[ad]Let’s face it, Scorpios are stubborn. Scorpio is a fixed sign, resistant to change. The strength of this “modality” is that Scorpios will stick with a project or relationship until the bitter end, until either it dies from natural causes or he kills it.
The difficulty with fixed signs is that they don’t let go easily. The “element” of the sign will tell you how they are intractable. Scorpio will hold on to his feelings for dear life, wringing every last drop out of the rag of resentment, the towel of tears, the cloth of … well, you get it.
Not that Scorpio won’t be rigid in his beliefs. In fact, he is likely to be somewhat conservative with his opinions. His thoughts about the world are heavily influenced by his family, and he feels threatened when a philosophy of life goes against what’s familiar.*
So here’s how you go about changing your Scorpio man’s mind: First, understand that Scorpio’s old belief system has to die — just because that’s the way he functions. There’s no middle-ground with him. Next … he needs to embrace a world-view in which caring and security are paramount. He believes in a nurturing Mother Goddess, or he’s a “family values” type of guy. So, if you present an alternative, it should “fit in” with this general paradigm. He’ll push back at first, then let the idea mull around in his unconscious. It’s best to step back, and be patient. If his mindshift happens, it will occur after a violent death of his belief system — but it will happen underground, so you may not notice. Afterwards, he will not mourn his old self — it will already have burned away.
See, that wasn’t so hard, was it?
*Cancer is in Scorpio’s solar ninth house.
Comment below: How have you changed a Scorpio man’s mind?
I have by giving vague tidbits. Something he can investigate on his own. He came back to the topic months later! LOL
That’s right. Scorpio likes to get to the bottom of things, so present an idea he can “dig in to,” and he’ll probably be an expert on it by the time he’s through.
Im a virgo, ive been seeing a scorpio for 3 yrs, very rock relationship. And i hate to admit it, but i cheated on him, and will regret it till the day i die, and realise what i have lost now and it wasnt worth losing him. As much as i love him, he also gets physicaly aggressive but i love him and forgive him but he wont fogive me?
@Anonymous Virgo, if “physically aggressive” means your Scorpio hits you, you need to get out of the relationship. Whether he forgives you or not, abuse is inexcusable.
“If his mindshift happens, it will occur after a violent death of his belief system — but it will happen underground, so you may not notice. Afterwards, he will not mourn his old self — it will already have burned away.”
A most interesting entry and entirely worthy of speculation and debate. As formerly having subscribed to schools of thought which encompass the inherent goodness of man in the original sense to wit engendering a necessary humanitarian evolution toward perfection in the idealistic sense I am presently of the belief this process of “burning away” may be ascribed to as being a highly unpleasant experience and involving a significant degree of painful uncertainty as to the unforeseen outcome(s)in the materialistic sense and the manifestation of related unforeseen outcome(s) in the spiritual and/or metaphysical sense as circumstances would arise relevant to the situation at hand, and in due course.
@Tony, you’d make more sense if you wrote like a woman 😉
what the mans sayin is like the CIA ur all guilty til u prove innocent life sucks sometime thats just the way it is things aint never what they seem and usually the opposite ha and what Im sayin is who needs it
That’s right. Moon square Uranus people are crazy. That’s just the way it is. Moon in the 12th only exacerbates the inclination toward lunacy in the shadows. Beware of activations by transiting outer planet transits and significant lunar eclipses when all hell breaks loose lol.
Here is a question for the Scorpio man, I have been dating my Scorpio man for about 2 1/2 month, he has shown me that he is into me, and I in to him. I shared with him that I had a drug problem 5 years ago. He said that he needed time to think. Help me out Scorpio men. Was I doing the right thing by being honest or should I have kept my secret
Here is a problem I am also having with my Scorpio man, we only have sex once a week????????????????????????????? When I asked if we could add another day, he said I was an addict???????????
MY QUESTION IS CAN A PISCES WOMAN USE SEX TO GET WHAT SHE WANTS FROM A SCORPIO MALE, i.e. a relationship?
So heres the deal. Recently met a Scorpio male and we get on like a house on fire. The basis of our relationship is sex. We are ”friends with benefits”. The sex is fantastic, as I’ve read Scorpio is the sign of sex, so this is not surprising! WE COME FROM DIFFERENT RELIGIOUS BACKGROUNDS. And this appears to be a big stumbling block for him. But somehow, without sounding flaky and weird, there seems to be this huge cosmic connection between us…THERE’S JUST SOMETHING BETWEEN US, I CAN FEEL IT AND I’M SURE HE FEELS IT TOO. I don’t pry too much, I don’t ask too many questions.
Am I being disillusional? The sex is intense, he only wants me, he doesn’t want to share me. I’m happy to give him control in that area and he seems very happy to be in control. He has these beautiful green eyes and its so intense and mesmirising.
I would be happy to change my religion to be with him, but don’t want to say that outright as I don’t want to give him the impression that I’ll be his doormat.
This Scorpio male is all new to me and I WANT, I WANT, I WANT!
Mimi, I could have written what you wrote above, except the only difference, is that he has a girlfriend of 3 years. We have this unspeakable connection, mind, body and soul. NO words are needed. Sex is intense. Being in the same room with him is electric. We both feel it, and are wrecks before we see each other. We met one year ago..and I made him wait 5 months. Now, he takes advantage of me by strictly coming over for sex….once I slept with him, he never took me out anymore. I spoke up about it, and it really bothers me, but I cannot seperate myself from him or the thought of no contact. I’ve tried to keep apart and not allow contact, but have broken down. We have gone 3 months at a time without seeing one another. I’ve been really reading up on this website about Scorps behavior traits, character, etc. and he is a true Scorp. Down to the lying, and cheating, hiding, coward, etc. He is ruled by sex. It’s insane how we are with each other. I have never allowed a guy to just have sex without it being a true relationship. I am hopeful that he will realize I am his soul mate…but I must be honest to myself, that this is just sex…he would have left his girlfriend by now…way before in fact. I cannot get him out of my mind, he is there 24/7. I ask G-d why I am so obsessed with him, when he does not treat me right AT ALL. He has the power over me, that mesmerizing, hypnotic quality about him, that I find so powerful and sexy. I cannot say NO to him. And he knows it. It says Cappys and Scorps, our chemistry, relationship together ‘can’t get any better than this pair’..in mind, body and soul connection. It is so true. I have been strong, and not been his doormat and he likes that quality in me…not sure, could be still a challenge to him somewhat. HIs girlfriend is his doormat. He loves that control. I never wanted anyone more in my life and am going thru hell trying to forget him and get over him. I’m still allowing him to contact me…and once in a blue moon come over. He looks for me daily on AIM and me him…..it’s totally junior high and crazy. He is extrememly immature, going on 50. Very successful! Very revered by his guy friends, doctors, etc. He races boats, motorcyles, is a captain for a huge company. If only…..
“See, that wasn’t so hard, was it?”
Dear graciousness almighty.
OK I think I really need some advice here with my scorpio man of interest 🙁
I’m a cancerian and have known this scorpio guy for weeks through my best friend. We have met up twice but only with my friends with us, so I can’t exactly try something on with him…trouble is he has a boyfriend.
they’ve been together for a few months but the scorpio guy has freely admitted that he isn’t THAT interested in his boyfriend, he’s a rebound from his ex and ‘nothing more’.
We text all the time and send pics etc etc.
but i want 2 meet him JUST him and when we arrange it he’ll flake out on me. now i KNOW this is 2 do with his boyfriend and he doesn’t want to meet cos he knows stuff will end up happening but how do I convince him 2 meet me just me?!
i REALLY like him 🙁 and apparently, his boyfriend is cheating on him 2, so yes while I would feel bad if stuff happened the boyfriend isn’t one to bite back. glass houses and stones and all that
reply please???
Susie, you will always be his side chick. That goes for any man/woman that starts off as the “other woman/man”. The only way you’ll become number 1 is if his gf dumps him or she does something he can never forgive. He’ll probably marry her and keep you as his side chick because he knows you aren’t going anywhere.
I dated a scorpio for 2 years. We had a very in and out relatioship. 3 months into the relationship i got close with his best friend, would hangout with him and ignore my scorpio for days, but then i realized i wanted my scorpio and went back to him, when i went back to him he thought i was cheating physically (which i wasnt) and told me he slept with his ex. We both did wrong and both forgave each other. We had a good relationship for a few months, then i would start to get really jealous, telling him he didnt love me until i convinced him of it. He then cheated on me again with the same ex, came crying back to me telling me what he did, and that he loves me more than anything and he cant be without me. I took him back with no hesitation. It was good for a few weeks, and then i would see him talk to girls all over the place, once again i started freaking out and developing a serious side of rage. He told me he wanted to take a break after i confronted him about his girl problem. We broke up for a month, and he came back to me. He tells me he got with 3 people during the break up and realized i was the one and could never love anyone the way he loved me. I didnt get with anyone. We got really good and fell into the most intense love. Slowly but surely, the more i began to love him, the more jealous and worried i got. He always had a lot of friends that were girls, so it was very easy for me to develope this rage again, which i did. For a year we would have 2 weeks perfect, 2 weeks disgusting. We would tell each other that we will never be over no matter what happens. He would give me chance after chance for me to really trust him. I would tell him ok the rage is over i love you and trust you, and i never really would. He would always take me back though and tell me we will never be done. Then he went on tour for a week, and my rage sky rocketed, i would flip out about everything. We have been together for a solid year with no cheating, but i still was afraid. He would always insure me it would never happen and i wouldnt take no for an answer. Things would get so back that he would call me every name in the book and turn off his phone. I would text message terrorise him and he wouldnt reply. Well on tour he wouldnt take any of this. It was phone off about anything realated to our problems. He got back from tour and i apologized, he accepted and told me he wanted to rebuild us and give me all the love i could ever desire. We got into a small argument later than night, and he just shut his phone off, the next 3 days he was kinda distant. I went to his house and saw him and he said he was still mad, and disconnected and didnt want to get close to me at all. I asked him if he cheated and he said it wasnt that. He would stare at me, and seem like he loved me but then tell me “i looked at some of your pics and you used to be really ugly” “you look good now though” i got mad, and he got mad that i got mad again. The next day was our 2 year anniversary, so i came down. I got in the car and he told me “this is awkward, i am disconnected, i feel nothing for you, its over” he drove me hone as i was crying and freaking out and said “you will never change, the rage is just how you are and i cant handle it, i gave you chance after chance and you blew it, now you really pushed me away and im never coming back, stop talking, stop crying.” He wouldnt look at me, he dropped me off, and didnt say anything. I texted him irrationally for 2 days after and he would say “omg how do you not see its over, leave me alone” then i slowly stopped texting, but he never would reply ever. He has ignored me for 3 weeks. I stopped texting a week ago. I want him to see that this break up is the only way i could change. Will he ever believe it and give me a chance again once we both grow within ourselves? What can I do?
L Pisces
He doesn’t deserve you. You can’t make anyone change and he clearly doesn’t want to anyways. I’ve met a lot of players of different signs and none of them had a valid reason for being that way. By taking him back, you will just encourage him.
He isn’t a very trustable character…just think, if it were reverse, he would not take you back. Scorpio’s don’t forgive easilly, you shouldn’t either
mimi
yes you can but the question is if you do that you better have a very good imagination to match your cookie cuz a scorpios lust is great i dont think you wanna play that game you could end up on the wrong side i have done it to women before.. they ended up loosing their selves i just laughed and enjoyed the game like you started it lol
leolady
your scorp is buggin something is wrong with that picture i cant tell you what but he should not be saying that if he is a true scorp so um something is wrong
leolady
next time he have sex wit you ubruptly stop him and tell him he d*** is garbage… you dont know what he doin different but its like you cant feel him inside you like the passion that he normally has… I bet you I f***ing bet you he step his game up… oh yeah you cant play that line on a regular basis so use it good when you do get up and wash dishes watch tv like you dont even wanna be in bed
susie/B
the only way to become the main chick is to get involved with the sociology of the main chick once he starts asking you what he should do about so and so you are the main chick
annonamous
see this is what you do you gotta be with both then be with both turn both on make them both say whoa she is sexy then watch them crumble make sure you stay focused on your prey but F*** it seduce both of them bet you he show up alone he he
l pisces
he views you as weak.. he loves your heart and devotion but hates your weaknesses.
you gotta draw a line and stand up to him it will turn him on… you are a pisces so throw your wittyness around its one of your strengths he will need to make a point but you amke five point that may be your maybe not but they are definite facts that make his point argueable do it till he gets frustrated then if you do oral give him oral then no nooky stop and start tell your real point. do this a few times till you master it. you will figure out when to suck when to f*** and when to talk seriously the more you do this you will even learn different way but start with this. be sure to frustrate him with many facts when he starts trying to push his wieght around the then do what i said. watch he will come to fear you like baby can i just get my point across damn i love you but let me just OOhh .
L pisces
when he starts shuting up in situations where he would normally talk you have gotten to him. you gotta have more fun with your dis agreements pisces fun its the only way your gonna live with a scorpio your mushy pisces side is not what you use when its time to debate nor anger use you wits and words…the wits and words of pisces amuse scorpio very much but your temper doesnt pisces is ugly when they are angry almost senseless we dont respect senseless we like logic….
forget libra if you love him keep him he loves you cuz he still run to you still gives you energy no matter how many other girls are around they dont have your apeal like i said pisces wit words humor are very fascinating to us
Libra Lady
you should never treat a scorpio like a scorpio you only invite more bs you gotta throw da chess board take his drink sip it in front of him and say king mf…then give him his drink back while he smiles and tell him his drink taste good what was in that cup as if you care then ask him if he still wanna play checkers…oh he will beg to figure out what the hell just happened
@ Scorp
Thx for input. I don’t intentionally not see him when he asks for us to have a get together session. Life and work, etc. Things continue to be light and fresh for us. Sex is wonderful and he is a nice bloke. But I’m just wondering if there is any possibility of more of a connection. Methinks I am fooling myself? Scorpios confuse me. I now have ANOTHER SCORPIO chasing me. One I have known for many years on purely platonic basis wanting something extra from me. I wouldn’t mind it so much, except he has a live in gf. I don’t want to be ”the dirty secret”, although he stresses that that is not the case, he just finds me hot. Why, why, would someone who says they are supposedly happy in their relationship want to screw around?!!!? Is it because I am fresh new blood?????
I still prefer my original scorpio. I don’t want to play games!!! but at the same time I know if I approach the subject, i.e. could you see me as something more, based on our different religious backgrounds, it could be more, I don’t know, I fear he will let me down gently and then worry that I’m becomming emotional involved. Its not so bad now. I don’t think of him incessantly, I accept that our ”relationship” is physical….but hope eternal springs, yet I can’t be expected to wait around and hope for ever, eh Mr. Scorp????
mimi
sounds like ther is some kink in your aura i dont know what it is but its like your moving foward but still being blocked by something about the way you choose to progress…. untill you fix you this will continue to keep happening maybe you need just alittl bit more self time….just alittle bit boo…
the other scorp is either unhappy or a jerk eitherway he is notably going to be a handful i say stay away…if you need sex get it from the one you dealing with and keep doing more work on you dont worry about the man so much everything in due time at the least you have somewhere to get d*** and affection without making yourself to look like a whore and from someone who for the most part wont even try to do you wrong.,… forget the scorp that is willing to loose yaw friendship just to have sex i really dont like his attitude to be honest but ye its your choices not mine
my scorp from the past five years has broke it off because we have issues to deal with but all this horoscope stuff says be patient and we are like magnets and cant get get away from each other. but at the same time he is so called “burning our past”……do i wait or give up?
my scorp from the past five years has broke it off because we have issues to deal with but all this horoscope stuff says be patient and we are like magnets and cant get get away from each other. but at the same time he is so called “burning our past”. do i wait or give up?
what do you want to do? do you know that answer?
The scorpio guy i am seeing, says it’s ok for me to find another guy to have sex with
when he can’t come around. I never heard of this, i think it;s very disrespectful.
What do you think ? Is this a test ? He says were jus friends with benefits which
is fine , but i told him he has been very disrespectful to me.
He askd me how? I said because he made me feel cheap bcuz he makes me think that he thinks
that i am easy with any one.
He said for me to stop he was tired of the same discussion, he was the one that started it up.
What is the deal ? Just wondering if anyone else had a similar experience.
that terrible .sounds like mind games ,im with a scorpio too and have ahalf cancer in me lol. hes test u , i would make him think that im moving on , if he love u he will fight
@all
you want me to change my mind then you better have a good presentation or ask me when i have the ittus or give me head. heck do all three and i will vote YES! 🙂
@cancergrl
the man is being a realist. he would rather except that you sex someone else rather then except you not then get his heart broken finding out you did. idk why thats so hard to understand. you really see that as a test? wierd. he not testing you. he protecting his heart. sheesh
@ecentric
that is really bad advice. you talk about mind games. wow. if people dont want mind games they should not play them or entertain them.
@cancergrl
if you do what ecentric suggest your only gonna make things worse between you and your scorp and it will not change the same convo. he will still feel the same and even more so. he will def look for you to sex someone else if you do what she suggest. he may also even give up on you.
people need to stop thinking a scorp always chases cuz we really dont. the chase will be over. you will be playing hide and seek by your self and thats no fun. when you stop hiding you will find your scorp with the clean up woman. 🙂
I have not seen my scorp guy in over a month.
And he has been away for 2 weeks with his son, which i never doubted in my mind when he has told me that.
and i have not had sex with anyone else, & i hope he has not been with another woman.
And if he has , why not just let me go if he is not interested anymore.
I am not going to try to contact him, maybe he will think i have been with someone else ?
But why does he act like he would not care if i had sex with another man ?
He has never confessed his love for me & i doubt he ever will, and also i don’t think he will ever
realize that have deep feeling for him, not even because we had sex , but because i felt
a connection to him & a respect for him that he is trying to be a good father to his son.
And so many other things about him… he will never understand.
I asked him about something he told me one time , which was if he trusted me
he said he has to now. I asked him what he meant by that …. he said that if i did not understand then he did not have to explain.
Anyway the disrespecting thing is still bothering me , but not as much, and he has not said he was sorry. And yes i always think is testing me in some way , because he has been hurt in other relationships, but who has’nt… i got burned twice real bad .
So i will just wait and see what he will do as always, but keeping myself busy.
If he wants to see me , he knows how to reach me.
Anyway
Scorp, To your reply of my comment.
Well he went back to his ex-wife after stringing me along for a month, hows that for protecting his heart ? He texted me @ almost 1 am 3 days ago & said he did not forget about me, Really ?
then proceeded to tell me he just started seeing his ex- the mother of his son.
I texted him back gd luk 7 i hope everything works out for the both of them for the sake of his son.
He texted back thanks so much and he would not forget all the great times we had.
then added if things did not work out he would be calling? I textd back thanx don’t bother i would not be waiting.
He textd k sorry.
i texted 1 last message you can’t hurt me anymore. Thats it end -of-story .
@cancergirl
he did not string you a long. cant nobody play you but you. he made it clear he was not commited to you. i dont understand whats to be hurt about. keep it moving boo. be thankful he was honest it could of been a lot uglier.
@all
i always advise against chasing married men and women.
cancergril youve been on here for awhile huh
lol
IVE BEEN DATING THIS SCORPIO ABOUT A MONTH 1/2 AND I WAS HONEST WITH HIM ABOUT MY PAST BREAKUPS AND HOW I WANTED TO TAKE THINGS SLOW GET TO KNOW HIM SEE IM A TAURUS ,I NEVER DATED A SCORPIO HE TREATED ME SO GOOD I WAS WONDERING WHATS WRONG WITH HIM CAUSE I HAD BAD RELATIONSHIPS WHERE I WASNT GETTIN THE SAME TREATMENT OF HOW HE WAS TREATIN ME AND LAST WEEK THURSDAY WE WERE HANGIN OUT THEN I WAS MAD DRUNK SO WAS HE THEN WE WENT TO THE HOTEL BUT HE LEFT ME AT THE HOTEL ALONE LATENIGHT UP TO TO A WEEK AND A HALF HES BEEN GIVING ME THE COLD SHOULDER NO EXPLANATION WHY IS HE DOIN THAAT WHATS UP WITH HIM
he hit it and quit it. you know toot it and boot it.
i was dating scorpio man for about 3 moth and he declared that he in relationship for 11 years and he cant let go the girl and at the same time he dont want to get married with the girl.
He told me ,he tried to breakup with the girl for 3 times and they both get together again and he asked the girl to find someone else since he dont wanna get married with her but she refused.
he cant see the girl feel sad so he get back together again. He told me that 50% percent he still love the girl but another 50% he hates her.
i was get frustration with this situation and i decided to let him go eventhought i still love him..
he said that he want me in his life in anyway coz he feel really comfortable and happy be with me..when i decided to get away from him he finally said that he love me and care for me..do u tink he really mean it and will come back to me or should i just forget him
Um…mulan. I would let this one go Babe. I hate to say it, but just from what you wrote. Let it go now and move on. I know it is SOOOOO much harder said than done, but alot of the women here will attest to the fact that your case scenario sounds all too familiar and that you will end up spending more time spinning your wheels only to find out so much more later that you should have let go right now.
He probably did mean it and will also probably come back. The thing is…is that what you deserve? Since when does love dictate that we have to allow a person to take us for a ride of disillusionment. I’m not saying that you should never talk to him again, but at least find your footing outside of the situation before you do and know that you’re concreted in your convictions on what you deserve as a woman before you even think about communicating with him again.
any ideas for those of u out there that reallyunderstand scorpio men. I know it is written that when a scorpio man is hurt by a g/f that he will usually never forgive it. I am a scorpio female who has truely brused her scropio man. He hasn’t talked to me in along time. But now he appears to me when i am on line soemtimes. If i write, he answers me silly stuff one word converations on his part, and he doesn’t stay long. But my point is, he is showing himself to me. I am trying to get him to let me call, but he wont even talk about that. I guess what my question is thought, if you all think maybe he coming around back to me?? or is he somehow maybe playing to hurt me now. I really don’t think he wants to hurt me in retaleation. But what do you all think. now if he wasn’t interested at all, i don’t think he would even talk.
I have been in a relationship with a Scorpio man for 17 years. I could say alot right now but would not know where to begin. I am a Scorpio as well.
I would like to know what “Scorp” here has to say. I am new here, so I am just puttin this out there.
hurt my scorp and I need advise. I said somethings out of anger not just him but the whole word(very rough time in my life) and I really hurt him. I apologized. While he said he accepted my apology he also said the damage is done. Since then communication has been scarce. He textes me i believe because we just had a daughter together to know what is going on with her. After this I did said i loved him and missed him and he replied he mises me too and loves us both but was wondering if that was a fluke or did he mean it and slip. I dont know if there is a chance of making it worst. I know scrops are very stubborn and hold on to things. I am nothing like that, which is probably why i fly off the handle when really stressed because I know i wont be mad long and get over it quickly. I dont know what to do to fix it. Right now i am giving him his space and not hitting him up. I changed my number because I got a new phone and didnt give him the number. They say absense makes the heart grow fonder. Is this true, I have no clue of what to do anymore with him. I truly love him and Im hurting right now. Worrying we wont fix this and/ if he has already moved on. Any advise would be appreciate. Does him saying he loves me and misses me mean that he really does and is just still hurt or is he just being nice for the sake of our child?
Thanks.
My friend is a scorpio. He is under a lot of pressure/stress lately and of course has backed way off. How do you help a scorpio when they will not ask for help because they think they have to be the strong one all the time? I feel bad for him and know I could help in some way…at least take some pressure off. But he never replies to my questions or offers of help. Instead when he talks to me its something that really doesn’t need to be addressed. How do you help a scorpio?
im back thats what i have to say lmao
@all
if anyone would like my particular advice adress it @scorp
i love to help when i can but unless my opinoin is asked for, i dont just jump into every convo.
peace to all. stay up 🙂