Now, that’s odd. If your Aries man does not want to move fast, it’s likely he has Venus in an earth sign — he doesn’t want to take risks. Normally, an Aries would go full throttle into a relationship; he knows what he wants, and he goes for it. He’s not one to “hem and haw” when it comes to jumping into the waters.
Venus ventures no further than two signs away from one’s Sun sign. Taurus, therefore, could be the culprit. The sign of the Bull takes things slow, indeed. Venus in Taurus doesn’t like change, and is focused on security, so “she” will stick her toe in the water to test the temperature, as opposed to Aries, who will confidently dive right in. If the budding relationship feels “just right,” Venus will cautiously submerge herself into the pool, and will keep an eye out for sharks. It is only when she feels comfortable that she will enjoy herself, and then it will take two lifeguards to pull her out of the water, because she won’t want to leave.
An Aries with Venus in Taurus can come across then — in matters of love — like a split personality. He really does want to go for it, and does not usually consider the consequences of his actions, but he just can’t help getting stuck in this area of his life. Unfortunately, he may not be able to see this aspect of himself clearly — it’s a bit of a blind spot. Just trust that if he says, “Let’s take things slow,” he means it … otherwise, he would have left the pool to play football.
Comment below: Did your Aries man take things slow?
I have a good friend (several years)who is an Aries (male), I am a Pisces (female). We always had a strong sexual chemistry. I knew he was attracted to me and vice versa. We were both married.He was my shoulder to cry on during my divorce, and now he has divorced.(she cheated on him) It has been a couple of years now for him, and we have kept in contact. Several months ago, we went out. I knew “something” would happen. We ended up making out (for a couple of hours) It was hot and heavy BUT extremely emotional, I’m not just saying that either because I am a Pisces. We did not have sex, or even really get to 2nd base, it was mostly him, he said he did not want our first time to be like that. After that, he shyed away, it was too soon. I completely understood. Gave him space. He sporatically would contact me. Now we are going to get together again. Every thing I read about Aries and Pisces says we are really not compatible. He is born right on the cusp of Pisces, extremely sentimental, emotional, and sweet. But I don’t know what time he was born to do the rest of his chart. I am a TRUE Pisces woman to the core, born in February, my moon, and mercury in Pisces. So I know I am only working with peices of the puzzle by just reading about our sun signs. We have a strong psychic connection too. I dream about him out of the blue, only to find out he has thought of me, dreamt, or even contacted me that same day. I really could use some advice, or comments…soon. PLEASE help!!!!!
I don’t think you need any advice, dear Pisces. You already know what he needs and are able to provide it for him and beautifully too. And he seems to do that for you as well. It doesn’t matter what Sun sign astrology says. You two seem to have a strong and true connection. Just trust that you do and forget the rest. You’re using your Pisces well with him. Don’t fret.
Thank you eme kah…truly. Your words were very comforting, because I have begun to fret. That is something that I have been facing lately…learning to just trust. Whether it be a person or the universe itself. I will do just that.
~trust
Take Care.
Ok, would you say that would be the same for moon in Taurus? Cuz the schizo characteristics are driving me up the wall. Venus is in Leo I don’t know what’s the contradictory hold up.
I am a Libra and met my first Aries 3 weeks ago. We had instant chemistry and he persued me with a vengence. Our first date was beyond wonderful and he introduced me to all of his friends who said that they liked me and gave him the “thumbs up”. They also told me that it’s been years since he brought a girl around because he likes spending time with his friends or alone, but not really into dating…trying to find something special.
He asked me out three nights in a row and by the third date, he gave me his college football ring (he is now 34) and asked me to be exclusive or “go steady”. I though it was endearing. He said that he would be “honored” to be in me and my son’s life.
The next day we got into a small “Seinfeld-esque” tiff (somthing so stupid it isn’t worth even bringing it up)and when I went to apologize, he did not respond. He backed away and I made it worse by leaving too many messages. He ignored me for several days and then called me (when he was drunk) to say that he “really liked me” but I freaked him out with all of the messages. He said that he wanted to take things slow and he will call me to go out on dates etc… I haven’t heard from him in 4 days, we had plans for this weekend (made before the fight) and I still have his ring.
So my questions are…because I have the ring, are we still exclusive, or does his “slow” mean we are seeing other people?
And how long does it take an Aries to get over things? He was all in it and one little tiff makes him back away to barely talking? I’ve apologized 100 times and just don’t understand why we can’t move on since we had so many more positive things to focus on.
I don’t know how to proceed from here…he doesn’t respond to me at all and I don’t want to wait around for him like a fool.
Please help.
i have no idea what to tell you i have a smiliar situation..drop off the face of the earth for a while…so he rthinks your gone, then call out of the blue to “hang out”….your not exclusive your not anything….just let him know your running and he has to catch you…thats what i have so far tell me how it works out.
Apparently, I’m possibly dealing with this kind of Aries. If you read my comment in the “Are you getting Rejected by an Aries” piece, you’ll see what I mean. It’s very confusing and rather annoying to a person like me who doesn’t feel the need to trap myself in unnecessary relationships. I want to talk with him, but am afraid it might scare him off.
I can personally agree with this. I am a female Aries with Venus in Taurus and I am very much the same way. I find that whenever I get into a relationship I like to sit back and take my time in deciding whether I want to go any further. I find it hard to really commit to someone right away and am very hesitant in letting my real emotions show. Guys have told me that it seems like I’m holding back and I can be hard to read because my emotions aren’t really on the surface. Luckily, I’m in a really amazing relationship right now with a Taurus who happens to have his Venus in Aries. So he can understand me like no one else.
I AM AN AUGUST LEO AND I HAVE BEEN DATING A MARCH ARIES MAN FOR GOING ON 2 MONTHS NOW. AT THE VERY BEGINNING WE WERE MOVING AS FAST AS LIGHTENING STRIKES… WE WENT ON A DATE OR TWO AND AFTER THAT HE WAS COMING OVER EVERY NITE (YES I SAID EVERY NITE THAT IS HOW OUR SCHEDULES ARE MADE)… WELL EVERYTHING TOOK A TURN FOR THE WORST WHEN I GOT MAD BECAUSE HE SAID HE WASNT COMING ONE NITE… HE TRIED TO RUN VERY FAR AWAY IN FEAR THAT I WANTED A RELATIONSHIP OR TURNED OFF THAT HE THINKS I MAY HAVE MADE TO FIRST STEP… WELL ANYONE WHO KNOW A LEO KNOWS THEY USUALLY GET WHAT THEY WANT OR NOTHING AT ALL…. THATS ME SO I IRONED EVERYTHING COMPLETELY OUT AND HES BACK AND ITS LIKE IT WAS BEFORE… THE THING IS THAT HE KEEPS SAYIN HE DOESNT WANT A RELATIONSHIP RITE NOW. HE IS RECENTLY DIVORCE AND I AM GOING THRU A DIVORCE CURRENTLY… HOWEVER HE IS THERE EVERYNITE SEX OR NOT AND HE SEEMS TO ENJOY IT… HE DID MENTION HOWEVER THAT HE WANTS TO A FEW STEPS AHEAD OF HIS WOMAN AND HE FEELS HE IS IN A TRANSITION PERIOD RITE NOW… SO ALL I AM DOING AT THIS POINT IS WAITING… BUT I AM STARTING TO WONDER WHAT I AM WAITING FOR???
Well, if I can ask:
I’m Cancer female with Leo rising and Cancer Moon (don’t know the other stuff) and after a horrible, horrible time with an Aquarius man seem now to have “attracted” an Aries man.
Except he’s already blown a bit cold on me a couple of times, which after the hideous Aquarius sets the nerves on end; and he has been married twice before!!!! (Okay, so maybe not his fault, but…).
Think there could be anything to this Cancer woman/Aries man thingy before I give him my colours to carry, lol?
And – by the way – I fit nothing of the Cancer female description. I’m MUCH more Leo in my make-up (rising sign).
Thanks. xxx
It’s fine, everyone – I don’t need an answer, I think he’s married/involved anyway; so I must have been misreading the signals.
Hi,
I just ended this terrible going no where thing with a Capricorn a couple weeks ago. The same day I ended that, I was out with an Aries guy I have been working with for a while and who’s been flirting with me since the start of March. We went to a party and hung out after. Now a Pisces guy we’re both friends with was also at that party, and I’ve always found the Pisces cute and he was being really nice, but he asked me to go home with him and that was just too fast for me. So anyway after the party Aries and I end up getting food, and talking. I drive him home and he says he had a great time and leans in…for a hug. Recently we were at a party together and my guy friend who I came with came over and said “Aries has been staring at you this whole time.” But I didn’t want to go up to Aries because I had texted him a few days earlier and got nothing. However, I didn’t have to go to him he came straight to me as soon as he saw I wasn’t talking to anyone and as I was on my way to the Pisces from before. He explained away why he couldn’t text me and it was legitimate. Later that night he was super direct and just told me “I think you’re cute, and I’m really attracted to you. So I’d like to spend time with you is that ok?” I said yes of course, and he said “So do you want it to be a date or just hang out” I said he could pick, and he said “Well I’d like it to be a date.” So we’re set. But even then when he walked me out he hugged me…no kisses. I also figured out his Venus is in Taurus. So he’s intense when he’s watching me, flirting with me, and talking to me, but then when he has the chance to go for the kill he doesn’t take it. Still he planned a date so I guess its all good. Oh I’m a Cancer btw, with a moon in Sag. and Capricorn rising and my Venus is in Taurus as well…I wrote on here about a Cap. I was seeing, but that’s over, although we still run into each other and he gets so upset. I just act normal. I do sometimes wonder if I should go back…to the Capricorn that is…still I’m having fun with Aries.
Here is a suggestion to all who are having problems with a Aries man, I am a Leo woman who knows how aries men operate from experience also I have a younger sister who is an aries. Aries men do not like clingy women they like the chase you have to let him pursue you, if he has you easily then he is not interested because you have taken away his chase. Maybe an Aries man is not right for you, if you constantly seek his attention he will run fast as he can. Just my two cents.
Hi. I don’t understand this Aries. He wanted to take it slow. I’m a Scorpio. I was all over him–a lot. We never had a real physical relationship. I’m a bit peeved b/c he seems to have slept w/everybody except me. What gives? I miss him.
Hi, I’m an Aries with Venus in Taurus. I do take thing slow when its a matter of love/relationship. As I age I take it even slower and more cautious, but this doesn’t apply when it comes to physical relationship as its more a matter of pleasure and satisfaction.
cas that aries has been very very hurt in the past and its their way of protecting themselves from being deeply hurt again. too gain their respect twards u show them appreciation and effection.
okay this aries guy tried to talk to me one time he was very charming, but i was very shy so i didnt say much. the next time i saw him he asked me if i knew his name, i smiled and shook my head no (but i actually did)and he turned his head and went back to doing what he was doing. But then i told him i was just kidding i knew his name. if i had left it at no would his feelings be hurt, would he feel like i regected him or didnt notice him he. Or would he take it as a challenge and want to persue me more ?? Can an aries man or someone whos delt with them please tell me how they think.
by the way his birthday is april 10, if it matters o and im a taurus with venus in aries and hes an aries with venus in aries
Hey. Aries LOVES to chase so your comments are probably ok. Aries males tend to like innocence too, although people are who they are besides the astrology. I believe star signs to be an interesting basic guide, but they are not 100%. Good luck and have fun!
aries men are just to damn difficult-whats the point why do women hang around for them.
There are 2 reasons why an Aries will take it slow:
1- He’s either not into you that much OR
2- He’s been hurt in the past
Its up to you to figure out which applies.
Okay, I figured the Aries I am still deeply in love with, even after a very callous rejection, has been deeply hurt in his past. It has to do with his deep brooding and how touchy he gets so quickly. He also gets aggressive with other staff where he works, not being one to show he cares. However, it appears he has Taurus influence, which is a good thing, except makes him VERY JEALOUS! I am a very social person and have worked with men a lot, and tend to have more male friends that female, and sleep with NONE of them! I noticed the last time we actually had a real conversation, initiated by him, he got jealous a few minutes later as I was talking to another guy about business, whilst he tended to his package inside. It was instant dismissal, no questions asked. Prior to that, he had been keeping eyes on me every time we were at the same venue, and would pass by and give a beautiful, soft smile, but NEVER acted on it. He is very romantic and loves deeply from what I can see. I was impatient and kept writing letters and sending txt…not often, but enough for him to tell me to delete his number on 2 occasions. All I want in this world is him, and to show him that there are women like me, who will NOT cheat on them, but he just needs to learn TRUST! I don’t care if we don’t have sex for as long as it takes for him to heal, but I really would love to be in his company and share his friendship and help soothe away any previous pain. It cuts so deeply and I don’t know if he will EVER speak to me again, but do know I will die if he doesn’t. I felt an instant link to this man when I first saw him, and still get butterflies when I think of him or see his car. Patience is the best virtue if you want them…I am just so sorry I was too impatient and want a second chance.
I met my Aries well over a month ago, to be honest at first it was only sex and all about it. Here’s a surprise… I’m a Taurus!! Slow? pffft. Well, for the first few weeks he couldn’t get enough of me it was amazing! Then something triggered him, and now he hardly ever “puts out”. He claims that there should be more to us than just playing with each other. I can understand that, really… I can. I like that he wants to get to know me a little more, and sleep together a little less. I just don’t understand how it could be so sudden. I realise that he must have been hurt in the past. Really? is it that obvious?! I haven’t met anyone who hasn’t had their heart broken. Get over it already. He wants to learn more about me, but yet he won’t shut up long enough to hear me say anything, and then gets upset and frustrated that I don’t converse with him. Geeez make up your mind already! He’s driving me crazy!!! I like to allow myself to confuse sex for some sort of affection considering he’s hardly affectionate at all.
“Let’s take things slow,” he means it … otherwise, he would have left the pool to play football.
D’aww…that sounds like my Brad.
@AriesLovah: it’s the latter in his case.
I like to take things so when i’m cautious of that person. If i’ve been hurt or I feel weiry of that person in some way i’ll take things very slow and will analaze that person and their actions fully.
I’ve a mercury in Taurus and I think maybe thats something to do with it….. My ex Taurus hurt me and came back, so when he came back each time I preceeded with alot of caution and barriers up. It is like breaking down a brick wall, brick by brick to prove he wouldn’t hurt me again. Otherwise i was walking away for good.
Ok, so I am dating this aries for about a year now but we got disconnected for a couple of months now we are back in touch and he is still takin it slow and its kind of confusing because he used to be aggressive and adoring what happened?
O im a saggy by the way and he is an aries
My bestfriend was an Aries girl dating a Sag boy… They were the most annoying and wretched people together. They brought out evil things in eachother and somehow they were drawn to eachother, it took them possibly a year and a half from the original break up and even then it was rocky and off and on…
Usually when I take things slow in romance, I’m usually very invested with the person way before anything got off the ground. All my past relationships, I’ve usually known the guy anywhere from about two weeks to a few years before trying anything.
Anyway, back on topic….
My Venus is in Pisces, so technically this just means I’m more dreamy with romance. But to woo me, involves my mars too, which is in Gemini. I like my men with brains of steal and sharp lashing tongues who are very funny. They don’t have to be a model good looks type of guy, just as long as when I see him, I get butterflies.
But here is one things: when I’m not as interested in a guy, I won’t even attempt to stay in touch with him and tend to stay away for more than 7-8 days.
The ones that keep my interest the most are the types that chase me back. I them, they chase me, and so it goes back and forth, till we both know if this is more than just a fling. And see that’s what’s different about some Aries chicks, half will be all laid-back in the beginning, while the other half will come on very strong and wanting a commitment.
Myself? I’m VERY laid-back, because I like to live in the moment the first few weeks/months I’m getting to know someone romantically.
I can say that the only guys I’ve had trouble with the most astrologically was: Leo/Virgo cusp (Scorpio Moon), Pisces (Taurus Moon), and Pisces (Libra Moon). They’ve all started out laid back, but somewhere down the line they got needy, sometimes possessive, jealous, cold, and lastly one of them (Leo/Virgo) was a pain in my @$$ when it came to any male platonic friendships that I had. Which leads me to say that Male Scorpio Moons, when guilty are VERY possessive of their partner.
If anyone has any questions, feel free to leave a comment underneath with an @ symbol and my name…. I’ll get back to you as soon as I can!
@2sexyp25, sounds like your guy doesn’t want to make the same mistakes and is taking it slow to see if you guys really have a future together. If not, he’ll be quick to move on.
Hi all i am very new here…i was actually looking for compatability for Taurus (Female) and Aries (Male).
Im really confused I was born April.20 which some shows i am a Taurus and some shows I am an Aries…which one am i really?
Anyways so here is my long story.. Im a 25 yr old woman who is kinda independent i live on my own taking business and is on my 4th year..needless to say i come from a well off family so i dont work i just go to school.. I use to live in a small town and this is when i met this boy bk in grade 8 and he was in grade 9..He was the joker teachers hated type of guy..not good looking to me but some would of probably thought so he was pretty popular..dated my friend..so after 10yrs since i had moved away after grade 9 to a city..he had added me on facebook but i was dating a guy at the time so i was intrested on who has added me or not the name sounded familiar and we had similar friends so i accepted..when me and my ex had split up i was browsing through my friendslist and saw this amazingly hot guy..dark features and amazing blue eyes..i had poked him..so he had respoded by messaging me and asking how i was etc.. i told him i didnt know who he was his name sounded familiar and to refresh my memory..so there we started talking..just last month..we ended up talking alot on the phone and txt..so we decided on meeting up in the city where i lived he took some time off from his hectic schedule..his occupation now is a fire fighter..anyways it was a lil weird for me so i was very shy..but as an Aries he was very charming..plus with alcohol we ended up in bed that night both partied and just stuff happens..anyways we still talk alot…now at the moment im in the lil town i use to live in to visit him but some of my family lives here so im staying with them.. I have really started to really like this guy..not only is he HOT he is amazing in bed!
Now my problem..I really like this guy but he lives like 5hrs drive from me..he travels alot for work and hes gotta be super flexible for it too…so ive been here for a wk and seen him almost everynight…weve already gotten in couple of arguments..like txt me bk he takes forever and when he response he askes me “are we not talking now”..like wtf? I decided to write him a huge message regarding this and i wasnt playing i need a man in my life not a boy etc…he had written me back sayinng he had no idea how much it bothered me..apologized for he gets distracted easy and should b more considerate about txt bk..i knew what i was getting my self into..since we were so far apart and our busy schedules..i had offered him the proposition of friends with benifits..and he had said anyways that he liked me alot but with him who had wasted enough time would like to concentrate on his career and would only have a handful of days off this winter..plus i dont live in same town..it would b hard..and i totally agree with him thats why i had offered him the friends with befinifits to begin with..so we both agreed..but its werd cuz he says i can go on dates but i cant sleep with anyone else and if i do i should tell him..i dont get it..like should i just go with the flow like my friends say and just finish school and see where it goes cuz ill b busy as well anyways..or cut ties?? I do really like him and cant stop thinking about him…but see i also have a problem..im the type of girl who does long relationships but after a yr or 2 i get bored and 3rd year is usually just trying to make it work..as a taurus or an aries because mine falls in between..i dont like being bored i want that feeling u get in beginning of relationships all the time..someone who will keep me on my toes…and i think he could definitely b that one..hes already keeping me on my toes.. or is it cuz like they say distance makes the heart grow fonder? or whatever it is??
I want this work;…pls help someone!
Thanks
Sorry its such a long story any questions pls ask…
@Sissy, Hi hun, I’m an April 19 girl engaged to a Taurus man. Check your chart with your birth time to get the correct sign here, astro.com.
Regardless of signs, as women we have sensitive hearts. Rarely can we handle a no strings attached situation. I’ve done it but I knew I didn’t want anything more & never expected a call or text so be honest with yourself before you say these things. FWB is not the way to go if you really like him. Never, ever offer this to a man. They do not respect a woman who doesn’t respect her own body, feelings & well-being. You want a man that is open to falling in love with you, not one to take advantage & use you. Don’t offer yourself on a silver platter. Decent guys will shy away because they will wonder how many other men is she doing this with? Doesn’t mean it’s true but they think if she’s ‘easy’ with me, she’ll do the same with other guys. Not saying it’s right but it’s how they think.
Maintaining a long distance relationship is very difficult. Takes a lot of energy which you should be putting into school. You are young (I’m old 🙂 , believe me, you need to think about your future first. If there really is something real with him, you will keep in contact – look how many years went by before you hooked up? First focus on you, take time to study & date men in your town. Don’t get too serious with anyone when you’re just discovering your freedom & life in general. The boredom thing will go away once you discover who you are and what you need. I had the same thing but it took a lot of growing up on my part before I met the man of my dreams.
I’m so glad I found this post! I’m currently dancing around with an Aries guy who has Venus in Taurus. To further complicate matters and slow things down, his natal Saturn is conjunct his Sun and his natal Mars is retrograde. You want to talk about slow???? But I’m being patient, dropping tasty goodies along the path, and trying to let him know that it’s safe and sound here. But that there’s also a beautiful world of adventure waiting for him. (And boy, this does take some work! But I really think he’s worth it. BTW – I’m an Aquarian – his lovely Sun sextiles my Moon, Sun & Venus and conjuncts my Mars exactly. LOL!)
You’re doing the right thing Beltempest. I’m engaged to a Taurus with venus in Taurus and they do take their time although he probably shows his love by doing things for you.
Bliss:
haha You and my Mama have the same birthday, April 19. hehe
Mine is April 23. 🙂 No wonder I could sense the same energy from you. Jesus your approach is like my Mom. haha 🙂
Bliss:
“he probably shows his love by doing things for you.”
YES! I didn’t realize it before, but he’s always offering to help me with things! I didn’t realize that was his way of saying “I like you.” Now I know! LOL
Should I ask for his help more often? (Then offer to feed him in payment? LOL)
@ Arabella, Really? Yes, I’m April 19 too, soooo funny! 🙂
@Beltempest: Don’t take advantage of his help. Venus in Taurus shows their love in physical ways so yes, they will help when you need it but if you want to repay him, give him a back rub. They connect through physical contact mostly. Touch, kissing, sex is very important & how they show their love.
@Bliss:
Yup, my Mama’s birthday is April 19. She was born April 19, 1938. hehe
haha the way you are is just like my Mama haha! When I was a little girl and I was in the river playing swimming with my friends, I would always know which whistle is my Mama’s and my Papa’s 🙂
If it is Mama’s whistle to call me home, I ran towards home faster. hehehe 🙂 You know what I mean right? haha! -Ara
@ Bliss:
and my family celebrate mine and my Mama’s birthday with a big lechon (roasted pig) as one of the dishes. 🙂 my Leo sister throws a big birthday party for me and my Mama April of each year. 🙂
Hey! Libra here
I just became a member, I post to the FORUMS so anybody who wants to answer some of my questions there to thank
I recently met an Aries Man. on-line he gave me his number we have been only texting eachother for about a month now. he won’t open up his texts are very just HI Sexy , what r you doing?how are you?, about 2 weeks into the texting relationship lol. he just stopped texting and a week later he texted me back , i deleted his number and him off my profile i think that is what brought him to call me but he siad he did’t know i deleted him from my friends list. when I was like whose this? texted me he siad oh wow u deleted my phone #. I was like “Yeah”. so anyway we are still on this texting relationship , he won’t make plans to see me or meet up or call me. I asked him numerouse times is he married or hooked up, he says no. I said are you interested in me ? he says very much , he says he is starting to like me alot more. 3 times I’ve told him not to Text me anymore and thats when I start getting more text , he says he really likes me alot and he thinks of me all the time doesn’t wanna lose me. so there I am again, I finally just am taking it slow with him he’s like a book I don’t wanna put down. So I wait but he drives me crazy at times and thats when I send him good bye text. I Just dnt know what he is doing any suggestions ? we are still texting but I’m just like whatever, ok we’ll do it his way. i’m in no hurry to have a relationship but really want to see him in person . I’m capricorn
Its nice to take thing slow once in while, even for a hyper-active zodiac. You’ll have more time to think and plan a head for your future. Not only that, you get to appreciate the time spent with your partner. Nice article.
I want this topic to continue…i’ve been pondering the same situation myself with someone I’ve been “hanging out with” for the last 7 months…it started off as an impulsive crazy thing and quickly turned to him running scared. i always just let him fly…i don’t chase . but he just keeps coming back and every time he does he antes up the emotional shit. so yeah i got attached. but i still let him fly. he hasn’t slept with anyone besides me, i just found out (he’s a bluntly honest person, so far as i can tell, and not a promiscuous type), and when we hang out and its lovey dovey it really does seem nice. then its on to how he feels so screwed up in his life and wishes he could . he’s aries with merc, mars, venus in taurus, plus a cap rising and pisces moon. i don’t want to blab a bunch of stuff if no one is posting on here but he has said a lot of things about taking it slow and being cautious and how he just had his balls ripped off by his (aries!) ex girlfriend. generally i would think someone was full of shit if they said that but he is pretty taurused out. so what is it? aries: using me till something better comes along OR taurus/cap: proceed with caution ??? in most cases i would advise against dealing with this back and forth shit…i’m just so curious to figure out how the other shoe will drop. then again…curiosity killed the cat. maybe i should just take the shoe and throw it at him? i’m a libra with scorp rising, merc in scorp, libra moon… but also major cap/saturn so i am the ROCK. i welcome your prophecies of doom…
@Zoriana..I’m in a similar boat. 7 months, started quick, long distance, we have history (looonnngg history) one-time sexual experience, and now we seem to be going backwards. As with you I don’t think he is with anybody else and I’m not fooling around with anybody either. He was supposed to come see me twice and each time there was a “reason.” Each time after the “not-seeing-each-other” there was another pledge of “I’m coming.” At this point I’m tired and not sure wth is going on. He’s not rude, mean, or disrespectful, just confused as hell. i know he was married previously and apparently that relationship went south fast but for whatever reason he stayed until he couldn’t anymore. I was honest and told him I loved him (which I do) but also gave him an “out” the other week (in an email..he wouldn’t respond to my calls bcuz he thought I was upset about an incident…which I was) explaining that although I would be very disappointed and sad I would understand if this (long distance) was too much for him. I expressed we could be friends eventually and stated that i knew what I wanted (and explained in detail) and that I needed to know if I was what he wanted and needed…once again…if not I understood since no one should be in something that is not good for them. I didn’t give a limit or the usual ultimatum style ending…just said when you’re ready to talk let me know. I didn’t deviate from what I normally do (texting/calling) because i really do love him and that’s not going to change. His response was more caring and loving and it seemed like we were getting on some kind of track (mind you he didn’t respond to the email directly)…now 2 weeks later he seems “funny.” he’s there but not there…he made the comment “you have to move”…I said “where” he said “up here.” Even with that comment he’s still distant. I know i’ve written a “book” but I’m not sure what’s up. Zoriana i know this probably did not help you…sorry! Maybe we can both get some help.
Hi, I’ve been dating an Aries man born April 6, he’s divorced but wants to get married again and have kids. He seems nervous about getting close though. He doesn’t know how he sees me but he does things a man who is interested would do. It’s like what he feels is not lining up with what he thinks he should do. He gets close then he withdraws. Every man I’ve dated has been the aggressor, I’ve never had to give them the green light. I’ve always been the one posting up stop signs so to say I’m confused by him is an understatement. I am an Aries born March 25 and I don’t like pursuing men at all..it seems unnatural. I really like this man so I’m trying to be open to something new. If anyone is interested in the details I will post. I’m wondering if he’s a true Aries or if he is more like a Taurus?
I’m a cancer woman in I been involved with an Aries for years we been playing tag n I finally gave in n now I’m all over him n it’s like he push away but wen I say I’m done he stops me I really don’t understand him but I’m crazy over him n I wanna turn it back around but just afraid of losing him for good
I’m a cancer woman in I been involved with an Aries for years we been playing tag n I finally gave in n now I’m all over him n it’s like he push away but wen I say I’m done he stops me I really don’t understand him but I’m crazy over him n I wanna turn it back around but just afraid of losing him for good .
Im a cancer with leo dominate in my chart. I seem to only attract aries and scorpios. My son father is a Aries I had him controlled like a puppet…lol But i had to leave him bcuz I fell out of love witrh him.
The current aries with taurus in venus and leo in his mars is soooo annoying! smh I have a love hate relationship for him. On the good side my aries is very sexual, loving , homebound, fun, love going to the movies and is VERY possessive. I just realized that after dating him for a yr. He admitted to snooping in my phone and he gets jealous if Im too friendly with another man. At the beginning he pursued only when i lost interest. I can tell he like me alot but Im not patient and he kept saying he needs to take it slow. Well he took to odamn long and I changed my number on him and told him to f**k off bcuz im no linger interested. For 7months he has contacted me non stop thru emails begging me to give him another chance. I ignored all his emails and insuted him out of revenge for wasting my time. Bcuz i treated him like a king when we dated. Anywho, I finally gave in after 7months of ignorung him and I called him to see what he wanted. He said Im so sorry for taking you for granetd, i know youre in a new relationship (i lied and told him i was with someone else so he can leave me alone ) but i want to fight for you. I want to get out of the dog house and earn my way back into the penthouse. Bcuz i had you 1st. I didnt realize what i had until you were gone. I miss us bcuz u were my friend above anything else and u cared about me. Please let me show you that ive changed. I know what i want now and i want you. Can we start fresh with a clean slate? he says. I told him i dont trust him and no im not interested. Bcuz he seemed to be fickle in my opinion. I treat him so bad yet he still come hard after me as if he gets turned on from rejection. lol I may take him back idk yet, it all depends on how much he pursues me. From my experience with Aries men, u cant be to overly nice to them, repsect them and love them but be feisty and independent. give them your ass to kiss to keep them on their toes. They LOVE a shit talker. Dont cheat and be playful and fun. I will never be all open with my heart with aries man blindly again. I will give them doses of me just like they give us. Make ARIES men EARN you. Bcuz THEY ABSOLUTELY LOVE TO CHASE! They seem to NEVER get burned out from it..lol I think my competive spirit keeps them attracted to me. Bcuz i love to win. Aries arent hard to catch you just have to always let tehm lead and be the aggressor .Bcuz they need to conquer and they get bored really quickly. And also once theyve caught you, you STILL have to keep them stimulated. Always letthem feel like if they screw uo your ass is out. And PLEASE what ever demand or requirement you want from them. They will not do it at 1st but if you remain firm and show them that u DONT need them they will do whatever it takes to win u over Even if that means to submit to certain -not all but a few of your demands. I see aries as toddlers in grown men bodies. lol Scold them like a mommy. But love him and sex him like a VIXEN.
i treat both of my aries like shit. And they LOVE IT! lol Good luck ladies…
Hey guys, I really really need help. I am an aries woman and I got up the courage to give my number to an aries man that I have been crushing on. He texted me after work and we kept texting each other back and forth CONSTANTLY. it was amazing. I am 23 and he’s 31 so there’s a bit of an age difference. We went out on our first date and he was unlike anyone I had ever dated.. so passionate, loving, a little controlling (kept telling me to cover my bra). But when we would kiss, it was amazing.. we held hands the whole time and he kept giving me baby kisses every couple of minutes. People there wouldn’t imagine that it was our first date, they thought we had been dating for a while! He kept calling me his girl and everything. Now, some RED FLAGS… he wouldn’t really talk about his ex or past experience, doesn’t let me talk about mine, he wouldn’t let me meet his roommate (who’s a guy).. either way, we left the bar and got into an argument. I mentioned how my friends are getting together (one of which is my ex, also an aries). To make him feel better, I told him I would love for him to come and hang out with us, and that my ex has another woman who is also my friend. He started accusing me of sleeping with them both! I know he drank, but he was being a dick after that point. He kept saying that he likes me alot and wants this to work which was nice, but then he accused me of sleeping with my ex and his girl! We got back to his place and I was crying a little but then for some stupid reason, I went back to his house with him.. I figured he’s probably sensitive cause he told me his ex had cheated on him and he has trust issues. we had sex, which was not good because i hadn’t had sex in a while and it wouldn’t go in. he wouldn’t take no for an answer and kept trying.. after that he just held me and we woke up in each other’s arms. The next day, we had sex again, same story wouldn’t go in- it kept hurting! so i kept telling him no, it hurts. but hes stubborn as heck.. then i wanted to take a shower together but he insisted that we take a shower separately. but while i was taking a shower, he came in later.. then i left. we got dressed and i dropped him a while away from work so no one would see us. here’s the kicker, he wants to take things slow now AND he’s my boss. not my direct boss but he’s a boss. he keeps telling me, don’t tell anyone at work, DON’T.. and now i am confused. Why the hell did you even pursue me if you’re having doubts now, and you want to take things slow?
recently, from that night only, we had a pregnancy scare. he said that he’s by my side but that we cannot have the child. he said he would take me to the clinic to work through things and be there.. but it’s like, he’s so different than when we first went on the date! no more passionate kisses, no more joking around.. he barely texts back when i text him anymore.. AND after i met his roommate once, he never let me meet him again. i am thinking there’s other women on the side. HELP GUYS!
Hi Ariesprincess,
This is a case of “HIT and RUN” which is very typical of a “HORNY” Aries male whom
is unable to control his urges and his main priority is to hit the sack whilst at the same
time he is testing you and your “RESISTANCE” in order to establish if you are a
“WHAM BAM THANK YOU MAM” type of girl or if you fall into his “VIRGIN MATERIAL”
category which means “HARD WORK and the THRILL of the CHASE”.!!!
You have taken those “CRUCIAL” elements out of the equation on the very first date
by giving him access to something which you should have kept under lock and key for
for a very long time but you chose to hand him the keys to the secret garden and once
he saw and smelled the roses he immediately “LOST INTEREST”.!!!
What do you suppose he needs to look forward to and work toward now and what exactly
do you need help with.???