What does a Scorpio man want in a woman?

ScorpioScorpio man seeks woman who can keep a secret, stay faithful. Must have high sex drive, and must never ever look at another man (or woman, for that matter). Extra points if you have a healthy respect for privacy. Willingness to merge assets a plus — bringing along debts may be a dealbreaker. You should have completed a full round of psychoanalysis first, and know your dark side well — I don’t want to be your therapist, and I’d rather you have thoroughly examined yourself before I dig up all your skeletons. Tolerance for witnessing emotional extremes and black moods is a necessity. If you want to be possessed, I’m your man.

About Jeffrey Kishner

Jeffrey Kishner is founder and publisher of Sasstrology. He is a licensed mental health counselor and has been doing astrological counseling since 2001. Jeffrey has been published in print magazines including The Mountain Astrologer and Dell Horoscope, and has written online for sites including AOL, Tarot.com and StarIQ. Jeffrey has also been heavily involved in the astrology blogger community. Read his personal blog at JeffreyKishner.com.


  1. amanda.s69 says:

    And for all you scorpio lovers pleas, please, please play a little hard to get with your scorp he knows he’ll get you in bed before you know it proove him wrong and let him know you can satisfy him emotionally mentally if its only about sex he will not be fully satisfied I mean its hard trust me I did and my scorp is very good looking I know a lot of girls that have slept with hooked up with that’s why when he approached me I felt like crushing him because of my leo pride but I didn’t I was very kind distant and nutral.. I didn’t act like he was big stuff . Scorpios will be super nice sweet hearts with u then get u in bed then dissapear they’re the ultimate bad boys and that iS the reason behind they’re manipulative side. I’m not saying scorpios won’t be distant if your a little prude they always will that’s why u have to practice your independance and don’t be clingy he needs to recharge.. I hope it helps I came down to read horoscopes and c all this bs about scorps iunno mine is my shining armor always protecting me taking care of me wtvr he can be possesif and bossy I can b bitchy just b strong

  2. NewlyWedLibraLady says:

    I’m so glad youre back, I’m sorry for your bad situation but OMG last time we spoke you were signing up with the military and I was worried that something wouold happen to you. You’re a good kid and I know things look bad right now but there are so many years left to find the right person, I was 39 when I met my husband, I have a son who’s about to turn 17 and a lousy ex husband …. My new husband is wonderful (my Aqua) things looked so bad for me once, I was single for 10 years after my first marriage fell appart and that was celibacy and everything, I didn’t think I’d ever even date again, then I met a couple of potential flings and when I’d had enough I gave up men all together BLAM! My Bobby showed up and we’ve been getting closer everyday since, Phenix, your going to just need some patience. My poor son has already had his heart broken twice this year, (hes a Cancer) and I feel so helpless when it happened, my husband went through hell and back before we met just like I did, you know your Mrs Right is probably going through her hell right now, just think of all the things you can tell eachother when you finally meet…..I am so glad you are alive and well

  3. When meeting a Scorpio man for the first time, he can appear to be cool and detached, however underneath his seemingly calm exterior, he is brimming with emotion. His eyes can be penetrating and he will see right through any insincerity. Scorpio men have great desire and passion for their partner and are not afraid to show it.

  4. curious757 says:

    yes, that is very true. Scorpio men (in general) do not care for superficiality. They don’t care if you’re the most beautiful, the smartest, the most higher earning, or higher educated. NONE of that matters. They want “realness”. It’s weird how so many women from so many star signs fall over themselves for a scorpio man.

  5. i’m in a realtionship with a scorpion guy,itz almst a yr..and he doesn’t like me asking abt his office collegeus,or abt his hme..bt he luvs talking abt sex!!!! Watching sex relatd muvis…and he forces me to sleep with him.i luv him,i care for him,bt hw cn i sleep with him.do i have to prove him my love ,by sleeping? Y cnt he understand me…pls advice me friends


    I might be abut delayed but I gotta say that you GO GIRL he must be soo proud of you. I’ve never ever ever seen a any girl who would stand by their husband side like that. So happy for you ! And your right not all scorpio guys are like that besides everyone ha a different personality and it depends on how u meet where u met how youse came along with each other coz every pathways has different tracks now that’s what I believ in..

    Anyhoo I’m in love with a distance Scorpio I’m from Australia Italian blooded and he’s from U.S.A Mexican blooded. Thought nationality don’t mean anything I just like mentioning it coz I think it combined sexy together lol jks! Anyhoo we had our ups and downs but ehh that’s life you can’t live life without drama but even though distance is abit hard at time but the good thing about it is that being so far apart from each other we build up more patience between us two.. Though he is a very very jealous type I find it cute af times but he does need to control it coz it upsets me and then that’s when my bad mood starts so swing!! Thought I am a very very bipolar type and he’s knows it a lot and what Sooo good about it is that he knows how to talk me out of it he knows how to get the bad to good out of me which I loveee it so much and sometimes be would tease me with a message saying “how is my bipolar baby doing ” Sooo cute 🙂 but anyhoo love is great close or distance it don’t matter 🙂

  7. aw i love reading happy stories too ?

    love is in the air

  8. 🙁 whoa i dont know what happened, guess i needed to emphasize it 3x up there. 😀

  9. I deleted 2 of them for you

  10. @phoenix/scorpio

    holy hell, what has been going on with you???

  11. Bee,

    In the future, don’t have an abortion AND THEN tell the guy! What did you do wrong? THAT!

    I’d move on, especially since he did something behind your back and you forgave him. He obviously didn’t forgive you for keeping your abortion a secret. You don’t know how that made him feel, regardless if he said he wanted children or not. That’s HIS child, too, and you made that decision for the both of you.

    I think he already had one foot out the door anyway and your stunt pushed him all the way out. I think he handled it kind of rough, but he protected himself, which is commendable.

  12. @Jeffrey

    thanks 🙂

  13. Hi,

    I need an advice from a Scorpio male. I attend a game club 3 times a week, all of us “gamers” became like family to each other and occasionally we get newbies at the club. One of these newbies since December if last year was this Scorpio male. We played in two different rooms and very rarely together so I never really paid attention to this guy especially that he never displayed an interest in getting to know any of us. I’m Pisces, and rarely let anyone close outside of my circle so this guy’s existence had no effect on me, that is until a month ago. Something changed, I ended up sitting down at a random table, eves dropping on a conversation between him and two other females, since I know the two females I perceived that I’m part of the conversation and asked him couple of probing questions just to see what this guy is made of little did I know I set myself a trap. I started liking him on a subconscious level and it could be because of the wall he’s built. Scorpios were always drawn to me males and females, but I would always withdraw from getting close to one and I’d cringe just hearing this zodiac sign. These past three weeks I catch myself constantly looking at him or being within the vicinity of his eyesight, which is even worse because I don’t like to pursue and I feel like any moment now he’s going to cash in on the fact that Im falling for this guy, considering every horoscope I have read says that scorps are super intuitive. At this point I just need to know is his cold shoulder sign of his disinterest and he’s just not physically attracted to me or is it a setup and he’s waiting on an opportunity to move in? This might give you more clues. One time I came to the lounge area and he has ordered some food, he invited everyone personally in another language except me, he did not acknowledge my presence. I’ve read that when Scorpio is into you, you will be the center of his attention…but I’m starting to feel he’s purposely decentralizing me. I’m pretty confident well rounded Pisces straight to the point so after the time has passed I voiced, very gently but to the point that I noticed I’m being treated differently but not necessarily in a positive way…at that point I figured that even if he doesn’t like me voicing my opinion I’d rather lose the scorp but leave an impression that I’m not a pushover and can stick up for myself, the look on his face said that he was genuinely stunned by my remark. We started randomly greeting each other at the games but it has not evolved into a given. One time as he was coming out of the game room I was walking towards him and I kissed him on the cheek along with the handshake I’m still hoping that it was my imagination. One time we were playing together and sitting next to each other he paid a compliment to my blouse, and then jokingly asked me if he could borrow it sometimes. I didn’t hesitate with “anytime”. One day he came late to the games and he was wasted but in a great mood, he extended his hand for a greeting and when I was pulling it away he pretty much felt every millimeter by not holding tightly but not fully letting go which send me off on another trip as he didn’t do it to the other girl that was sitting at the table and he is friends with her but he did it to me. I feel that when I’m talking to our mutual friends, random people he tries to isolate me from the picture by talking directly to them but not me… It’s weird to see this person who 7 months ago would not even say hi to any of us now being very social. Yesterday I came to the club early only to find my scorpion talking to the owner. Naturally, I came up to the owner and gave him a light kiss on the cheek, shook my scorp’s hand but did not feel any extra interest, in fact when I sat down, he kindly apologized and asked to leave them for 15 minutes as they had something to talk about. I got up and said “no problem”, went to the other side of the lounge. To my luck about five minutes later one of the hosts showed up and came and set with me..we were talking and laughing but no flirting of any kind as we laughed, my scorp started turning his head in my direction, not sure what sparked his interest maybe the laugh but the state was now 4, 5 seconds long vs. one or two at which point I even started to think maybe they were actually talking about me that’s why he was looking our way, there was no one else that should have sparked his interest unless he’s truly into guys lol. But, in all honesty that was the last of any sign of attention aside from a slight pat on the side if the shoulder after we won a game together and actually I have won him the game. I’m so love struck it sucks being a Pisces living in a fantasy yet analyzing every detail of his actions, someone please ground me! Don’t sugar coat it, just tell me is there a chance that his coldness and isolation could be a test to see if I fall for him or it is what it is and if he genuinely was attracted to me and interested in me he would have approached me by now???

  14. Hi Alexis

    I would have said “Play Hard to Get, Ignore Him, Avoid Him and Show No Interest in Him”
    but you have already revealed your hand and much too soon and he is on to you so the
    game is lost on your part because he is on to you and he can clearly see that you have the
    HOTS FOR HIM really BAD.!!!

    You could be reading too much into this or it could be what it is and the only way you are
    going to find out of whether he is into Guys or he may be interested in Girls or Women and
    you in particular then you have to come clean and outright ask him because that is the only
    way you will establish as to what this “Mystery” consists of and not waste any more time on
    something which may not be feasible and realistic so Seek and You shall Find.???

    Cheers and keep smiling. Taurus

  15. Am 23yrs sag confused abt ma 27yrs scorpio,i met him last year in December wen showed he liked me but i waz in another relationship and i told him straight in his face i dint wanna be witg him,we planned to meet but i alwayz turned him down telling him am wth ma man,but he dint stop tha chase,did evrything ma man dint do..It waz 4mths wen ma man found out about my scorpio and broke up wth me,i waz so confused and scared of what i next i was gonna do since he had been my all coz i waz jobless then…..Later after i got strong and needed to try my scorpio and see if he’s tha sweet guy he had alwaiz been,i told him about my lost relationship and openly told him it was coz of him that it ended, He promised he would be there for me coz i was all he ever wanted to be happy, i was happy wth him but after around 2months i told him i needed to pay my house rent he promised to pay bt got silent for over 2 good weeks,i always cried and knew he was gone but later came back like nothing was wrong, he was alwayz weird.. he introduced mi to his friends and they all liked my Company and i loved evrthing about my man..tho he did so much of tha silence habbit,he stopped calling me, he nolonger texts,later i realised he was married which he denied at 1st but later admitted was true but twasnt his will to marry her and cdnt tell mi tha details,it was another heart pain,one evening last month he asked we go back home together,spent anight and made sweetlove. My love for him grew again,from then he asked his friends to keep their distance that i was officially his woman, am soo confused coz wen wth his friends he shows so much love and calls me his best bt he daznt pick my calls,daznt call,not even msgs,whenever hr looks at me he alwaiz sayz he cant wait to see our siblings they will be cute,he asks me to be patient wth him and he always imagines afuture wth me as his wife. He flirts arnd wth gals which i never see physically bt fones..This has confused me i dont know what to think or Do Next.

  16. I love scorpio’s my first relationship was with one he was really freakibg determined n off the wall. He love torturing me…i liked it….then i met n married an aries…had beautiful babies n unhappy. Im a capricorn n he is immature n compulsive. I thought i could change him but boy i was wrong. So I came across this guy,(older scorpion man) and we just fit. Before i even began talking to him i told him i was married n unhappy. He makes me very happy. He respects the fact im married n text n call when i give him the ok to….but now he starting to ask me questions like how i feel about him n what are my intention with him…n he tells me how he miss my presence n company..which i love but it confuses me as to why he’d ask me that..

  17. Even still he my favorite phrase of his is Gap em open…really need string honest advice

  18. I’m a Pisces female and have had Scorpio girlfriends all my life. I’ve only known a few Scorpio men but the ones I have met have overwhelmed me with their intensity. One Scorpio busted right through a circle of my friends, no small talk or regard for societal norms, just walked through the circle , ignored my friends and got right up in my face to introduce himself. Then there are the intense eyes. I actually have to say that as sexy as they are, Scorpios intimidate the hell out of me. Maybe it’s just my experience but are all Scorpios intense? If so, how do you handle all that sexy energy at once? Lol

  19. my scorpio guy is too cold to me but when he drinks a couple glasses everything changes he stares and sometimes blinks.. talks.. what i supposed to do???? its been 1 year but we have nothing in the hand.. i want him badlyy … btw we havent done any stuff together he held my hand once and kissed my lips thats it. help!

  20. Hi, i need advise on a Scorpio male that I’m crushing so badly on. I met him online and so far I love his traits and his attitude and his looks. I’ve seen him in videochats and so far I like what I see. I have not liked a guy this much in a long time. He has all the things I’m looking for. We have so many similarities and attitudes towards life that I feel I need to at least communicate with him. At least be a friend..I need to know how to attract him and make him be intrigued to me so that he’ll start talking to me first…what are scorpio males, what are you attracted to when you look at profiles online? I’ve read up on scorpio man and he’s a 100% scorpio man. I know he’s looking for love because he keeps saying he’s searching for it but there’s no one that fits his criteria. My profile picture is looks really good but I didn’t realized that I kept my profile locked for a good amount of time when I added him. I’ve opened my profile and I need to know what pulls his interest to me…

  21. Hi im 47 met a 31 scorpio online we chatted everyday till we finally met face to face I invited him to my home we kissed and cuddled for 8 hours then when he left he told me he enjoyed our night… two weeks later I’m picking him up from a pub he’s had so much to drink that he can’t drive. Apparently he hit some one and does not remember.. the details.. but I took him home with me I git in to take a shower and when I went to bed he turned over and held me tight he said thanks fir picking him up and that he owed me big time.. well we ended up making love it was so erotic and intense that he made me bleed… when I woke up the next morning I showered and woke him up to shower.. I took him to get his vehicle.. he hugged me and told me thank you… I received a message from.him yesterday saying I miss you have a good night.. work is caos so many people have called in.. I sent him a text that says I accept you with all your imperfections and flaws.. and I miss you too.

  22. Ashley Mendoza says:

    Male Scorpio gave me his number then says he started dating a female after I wanted to ask him out now he tells me via text message he started dating a.girl I was koo but told him shouldn’t he have told me sooner instead of leading me on so he sId it just happened so when I see him at work and am acting normal being myself not letting him get to me he texts me.later on asking for a fovor n to talk on the phone but I was over it by then im an AQUARIUS

  23. Ashley Mendoza says:

    He act like we was cool enough to ask for a favor we.just started talking.three weeks.ago he knew I.was interested

  24. Ashley M. Don’t go for it. Scorps love it when people are attracted to them. It’s the power play. The cruel thing about Scorpios (Both men and women) is that they can keep up the flirtatious power plays for a VERY long time without giving themselves completely EVER! I have many Scorps in my life, have dated them, and I think the only other sign that can flirt for the long haul without giving in completely are Pisces. lol I am one, but ours comes from doing everything within the imagination and being satisfied with that. Scorps like everything black and white. Truth be told, they like submissive partners with mean streaks. This is not something that you can fake. Either you’re submissive or you’re not. Either you have a mean streak, or you don’t. I’m in a new relationship with another Scorp and so far, some of the spontaneous moments that have made him say something positive and get all excited about are:

    Me telling him that I’m a grown *ss woman and I’ll do whatever I want – in response of him demanding something from me and then telling me that he knows that I would do it. I did it, but not without giving him lip about it.

    Raising my hand to slap him in the car when he said something disrespectful. He openly smiled and said, “I like that.” My response…a giggle, a flirtatious look, “Oh…you like that back hand form do you?” Then we both laughed.

    Him talking crap before going on a brief vacation and me telling him, “Just for that, you’re going on vacation without sex. I’m wearing sweats and a t-shirt tonight…you’re getting NONE!” He said, “Ooh…I like that!” Then he proceeded to drive us from his house to mine at a VERY dangerous speed (around midnight), scaring the hell out of me until I did a pinky swear to give him sex.

    Those are just a few examples and the Scorps that I’ve dated in the past have obsessed over mean, alcohol addicted, emotionally unstable women. Now, I’m not emotionally unstable, but I do have a crazy side. I probably drink a little bit more than I should these days (having a nerve induced pain management issue) and I definitely have a mean streak. I’m not a mean person, but I really don’t have a problem being considered as “mean”.

  25. Scorpio is the most jealous sign, and one way to deal with their jealousy is to point out the flaws – especially physical flaws – of other men and women so they’ll know they’re always Number 1!

  26. Yes, Scorpios are jealous, but the jealousy can be eased by pointing out the flaws of others so they know they’ll always be Number 1!

  27. Monisherelove says:

    I’m a 27yr old Aries female. I met a 31yr old Scorpio guy thru my dad on the 4th of July. I’m new to the area so my dad thought it would be a good idea for him to show me around. I was immediately attracted to him, but didn’t want to do anything because I was in a relationship and I don’t cheat. He flirted and even tested me while I was fixing his plate before he left. Once outside I put him in his place respectfully. I ended up breaking up with my bf and partly it was because of him, but more so bc I realized that I didn’t love my ex like I thought I did and I really needed time to grow for myself.

    Four days after meeting him I slept with the Scorpio guy. My dad was beyond pissed bc I ended up staying out until the next day. Before we slept together we had great conversations about our hopes for our futures and what we wanted out of life. After tho, things were strained, but we continued to talk. He was bothered that my dad was so upset with him and I was too, but being an Aries I move past things quicker. He came by once after we had sex and we spoke briefly about everything. I know loyalty is very important to him, bc he would tell me that he would choose his friendship with my dad over me. And I like my attention, being an Aries and all, but I respect that. Plus, I know he was worried that my dad would no longer want anything to do with him. I know that had a lot to do with why he pulled back some.

    Anyways as me and my ex were still trying to be friends I realized the ex is a complete jerk so I stop talking to him. But there were some residual things I had to get off my chest so I sent my ex one last text. The next day a long disrespectful text was sent from the ex and being the open person I am and trusting the Scorpio guy I began telling him about what happened. He suddenly had to get off the phone, but I could tell he was upset that I contacted my ex. He said it wasn’t about him, but I could tell it bothered him because he was thinking I was trying to get back with my ex.

    Days went by where he didn’t have the time to talk, whereas before he would answer whenever I called. I felt hurt bc he knew that I liked him, so I stepped back. I began to decide to give him space. Then we started playing phone tag or could never really have a conversation. Even our conversation changed, it was like we didn’t really have anything to say anymore.

    Recently, he started answering calls and texts again, after my dad’s gf told him he made it look like he just used me. He even came over during the weekend, whereas before he made himself busy with other things. I was happy he was here, but allowed him his space for most of the time. We flirted a little bit, he tried to look up him skirt bc he was drunk (we both were), and we talked a bit.

    After almost a month of not really talking I still really like him, but I don’t know what I should do. I know that if I offered him sex, he would take it, but I want to be taken seriously. I’m not interested in any other guys and I want a relationship with him. He’s told me before that he wasn’t wanting a relationship, bc he wanted to screw multiple flavors and to have time where he isn’t in a relationship. I honestly am ok with giving him time, but I don’t how he feels about me. I’m not the best with patience.

    I don’t know if I should tell him how I still feel about him and how strongly I feel or just wait to see what he does. I don’t want to be rejected, but I also do not want to waste my time. I know the physical attraction is there, but I don’t know if he wants me passed that. I know my dad would be ok with us together as long as I’m treated right. I even feel like I’m being pushed in his direction.

    Someone, preferably a Scorpio male, help.

  28. i met my scarpio about 9 months ago, he is about 12 years younger. my first younger man encounter he chased me for months ans i just couldn’t do it. finally about 3 months ago we started becoming closer and now he has fully grown on me.
    the problem is he is alway “popping in and out” …we will spend time together and have the most magnificent time and then he would be gone for a couple days….why?
    i never know when i am going to hear from him…i will jist s6e a random text of “Hi Baby or Hi Beautiful”….
    i keep telling myself i am going to cut him off bit i cant i like him and enjoy spending time with him. He told me once before he wants me, and thats he wants to be all that i want. how can you say that and dissappear The pisesce i am i want consistency and i need to know m..totally frustrated.

  29. sailor.mercury says:

    That Scorpio sounds more like a Leo to me. Omfgawd, sex addiction! Most Scorpios, male and female, since we are all equals, make the distinction between nymphomania and sex addiction. Sex is not something dirty, or painful, without mutual consent that is…the philosophy of the zodiac is tantric in nature. Therefore, know thyself if u want to know thy sign. Meaning, if the dix no good, don’t take it. And remember:
    Sex is evil, sex is sin
    Sins are forgiven so sex is in
    I miss the old catholic school where there was no such thing as jealousy…

  30. Haha.. I am scorpio. It’s true

  31. Ha ha

  32. Well I think all Scorpio males are self obsessed manipulative wankers !

  33. Do any of the men and women on this thread have positive experiences that they can share – where they have waited for a Scorpio and it has turned out good and beneficial in the long run? <3

  34. Simone. This is almost identical to what I’m experiencing. Would you be willing to give us an update? 🙂 Has anything changed?

  35. Anonymous says:

    Scorpion men are sort of narcissists.they want to depend on their woman in terms of financial matter.think everyone is his slave.flirt and sex with thousands of girls.liars.cheatets,manupulative,uninteligent,drama.they don’t know how to value woman at all.they show of confidence which actually they don’t have.i have met many scorpion man.all of them have the same traits.initialy a no one can catch their character,but as time goes their true self began to reveal.when at beginning who seems to be a protector,understanding,almost everything a man can be…a perfect man,after sometime they unleash their narcissistic, manipulative , jealous,greedy ,sex hungry rapist.scorpioms are monster.oman dont run after a scorpion man if you want true love.this monster doesn’t know how to love.scorpions are fake personality,a hypothetical creature.Deep down this mobster is a lonely ,insecure and a great looser.

  36. WRONG!! They care that his partner to be the smartest,to be rich and to be highly educated! My scorpio used to say this..

  37. I’m an Aquarius. I’ve been seeing a Scorpio for about a year on and off yet he still never fails to surprise me. Scorpios are crazy. I need somebody’s advice. The scorpio and I used to date but our relationship was very toxic due to my paranoia and his extreme anger issues also, we were long distance and have never met. So we broke up. Now a few months later we are ‘speaking’ again because we have both sorted ourselves out. I am less paranoid and he is definitely less aggressive. Which is good, although, he is still very hard to work out. I never know what he’s REALLY thinking and i don’t want to ever pressure it out of him. I am extremely caring towards him and almost ‘mother’ him. I’d buy him whatever he wanted if he asked for it and can’t say no to his annoying little face. We can get extremely sexual sometimes (as sexual as you can be in long distance) and its fun for both of us. Although sometimes i feel like if i didnt message him first, we wouldnt speak. I usually get up earlier then him so i will say good morning to him but im pretty sure if i didnt say good morning, it wouldnt cross his mind to say it to me first. He says he cares about me but he just doesn’t like showing it. But why? I hate that he doesnt show his emotions to me. Is this just normal for a scorpio? Is this just something we have to put up with when involved with a scorpio? I try to be mysterious and challenging but its hard. I dont wan’t to change for him but i feel like hes not attracted to my personality. In my opinion, i think hes attracted to my appearance and craves my body when we are sexual but other that that i think he just enjoys my company. I want him to crave ME. Talking to me, having a laugh with ME. How do i make him CHASE ME? He’s said it himself that he loves to be a chaser but i chase him. How can i switch the roles? I want to make him chase me without being blunt or mean. HELP.


  38. I’m scorpio men I always love sex wit all type girls but little stubborn in sex after sex I kill tat girl and search for other girl tat is scorpio men

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