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On the surface, Virgo is the sign of chastity. However, Virgo is no virgin. This sign relates to the archetype of the Sacred Prostitute, as well as the myth of Persephone and Demeter, in which Demeter’s daughter was raped and abducted by Hades, Lord of the Underworld.
Virgo is concerned with integrity, with keeping “clean.” Of course, when literalized this looks like obsessive-compulsive scrubbing and organizing. But in a deeper sense, Virgo wants his or her sexuality to be aligned with the intention to serve and be respectful of the body. This desire can manifest in a “master-slave” relationship, but the true Master is not the Dominatrix, but Goddess.
Virgo realizes that sexuality is a bridge to higher consciousness (Pisces), and that the body is a vessel of Spirit. With this in mind, it is easy to define what turns a Virgo off: any type of sex in which he feels that the bodies involved are not treated with the deepest respect. Being used, abused, shamed … a Virgo may fall into the dark recesses of sex, but it is these wounds that propel him towards a higher expression of his sexuality. Techniques that connect the two worlds are more important than those that impress for ego’s sake.
So dress as a schoolgirl if you want …
Comment below: How have you managed to turn a Virgo man on?
I would wait till the end of the earth…take it slow? No problem. After reading the above, I will make sure I never date anyone else again!….lol Waiting for my man…He’s got Sun, Venus, Mars in Virgo and Cancer rising and moon…how sweet is THAT!
if a mans moon is in virgo does this apply at all?
How do you turn a Virgo on??
it shud be easy : i had a date with one recently, and we had an instant attraction, its hard to keep it though , think they play hard to get abit lol , id appreciate peoples feedback too :0)
Well, speaking aas a virgo woman in love with my virgo man…we don’t play hard to get. We are making sure whomever we’re sending time with is worth our time.
well…playing the innocent and naive really works with virgo men!! (just to mention that all my boyfriends were virgo)…but that only in the beginning. Then they expect that you learn quickly 😉
hey yo yo , i dont understand them ( or men for that matter) ive played it cool, hes been on hols n business for 2wks and ive heard nothing, bit deflated by it all, whats a girl to do, i really like him :-S xx
Well, Well..
That’s easy..Played it slowed…little agressive in the middle….played it slowed to the end and Voila! Virgos like alot of fore play so fork it up!
hey to sign of freedom again.. what do you mean? at which stage ??
I DONT GET HIM ‘PERIOD’…i contacted him on his bday while he was away. it was fab, then nothing.. arghhhhhhhh MEN !!!….theres fore play, and foreplay, do u have to contact them all the time, Mr busyballs too busy to pick up the fone, what if hes met someone NEW. out of time too late 🙁 we never really got off the ground !!!
Sg,
Honestly, it sounds like he is not really that interested or he is trying to figure out his feelings. The Virgo I like is the same way but we always talk and he is always available to me. You should not have to contact him all the time, it should be a give and take situation. Keep busy if he likes you he will contact you. I found this article that might help you check it out. http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/419980/signs_that_say_hes_just_not_into_you_pg2.html?cat=41 (copy and paste the link)
hi thanks for the reply, i hear what ur sayin thats what i said earlier ive read a few books inc, that one !! so im not daft, if i dont hear, least i know, and can forget him. thanks for the reply though x
My Virgo best friend has turned into my Virgo best friend and boyfriend :)He is amazing as a friend, and he is even more mind blowing as a boyfriend.
thats disgusting – He has a girlfriend , I have to say that is sad lame shallow and pathetic that you need to sleep with another womens man to feel sexy – I hope you learn to love yourself one day because until then NO ONE WIL LOVE YOU !!!
My Virgo and I have been dating for nearly 2 years. He is the BEST lover I’ve ever had!!! Very gentle and tender- luvs 2 cuddle. lol Tries to play shy but I’ve seen his sensual sign! MMMMMMM Was married to an Aquarius(i’m cancer) and we did not click at all. Terrible sex life! It’s SO nice to be appreciated for a change and made to feel like a desirable woman. VIRGOS ROCK;)
I just don’t get it? Every time I find myself attracted to a man, he turns out to be a virgo. I sleep with him after a period of time, because the sexual attraction between us is so thick, and the mental comfort is so strong. But, each and every time, poof, they disappear. Can some one please tell me, what the hell am I doing to the poor creatures, that they first: show interest, second: (after a few months) sleep with me (which is totally explosive and passionate), and third: disappear? I can understand if its a date and sexually conquer sought of situation, but, it only happens with the virgo men I meet. And they have been flocking to me like magnets, lately. Help!!!!! I need this horrid cycle to stop!
I think they are a total pain in the ass….and I have NO patience anymore
for someone that “always has to be the Victim” and is “Always Right about Everything”….
and the Criticism – forget it! It must be nice to SO PERFECT Virgos.
Pooor Virgo… Go cry to a Cancer, they’ll feel bad for you- and maybe believe you and
take you in…then you can “rescue” her and “fix her” and then resent her…
Savior/Victim……….It’s a BAD VIRGO PATTERN.
Aries/Taurus, I’m an Aries girl, too. I have a Virgo man. The Aries – Virgo attraction is easy to explain – they are both honest, intellectual signs. The problem is Aries are WAY to emotional for Virgos. A Virgo man sleeping with you is merely a sign that he likes you – they are just about the slowest moving folks about a relationship (trust me – we’ve been together for just over a year, but we still aren’t ‘dating’ officially). As much as you want to – and I know it’s hard! – you cannot start holding hands, kissing them all the time, or – God forbid – cuddling. But, you can’t be too aloof, either, because they need constant reassurance. Just check the body language – if he flinches and pulls away from some affectionate display, then cool it for a while. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you – trust me, if a Virgo man is finding ways to be around you, he likes you. Just test the waters every now and again and you’ll be fine. Once you get past the LOOONG process of them deciding if they should be with you – it’s the best!
Well, i dont think its worth a year of what ifs, i only got the first date stage, and he was touchy feely,and we kissed and that ina restaurant, but i let him down on the 2ned date because i was ill,. and he went @AWOL’ til i contacted him for his bday, oh the drama, i wudnt waste my years waiting for him, my mum and sister are the same, she dated her man for 14 yrs before they got married !!!..and she called the shots….Selfish people
Maybe I’m just being sensitive here, being a virgo and all, but keep in mind that we’re just as critical about ourselves as we are everyone else. Sometimes the lack of calling ect. might be fear of scaring YOU away and not just coolness. The lack of expression of feeling isn’t the same as lacking of feeling. Lol, my husband can tell when I’m pissed because I stop being critical and “politely tolerate” him. As for turning a virgo on, thats easy, intelligent conversation and a polished look will do it everytime.
I’m “friends” with a Virgo man. I must say that i have had the best and most amazing sex with this man…But it seems like I am the one who always calls him, he seems emotionally detached and he recently told me that I’m a very sensitive person and that he doesn’t want to hurt me. He moved to another state recently and I’m willing to wait to see what comes out of this. I think I messed up though because I wrote him a long letter pouring my heart out. Looking at all the comments about virgos I may have just scared the crap out of the poor man! I may have told him too much too soon…
We get along sooo great, the love making is incredible and he’s kind, intelligent and definitely one of a kind. When he comments on what I should do (exercise, clean my house,etc) I take it in good stride not as criticism, it means he cares. I always tell him that he’s a diamond in the rough.
On my part I need to not show so much emotion, clean my house (hahaha), be supportive and most importantly be patient… Very patient.
We shall see how this turns out. In the meantime I love my Virgo!!!
Oh my days, just got that last post as an email,and couldnt help but Laugh Out loud, and SAY Oh my god NOOOOOOOOOO!!!.. ‘Friends with Benefits’ Otherwise KNOWN as ‘ HAVE UR CAKE AND EAT IT !!.. come on Ladies, GET A GRIP !!!!!.. Sex is the bargaining COokie,and Shouldnt be given out LIGHTLY !!!. whats wrong with the world today? sex to buy/get his attention..lol.. I say find a NICE SINGLE MAN, No GAMES !!!!…. U need to Read a RULES BOOK !!! QUICK !!! xxx
I am dating a Virgo man and he is sensational in every way imaginable!! Sex is over the top, passion is equal and he is very attentive to me in every and respects me and is romantic, what else can you ask for!!! His body is over the top. I’m in total love with this beautiful man and feel lucky to have found such a great loving man, after such a bad divorce. I’m stoked!
I hear ya jeane….My virgo is beyond amazing too. gentle, thoughtful, kind….and our sex life…..DREAMY:) Was married for 17 years to a man that was cold & abusive. Never thought in a million years I would be treated like a Princess. My Dreams Have Come True!
@ Sg: “SEX IS THE BARGAIN!” I had an amazing time last night with a virgo guy (im a virgal :)). We just clicked. I mean, we kissed, tickled, cuddled, and laughed all night while watchin a movie in bed. It was getting late and he was getting all hot and practically started beggin me to spend the night. But homeboy also just got out of a serious relationship and isnt “ready” for me.. well it turns out i can play that game too mister! I slept in my own bed last night. no regrets. until were official these legs are closed.
-btw it has been driving him insane. also ladies, dont cling! nobody likes that.
Hi everyone! I’m really falling for a Virgo friend of mine & I don’t want to mess it up!!! We’ve worked together for almost two years & we were both in relationships. Now we’re both single. Yesterday there was some very sexy texting going on. He wanted me to come over last night but I said I had plans (a lie). Now I’m going to see him at work tomorrow. HELP!!!!! What should I do/say, etc? He is a great guy – very virgo in a lot of ways. Works hard, very into health food, very loving to his son. He could be a very good guy for me because he’s really calm & grounded. And he’s dammmmmmm sexy!!!
I am with a Virgo man and I find that they generally like to be talked to during sex. They are an extremely intellectual sign and words can be a HUGE turn on when played right.Try writing an email while he is at work telling him what you are going to do to him (BUT you have to be prepared to anne-up… don’t just talk dirty and say things you think will turn him on…u have to be prepared to do it) Or if you are sepeated with no way of getting to each other for a while a bit of phone sex never hurt either. My Virgo and I started out our sex life on the phone as a matter of fact. One day he slipped up and told me he wanted to go down on me (out of no-where) which sparked something increadable. He admitted that sometimes we would have an intelligent conversation and he would get turned on. They are extremely criticle but they are honest about it. Communication is key with every virgo i have been with. Is it the same way with anyone else?
Thanks WWW. We’re going on a date tomorrow. We have been talking on the phone & we’re still at the dirty texting haha. My instincts are telling me not to sleep with him because it will be our first date. But we have said so many sexual things to each other that I don’t want him to think I’ve just been teasing him. I do want to sleep with him, just not tomorrow!! I’m going to be very honest with him about it. Hopefully he’ll wait. Hopefully I’ll wait lol.
Well…I like a virgo guy that I just met very recently at an event visiting a school…I’m a pisces and I just got out of a hurtful relationship with a gemini, and so, though I’m not willing to plunge as far down as I used to, I think he likes me, because I was one of two people he would talk to, and he always found ways to be next to me…Mind you, we’re still just kids, but from the way that this all looks, I think I fit into the “he wants to fix me” category, because I dress very conservatively, but I curse a bunch and told rather tasteless jokes around my close friends and he happened to be there, though he wouldn’t say anything…and continued to stay next to me. 🙂 I think I got points for ceasing to curse (or at least trying to) when a further acquaintance said he didn’t like it but…anyways, I’m totally scatterbrained and I can’t stop thinking about him. We’ve emailed once or twice because the poor guy doesn’t “believe” in cell phones or facebook, and he’s always very friendly, and I try to keep things light, but, I would just like to know if he’s actually interested in me…
Well bumblebee they say Virgos are very into things being clean and neat and I guess your cursing would rub him the wrong way because of that. As a girl who likes to curse a lot, I would have to say that you shouldn’t give a fuck about what a guy you met 5 minutes ago thinks about the way you speak…lol
On my recent date with my new Virgo guy, he confessed to me that one thing he’s trying to get over is “white knight syndrome.” Apparantly in the past he has gotten involved in situations with women who needed to be “fixed” and he got sucked into the dynamic of helping them sort out their issues. Maybe that’s a common Virgo trait? Anyone know?
Virgo Male here. I suggest to you ladies hunting Virgo, that to turn us on, use your mind and body. Find something we love to do or talk about and genuinely (very important) try to like it yourself. But if you cant be genuine about it, DONT ATTEMPT IT. Most of us will see right through it and pull back. Find something else that we may have in common and teach us something about it….we love to learn. To turn us on, find out what turns that certain Virgo off first. For example, a big turn off for me is a woman who swears when she is having a conversation, but in bed…..i want the truck driver mouth, front and center.
Talk dirty to me before bed, in bed and after bed (you might get another round that way! Wooooo!) I had this relationship once where this woman would talk dirty to me in the bedroom and sometimes in public she would whisper something she said in the bedroom and we’d be out the door in mere seconds. Confront us with the topic of Porn, if you know they like it. Now dont get me wrong, certain things you shouldnt do if you dont want to but if you watch some of his favorites….look at what he girls are wearing, that is a huge turn on (for me atleast) some of the outfits worn in modern porn are absolutely HOT! I like, love porn and one of the things that stimulates me is when the women is being admired in her sexy outfit. While Scorpio just wants to fuck you, Virgo wants to prepare you before fucking. We want you to remember how good we made you feel (or tried for some).
Oh one more thing……..Flirt with your Virgo differently than when you flirt with other men. I like a woman who knows she possess powers over us men and i like her to be a bit of a flirt but when she approaches me, I want the hands on my chest, the touching of my face to happen only for me. I see you talking or touching someone else the same way you touch me, especially early on in the friendship stage, it sends a signal that you arent serious about me and Im going to be just another guy. You see when we plunge, most of us go in 10,000% but only when we are sure no games will be played. Otherwise you’ll get the withdrawl and disappearing that most of you experience. And its not that we think we are superior or perfect, its that we guard our hearts, especially so if we have been heart-broken by our dream girls. But the biggest turn on ever is : HONESTY.
@ThisLeo
regarding the “fixing” people….there is some truth to that. I have done it, been in a relationship that I had no business in because of two reasons..
1) My loyalty.
2) When I needed someone to stand by me…. I had no one. I never wanted anyone to ever feel abandoned because I had felt that myself and it hurt deeply.
I did try to ‘fix’ her at some point because I wanted to believe in her. So i stayed because I dont go throwing Love around. Perhaps it due to my own heartbreak…..who knows.
But fixing people isnt my style, really.
I have put myself in tough situations in my life…so if im gonna fix someone it will be me. Because some people will never be fixed. And thats what eventually happened to her. So i learned to dig the ‘baggage’ before committing to someone like that. I should have been selfish and instead spent time unwisely in a relationship that was never going to go anywhere.
Had someone told me about her ahead of time…..i would have never gone out with her or let myself fall in “like”, sorry but I didnt Love her with all my heart. I loved her with all my kindness. So my strong desire to be there for someone, impaired my judgement and set me back financially.
The funny thing is that the person who was the love of my life probably feels the same way about me….i needed fixing and when things broke some more, she ran and never looked back. Ironic to think that she didnt love me with all her heart and loved me with all her kindness, until she found better.
So tell your Virgo, stop fixing, he aint no mechanic.
I am Virgo’s polar opposite .. sun sign pisces..
And regardless of what people have to say about virgo, i love my virgoian cousin just as much as any other sign.
To understand Virgo sexually, you have to look at Virgo’s romantic style. Virgo is a romantic secretly, and i think she hides it well. Virgo is a complexed individual, and if you know any virgo’s especially female virgoians, you would know that their cool and calm exterior is just a front for a much more emotional interior, they certainly do have complexed emotions similarly to water signs, but usually arent willing to admit this to themselves. Sexual exploration for virgo is almost like exploring an alter-ego.
The main things to know :
– Virgo needs to have mind sex, before physical sex.. that means lots of foreplay..
– Virgo is turned off by overly sentimental words, but please keep the chit chat coming..
– Virgo is old-fashioned, so when we are talking about sex, we are really talking about romance..
– Taking it slow .. And remember virgo will test you … the first time there is a sexual advance from virgo ,, if its in the first few months.. just try and be on guard … just in case its a test rather then a real.
.. a real move.
Thanks gentlemen! Me & my Virgo are still engaged in a very lively game of emotional tug-of-war. There’s a lot of flirting but emotionally he is just not ready to take it to the next level. The last girl he tried to “fix” wound up breaking him. I think part of what he likes about me is my calm exterior & my independence. But this whole back-andforth situation is making me lose my cool. I’m trying not to let him see it. I started dating someone else just to keep my mind off of him as much as possible.
Leo & Virgo get along like oil and water! yu’re better off with an Aries.
ThisLeo, I TOTALLY understand. Been going back and forth with my Virgo for 6 months now… he is so scared about making the plunge and told me so… but yet, everytime we’re together, I know he’s mine and I’m his. I appreciate the fact that he’s cautious but we’ve known each other for 2 years prior as friends. You can never be sure unless you try, and ultimately, Virgos caution paralyzes them. I HAD to start dating other men, too, ThisLeo… what choice do you have besides going insane? Unfortunately, when a Virgo is stuck in indecisiveness, he may lose the love of his life to another.
Nexxxus, You’re right. Virgo and Leo are typically like oil and water but it depends on other aspects of their charts. A Virgo with a venus or moon in Sag or Aries could be very compatible with a Leo, as could a Leo with a venus or moon in Taurus or Capricorn… and many other combinations therein.
There are exceptions to every rule, without a doubt. Best Regards!
Now I am officially dating someone in addition to my wily Virgo man. I know that I’m doing it purely as a diversion. And yes, Cancer-Gemini, I WILL go insane if I don’t come up with some kind of back-up plan. But I have a very heavy case of Leo loyalty so now I’m feeling a bit guilty.
You seem like you know a bit about birth charts – I’m a double Leo with a Virgo rising (did I say that right?) If I did say that right, does that make me more compatible with Virgos? I know that I am not supossed to be compatible with Virgos. However, I am not supossed to be compatible with Cancers and I have a lot of Cancers who are very good friends of mine.
Hello everyone, I am a virgo male & I would like to start off by saying to all of you that first impression to a virgo man or woman is everything,so be carefull how you present yourself but keep it real because we also have a keen sense for fakeness.If your gonna offer your body to a virgo but still want respect then you need to also offer your brain. The one thing us virgos can not stand is an illiterate & trashy partner. We will sleep with an easy sex partner but making you wifey or hubby is slim to none but we will call you when we need our fix. Virgos value morals,cleanliness inside & out,trust honesty & a person who respects themselves as much as we do. A virgo also loves innocence & hates a person who is too out there but @ the same time loves a person who is not afraid to try different things & is adventurous because we tend to shy in that department, so we need someone to bring us out of that shell (but don’t come on too strong). If you show a male virgo that you respect yourself & your body as well as his then when you finally give yourself to him,he will treat it like the temple it is & there will be nothing to great for him to do to you (beleave me). You can tell when a virgo worships the groung that you plant your feet on when you get into your car to go off to work & find one or a dozen of flowers along with candy & a note attached telling you how wonderfull you are & how he can’t imagine life without you,oh yea & please have a safe drive to work. That’s just one of the small things you will learn to appreciate about the loving freaky virgo.
I’ve been with my Virgo man for a little over a year and what was sexy to him was my independence and my flaws.After a few months of being friends we made this raw passonate love/sex.The next day,with make-up,hair and clothes in order I looked him in his sexy blue eyes and told him’now that we have been intamate,there is no one but you.You are the only man i am going to be with now’so after that i let him have a hand in perfecting my flaws,which was special for him because im an idependent woman,and his help is an immesurable level.Let your virgo man help you.Not with areas he thinks need improvement,but where you think.That is the independant part,you still run your own show,with his help.Then he can play out his best attributes and be with the best woman he custom taylored.A virgo man has to blend mind and body.Even when it comes to sex your body starts with your head…….
A little back story is necessary here. I am Libra Sun with Scorp rising and Mercury AND Moon in Virgo. I sincerely and truly fell for my Virgo man when we were in middle school. Now take it to heart all you firey girls, Virgo will be too slow for you! He is also a master at often giving the opposite impression of his true feelings. He wants YOU to always be truthful and clean in public- not just the body, but mind and manners as well. To turn him on, you have to be inconspicuous about your flirting (showing ONLY him what you want) and look into those crystal clear eyes just as much as you want because he is reading your thoughts and desires when he looks back. He wants to please you and knowing that you want him body, mind, and spirit is the biggest turn on. It really is that simple and it helps if you have “psychic” abilities to help curb those questions of “does he or doesn’t he?”
t.brown: I couldn’t have said it better and couldn’t help but giggle at the “safe drive” bit! EVERY time we part ways, he tells me to be careful. I went to a party with my cousin one time and I was not entirely sure he wouldn’t show up just to ensure my safety. One thing you forgot to mention, though, is that you Virgo guys seem to run hot and cold with extremely quite spells that can leave a girl wondering (you always ‘make up for it’ and feel bad afterwords), but I really must ask why. Once you have decided to give yourself to someone, why do you all (I have several Virgo friends and relatives as well) continue to run in these spells with no explanation?
(Male with Virgo Sun/Mercury here…)
An intellectual argument about… something. Pick something Virgo man said, and turn it against him, with flawless logic!!
He will recognize the challenge, and attempt to make your argument crumble. That’s how Virgo criticism works.
You have to defend your idea! Just make sure you can keep up with Virgo’s brain. This is best done over text messages, because Virgo plans his messages for AGES! Write/Delete/Write/Delete/Write/Modify/Delete/Write/Modify/SEND!
That way you will be facing the full might of the Virgin!
He won’t really be looking to WIN the argument, however. He’s going to deliberately leave open spaces. Very few of them, though. He’s TESTING you, to see if you can beat his labyrinth.
Gradually, he’s going to increase the difficulty. Eventually he will stop leaving open spaces, but still he will not be doing his best. And each time he sends a new message he will be thinking ”Ah, I think I won this time… I doubt she’s got a reply for this.” – And then you send a strong, quite possibly winning, reply.
”Oh my god!!” **Virgo heart starts beating faster** – And he notices yet another little flaw in your text… he just wants to test you, not to beat you… but he can’t stop now… he has to find out how far you can go… He doesn’t want you to lose, because you’ll be sad then… but for the sake of seeing you do your very best, he will even risk winning.
After carefully planning the new message(note: he grabbed the cellphone instantly when he saw you had replied)… possibly for 30mins-1hour(2+ hours would let the conversation die down, and at this moment, when it’s already 11pm he defenitely doesn’t want that!)… he sends it!
**There’s NO WAY she isn’t going to give up now…**
But then he gets a message on his cellphone! Yet another strong, possibly winning, reply(if he doesn’t reply to is, that is!!)… to think that he finally found a woman with whom he can do his best, a woman who can match his blows… is this a dream?
His breath gets faster and faster, he lays down on his bed thinking of you… thinking ”Oh my god… why can’t you just come and kiss me now… I’ll be all yours…” – He has fire inside his chest right now… his whole body is pulsating with energy… he can’t stop thinking of you.
He did think of another challenging reply, but it’s already enough for now… you have proved her worth. He finally sends a message saying ”I defenitely want to continue this conversation another time…look at the time it’s already 4 AM! But I must say, you’re really amazing… I love talking to you like this!”
You reply immediately: ”Do you want to talk live?”
He replies(after yet another 10 minutes… he can’t reply too fast! Would look desperate!): ”Of course… when?”
You reply: ”Don’t sleep yet, wait for me. Kiss.”
He replies(He knows full well, just wants to confirm it): ”What do you mean?” or ”Are you serious?”
You do NOT reply.
30 minutes later, the bell rings… He suddenly gets up from the sofa, where he was sitting (He was distracted, thinking about you.)
What happens next is up to each one’s imagination.
Congratulations, you’ve turned a virgo man on… completely!
Also, yes we love innocence… but what we REALLY REALLY like is the person who acts and looks innocent and naive in public, but is really not so.
It turns us on to no end that a girl is innocent on the outside, but will show her more sexual/dark/dangerous side only to us… without the other people having even a clue of what she really is like!
You know, the seemingly innocent girl, who after kissing you in YOUR own house… says ”You know, if you think it was _you_ who lured _me_ here…then you’re wrong.” , and kisses you again.
Don’t mistake this for a lewd girl, though… Just someone who has self control, and had been waiting for a while to unleash her hidden self with someone(virgos have a hidden sexual personality also. which is hard to ”activate”, but when it IS activated… HOT!!).
(If you just skipped to this post, be sure to read my previous post :D)
I have known a 50-something Virgo man now for more than 18 months. According to him, we are not dating but he also says he is not seeing anyone else. He has come out of a difficult long term relationship in which he left his wife and children for another woman. This relationship lasted 5 years and was a strange one. Filled with infidelity and emotional abuse, he said he finally left her because the age difference was too big (20+years), and in the end she would have left him anyway – he felt he would rather be the one doing the leaving. I am also a Virgo and feel the last statement goes against the grain of the true Virgo. We are loyal people.
Over the past 18 months our getting together has always been on his terms. He calls or sends a text and I am available to him most of the time. When we are together it is like magic. We talk, dance, make love, enjoy each other’s company and time simply flies. I however have decided that I needed more from this ‘relationsip’ and have told him so. His response was that he told me from the beginning that he does not want a relationship – he is still too messed up from a his recent divorce and that he still has feelings for his ex-wife as well as his ex-girlfriend.
Since his divorce came through I have noticed little differences in his behaviour towards me. He would now call me in advance for dinner and when in conversation with other people he would refer to his ex-wife as ‘ex-wife’ wheras when talking with me he talks about his ‘wife’. I take that as a sign of respect towards me. He has also started mentioning ‘our relationship’. When I ask him about this he says that we are friends. I guess he is thinking ‘friends with benefits’ when I want a normal relationship. It could be that he is beginning to develop feelings for me but man…. oh man… he is hiding it so well.
However, he still does not treat me the way I feel I deserve to be treated and this has made me a bit rebelious. I feel I am caught between a rock and a hard place – I have developed very strong feelings for this man, I like his lifestyle, he is neat, clean, successful, articulate, intelligent, athletic, a good lover, has good taste, loving, kind & gentle – yet he has this dark side to him and I feel he manipulates me and does not respect me enough.
He likes to frequent the same social places and I for one am thinking it is not a Virgo trait – I always thought we are an adventurous type. He is a lonely man and he has befriended staff at these places – to him it has almost become like a little village with friendly and familiar faces – a comfort zone. We usually go to these places together and the staff are beginning to see us as a ‘couple’. He is a family man and messed up his life and now deep into his 50’s he must feel a little lost.
Virgo’s are so grounded and we need the respect and dedication from our friends and loved ones. When he treats me as an ‘after-thought’, it cuts into my self-worth. For example, he would send me a text at 8pm to invite me to dinner the same night. Even though I feel that he should make a proper date with me in advance, when he calls or invites me to dinner, the simple thrill of being with him is sometimes enough. At times I have made other plans and when he does contact me for a ‘impromptu’ dinner I feel regret at not being able to see him.
This is eating at me, it is so good between us when we are together – but I need so much more from this man. I need to understand if he is playing a game (or simply passing the time with me) or if it is worth waiting for him.
Could I simply be in lust with this Virgo man? 18 months of being in lust?
I am a married woman and have been spending some time with a Virgo man as a friend. We are not at all romantic and we just talk about everything. I am very intellectual and I think this is the reason why he spends time with me. We have had lunch four times already and we chat online whenever we can. I hope I am not leading this man or get the wrong idea. I don’t flirt with him but I have been enjoying the stimulating conversations. We talk about politics, unemployment, current news, psychology, our life story, etc. It’s never a dull moment. I just hope that we don’t fall in love with one another. I am finding myself thinking about him before I go to bed at night and first thing in the morning. I think subconsciously I am beginning to want him sexually, and I can tell that he wants to spend a lot of time with me. After we had lunch one time… he asked me to go to another place for coffee. I thought he just wanted to order coffee and go, but he sat down and asked me if I am in a hurry to go someplace else. I said no and we ended up talking for another hour. I think I have to keep a distance because I love him as a friend and I would never want to hurt his feelings. I don’t want him to fall in love with me because I am already married. We’re not romantic at all, but I am not stupid. I can tell that he might be developing some feelings towards me. A part of me wants to kiss him passionately, but that would ruin our friendship and that means I will lose him as a friend in my life. I will take the higher ground and be rational and not let my emotions rule. But what if he makes a move on me? That is the scary part, because I may not stop him….
Piscesgirl:
As another pisces to a pisces….cut it out NOW!!!! What you are doing is emotionally cheating to replace whatever you feel you are missing from your husband. I dnt know if you are a pisces like me where I have a very strict moral code. I am going to assume that your husband hurt you in some way or perhaps you married him and werent actually in love with him which is why you are even entertaining this guy. Virgos can be very vindictive when hurt so if you see he is becoming attractive you better tell him up front that things will not go further than friendship or better yet…cut the friendship completely
seriously? Don’t play. Virgo men are all or nothing. If he is not into you, then you can show up in Agent Provocateur lingerie and he will probably just kiss your for head and wish you a good night and go home to download his favorite tv show.
They are VERY straightforward when it comes to sex and they are also very capable of separating feelings from the physical. That is why many of the non-committed men in this sign will hire prostitutes or troll Craigslist for that reason: They get what they want and do not have to deal with messy emotions or goodbyes. When you hear that a Virgo does not like a mess, think of it more as an emotional or mental mess, because I can promise you they have no problem with a sexual mess 😉
If you are trying to turn on a virgo man, the best way is to lubricate and stimulate his….mind. That’s right… his mind. I don’t mean being an encyclopedia either.
Start by slow and infrequent, short forms of communication. Do not immediately respond to him, if he writes back…. but do always respond ( a good gauge is to add an hour or two to the time it takes him to get back to you, just to make him sweat a little bit) Make him come to you. In the beginning, exercise just a little bit of restraint. It is a fine balance of encouraging, but also creating a little mystery.
In terms of turning him on… well, all i can say is don’t be shy once you get down to the dirty. A virgo is not looking for a virgin.
I have to say I agree with a lot of the definitions here for Virgo’s particularly David’s it fits to a tee.
As a Virgo woman, I can tell you that in order to get into relationships with us:
1- Brains are a must, this is how you will get our attention and keep our interest!
2- Taking care of your appearance in terms of cleanliness is also key
3- Know how to carry yourself be confident, don’t be trashy or make things up they are both a big turnoff
4- Don’t be clingy, and know this is very important. We think, we think, we think and if you are always there it breaks the thought process, we don’t get time to miss you and as a resut we lose our interest in you.
5- Sex wise, contrary to what you might think we are not prudish/cold. However I would say take your time. Now it is not about how quickly we get into bed, but rather quality of sex over quantity. We are turned on by a partner that makes us discover different things over time. So don’t throw all your moves at once! I agree dirty talk turns us on, but don’t go in too quickly on the x rated chitchat. When we have sex it is all about connection and feeling, amazingly enough, so please if you do not want to have sex just say so. While in general we have a few things we like, and we tend to have this methodical approach to things : we DO like change from time to time, so retire some moves and bring them back from time to time or better yet do something unexpected we like discovering new things ; – )
6- Never ever joke/make fun when a Virgo is talking about feelings unless you want him/her to run on the opposite direction. However childish what we say may be, let us believe you seriously understand where we are coming from (or at least try to) as it is very hard for us to express our feelings.
To sum up : we analyse a lot, if you want to stick around give us something to think about. Whether a theory you logically put forward to us or an unexpected move you made during sex, just give us a reason to think!
Yes I know we analyse too much, we are not emotionally extroverted and it is hard to get us to commit but once we do you are in for a treat. If you managed to get us to fall in love with you we will be extremely loyal, caring and loving…oh and we will keep the house super clean / organized 😉
My biggest loves have been with taurus (the same for my mom who is also a Virgo) and capricorn. I have put a cross over Piscis! We always have a strong attraction/connection, I am guessing because we are opposites but it absolutely never ever works out over time! I have dated Aries and Leo, and if these signs do not hold down their ground then we will walk all over you. I dated a Virgo and if it was not because I was moving out of the country we may still be together, I say may, because I realized that the same things which annoyed other people about Virgos annoyed me as well…so it was a huge learning experience, I know try not to be so critical/methodical when other people are doing things ; -)
Hope this helps!