A reader asks:
how does a leo girl win over (or win-back) a capricorn man. i am in love with him but he made many mistakes and i overreacted because im a leo and now i fear his opinion of me is forever damaged. how can i burrow into his heart like he did mine or more importantly, why am i so drawn to such a cold person?
Your Capricorn burrowed into your heart because he’s a patient digger. He’ll work tirelessly to get what he wants. I’m sure once he got into your heart, he soaked in the heat for which his cold bones yearned. Yet what are you willing to do to reach his heart? If Cap had to burrow to reach a Leo’s heart, you’ll probably need an hydraulic hammer to break through the rock that covers his.
I have a feeling that Cap felt your overreaction was improper, or immature, and that he wishes you’d respond like a grown-up. “Working” your smile may not be enough. Capricorn will respect you when you act like dignified royalty instead of a petulant child — both are equal expressions of the Leo archetype, but carrying yourself like a Queen will more likely gain his respect.
Addendum
Why are you drawn to such a cold person? There is no hot without cold. If you are the Sun, radiating warmth to the solar system, then Capricorn is Saturn, cold and defensive, shielding himself from galactic visitors with his protective rings.
i am also involved with a cappy man and yes, they can be confusing to us Leos!!! i say just be yourself whether he likes it or not because i truly believe that cappies are drawn to us like flies to honey because we possess what they do not possess and that is the Sun’s healing and radiating warmth!!! Just as we are drawn to them because secretly we want to be tamed and desire some restraint for our own good..if anything, its an interesting relationship as we are so opposite but really have more traits in common that meets the eye!!! We must give more than we recieve…it takes maturity (something we Leos are bad at LOL)…God knows, i love my cappy immensely but i dont feel it from him..i think he thinks i should just know…cappy men are not good at vocalizing so get used to it!!!
I was so happy to find this page! I have the same problem with my capricorn. I question all the time why I want to keep him in my life and I feel guilty about being myself when I get on his nerves!! I am glad I am not the only one.
I have fallen in love w/a Cap man and I am a Leo. We argue often but when I say I think we should not talk as often he says we don’t talk that much now. We are not actually dating just in the first stages of getting to know each other. We flirt etc.
How do I know if he is into me? He is very hard to read! I want him in my life but he is quite assertive when we talk. He seems to want to be around me but he has a hard time expressing himself. We’ve known each other about 3 years. He has told me I am pretty, so I guest that’s saying something.
NEED HELP, T.
Oh god… I love this page.
I think I’m infatuated with this cap guy… and boy, does he makes my head spins!
We knew each other for 3 years, but for the last 2 years I accidentally ignored him (HIS words :P) cos I was seeing somebody else. He claims to be hurt by that.
Now, we’re getting really close but somehow tends to fight alot. He has this girl he has been dating for years but keeps on telling me that they’re not in a relationship. (How can a Leo understand THAT? :P)
The thing is, eventhough he’s dating this girl in another town… he still sleeps around and dates other girls. Soooo Mr. Big right? 😛
And what’s worse is that he keeps saying that he’s attracted to me but never really try to get close to me…physically.
What to do?
I was just about to give up on him when I find this blog. And now, I’m more fired up to make him kneel!
But the thing is in our last argument, we had a big fight and now he has turned the temperature really low and still giving me the silent treatmen. ugh.
Help…
OMG! orchidrainbow I am going through almost the exact situation. Big fight involving me overreacting and then silent treatment. I think Capricorn males teach us leo’s the value of patience (though it makes me rough on the edges sometimes to wait it out) and realize that we should also spend more time with ourselves and our thoughts.:) Of course, we can never be as secretive as Capricorns but it can help us think things and actions through. My cappy is very mysterious to me… I just wish I knew a way to make him kneel down too! Haha! But one thing I learned about Capricorns they have subborn down to a science that Leo’s can never begin to comprehend.
ok i am a capricorn and i have such strong feelinds for this leo guy that i been dating but hes so god damn immature and i feel he is consistantly doing things to piss me off on purpose but i love everything about him. He just makes me feel different what do i do? HELP
Read all about it on Seduction Central!
http://jeffreykishner.com/astrology/love/2007/08/loving-immature-leo.html
if that doesn’t work try typing “immature Leo” in the search bar on the upper right of this forum
“if Cap had to burrow to reach a Leo’s heart, you’ll probably need an hydraulic hammer to break through the rock that . . .”
from SC discussion 1/31/2007
oooooooooooh help me , i’m a leo girl and his cap. , i know him from a year and from the first month he started to say that i’m one of the best girls he’d ever know and he’s proud to know me …etc
and every know and they he does things that made feel that he likes me and actually i loved him , i love his thoughts his way ,…. anyway i made a BIG MISTAkE ,i told him that ilove him , he was shocked and then he asked me to remain as friends and that i won’t change with him , abd he started to change , he’s still caring but he’s shy ( or cold) to talk with me when we meet as before and his eyes is always trying to say something , i can’t get , can someone help me what can i do
This was an intresting site…intresting to see I am not the only Leo girl madly in love/lust with a capricorn man. My CAP is 6 yrs older than I. We have known each other 5yrs but have not explored the conversation of having a relationship. I tell you what though, if I was’nt so proud and bull headed I would have asked him about progressing our relationship. Needless to say he hasn’t either. So we basically just have a sexually relationship.
Speaking of…this CAP man can make me wet just by thinking about him, hearing his voice over the phone, anticipating seeing him. We have the best conversations, never argue, but we do debate certain issues. He is a almost perfect man!
Now for the bomb shell!!!
He is so distant…I wish he would come out and say I am in love with you or I like being around you…I know he does because of our times spent together but he never says what I want to hear…
I like to spoil my CAP too. But that is a God given trait of any LEO…we will smother our cubs and man in lavish gifts until they show to be unappreciative. I have been behind on my mortgage and I would take my mortgage money just to buy him an expensive gift…
Call me crazy but I gurantee I an not crazy by myself.
I want to get married to my CAP…he rubs my body in the most perfect way. He whispers in my ear as we make love with the most passionate voice…and I can feel us connected minutes before he even enter my body. He is smart and dresses to kill. He has a smooth monotone voice that is all so seductive.
But why have we been friends for 5yrs and no proposal or even “hey let’s date”?
Well, I tell you why…he is a CAP.
Enough said…
This was an intresting site…intresting to see I am not the only Leo girl madly in love/lust with a capricorn man. My CAP is 6 yrs older than I. We have known each other 5yrs but have not explored the conversation of having a relationship. I tell you what though, if I was’nt so proud and bull headed I would have asked him about progressing our relationship. Needless to say he hasn’t either. So we basically just have a sexually relationship.
Speaking of…this CAP man can make me wet just by thinking about him, hearing his voice over the phone, anticipating seeing him. We have the best conversations, never argue, but we do debate certain issues. He is a almost perfect man!
Now for the bomb shell!!!
He is so distant…I wish he would come out and say I am in love with you or I like being around you…I know he does because of our times spent together but he never says what I want to hear…
I like to spoil my CAP too. But that is a God given trait of any LEO…we will smother our cubs and man in lavish gifts until they show to be unappreciative. I have been behind on my mortgage and I would take my mortgage money just to buy him an expensive gift…
Call me crazy but I gurantee I an not crazy by myself.
I want to get married to my CAP…he rubs my body in the most perfect way. He whispers in my ear as we make love with the most passionate voice…and I can feel us connected minutes before he even enter my body. He is smart and dresses to kill. He has a smooth monotone voice that is all so seductive.
But why have we been friends for 5yrs and no proposal or even “hey let’s date”?
Well, I tell you why…he is a CAP.
Enough said…
^^^^ Sistah you took the words outta my mouth!!
Yep I’ve had the “3 years as friends with bennies” relationship thing going on with my Cappie guy,and everytime I bring up about being a couple I get the excuses and the cold shoulder toward realtionships. WHY??? are cappies so against relationships? Being part of a couple? He says he doesn’t want to rush things.
Being a Leo I want romance and all that…I get “I love you” at the end of a phone call,I should be happy with that.
I dunno why this guy just fascinates me,but he does…
I’m glad I’m not the only Leo with a Cappy guy!
omigoodness…i am a leo, who fell in love with my cap the first moment i saw him, which happened to be 15 yrs. ago!!! the sad thing is, both of us have always been in a relationship with someone else and when there was an opportunity to be exclusive, the timing just wasn’t right. i have been content with having him in my life(from a distance)and went 5 years without seeing him, only conversing by phone. in that time i feel deeper in love with this man and finally last yr, we agreed it was time to see each other again. that chance encounter was bitter sweet. i can remember it like it was yesterday. the problem is, since our meeting, he has totally and completely cut me off. he won’t take my calls, texts, or anything. we never even had a follow up conversation about how good it was to be with each other after being apart for so long. and you leo’s out there already know that no one does it better than a cap! this is torture! it’s been 8 long months and i still can’t believe this has happened to our relationship. it’s so hard for me to fathom that someone who used to be a fixture, albeit at a distance, in my life, is suddenly not there anymore. i am in so much pain. and i am also angry that someone can have such a strong hold over my emotions. i had no idea he had this in him. i am learning a lot about this sign and it’s so hard to accept……..
OMG! i thought i was only the person who’s suffering from this situation. well guys, i should say mine is a very ESTRANGED STORY! call me rain. i just met this guy in bar. even dance with a guy while this cappie guy approached me and ask my number infront of my partner! since im a leo i was so damn amazed of his confidence and that made him sooooo irresistable. so there we dated. to cut the story short, we had it as one night stand! yes it is! for me it was all just a game and lust! we met and have it many times. but i know we both we’re very much attracted to one another. thought that he was just like other men. the game ended, i had a new guy that was libra. i told my cappie “game’s over” to my surprise, he wanted to see me out cz for him it wasnt the way it was. he said at first it was but he felt there was somthing. so the nyt he ask me to become his gf. i told him i need time and since he knew i had a bf already. he tried to understand. at one time he ask me if i got “intimate” with guy(libra) and i answered him straight yes! so girls really, at that time there was a big change! i mean he changed a lot. to me i was just being honest to him. everything in me. coz i could not afford or pretend to the guy i thought i didnt loved. but damn its been more than a year now we’re just “like this” the status seems to be like on hanged. he doesnt talk and same here. i was always the one who makes the communication between us. thinking that it will still work. but now, i dont know. all i know is he’s concern whenever i message him in his phone that i felt bad on that day. u see my friends have been saying that he doesnt deserve all the effort ive been giving him. been saving money surprsing him gifts just to make him happy. hahaha i love everything about him. and i admit that i am crazy about him. i dont know why. but i can sense it he likes me i know. i know it to myself that he cares for me. damn this guy! wish i had an amnesia to stop this crazy thing i feel for him cause it always hurts me when he’s cold. and i know that there is a third party he just hiding it from me. its been a year that im doing all the routines everyday sending him message whenever i saying good nyt! morning etc.! hahaha call me crazy but i just cant get enough of him! i love my capricorn guy! hehehe
OMG OMG OMG
im going throught the same situation.
he has girlfriends, yet he wonders, and i feel like he gravitates mostly to ME. he’s much older than me but i need that since im a single young mother. he drives me crazy!! one minuite i think i have him figured and the next he dissapears and im left like WHAT?? LoL and like a typical Leo i try ALL my charms but its so hard to IMPRESS him!
UGH these Capricorn MEN are going to drive us CRAZYYY!!!!
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Wow. Ladies I must agree! I am head-over-heels infatuated with a Capricorn man. They are unreachable, they exude confidence, they are certified assholes, yet it gets to us Leo girls…because in a way we want that firm hand in a relationship lol. I went as far as to cheat on a relationship I was in with a Taurus *yawn* with this man and it may be awful but I don’t feel bad. Well, I am a mother as well and I feel like he possesses the perfect qualities to be “the man” of the house. It’s good to know you ladies feel like I do, and your just as dramatic and emotion filled as I! Now I am just working on reeling in the catch but it’s very difficult. Perhaps its just a game he’s playing? But I wish to outwit him with every inch I can. Three soon to be four years of this emotional roller coaster & I am still on the ride.
Much luck to you ladies & a big hug to my Lionesses.
I AM TOO A LEO FALLING IN LOVE WITH LOVING MY FIRST LOVE WHO HAPPENS TO BE A CAP. THIS WAS ABOUT TEN YEARS AGO. HE CHEATED WE BROKE UP. GOT BACK TOGETHER, BROKE UP AGAIN. AND SINCE THEN I CAN COUNT THE NUMBER OF TIMES I HAVE SEEN HIM IN LAST TEN YEARS ON ONE HAND. I SPOKE TO HIM RECENTLY AND THE LOVE IS STILL THERE. HE GAVE ME WHAT I WANT. THATS REASON ENOUGH FOR ME TO BE PATIENT. AS A LEO GIRL I TOO HAVE BIG DREAMS AND WANT TO REALLY ESTABLISH MYSELF BEFORE SETTLING DOWN. AND THATS THE NAME OF THE GAME, MY DEAR PRECIOUS LEOS, WAIT. HE WILL COME BACK…
that last comment was well said. thank you…it’s just what i needed to hear. i am still pining over the loss of friendship from my sexy, delicious cap and i’m actually blogging while my libra fiance sits watching snl (it’s deep.. the pain, and i can’t even deny it.) in the 9 months that my cap and i have been estranged, the one thing that keeps me going are the sweet, sweet memories of our encounters. there are so many thoughts that i have to hold on to. i can remember the first time i laid eyes on him, our first kiss, and all the special moments we’ve shared…..i can even conjure up the feelings i felt during these encounters, that’s how deep i feel for this man. it is truly powerful, but such a challenge!!! i love my cap, and i know he loves me too. i also know that i will probably never hear him verbalize just how deeply he feels for me, but like they say, actions speak louder than words. his actions have done more than enough talking, but my conceited leo ass needs to hear it and that’s what makes this so hard! patience is a virtue, and caps have that down pat!! i know that i have not done anything wrong to make him distance himself. he had to pull back because things got way too intense and that’s what they do…..complicate the matter…..pull back instead of going with what they feel…the lion in me has had the most difficulty with accepting this trait. but i have no choice. with almost anyone else, our charm gets us what we want, but for some damn reason, caps are not buyin’ it. well, good luck to all you leos out there in the same boat…just know, it’s not u, it’s him….and if u love him, just accept that it will probably be the most challenging, yet rewarding relationship you’ve ever had to maintain!
said it ryt “just above my comment”. hahaha.. cold men challenges me a lot. leo are challenged. so there it goes. for me my cappie guy is the perfect match for me. that’s it. whatever it is im very much attracted to him and love damn much!
im a leo man and i like a capricorn girl very much. But its too difficult for a leo to understand the Capricorn. Capricorns are very unpredictable. i think im drawn to her because she is very careful and responsible that i don’t have. but seriously sometimes it just doesn’t match. It can be good parent child relationship but not a romantic one.i think the capricorn will make a leos life a little more responsible but lot more less exciting.
But still i like her very much.
yeh.. capricorns are stingy with their feelings. leos are quite the opposite!
i'm a leo, and very emotional. the capricorn that i'm seeing has had his heart broken before, so he's afraid to fall in love.
i'm in the process of trying to make him understand that he can trust me, but it can be a hard thing for them to learn.
so i'm in the same boat as lots of you it seems! but, one thing you should never do is give up. capricorns need dedication and they need to know that the special person is actually WORTH it.
goodluck to you all!
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I am so glad I found this page, because all this time I thought I was going crazy…I love my man with all my heart and I swear no one could ever take his place along with all his drama…He knows how to deal with me is the best way for me to explain it, I can be a brat and he don’t give into it but I think in some kinda of strange what that’s what I love the most, he has this unspoken control over me that I hate and love all at the same time! He knows how to hold me touch me, kiss me just like you read about in a good romance novel…but with that he keeps me guessing when it comes to how he feels about me!!! Without him even say it alot I know how he feels by his kisses and touches!! My friends don’t have a clue, Hell neither do I but I’m trusting my heart, because time without him in times past(when I was fighting this FACT)has been miserable for me and him…Yes it’s been 6years of break up and make ups, but what keeps bringing him back and why do I accecpt? Man, to every Leo woman blogging I’m extending to an eternal hug, because I know to the core how you feel!! Don’t know what to say, but keep a good supply of liquor(lol) cuz you are going to need a stiff one…Hopefully one day I can blog to you a future wedding Date!!! Pray!!!!! Love ~Me Too Girl~
I am so glad to have found this site. I really need insight from you please. I have known this Cap guy over 4 years, and I have this attraction to him that literally overwhelms me at times. We are both in Relationships, but it has never stopped him from watching every move I make or making plans that always include all 4 of us. He is sly however, and for a long time he has made me 2nd quess myself at whether what I thought I was noticing was really happening or not. As I have read about Caps, it seems that once they are committed they don’t stray, but why does this one go out of his way for me all the time. I mean he looks for ways to help me or take care of things for me, but has never made the first move that would let me know what he is even thinking. So, recently, I decided I would play my hand slightly and tell him how much I admired him and his qualities and that he had my attention. Well, you would have thought I had committed a crime, he thanks me for the compliments and goes on to talk about how shocked he his by me admitting to this. But yet, in another sentence talks about his wanting me to continue to live in this general area and not move away. So my question is this, If he is so shocked and would never do anything to upset our respective “others” why wouldn’t he want me to leave here? And why tell our “others” repeatedly how much he admires and repects me and thinks I am so brillant? Quite honestly, the man has captured my heart without even trying and I just want it back if he is just using me to stroke his ego. So, am I just imagining this or is this for real? Is there any chance that at some point, there may be anything worth waiting for here?
hahah…wow…i’m a leo and i’ve fallen for my personal trainer whos a capricorn…he’s perfect.charming adorable exudes confidence plus he makes me feel like star..but distant, and then he says to call and i do but then he says i’m tired..and gives excuses but then he says your beautiful and LADIES he just got divorced as well as HE’S my personal trainer…..oh jeez i’m in trouble from the looks of it.. kinda excited though…its a chase that i MUST win…sounds like caps are the way to go with men.
I have been going out with my cappy man, and i cant help but loving him so much. i think its like ‘sabraleo’ said, im drawn to him because hes everything im not.
but the only thing is that he gets jelous very easily if im talking to another guy, or he always expects that im oin to dump him. hes soooo pessemistic!!
but, i think that i bring out a lot more optimism in him when we’re together. And yes, i will agree that cappy men (well at least mine) tends to get annoyed by my leo-immaturities (haha) but hes gotten used to it now, and he just laughs. i think the biggest mistake that leos make with cappys is that they arent themselves, and that (in my opinion) is the most important part of being in a relationship with someone.
Hey Leo Ladies…I’d say we’re all in trouble if we’ve actually been reduced to using the internet to figure out our Cap. men, ; ) but here I am, so if you can help…. my Cap guy is hot and cold. We were secretly crushing on each other for about a month, and then got together, and for about 2/3 weeks, it was all good, he even brought me to meet his family, anyway, now, one day he’s all about me, the next he’s cold. this is the first weekend we did’t hang out, and i just don’t get it. is it that he’s no longer into me, or is he just being a Capricorn and I don’t know how to handle it, because I’m an upfront and honest Lioness? Any ideas? Thanks!
Well, well, well…I too am a Leo Girl and OMG have I got you all beat! In a nice way…
I met my Cappy 30 years ago! Yes, I said 30 years ago…we were very young teenagers…last time I made contact with him was over 25 years ago!!!!!! Until recently! We made connect and have been hot and heavy until I got a little aggressive and he pulled back..typical of Cappy’s….
Wow the same feelings are there and the same passion from all those years ago, just thinking of him gets me going.
We too comment “timing is always wrong for us” I’m married and he is married…we live a secret life now emailing, chatting and talking on the phone…I have never been able to understand the “HOLD” he has on me.
I tend to be the one who always starts the communicating even though I have always “intrigued” him! He’s hot for me I know it, but there is always a BUT! He too is cold at times, doesn’t show emotions only to a certain point, his humor is outstanding, very smart, on his game at all times, always knows the right things to say and always comes back for more, more, more…
He too makes my head SPIN when I think I got him read he changes! He tells me he has to always keep me thinking!!! and loves to keep me going. When I think we are on the same page and things may work, BAM he does it to me again, pulls back! Drives me nuts and I tell him it does! Shouldn’t but I do because after knowing him this many years what the hell!!!!
I am very honest with him and for some reason again, he keeps coming back to me…after 30 years there’s something there!!!
This I’m afraid to say may be a life time of heartbreak….
I so love this man, but may never have the timing right so we will continue to communicate long distant and have our fantasy I believe…
If anyone can tame one, god bless you and let me know the secret when you do because after this many years I’d do anything to make this Cappy mine!!!!!
OMG!!! i thought i was one of the only people going through this… ha ha i am a leo and i am very interested in a capricorn man.. i have known him for years, growing up… and we have recently started talking again… he approached me and we exchanged numbers… and we text each other all the time… i want him to call me… but he says… im going to and then he doesnt, and then he’ll write to me and call me beautiful and baby..i know he wants me around, and he enjoys me but i want him to let me know….when he draws back from me i usually ask him if he’s ok or if i did something to upset him… and usually he is totaly confused as to why i think he’s mad lol.. i am so drawn to him… he’s an amazing man, and his voice and the way he talks to me is amazing….. it just does something to me… i guess i’ll have to be the aggressive one… not that thats a problem for us leos..lol ladies we need help wih these capricorn men… help!!
Hi lioness23, I had to laugh when you said “he’s an amazing man, and his voice and the way he talks to me is amazing…it just does something to me…OMG That is ME!!!! I feel just like that and it does hurt so much to know he is so stubborn, cold or I should say realistic about life! They do tend to think everything to death to make sure… I’m the one who commented above you about my cappy man and meeting him 30 years ago…I still am communicating with him even now, I tried the aggressive angle, it won’t work! I do believe it pushed him away even more. One thing from the horses mouth was “He hates rollercoaster rides” They want everything at an even keen and no waves… well isn’t that every man I said?! LOL! I believe if the timing or whatever it is, maybe meant to be could work we probably would be together, but again after talking & emailing him for several months, several states away I don’t believe it will work…I will always have my cappy man to dream about! Good luck though….
I’m sort of in the same situation, but, strangely twisted around. I’m a Cap woman in love with a Leo man and I’m the one who is hot and communicative and he’s the one who is cold and non-communicative.
I’m so confused.
I’m about to pack it in. While he tells me he’s in love with me, he does little to show it.
Wow. This page is amazing. I am a Leo woman who has been in a “relationship” with a capi man for about 3 years. I say “relationship” because we are both otherwise commited to other people. When we met it was love at first sight. We have tried to stay away from each other at certain points in our relationship but we always end up back in eachother’s lives. He is a big mystery. I know that he loves me but believe me, getting him to say it is a game in itself. Yeah sometimes he’ll end anemail with “love you” but that’s about it. haha. I am very outgoing and warm and I freely tell him that I love him. He seems to be much easier with the sexual aspect of our relationship. Honestly in his mind it’s almost as though he shows his love fro me through making love to me. he is a worka holic and extremely serious. Nothing makes me happier than making him laugh and sharing my free sense of humor with him. Although I know that he sometimes finds me immature he tends to be very protective of me. He sees himself as the “wiser” mature one. Its a capi thing and I guess I have just learned to accept it. Its great to know that there are other Leo chicks out there dealing with teh same issues.
Ha I love how all of us are completely smitten by the reserved Capricorn and here we are dramatic and bold and act like ninny folk when seduced. So my fellow I have no idea what to get him for his birthday. So someone with for experience with the Capricorn fellow give me some ideas please?
a snow globe?
LoL a snow globe. I think he would give me one baffled look if I presented him with a snow globe. Creative that is, but not what i would feel comfortable giving him for a birthday present. and he is only turning 21 sooooo…..
an engraved pen.
cuff links.
a mahogany desk.
I think I am just going to give him a swift kick in the butt, because he is a stick in the mud!
OMG I’m soooo glad I’m not crazy!! I am a Leo female who has been “seeing” a cap guy for a year now! It has been an absolute roller coaster ride! He is about 7 years older than I am, and its crazy to see a lot of you found older ones too! At first he would tell me he wanted to take me out and made comments about how he likes me, but he never took action on the plans. Of course, being the leader leo that I am, I took charge and planned out our date. He texted me a lot, but after a while he wouldn’t even answer my messages. I took it as he wasn’t interested and began to back off. The second I was distant, he came crawling back giving me enough attention to get me hooked again. I wanted to start dating him a lot, but he kept telling me how busy he was. When he wasn’t busy, he had a bad day or was tired. I didn’t understand at all! I could tell he was interested in me when I saw him, but he made no effort! It made no sense! He really was busy with work, but in a way I felt like the stupid girl who wasn’t taking the hint. I confronted him about it because I was so frustrated! He said that he enjoyed getting my texts, and not to take it personal if he didn’t answer. He assured me that he had been busy, and it would get better. Normally, I wouldn’t give this guy the time of day, but for some reason he has this magnetic hold over me! I’ll give you guys some advice that helped me out though! We’re never going to understand cap men.. EVER… you just have to get used to their characteristics. They don’t show their emotion, need lots of alone time, and can only handle one project at a time. You know how us leo girls feel ridiculous if we think we look bad that day? We don’t want to be seen in public! Well the cap guys feel super insecure if they aren’t putting their all into their jobs. Its where their confidence is. They are trusting, and want someone to chase them. We have already done that. The biggest thing I can tell you ladies to do is mirror their actions. Instead of jumping in the air when I got a message from him, I ignored it. I cancelled plans with him and told him I was busy. It drove him crazy! He told me I was killing him! Finally he gets a taste of his own medicine. His distance will never be completely resolved, but when you show him what he’s doing he is MUCH better!
ok so I’m having soooo much trouble with my cap guy….. He makes me so unsure of myself! They are real confidence killers arrrrrrrr…. he does all the things you girls have mentioned! What I find crazy is that after a year and a half “dating”, he hasn’t tried to do anything sexual with me! He makes comments, and has been with a fair amount of girls in the past. He just doesn’t take action at appropriate times! He confuses me in all aspects, but I feel like I’m alone on this one!
ok so I’m having soooo much trouble with my cap guy….. He makes me so unsure of myself! They are real confidence killers arrrrrrrr…. he does all the things you girls have mentioned! What I find crazy is that after a year and a half “dating”, he hasn’t tried to do anything sexual with me! He makes comments, and has been with a fair amount of girls in the past. He just doesn’t take action at appropriate times! He confuses me in all aspects, but I feel like I’m alone on this one! help!
I am a Cappy, am in deep love with a leo girl.
seems like i can understand what you people are going through.
“Pull Back” is because… the Leo seems to play lot of games.. they behave as though they are not interested. so we think it is better to let the girl be alone.. not be a stalker. was having continuous communication with the girl but she seems like not serious.. dedicated in sending mails…but when i tried to take things seriously… she was run away…. if i try to meet here in office.. she would run to the nearest exit.. but after some days.. she looks at me as though she likes me a lot… was not communicative with her because… i was blown about her… didn’t know what to speak.. now, it seems like she communicates and keep things going… we are still not seriously seeing each other.. but it seems like she likes me a lot too..
still i wonder why i don’t take actions…. may be because she is too she whenever i approach her….
it took 2 years… just to speak freely to her… guess it is the problem with us cappy’s.
Sorry for the incoherent message above.
I am a Cappy, am in deep love with a leo girl.
seems like i can understand what you people are going through.
“Pull Back” is because… the Leo seems to play lot of games.. they behave as though they are not interested. so we think it is better to let the girl be alone.. not be a stalker. They do it when they not yet clearly established that she loves me. It seemed like she is flighty/flirity, just keen on speaking to a hot guy who chases her, just trigger me so that i keep coming back to her. We like if it is stable for the same reason. we invest lot of emotions to make the love “project” work out. But it seems like it is not working.
we were having communication everyday with the girl. She was very dedicated in sending mails. she was giving subtle hints that she like me and she wants to be asked out…but when i tried to take things seriously… she would was run away….not reply to the serious questions…..try to meet her in person… she would take nearest exit. Felt like she was PLAYing with my feelings.. but after some days.. she looks at me as though she likes me a lot… was not communicative with her because… no words would come out when i see her. I am usually flirty with other girls.. but when i am with her… i don’t want to Hurt her with my flirty comments..be decent with her.… didn’t know what to speak..
… now, it seems like she communicates and keep things going… we are still not seriously seeing each other.. but it seems like she likes me a lot too..
still i wonder why i don’t take actions to ask her out…. may be because she is too shy …whenever i approach her….which makes me more shy myself…
i suggest the Leos to take action to ask him out for coffee and try to spend more time with him… i know it is not manly to say so… but it makes easier.
try to get involved in his hobbies/ activities.. speak about your life and yourself.. be more open.. that way he opens up with you. and trusts you. and show that your interest is somewhat “concrete”. remember he does not like to waste his time on non working project…or his approach is more business like.. if you don’t like then don’t be a salesman trying to sell a product his Love.
it took 2 years… just to speak freely to her… guess it is the problem with us cappy’s. Unless i see some solid relationship and suit our family i would not take it further… Cappy’s always look for longterm love and they are always serious… be more open and ask him to be more open what he is thinking…. Ask him to be Direct and be Confident.. he will chase you.
Thanks Cappy guy for the advice above. I am actually an Aries girl in love with a Capricorn guy. I saw him at a club event I was at, and started to dance with him. Right when I laid eyes on him, I was hooked. I could tell he was too. He invited me to hang with him after, and it was weird because we were the only people on the dance floor that were acting like a couple without ACTUALLY being a couple! I found out we both had the same religion and values (we were both virgins). That seemed to hook HIM that I was a virgin, he was saying it was so nice to finally have met someone with the same race, religion as him and pure as well. I was playing games with him in the beginning and he was super SUPER forward. Like that same first night I met him he took me to the beach at night and we were making out, and talking about everything. He asked really personal questions, like if I could ever date him. I was like man I don’t even really know you!!!
That might have been a mistake. He dropped me off, and he had to have been the most sexual person I have ever met in my life without being that sexual in the first place. He was saying we need to hang out more and more, making it seem like he wanted to be with me.
I took the initiative and texted him when we will hang out again. He said “tonight and every other night”, but never made effort to actually call. I took initiative because I dont really mind to, but I also feel since he is the guy he should take initiative. He didn’t. But he is always down to go out with me. One night things were starting to get sexual, and then he had to leave. He just left me there when things were getting intense. Then he came back to my apt and kissed me saying “i really want to go out with you. just never in this room again.” cause we are both virgins and all. But I never heard from him. I started to fall in love over and over and over with him. I called him and he was down to go out AGAIN to the movies, but he didnt even try to hug me or anything, although he was a gentleman. But we felt more as friends. After that my mom ruined the date by calling and yelling at me, and he made excuses to go.
I was heartbroken that I might never see him again because he really never made the effort. I almost gave up on him, but then I realized I had to change my way of thinking and have the faith that we would be together. I gave him his space, but I text him from time to time. I recently just said happy holidays, and all of a sudden out of nowhere he’s all “i wana cuddle with you”…and so it gave me more confidence to try to hang out with him again. And it’s weird because he is down to han gout!
I have come to the conclusion that he doesn’t yet trust me, and this is why he is not sure of me. He needs to make sure I am the one. Yes, we already want the same things out of life–we both seem to want a relationship, and we are both already physically attracted to each other. But I need to show him I can be trusted, and that I don’t just flirt with all these other guys, and that I respect myself, and that I keep my room clean, and that I am motivated and ambitious. I need to warm his heart, and I think I can do that.
Keep in mind that the rest of my natal chart is in earth and water…particularly I do have venus in Pisces, and he has capricorn venus and mars in scorpio. We are a really good match. My moon is 19 degrees taurus and his sun is 20 degrees capricorn. We have good aspects in our charts, I just truly understand that he needs time to open up. It’s weird bc all this time he is saying “i don’t play games’ but his actions seem to prove different!
I asked him about his past relationship and he said, I kissed another girl at the club and she dumped me. But it’s weird because he was honest with her about it, you know?
Hi Sara,
Cappy again.
I must suggest that you apprehend him and ask whether he really likes you or not. They usually take a long time to make decision. They are choosy.
Tell him that you are serious about the relationship. If he does not take things forward, then tell him you are leaving him. Sometimes it is better to leave them.. instead to chasing them for long…. also. .try to make him chase you..that way he sees it as a challenge and get back to you. May be he has lot of options and attention from other girls..it may also depend upon the age…. cappys are known for holding convervative and rusty ideas about relationships.. may be with new situations and age they will change for better.
Wow.. The Capricorn-Leo situation is always interesting to me. I’m a leo guy and i’ve been dating a capricorn girl for almost a year. We’re both very happy though. The thing is with capricorns, it takes a while for them to open up but they can be affectionate and romantic which as a leo, i love to see in my partner. I think i’ve opened up more too acutually. As a leo i’m naturally romantic and affectionate but thas the only side my capricorn has seen, but now i’ve been showing my sexual/”bad” side (but only in a playful way) because i’ve always just been a very nice guy to her but i think she’s starting to be attracted to my “bad” side becuz when i show it, she seems “turned on” and she’ll start making out with me. Does this make sense? I’m jus interested because a lot of people say that a Leo-Capricorn relationship usually doesn’t work out too well so i’ve always been interested in finding information on what happens in this relationship and what makes some Leo-Capricorn relationships work well.
Ok,I need some help. I’m a Capricorn female, talking to a Leo male. Let me try and give a short version. We use to work together, go to lunch, and kept in touch with each other after leaving the job. I knew he liked me back then, people would always tell me how he thinks I’m so beautiful. I was in a relationship at the time, and he never made a pass at me, we were always cool with each other. I know now, he never flirted with me because he thought I would punch him or something, lol. Anyways, back then I was never attracted to him, just thought of him as a friend. The guy I was involved with back then, we ended up getting married, but we’ve been separated now for 8 months. The leo and I recently got back in touch with each other, from Feb. and we’ve been spending a lot of time talking on the phone, and I realized “I think I like him”. I ended up telling him how I’ve been feeling, and it was a wrap after that! The next time we saw each other, he was all over me, but I told him straight up, I’m not trying to get involved right now, I want us to take things slow. He also said he’s not trying to get involved, because he doesn’t have the time to put his all in a relationship right now. So we both agreed to just see what happens. But I also told him, I’m not the type to just sleep around, so I have to know that this is something we plan on taking seriously. One night he tried to take it there, and I turned him down, and that’s when he started acting different. He claims that he wants things to go back to how they were, because he’s afraid of getting too caught up, and I end up telling him we should be friends, because I decieded to work things out with my husband. Which is another reason I wanted to move slow, because I didn’t want to start anything while I’m still married. So now I feel like I’m chasing him, which isn’t my style!So, I’m wondering if he really likes me, or was it just a sex thing for him. I asked him that, and that’s what supposedly upset him and is the reason he’s been so distant with me now. He said I should know its not about that, he really likes me, and if its just about sex he could get that from any other girl!! So I don’t know what to think, because he doesn’t call me like he use to, and we haven’t seen each other in like a month. I feel like I need to just leave him alone, but deep down I don’t want to, but I feel like I’m playing myself. Whats a capi to do?
this is very interesting…I am also a leo female that had an encounter with a male cappy, everything that is here has happened as well, it has left me breathless on what action to take. One minute they are chasing you and then when you take the time out with them once they leave you there is no contact as if they really dont care, you never really no how to react, you dont want to leave them alone but you dont want to keep chasing them if they really dont want you. If a cappy male read these or anyone has had a successful story with them after experiencing these these please advise!!! all I want to know is if the cold shoulder is because they really arent interested!!!! Or is this how they react when they actually do like someone but just doesnt want to get to close.
There is a man, who first caught my eye by his good looks, solid composure and gentle disposition. Unusual stance
There is a man, who first caught my eye by his good looks, solid composure and gentle disposition. Unusual stance, for a man just 22 years old. Most men that age, well you couldn’t call men. Simple as that.
He is young, handsome, carries an air of confidence, yet is very reserved. I would see him at my place of work. One time, and then again and again, every few months. I developed a school-girl-type crush on this individual. I would get nervous and kind of shy in his presence, which is kind of unusual for an extroverted Leo girl like me. If I see something I like, I go for it. I flirt. I have fun. I work my magic. I always get what I want.
Not so much this time. Capri man, he has an unapproachable wall around himself. I usually just take hints, and look the otherway. There are always other fine prospects around who fancy my style.
I hope you aren’t getting the wrong idea about me. I was raised in a very traditional family. I like to have fun, and I like male company, I never get too serious with any men though. I just simply don’t have much interest in many of the men I meet.
I don’t want to sound crazy dwelling on a situation like this, but one day, I saw him. We had a quick customer, server chat. He gave me small details about his life… and that was that. I saw him again the next day, and from a distance, we locked eyes. And it just keeps happening again and again and again. The depths of his eyes are infinitely mesmerizing.
It is funny… to be so infatuated with some person that you don’t even know. I have a feeling that he wants to say something… but… he’s holding back.
Maybe, I’m crazy. Most men will go after someone if that is what they desire. I feel like if he wants this he will speak up, he will approach me, maybe he will ask me for my number or want to take me out. Which I would accept without much further reservation…but how do I even know if there is anything there without saying anything?
It’s the intense look in his eyes. No words need to be said. And yet again, only time can tell…