she could read this. Thanks libra lady. She changed. But it was in her to begin with. I just need to get over being really shy. I cant even say hi sometimes. Gotta work on that. But i will go to the library. And look onward. But i know it isnt the last time ill hear from her. Shell b back. I mean. Im a good guy. Right. She knows who i am.
But , you dont want her back….shes a HOT mess
hehe ya got me. I know what I’m doing. It just feel good to talk about this and to get other people’s opinion on the whole matter. And I’m not dillusional. I knew the risk putting my heart on the line all those years ago. It is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all. I’m a lover. I proved that. Wow. You learn so much out of life. and out of relationships. And how people’s head works., I wonder what I went through to make this awareness Possible. My life hasn’t been that tough. Compared to like a less fortunate person. Sure people who are close to me always dump on me, but that’s life. I love being a cancer. Whatever doesn’t kill me will only make me stronger. yup.
yup
Danny. Let go of false hopes. You lied to yourself enough. You are a good guy. That I will agree with you. A real good guy. Don’t do this to yourself.
Let her go man. She did change. I agree with Libra Lady. But did she change for the good? She will come around. You will see her. That’s life. And it will hurt like hell. But false hopes just get you more pain. Your better then that. I know all that I type is not exactly what you want to hear. But I once found myself, in that same hole that you are sitting in right now. I know how hard it is for you. I do Danny. My ex was a Sag. Way Worse then your ex. I let it go. All that I have is a hope that she may one day understand. And that’s it. I pity her. No love. No regret. Just pity.
I’m with Libra Lady on this one. Once you find that girl you will look back at this and lough. She is so right about that. You will find true love Danny. You will know. You think you know right now. You don’t kid.
There will come a time. You will look back at all this and lough.
Well. I loved her. I will never forget how I felt and how i thought I made her feel. Maybe when our lives hves have gone through some more oh those lessons. I can barely support and care for myself let alone a relationship. According to women and society, I need a job and a car and money to maintain a relationship. ????? I don’t see it, but that’s what I need to learn. Is that how relationships work? half love and half current times??? can an undying love for you die just because you are at a stand still??
yeah that’s true. It’s smart to expect the worst out of a situation. that way you’re ready for whatever impact you may feel. I guess. I’ll look back at this and laugh. but it’s a shame right now.
Are there any people who feel otherwise about this mess that is my past relationship????
like a sag that feels for my x???
Well Danny you just answered your own question. 🙂
Is that love?
If a person truly loves you there will be there regardless of your car, job, money. True love makes it work no matter what.
As a man yes its our responsibility to provide for our family. But we live in different times. In my current relationship we both work. We no longer live in the early 1900’s. A woman works just as hard as a man today. Its a partnership. She cleans. I clean. She cooks. I cook. We do it together. I’m not going to sit on my ass and drink beer when she needs help. Those days are over buddy. You get back what you put in.
That’s a real relationship kid.
If you want to be called a Stalker. A Psycho. Crazy, Insane. If you really want that restraining order you go right ahead and keep laying to yourself Danny. Coz that’s where you are headed. She doesn’t care man. You do. She could care less about you. If you peruse this you will loose more then you have. Let this go… She will blame you for all of it. I’m not much for getting it up the poop chute. Or feeling like a used tampon. Don’t chase it. Let it go and time will tell.
yeah. No matter how I look at it. Mistakes were made. And all I can do is learn from it all. But love is what you look for in a relationship. not rent money, or a car, All that is what comes after the decision of pursuing love. At least that’s what I think.
I’m leaving her alone. I’m just talking about her. about me basically. She won’t leave me alone.
Cut the umbilical cord dude. Tough love time. She flips pancakes on you time to flip her pancake.
Change your number. Cut her from face book. Consequences. Dude. She needs to know there are Consequences for stupidity. Tell her to take her time and figure herself out. Coz it’snot fair to you.
Your her safety net Danny. Your her fall back plan. As long as she has that she doesn’t care. You don’t want that man trust me. She will juggle you both.
Ask Sag24/7 for her opinion.
Yeah that sounds right. Me being her safety net. I wouldn’t want to be with her if she were still on that mind set anyway. SAG’S can be crazy. at their worst I guess. But at their best. They can bring good times full of good vibes. I thought she was smarter than this. I gotta stop talking about her.
Danny you will always think about her man. You loved her that’s why it so damn hard. Don’t sweat it. You will find the right girl for you.
Glass full buddy. Glass full. That’s the attitude.
@ sting….nope…i need not interject….you are right in your advice to danny…
basketball metaphor
a sag (the coach) wants many players on the bench that she can bring into the game. some days she may not want lebron or kobe..maybe she was a jordan or a dennis rodman in the game. BUT she never wants to lose any of these players to another team…that would hurt the coachs ego, he musta not been doing something right…like any coach, when a player needs to be put in his place, the coach will bench him until further notice. but the coash still wants the player…the coach is in love with the game and not the players…
and the coach is so egotistical to even believe that if a player was to decide that he wanted to play for another team, the coach expects that player to come back because her team is the best team in the league and her coaching abilities are next to none…the coach wants loyalty..i.e. Phil Jackson to a Kobe Bryant…but the coach always wants the freedom to find more great players to improve her game. furthermore, some coaches believe that every person wants to be a player on her team, its not a matter of if, only when they want to be recruitied…again, she loves the game more than her players…not to say that she doesnt love her players, but she loves the game more
Thats a creative analogy. But what kind of love is that? Thinking its a game? Recruiting players? Kobe AND le bron? Sounds like a slut to me. I mean my x. Man. To act that way. A relationship should be founded on love. And the rest should fall into place gracefully. No real problems thanks to that love. Acting like that coach is like showing weakness to me. Like dont even try to be in a relationship. Just keep the emotions out of it. Go join a swingers club. Leave the emotions to the ones who understand it. Im speaking out of hurt though. Any thing not loving and fair in a relationship is showing weakness of the self. Or am i tripping? Am i weak? Prolly. But i was dumped. So i have reason to. Gotta be strong!!! Man i wish she could read this.
Do u think it would be wise to show this blog to my x? Ull hear her side maybe. But you guys think its safe? No? Maybe shell learn a thing or two.
@ danny, its a tough analogy for people to take…but it think it accurately describes my life and probably most other sags…its even a tough realization for a sag to take…BUT that doesnt mean that a sag cant grow and mature…we just like to frolic…sag men and women alike…we may have a special person who we grow and build with but we like to expand our minds and that may mean more than one mate will do…i knwo many sags who have married and who are still married…
asking your ex to join this blog is not a step in the right direction…i mean your going to create drama that you didnt want in the first place. and you cant assume that shes going to Buy into anything thats said on this blog…she may truly believe that her life is perfect the way it is; like most sags tend to think.
Yeah thats true. Her door of perception is closed shut. Nothing will knock her off of that high horse. But if i were in her shoes and read all this. It would leave an impact. Who in their right mind would continue to be such a bad person. Ppl can do whatever they want. But sags dont think about the after effects. Ppl who dont think about that are bad. U cant teach an old dog new tricks. U cant teach a fish (a dumb fish at that too) to fish. Forget her then. : (. Joking. Ill b alright.
@danny many readers have written to me to have all their comments deleted because somebody found this blog.
@ danny….you will be okay…time heals all wounds
No matter how hard you try to make the other person see your point of view Danny. YOU WONT. We all learn at a different pace Danny. Showing this blog wont solve your problem. If you show this to her she will flip this on you and you will end up the bad guy in the end. Sometimes right and wrong is not the answer. This is that time. Its not who was right and who was wrong. The answer here is you guys aren’t right for each other. Its not so much the similarities in a relationship that make it work but acceptance of differences. Love may conquer all. You are lucky you know what it means. It takes some people a long time to reach the peek that you reached Danny. But. You cant force change on anyone. In time she may or may not understand what she has done. But this is not the time. What you feel in your heart and in your head about her is what you feel. If she felt the same you would not be getting advice from me. You are here because she doesn’t see it. And no matter how hard you will try to make her see. She never will. She needs to grow still. She needs to fall in order to pick herself up. That’s how we learn. And she needs to figure that part out on her own. All you can do is be patient. All good things come to those who wait. Its hard but its true. Sag24/7 is correct. Time heals all wounds.
Time is not fair. Id stop blaming yourself and her. Not all relationships end with a happy ending dude. If its truly meant to be. Give it time and space to grow. If she loves you she may come back. But it wont be today. All you can do is let her go. Move forward and don’t look back. Life is hard. There will be cloudy days. But as sure as fuck there will be sunny days.
This is not the time. Timing is all wrong. You are way ahead of her. Give her time to catch up to you. Give her time to mature. Who knows maybe in the future she will see her mistakes. But don’t wait for her. Move on and live your life Danny. When you want it to slow down it speeds up and you cant even catch a breath. Then it slows down to a snail pace when you want it to go bay fast.
Nothing is set in stone.
You don’t negotiate with a Hurricane. Coz a Hurricane doesn’t speak or understand English.
Don’t give a monkey blueprints for a rocket.
In a nut shell. Don’t explain to a person what love is till they feel it or know of it.
Wow. Im ahead of her. Hehe. Good to hear. And i wont want to delete my comments. Its not like they are lies. Well i hope she learns. Not for my sake though. I had my turn. Oh well. Im gonna find me a good girl. What goes well with cancer? Lol. Jk. I know that hardly matters.
U think im looking for something i never felt i got as a child growing up? Why do we do what we do?
We are all different Danny. You are looking for a piece of a puzzle that fits you. And only you.
There is a piece out there that fits you perfectly Dan.
It may be Danny. As children we grow up different too. Its the lessons we learn. Not all of us grow up and mature the same. Life gives you curve balls. You just learn how to hit them back. Not even as children we are the same. We are all dealt a different hand in this game called poker. lol Life.
My childhood wasn’t easy maybe that’s why I have a different perspective in life and my list is different in comparison to my ex. We all learn lessons and they are the same but we learn them at different times in life. For some its during childhood for others its late in the game. I lost my mother when I was three years old. I treat women differently from other men. Why because I don’t take them for granted. I have respect for them and all people to be honest. It all comes with understanding. I had a buddy who used to badmouth his mom in front of me. Called her all sort of things. Treated her like shit. I put him in his place he still has a scar. He had no idea why I would act like that. Well he found out. Now when I come around hes super nice to his mom. And his mom bakes pies for me in appreciation.
You are just trying to find your place in life. You are looking for something that you know you are missing. Your second half Daniel. Do you know who you are named after? Daniel.
Its a bible story man. He was tossed in a lions den to be devour and ripped to shreds by LIONS.
God protected him. The LIONS SAT THERE AND WERE LIKE KITTENS TO HIM.
We all look for happiness and it may very well be something that you were missing since childhood. In the end only you know what makes you Happy Danny. Wanna know the truth. YOU WILL FIND IT. Now even more then before. You tasted it for a bit but some fruit is rotten on the inside. You have to spit it out.
You will find your perfect fruit and it will surprise you how good it tastes on the inside. No seeds to break your teeth.
I go by Sting on this site. The Meaning of my real name is HELPER AND DEFENDER OF MEN. I try to live up to my name. Because it was given to me for a reason.
Daniel meaning is GOD IS MY JUDGE.
If you don’t like my advice. If my religious remarks offended you in some way. I apoligize.
If your an atheist. I’m sorry. If you die nothing happens.
Then. Take Yodas advice on the dark side and where it leads. Coz that much is ture.
Only if you let it, will it consume you. Skywalker. lol
Sag 24/7 the coach analogy was awesome. I never heard that explanation before. Thanks for sharing that.
Good Stuff….
Hey Danny. I there is a ‘THE STING” so not to confuse you I changed my name. to Sting not the “The Sting’ lol
Danny your a real smart guy. And a good guy. Don’t beat yourself up over this, You will get through this. We all have to swim through a river of shit. But sometimes we come out clean on the other side.
You I see as a guy that came out clean. Be proud of that.
Girls like your ex are a dime a dozen. Guys like you. Well. Your the kind of guy that makes me proud. And what a lot of girls look for.
There isn’t too many guys like you Danny. Your life gave you a good lesson for you to be the Man you are.
I don’t know who is responsible for the way turned out. But who ever is did a good job.
You won the battle. You won the war. In my opinion Dan.
She lost you from her own stupidity. And guys like you. No girl wants to loose. That’s my opinion.
Thanks. Man. Now I’m compelled to look as deep as I can into my past. and reflect on my influences.
So who made me realize what love is???
My family doesn’t really express deep love.It’s like and unspoken link. Since I was 18 I’ve been “traveling:” moving from mom’s to dad’s to my own place to my girls. My mom’s must have been the “coldest”
but now I sound like a puss. But mistakes were made on all our part. And all we can do is make peace.
people use the word love loosely. I guess were doing the best that we can. Just take it easy and think.
I’m tripping.
Can I ask you Sting. Are you a female?
You know people who really know me. Know that I have a short temper.
They’ll mention it like ‘”yeah you messed up that one time””
“don’t get him mad” “ever since you were a kid”
I know that my hulk syndrome will always be a problem until people stop noticing it.
But My question is.
Doesn’t everyone have that fuse? That line? That breaking point?Aren’t everyone the same in mechanics?
And whose to say at that moment how much pressure the person was in? And how unprepared he is?
I make mistakes. I get angry. But I’m still expressing my self. No???
I need therapy or something. Man. everyone tells me that too.
this sucks. kinda. I guess to be safe I should believe that and consider talking to someone about this???
about me???
that’s therapy right??
I’m a dude Danny. I’m not a chick. lol
I have my tough side too. I was a scrapper growing up. I did a lot of dumb shit that I regret now. lol
I did Marshall arts. A lot of fighting arts. Spetznas is awesome. google that shit if you like.
I speak 6 languages and I’m Canadian. lol I made video games now I make commercials.
I’m no doctor dude. lol
But i just think you are a person that lets his emotions drive him. You have to understand that not all of us are alike. Not even twins. You need to understand other people a bit more. That is where you truly find who you really are. I wont lie dude. I can turn to a hulk too. But its the feeling you get when you transform from green back to normal that you realize what you have done. That’s whats important. And I think you have that. You think of other people. We all have that fuse. We push back when we feel like we are getting used. That’s normal. Man.
When you give and give and get pushed into a wall your back only goes so far. Eventually you start pushing back. I’m a Pisces some say we let people walk all over us. That may be true. We do tend to have patience we give you a benefit of a doubt but were no idiots. We can be a staircase but only for so long. We all push back man. Its natural when you feel used and manipulated.
She wasn’t right for you Danny. My ex wasn’t right for me. If she was she would have never pushed me into a corner. Its pretty lonely in the corner.
There is a time and a place to express yourself. We all handle situations different. If you want to talk to a councilor man. Id do it. They will shine light on your life. Put things in a perspective that you could never see. In the end there is no point in keeping shit inside if you can talk about it. When you talk about it. It feels good inside. No person was meant to walk around with pain. Share it. Talk about it. That’s how it heels. You will be surprised how many people have shit in common with you. In the end we are different but we hurt the same.
sorry. thanks a lot.
No worries Danny. My advice for you is to find someone who’s more on your level. Who plays the game like you do so to speak. My friends and my current girlfriend share a lot of ethical and moral traits that’s why we work. My best friend is the opposite of me but we are like brothers. Hes nuts man. lol If you saw us on a street together it would be equivalent as seeing a Punk dude with a Rabbi. So different. But we are the same where it counts. Ethic and Morals. Those are important. My girlfriend. My better half. Balances me. That’s what you need to find. And you will man. As sure as a sunrise. You will find her in the last place you thought to look. She might be in front of you the whole time. You just didn’t see it.
This chick wont push you into a wall. She will calm the Hulk inside of you. I know this. The Hulk never came out once and Iv been with her for a year now. With the ex. The HULK came out a few times. Why?
She wasn’t the right one for me. Its Hard to see it now Dan. But trust me on this one.
Id drink a beer with you anytime man. And if someone picked on you Id have your back.
We may be different but I can see that your morals and ethics are in good condition. That’s my diagnosis.