How a Sagittarius woman can seduce her Scorpio man

Sag and Scorpio sit right next to each other in the zodiac, and astrological neighbors don’t have much in common. Sex may be sport to Sag, but for Scorpio it is serious business. Sex is the pathway to intimacy for Scorpio. It has emotional meaning, and is not, as for Sag, just another adventure.

“That which happens behind closed doors” is Scorpio’s realm. The dirty secrets, the stains, all the stuff we don’t want our neighbors to know about. How can the Sagittarius woman possibly understand, when she is out in the world, drawing inspiration from travels or lofty tomes? She doesn’t spend time in the dark.

Sag’s planetary ruler Jupiter (Zeus) is god of the sky, living on Mount Olympus. Scorpio’s ruler Pluto (Hades) is lord of the underworld. You can’t get much further apart that that! However, these two planets do have one thing in common: wealth.

What riches can be mined in the sexual encounter? If Scorpio can be seduced by bounty, then Sag may be in luck. The Sagittarius woman can see the opportunities in the sexual encounter, and offers such a large number of options that surely, for the Scorpio man, something’s there for the pickin’.

Comment below: Sag women, share your experience with Scorpio men!

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  1. @fire sign,

    you will need that moxy to deal with him. his games will never end and they will get more and more personal. but hes a fool in love and this is the only way he can express it. its not his fault. hes just a scared little boy in love. So what do you do?

    1.) show him the good life, but not too much…gotta keep it wanting more
    2.) dress to impress
    3.) With the games, choose your battles. react when you feel its worth it. ignore when its just plain stupid. he will go nuts and ou will have him. if you want him that is…

    they are worth it but you gotta do your homework..those dudes got secrets.

    so what has been going on?

  2. If you just in it for the shag walk away 1 if you want variety head fucks lust passion stalker mentality! and commitment .. then hold your corner!! he wants to test your resolve! for me its easy im water! so i get it all and feel the vibe when they are really angry or just playin….

  3. @fire sign

    I see the BS a mile away with my Scorpio Man and I do’t have a problem walking away although it hurts. Life is too short for the games and minipulation.

    *keep seeing through it because thats all it is. he has a tough exterior but hes a softee. a scared little boy who can be the most vile and manipulative beast that you have ever met.

  4. if you like him, dont take any of his crap… him but keep him respectful

  5. Fire Sign says:

    sag 24/7

    Wow u are so right… these scorpio dudes do have secrets….

  6. Fire Sign says:

    @ Sag 24/7

    I noticed he loves it when I keep his butt in check.

    I also feel like he has this “Playa” type vibe going on. Which drives me insane !

  7. yes, it show thats your care when you get a little possesive. its a turn on.

    What is his moon sign?

    mine 2, but the mind can play tricks on you when you are vulnerable. always go with your gut

  8. Fire Sign says:

    I have no idea what his moon sign is… His B day is Nov 21.

    I did something bad… I snooped now I feel awful.

  9. cant be that bad. i had a 3some and he found out about it….lol

  10. do you have his year and place of birth?

  11. Fire Sign says:

    oh dam no its not that bad lol…. But I found out he has playa ways… His Birthday is Nov. 21, 1968 he was Born in New York…we were actually born in the same Hospital Kings County in Brooklyn.

  12. Fire Sign says:

    I actaully told him about the 3 sum I had in the past and when he got pissed off at me for snooping he threw it in my face…Don’t get why he would do that.

  13. because he doesnt want anyone to know any of his secrets. good job, i found out secrets about mine 2

  14. Im a 30th Oct Scorp male with a 12th Nov Sag female, i find that she understands me the most, compared to so many other people.

  15. Blacksheep…Nov 12th is Scorpio. Maybe thats why she understands you.

  16. @Mia

    My bad its meant to be 12th Dec

  17. The only way you can SEDUCE a Scorpio is through SEX.!!!

    Scorpio rules the GENITALS so use your IMAGINATION.???

    Cheers and keep Smiling. Taurus.

  18. @karissa15

    Thats not exactly true, im 19 and i have things which i find it more important than sex, every person is different

  19. Hi Blacky Sheep,

    It’s different strokes for different folks but when it comes to Scorpios you can’t
    deny that SEX RULES and DOMINATES because to Scorpio SEX is POWER.!!!

    And that is a FACT and that is how they CONNECT.!!!

    Cheers and keep Smiling. Taurus.

  20. curious757 says:

    why are alot of scorpio men attracted to sagittarius and gemini women? it must be that mutability axis. weird.

  21. Hi. I’m a Scoprio.

    What attracts me to Sagittarius women is the fact that the two of us are so different. Although we may be different, there are many more grounds than just wealth which I find intriguing about them. Not all people are the same, regardless of their Zodiac sign however, and each scenario will be different between two people of course. In my case, the Sag girl I’m captivated by is so captivating because she presents a challenge. To me she represents refinement and success. I don’t mean that I would achieve those things myself by getting into an official relationship with her. It’s not a battle to be won, and relished in. It’s about knowledge and learning. A continual progression of growth. We are both opposites, but there are grounds for connection. Bridges which have never been built, but cliffs that are close enough to construct them on. That is what is so compelling about Sagi’s to me, or the girl I’m referring to. Myself personally, I regard my freedom with extreme importance and as I understand it, Sagi’s do as well. I don’t consider sex an act of dominance so far as it can be fun in foreplay ha. Thats it though, it shouldn’t be precursor to any kind of revenge later on to get an upper hand in a game of dominance. Thats just a pointless game and you need to understand that Scorpios will not try to ‘dominate’ you in a masochistic way… I think that we just feel compelled to do things in ways which we feel by gut feeling would be best, and then we stubbornly hold onto that desire, whether it may seem like such an exponentially stupid thing to be stubborn about or not. We are passionate people.. Albeit blindly sometimes. Again, theres a lot of self reflection thats involved, and processes of refining yourself to be better that follows with learning from one another. In my case I’ve disregarded my pride because It is only something that holds me back and I’ve learned to be much more care free, simply by observing what she has, and what I lack. That, along with having more trust and not relying on it so much.

    The reason that there are so many articles which give accounts of peoples bad experiences for this pair, and which say the pair is bound to fail, is because people don’t understand that this pair is something you have to regard as a challenging endeavor of the mind and even spirit, if you want to go that far. It’s all about learning and growth. The people who gave those bad spins on the two signs, In my opinion, were simply not up for the experience.

    To answer the main question here, present yourself as a challenge. Don’t regard doing this as something which will put you on a pedestal as a prize to be won. If this scorpio that you are after is intelligent enough, and has some understanding of himself and of what is best for himself, and you, he will try in every possible way to refine himself and better himself enough to where he first feels ready to even approach you, (all of this being precursor as he will feel he needs to be perfect himself before he can even be around you,) and then he will try and try in every way he can think of to find a way to express himself to you in a way which is not overbearing, and not too serious (which is against our nature) and show you that he is willing and able to be yours, and to make sacrifices on his part to make things work between the two of you, even to an exhaustive extent which I honestly don’t think anyone else could understand. If he is doing things right, and isnt just in it for how sexy I’m sure you are, he wont simply try to ‘win’ you and put you on a shelf. That would be wrong in any relationship anyways.

    In that sense, you need to understand that you can’t just want this person because of good looks. This person will dedicate everything they are and all they do to be inclusive of you and your opinions because you will be that important to them. They will never tell you all of this, but believe me its what will happen if he is captivated enough by you.

    Again, in that sense, if you truly want to be with this person you will always have someone there for you. I can’t even explain it. The amount self growth a scorpio will put himself through (I dont know if it is the same for Scorpio women) That growth and the time spent during it will be too important to them to ever give up and be disloyal to you. If they have such a state of mind about them, to where they have understood your needs well enough, your personal freedom wont be endangered. You have to understand though, that here and there you will have to reassure this person and let him know that youre still interested, lest all the work and personal progress that has hopefully (if this person is really in it for the right reasons with you) the personal progress he tried to achieve will start to feel wasted. And time, is a valuable thing.

    Its complicated.. lol.
    Its why Most to every Scoprio will never talk about much to people who they dont trust. Those people just wont listen.

    It needs to be said though, for the sake of more of these pairs being successful.

    If this pair is intelligent about the way they go about things, and the way they regard each other in forming a strong bond between each other, it can become a relationship of such jovial captivation that no other pair in the zodiac can ever hope to match it. You can roll your eyes but its a fact. A Fact.

    Just be yourself. Naturally Sagi’s are already captivating enough to Scorpios without any extra effort on their part. We are opposites in many ways, after all. And of course, it goes without saying that Sag girls are sexy as hell. 😉

    Just have fun with it and dive in 🙂

    Hope this helps you and many others out!

  22. Fleursdumal says:


    Your post was such a delightful read. As a Sag, I couldn’t agree more. Unfortunately, not all Scorps think like you…but then, they probably came into my life for the wrong reasons. Nevertheless, growth and evolution are part of my mantra and yes, this pairing has enormous, insufficiently explored potential. We are not so different as one might generally think. Neighbors in the zodiac, at least IMO, are the next step on the evolutionary scale that is the zodiac wheel. But yeah, a challenge it is and a sweet and rewarding one, as long as the partner has the same mantra.

  23. sag-girl! says:

    I’m an 18 year old Sag with a 28 year old Scorpio. And let me tell you this…the moment we met there were sparks like never before. I can’t describe this deep attraction that is just beyond the physical and sexual aspects of attraction….it’s crazy! The sex, wow…mind blowing un-be-liev-a-BLE! But let me tell you this, he is very possesive to the point it can be a bit suffocating so SAG females: you really need to keep your Scorpio in check and be as SOFTLY direct with your feelings as possible because he may have a tough exterior but he is super sensitive! Which I found out he loves it when I keep him in check for some reason. And what a sweetheart Scorpios are, They make you feel loved, take care of you, and never leave your side when life gets you down! He is always doing the most romantic things for me, and let’s just say, I feel me being so free-spirited and adventurous and blunt I DON’T DESERVE IT because simply I’m not used to having someone cater to my needs…to the point where he squeezes me so I tight I can barely breathe. BUT I LOVE IT. He tells me that I carry myself well and have a firey sexy outgoing and direct personality he can’t resist. We have a strong bond, and when we fight we have learned that things need to be talked about immediately because scorpio tends to hold thngs in that bother him and bring them up and throw them in your face later. Now that used to piss me off beyind belief and caused me but like I said you need to keep scorpio man in check so he can keep up with your firey pace. I love my Scorpio, and I couldn’t be happier.

  24. SagBaby says:

    I’m a Sag who’s had a relationship with a Scorpio. Three words OMG. I have never had such a relationship. Infact I would call it the most messed up dirty yet hot love u could think of. I have never met anyone like this guy. That was almost 5 years ago and I can’t seem to leave him alone. We dated for a year plus in the beginning then broke up and we keep coming back to each other. The sex is off the chain. I feel that I can fly my freak flag and not be judged for it, in fact he’ll embrace it. I’ve given this relationship another shot, a serious one this time, and I hope it works out. I’m willing to fight for it now.

  25. Kia1986 says:

    I am a sag women that is deeply in love with an Scorpio . One minute he wants to be with me next minute he doesn’t. It’s so confusing and I’m starting to hate him for playing with my feelings…he know I love him and would do anything for him. Lately he would tell we will have sex soon…but it’s always on his time..I wanna spending the rest of my life with him but he keeps playing with my emotions ,heart and feelings. I can’t do this much longer. I never been thru anything like this with a guy.!!!help me please

  26. Hi Kia 1986

    You need to help yourself by putting an end to this fiasco of a relationship which
    is on his terms and he is just stringing you along and who knows for how long
    unless you change your attitude toward him by gaining a new perspective and
    approach in dealing with his “Mind Games and Bullshit” by showing him that they
    are no longer acceptable and you are no longer interested in wasting your valuable
    time with a LOSER.!!!

    Be Smart by taking action and always keep smiling. Taurus

  27. Browniesag says:

    K so am a sag born dec 10, and the guy I really super like us a scorpio..
    K so I met him thru my bestfriend but at first I thought he liked another friend if mine whose also a sagitarius but turned out he liked me btr..
    The problem is he has a gf but I can tell he likes me way btr Dan her cause he tell me all the time , I could swear there was an instant attraction when we first met there was just something about him that makes me just want to be with him all the time every time .. dont know what to do do cause I can’t stay away from him trust me I tried, but I think I love him.. but I don’t wanna be a bitch either cause he has a gf..
    Please help me…
    K sensible advice please..

  28. Hi Browniesag

    So you have an instant attraction, you think you love him and you want him.!!!

    If he was married I would say stay clear and do not cause trouble where it is
    not needed and look for someone whom does not come with a label which
    clearly indicates that he is taken and you need to respect that regardless of
    of your feelings and what may have transpired between you.???

    In this situation I would have to say that “A Girlfriend is Not Written in Stone”
    she is just a Girlfriend and anything can and probably will happen before they
    reach stability in the relationship which will exclude potential outsiders whom
    may very well become something more meaningful or significant others whom
    will change the course of the relationship of the people involved.

    Actions Speak Far Louder than Words and this is what you need to pay attention
    to my dear because it is up to him to choose whom he likes or prefers and you
    need to make sure that it is you he really wants and he is not stringing you along
    just to boost and inflate his “EGO” by having two Girls cheering for him and his
    attentions. So sit back and let him do all the walking and the talking and see where
    this scenario will lead.???

    Good Luck and always keep smiling. Taurus

  29. I’ma Sag woman and all i have to say is do not fall in love witg a Scorpio man before he falls in love with you…

    From a woman scorned….

  30. sag dating scopio says:

    Im a sag dating this scorpio and let me tell you this man is very controlling and jealous. He is sexy as hell but I dont think I can put up with his controlling ways. I only want to be controlled in the bedroom but he seems to want to take it outside the bedroom and make it a daily routine and I aint with that bull shit. But then again he so sweet he compliments me tells me Im sexy Im his baby cakes he wana spoil me and be with me and bla bla this and bla bla that and that shit is all fine and dandy but he to controlling. Im fenna kick his ass to the side if he dont change his ways. Im not tryna change him Ima let him change for the better but Im not gone wait to long. I think sags and scorpios are instantely attracted to each other because everything about us is just so sensual and we’re sexy ppl the way we talk act how we dress so of course sags and scorpios gone come together on that level. But other than that its a challenge. Everytime I say some he get mad because shit Im just a playful creature he always serious 24/7. And also growing up my dad was a scorpio and my mom was a gemini and let me tell you he was so controlling and possesive and jealous that he used to take the keys from my mom, wouldnt let her drive and tried to beat on her. Of course she left with me and my brother but of course they got together again and tried to work it out broke up and got back together but it just didnt work out. Scorpios need a weak kinda zodiac sign that likes to be controlled because sag and gemini we not with it because we like our freedom. Scoprio dont get with a woman that likes freedom find a zodiac who gone be clingy with yo ass. But now few years later my mom is with a virgo man and their relationship is working even though they are not compatible and im happy for her of course. Scorpio’s youre pyscho.

  31. saggy021284 says:

    I’m a sag but attracted to a Scorpio and want to tell him but we have a gd friendship only he’s got a gf which I find is even more intriguing to me as I know I can’t have him but we have some many things in common it’s unbelievable but he’s not sure about how his relationship is going to go with the girl he’s with and just need a bit of advice on what to do we’ve allowed agreed we can’t have a night out together coz things lead to where they shouldn’t do plz can someone help me

  32. Scorpio Sagittarius Cusp says:

    I am head over hills in love with a Scorpio man. I never know how to take him. Slowly, he is opening up to me more and more, but then he pulls back. He asked me to give him time. What does this mean? Confused Scorpio Sagittarius Cusp woman.

  33. Hi, I’m a sag lady, I just want to thank everyone for all the advice I have read about scorps on here. I met a scorp at a gig over a year ago, I don’t recall meeting but he does, anyhow I was in a relationship at the time, we broke up 9 months ago, scorp and I were also Facebook friends and eventually he messaged me. We often chatted about random stuff and eventually met up (we live close to each other) just as friends and I wasn’t sure I even liked him! Anyhow we went to gigs etc as friends, and I fell for him totally! It took a while to get intimate, he did all the things it says scorps do, we date, then he withdraws, no contact, threw me totally?! He mentioned that he’s a scorp (I’m not usually into astrology) but anyhow I looked up all their traits and other stuff… (Mind blown) it was him down to a tee!!!! The withdrawing and lack of contact for few days, the tests, the
    Depth of his emotions which he keeps hidden, the secrecy ( I am still finding out amazing things about him which make me fall harder!!) the piercing stare, the mindblowingly incredible intense and beautiful passionate sex …unbelievable!! Anyhow I read everything I could find on the net about them, and have absorbed advice such as how to behave around them, what to say to them and not say to them.. Etc . I have to say, I’m totally in love, I don’t care about scorp being possessive and intense in love, I’ve had enough idiots in my life who don’t care for me, I’m ready for that all consuming love and I’m prepared to love back just as intensely. I want this one to be my last and forever relationship. He is so deep, passionate, compassionate, incredibly good looking, intellectual, sexy and intense, unlike anyone I have ever met!! From what I read, I also think he’s in love with me (although I gather it may be hard for him to say) he expresses it in his actions and tenderness towards me. He has also introduced me to his closest friends and entire family!! he is 33 and he has never taken a girlfriend to meet his family (his aunt told me that!) Thank you all, especially you scorpios for giving me an insight into scorps psyche. I’m TRULY in love. X

  34. Corina Annetta
    I’m a sag woman and Me and this Scorpio guy have been friends with benefits for almost 3 years. It’s been a crazy ride because I caught feelings for some time but I over time learned to let them go. I’ve started talking to someone new and i just found out the other night that he was too. He started mad caking with this girl right in front of me, I’m happy I let go of my feelings for him! But literally hours later we were having sex for an hour in the car. I look at him as only a friend now and I’m not sure if ever had feelings for me but I know he does care deeply about our friendship. In the past he used to come off as jealous at times but it was sort of hard to tell, he’d just blow up out of no where and argue with me so bad we’d stop talking for a month or more at a time. Made me feel like I was kind of in a relationship, which felt really stupid. But we learned a lot from each other

  35. sag1992 says:

    I’m a sag woman and I’m head over hills for this Scorpio guy… he’s so sexy its intoxicating. We meet thru his brother and the first time I hung with him it was a natural connection(we didntt do anything though) after that he was calling, texting me, making me laugh, just a sweetie pie. But he would ask ‘let’s hang tonight’, then I wouldn’t hear from him the rest of the night. Fast forward 6 months later we still text but he doesn’t text me like before…he sends kissy faces and tell me goodnight but I do believe its because he’s traveling and enjoying life. Which is fine, but I did express to him that I miss his vibe and presence. I feel like all I want out of this is SEX 🙁 lol he’s so sexy I can’t resist and I’m a patient girl I don’t let shit get to me but this is bothering me because I told him what I wanted out of this before but you think it would’ve happened by now. I feel like I’m being a sagg and being demanding and fiesty lol. He’s 2 years older then me and he kinda thru that in my face one time and ever since I just feel like whyyy am I even trying with a who doesn’t even like me, but then he always pops back up? Does he want to keep me trapped in a dark room and wait for him to come to me. I would love to make something work with him I just wish he would not play mind games. All I know once I’m over something I’m done, so I don’t want to hurt his feelings when he actually wants to be down with me and I don’t give him anytime or even look his way.

  36. It looks Like everyone has gone through fair nutty experiences with Scorpio men both good n bad, well me n my Scorpio man dated for a month and a half but Oh Lord, I have never felt loved n appreciated so much by a man without even fucking. Took me to the most exotic places, let me have it all but then left for Europe on a 3month project, still chatted n were really happy and all. After a month a half there he was like “I will be coming just to be with you for four days then go back” ahhh I got excited n got myself ready for my man. I have a tendency of sleeping whilst chatting and I did that with him too, and he would ask me that I left him hanging last night, was my night visitor around and I would boldly say yes until this morning at 7am, whilst I thought we were both referring to sleeping he was referring to another man. Lol……
    Anyway day before he was supposed to come I vanished leaving him online at night , following morning I received a text saying he wasn’t coming anymore coz, our relationship won’t establish seeing that we in two different countries/continents so thus he has decided not to visit.

    Wasn’t I hurt you guys, as much as I love my freedom n shit but for this man, I was pulling myself together n be home at all times the only thing I did wrong was to leave him hanging whilst chatting and he thought I had a man over.

    Today, we were chatting and he said, I need a woman I can trust not someone who have visitors stopping by at midnight so, me and u won’t work. I got hurt again….. long story you guys, but really he invented his stories in his head and that affected our relationship maybe coz of insecurities, I still long for him. He was such a keeper, romantic, lover, a bit old than me yes, but hoo how I loved him. Stories of Sags n Scorpios.

  37. sag female says:

    When I first seen the scorpio man we it was an instant attraction for us both. Sex amazing conversations amazing we were clicking. After a year this dude just drove me nuts always want to be with me then He didn’t. Like. Df is going on? Because I was younger than him he tried to tell me how to dress and how to act like no that’s your first mistake. They play to many mind games and want everything their way you ladies of any zodiac can have this one. They are fun as friends and lookup because I attract a lot of em but that’s it. Don’t fall in love just bang bang a few times keep it pusihing t they not relationship material. Just eye candy but I’m not scorned because as a sag woman I love my freedom and meeting different people so ima keep it moving knowing that nut is out of my life.

  38. Lmao

  39. Hey Chris

    I am a sagittarius woman and in Love with Scorpio man I have questions about how to get him back. Could you please help me if you could? Thank you.

  40. Sagittarius 11301984 says:

    I’m 31 sag of course and my scorpio is a few years younger than i. He is my best friend. We worked together and so we saw each other everyday. When we first met we would see each other in passing. As time went by we started to chat more. One day he asked me out to lunch and we had a long conversation all about me of course lol. Eventually he started to open up to me more and more as the days went by.
    After some time he was promoted and moved into the same exact office as me. Awesome for us both because I didn’t have to sneak downstairs to see him anymore!
    At this point we are talking all day everyday and thus gaining our titles as best friends. We shared so many stories and secrets. Moments and memories. I have never ever met someone so caring, loyal, and dependable! It was very clear that we both have deep feelings for one another and the sexual tension my gosh!
    Then out the blue our boss split everyone up, I was moved into a office downstairs and we were already like two peas in a pod, wherever I was he was too there, and visa versa. So now he would make sure he came to have lunch with me and we would make sure we saw one another through out the day.
    Then one day after lunch about a month ago I had gotten sick, my scorpio took my vitals and called 911, he took the ride with me to the hospital and STAYED THE ENTIRE TIME!!!
    He made sure that I was ok and never left my side, over the course of time I had started to have deeper feelings for him and why wouldn’t i, I mean he is only everything I’ve ever wanted and more!!!
    I love him and I enjoy being around him. We are different and yet the same. We have much in common and we truly care for one another.
    After my episode at work, two days later my contract ended. The next week we decided to take it to the next level and have sex. Omg I know we blew each other’s minds for sure and ever since we have been going at it like rabbits.
    Last week after a great night of mind blowing sex, we had a conversation and I told him how I gelt, mind you I’m divorced and he is in a relationship. He definitely was in shock and said he has a lot of thinking to do. Also that what he thought i would be in his life, knowing what he now knows, im much more qaulified to be in another position 😀
    I’m so nervous about what the outcome will be but either way he will always be my best friend!
    I just need to know what does that mean and what should I do?

  41. Hello! I know this post is kinda old but I just stumbled upon it, read a few comments and felt like sharing my own conflict.

    I’m an 18 year old Sagittarius girl and currently dating a 20 year old Scorpio guy. Well, not exactly dating. It’s a little bit more complicated. I always felt weirdly attracted to Scorpios – girls and boys – even before I was into Astrology.

    I’m out of a relationship with a Gemini since October. It was a rollercoaster. He was my first and only boyfriend and my first big love. After 7 happy months it started fading into an on-off for a total of about 2 years. I met my Scorpio on a dating app when my Gemini had broken up with me for the first time. This was maybe 1 and a half year ago. Could be 2 years, I’m not that sure. What I know is that we’ve known each other for a long time now. I got the app only out of frustration, I never really planned on actually meeting up with anyone. However, we started chatting and switched numbers and he wanted to see me real quick. I never said yes. I liked him but I wasn’t seriously interested in him because I was – obviously – not at all over my Gemini. It went on like this for a couple weeks or months or so and there were many periods of time in which we didn’t talk at all because I was back together with my ex. I once even told him this. But it seems like he never forgot about me whereas I at some point completely stopped thinking about his existence.
    Now, I think it was in February or March, he surprisingly texted me out of the blue. We had a really short talk before he announced that he was going to bed. Confused, I was like “why would you text me if you were about to go to bed soon anyway?” and he said “I just wanted to say hi again” and like, a ton of heart and kiss-emojis. Very strange. So, that’s how we got back to being in contact. The texting went on again, even if just barely. (He’s still not a great texter lol) Then, after I had let him hanging on a string for over a year I finally agreed to meeting him in real life. Obviously, he wanted to have sex with me. And I wanted to have sex with him. I thought this was going to be a chill thing. Just fucking. (Sorry.)
    The days before the “date” were EXHAUSTING. He would not stop texting me about and needed constant reassurance that this would happen for real this time. He even tried to convince me to meet up even earlier which I couldn’t do because I didn’t have money yet (he lives in Hamburg, I live in a smalltown about 30 minutes away) which caused him to offer me the money for the ticket. Wtf?! I was hella annoyed and told him to stop being so fucking thirsty (I’ll admit that I was brutally blunt at that time). Then the day came. He picked me up. He would not stop talking and he was SO freaking jittery, oh my god. I asked him if he was nervous but he told me that that’s just him. And then, he showed of A LOT. He’s a hella creative and talented dude. In his free time, he works as a DJ. He showed me his music, played the guitar for me, read out loud a text he wrote about love when he was seventeen and even RAPPED for me (also a text he wrote himself). Thinking about this now that I know he’s a Scorpio, I find this kinda strange. But I liked it. I really, really liked it. I immediately fell for his bubbly personality. I think we spent at least one hour just talking and chilling before we went on doing the stuff we were originally planning to do. The sex was nice, too. Honestly, nothing too spectacular but definetly an experience I wouldn’t want to miss. He doesn’t like pain but loves to grab the girl hard or choking her or whatever. Other said: he wants the girl to be gentle and soft to him but expect him to do the exact opposite to you. I didn’t mind it, I even think it’s quite fascinating.

    That was that. “Short” version.

    Afterwards, we kept on texting and he wanted to see me again. It took me 2 months or so to be ready for another date because I was taking my finals. Same thing. He picks me up, we talk, we fuck. But he wanted me to stay the night this time. Like, really badly. Before we met the second time he always texted me to come over and that I can stay at his place in a rather joking manner but he said this so often that I started to think he WANTED me to stay the night. So, I did. We ended up laying in the bed talking about how I felt like his head was full of things that I’m conviced no one would get. I don’t know how to explain our conversations. They’re really weird. Even when we talk about serious topics he never seems to stop smiling. In general, he smiles and grins a lot and is barely serious. Then again, I sense a really dark side he is hiding. And he tells me things, sometimes out of the blue, that are really personal. For example his fears or things that have happened to him in the past. He confuses me a lot. I never really know how to react to such things. I get along with him well but the second time we met I was rather quiet around him even though I’m a pretty talkative person most of the time. I just love listening to him. He makes me smile and laugh a lot because he is oddly hilarious and ridiculously charming. I don’t know what to do. He makes me forget how to function like a normal human being because he is so intriguing. I ended up being pretty distant yet never rejected any physical contact. He told me that clingy people annoy him. I asked him if he thought I was clingy and he said “no, you’re not at all” and glared at me very intensively. We had several moments like this. Sometimes I feel like looking right trough his curtains and then, the next second I have no clue what he’s thinking or how he would want me best to react to anything he said or did. Since I found out that he’s a Scorpio (also, I immediately noticed that he’s a very sensitive, thoughtful creature) I tried to be less bold, less direct and softer. I’m really afraid to say the wrong things. I don’t want to hurt him. Then again, I don’t know if I’m even able to make him feel this way.

    This is not even all of it but my text is already so long. I know it kinda lacks system, my head is just full of things and words and situations when thinking of him. I struggle putting them in the right order. Hopefully, some brave and patient Scorpio guy can make himself reading this whole thing and can help me out maybe.

    I’m not in love but I feel myself slowly falling for him really hard since I just can’t stop thinking about this guy. But I want to be sure about it and don’t want to find out later that he was interested in my body and looks only all along…

    Please help me figure out this man. He drives me insane.

  42. kiasiahtf says:

    Oh wow, it is so weird how I could relate in some posts.

    I am a Sagittarius girl. I am having some troubles with da Scorpio guy – (He just turned 21 on Oct 23rd and I’m turning 21 on Nov 29th. Yay)

    My english may not be perfect and I prob will end up exaggerating dem details . . .
    (“Too long, didn’t read” warning)

    Anyways it probably will sound like I am going to bitch so hardcore – K so I’m having a lot of mixed feelings about that guy – Since my moon sign is Pisces and I am actually boiling right now, please do not mind my passive aggressiveness moments, I am just very annoyed and hate to admit that I know that I am crazy for him, I just love his sense of humor and how creative he is when it comes with writing lyrics, it’s just I love seeing him doing something he seems so passionate about his own music. I actually find it sexy haha yeah, very cliche. OOH, there’s some times where I can be bit prudish when it comes with his sexual desires, and I adore him for respecting my wishes that I do not want to fuck him so soon. I mean I only know him for almost seven months, maybe that’s why I do not feel ready to be adventurous for the sex thing lol. I’d say I would prefer his warm hugs over kisses, they make me feel safe. I don’t mind getting kisses from him if the timing is right. I guess.

    P.S. I actually never have slept with him because of that. vvvvvv

    I always have to stay my guard on because my fucking views on him keep changing. For a perfect example that actually happens to me a lot right now like, he’d text me out of the blue when I decide to stop text him too much because I get tired of how slow he is at texting, even I highly respect him being introverted and I do not want to bother him too much when I would realize I text often than he could . . . It feels like I am putting too much effort for myself… lmao. However, I would love to be his good friend if he decides to stop playing games and send me mixed signals, it would make me want to scratch my head a lot when I see his strange attitude when he act like he’d be totally into me then he is not! It is very fucking annoying. Ahhh!!!! Speaking of kisses. I actually dislike one thing about him that he think it is not weird to kiss me because I am a girl? Like what? Even, I was upset at the message that he texted “I will not kiss if it gets complicated.” Like what? He already made it complicated when we met for the first time and he kissed me randomly. So I legit thought he was into me until I found out I was wrong about it and shit. He would still kiss me every time we hang out until it did not happen on Halloween which I did have a good time with him, like no romantic stuff. Just normal stuff, bro.

    I am not very satisfied about our friendship though. Every time I want to know something, I would ask him and he would either avoid to text then text something else in hours later OR say something different as if he knows I am trying to dig too deep . . . WHAT THE FUCK. WHAT DO YOU WANT, WHY ARE YOU AVOIDING MY QUESTIONS WHEN I WANT TO KNOW DIRECTLY @ SCORPIO GUY @#??$!@$?!@$!?@$1 I just want to know his instincts are. I may be scarily reckless but I have nothing to lose. But hey, I do have some self esteem issues, I would think those stuff like I do not want to feel like I am his second choice. Otherwise it’d be shitty if it was true. Yet, I really do not want to be wrong about the Scorpio guy I’m “seeing.” He is just too much of a friend to lose, I do not care if he’s not into me as long as he don’t treat me like I am his girlfriend/bootycall. Lol as if he would man up and be honest with me. I’d be more happy if it happens and move on quickly!

    Well yes he gets on my nerves at most times but he could be the coolest crush ever I’m having on right now lol.. I would be shocked if he actually tells me he like me as much as I do but I doubt it would happen, I may be a great friend to him but not the ONE for him, I guess.

  43. Hey can u suggest me something….I am a pure Sagittarius gal having Aries as my moonsign…and he is a pure scorpion guy…his moonsign is Leo..I m so much confused as to how to handle him…for once it feels like he loves and he cares and in the other moment the things change…many a times I feel that his words and actions dont match as I m not able to feel anything making his words as a hollow bullshit…he is manipulative…and he always finds me challenging him for something or the other…whereas it’s nothing intentional on my part…he is so much defensive,that I can’t even joke around with him…I feel sometimes that he is locked up with the overly disciplinary principles…but on the other hands he says it’s his nature…how can a person follow so many rules and regulations…he makes rules for me as well…but as u know a typical Sagittarius.. For us rules are meant to be broken and not followed…and this annoys him to the fullest…u said that they play games..and I don’t like people playing games with me as I am not able to trust them in that case…I think I will loose my actual self if I will be with him for a long time…and I can’t leave him…I have to learn to handle him in any case…please please please guide me…

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  45. To CMU-

    I am a 25 year old Scorpio male born November 16th 1991. I recently matched w/ a Sagittarius female on tinder who I am interested in, despite only having a few short convos w/ each other…. so of course as a Scorpio, I am googling everything I can about how to make a relationship work.

    Anyways, I read your entire post from June 10, 2016. Idk if you will ever see this but I feel like I can help you, and so I will try.

    Reading your encounters w this scorpio (from a female Sag perspective) gives me hope lol simply put, I think he is definitely head over heels for you (especially since he showed off).

    Scorpio males are known for coming off as possessive, obsessive, passionate, manipulative, whatever. As you stated, you forgot he even existed for a long time. He clearly thought of you all throughout…. he was planning his next move. Scorpios are also known for being patient when they have to be- we will wait years before making our next move if we believe that is the most effective strategy (no wonder people think we are insane- I can’t really argue that we are not). But I will say this- our insanity is fueled by a genuine will to give our all to others….. and to a much further degree than any would think (like him offering to pay for your ticket to see you earlier, him always accommodating your needs, always offering you his place to stay the night, etc.) Scorpios love to serve others…. it is hard for anyone else to understand the degree to which this true. However, it is. And that is all that really needs to be understood. I have found myself doing very similar things to what you described of his actions. And to be honest- these things push most girls away if you don’t manage them- it makes it far too little of a challenge and seems like an ulterior agenda is in place, even though the Scorpio is as genuine as they come. Most Scorps eventually realize this, and become engulfed in an inner conflict to “normalize” their actions so that others are not intimidated or scared off. However, eventually these behaviors will show- it is a natural way of being for a Scorpion. We feel deeper than anyone else hands down. And we don’t get over shit very easily either, especially if we feel disrespected. Anyways- idk your update on this guy….but I guarantee you that you mean (and still do) a ton to him. He has obsessed over you much longer than you have him- luckily for him he managed to get you on board as well. If you guys aren’t still together- I bet you he is not over you. And if you are, I bet you are having a wonderful relationship. If I can help you any further, let me know. I’ll check this again when I think of it. i too could use advice on how to get this girl to talk more to me. We have short convos, but I have been sending her memes every couple days. The one day I sent her two: one to inspire her, and one to make her laugh. I also wrote “No better way to begin the day than a good laugh followed with some inspiration”- Ive done my research and knew these would appeal to her being a Sagittarius. I think she really liked it based on he reaction, but it was like 15 hours later saying she had been so busy but that was so cute 🙂 then she didn’t reply again. We have chatted briefly since- when I contact her first. I understand how important it is to make a Sagittarius chase you, it’s an adventure. I am as adventurous of a Scorpio as they come (although many are not). And I do think we would be a wonderful match. A few of my closest friends have been Sags so perhaps I get this type better than I would otherwise. Idk very many female ones though- I am trying to figure out how to get this girl’s attention- she doesn’t seem too concerned w texting convos. However, she is expressive in short bursts. I take this as an indication that she does enjoy hearing from me. However I feel I may have to put in a much greater percentage of the overall effort (at least now at the beginning)… I am fine with this. Just trying to decide how to proceed. As a Scorpio, I of course won’t be foolish enough to make a poor move. I will wait and strategize until I know the right time. That’s what Scorpios do.

    Any advice would be appreciated. As of now, this Sagittarius female (who is 21; I am 25) and I are barely more than just tinder matches. But the short interactions we’ve had, along w our shared values, are enough for me to see ahead. I am trying to get a good game plan going to win her heart and treat her like the queen of the world. I also understand it will be a marathon (some of my best sag friends disappear for weeks or months- it’s like it never even occurs to them if they miss a text lol I love em for it but I know it will be a challenge for me with a girl I am interested in. Thankfully I love nothing better than a challenge and always show up to play ball when it counts. This will be a good learning experience for me and I appreciate anyone who can give me any advice for it. Thank you.

  46. cougar sag says:

    hello im a 38 old sag born nov 29th my moon sign in scorpio i fell in love with a 25 old scorpio man. its a little complicated . we was instantly attractive to each octher. he asked me out for drinks one weekend and i didnt take him on his offer ,so one weekend he text my phone to see what i was doing and i told i would take him out for drink since i stood him up the first time and his birthday was coming up. long story short we ended having sex that night ,which i actually felt like he raped me in a way . so after that day i texted him everytime i wanted a good lay n when he wld call or text me i wouldnt respond to him . so eventually it started to become more and more of me calling to come over . and it start feeling serious in dec it start every night ,jan something serious happened in my life an tht whole month he didnt leave my side . there been times when girls would call his phone and text his while being with me and i tld him how i found it disrespectful to be calling and texting ppl while being with me ,i flipped out about it and after he let me know who he was texting and calling . after that we grew closer . in march i seen a change in him he wasnt coming around like he was and before i broke it off i only seen him once time in a week and he didnt understand why and i try to explain to him . so the end of april he needed my help so i did and we started back up again but this time he started to b rude and disrespectful to me. so i asked for my key back and told him im done i cant deall with disrespect. now he is controlling but i cant deal wth that someone pls make me understand what to do? i truly love and care about him and will do anything for him . should i close this door or talk to him one last time cux i can be passive and just walk away ?????/ help someone please

  47. sagbadge123 says:


    I would really love to chat one on one with you! what do you think?

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