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How to win a Scorpio back after you have hurt him

December 6, 2006 by Jeffrey Kishner 1,860 Comments

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[ad]Scorpio men do not take kindly to being hurt. Scorpios hold on to resentments as tightly as a sphincter holds on to water. A fixed water sign, he is stubborn when it comes to emotions. Scorpios don’t trust easily in the first place, because they are all too aware of how one can be wounded in intimate relationships.

Scorpio is ruled by Pluto, the planet that digs deep into experience, rooting out secrets and suppressed memories. Pluto is associated with manipulation and abuse of power. The Scorpio man is well-acquainted with the methods of torture used in the Underworld, and hence does not like to be on the receiving end of such barbaric techniques.

Even though the Scorpio man does not let go easily of his resentments, his zodiac sign is also the most transformative. Pluto rules the death-rebirth process. Scorpios hold tight, but they also periodically become devoured by the flames of regeneration.

As he rises from the ashes, your Scorpio man will have let go of his anger. However, there’s nothing you can do to initiate this process. Pluto works by his own mysterious schedule.

You cannot win back a Scorpio, but if you’re patient he might forgive you.

How long do you want to wait?

Comment below: Have you been reunited with a Scorpio after having hurt him?

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About Jeffrey Kishner

Jeffrey Kishner is founder and publisher of Sasstrology. He is a licensed mental health counselor and has been doing astrological counseling since 2001. Jeffrey has been published in print magazines including The Mountain Astrologer and Dell Horoscope, and has written online for sites including AOL, Tarot.com and StarIQ. Jeffrey has also been heavily involved in the astrology blogger community. Read his personal blog at JeffreyKishner.com.

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  1. Helen says

    December 14, 2016 at 12:39 pm

    any help for a pisces girl with an fed up scorpio?
    we’ve been together for ower 2 years and officially living together for the last one and a half. we’ve had some serious fights up until now, mostly because of my oberemotional

  2. Helen says

    December 14, 2016 at 12:50 pm

    any help for a pisces girl with an fed up scorpio?
    we’ve been together for ower 2 years and officially living together for the last one and a half. we’ve had some serious fights up until now, mostly because of my overemotional nature, but some qbout his slipups too. let me tell you, It’s hard to be with an person who can get mad at you for having a smoke with a male friend, but forgots after a week that he has drunkenly mistaken my best friend for me and sstuck his hqnd up her skirt.
    the thing is, I’m about to graduate fro uni and it’s been stresfull, that with am side jobe and a death in family has made me an emotional mess and probably hard to be around. now he is telling me that he wants freedom and to be alone, qand that he is no longer in love with me. is it over? or is he just fed up with my drama? because of what he ttells me it seems he’s no longer in love with me now, the stressed out version of me.
    is there anything I can do? it’s hurtful to be pushed around. when he need’s me, I qm always around, bet when I need him the most, he is always dropping out, like he is scared to deal with me. but I love him to bits and I am teriffied because he has never been as serious about us ending as now.

  3. Sharon says

    January 9, 2017 at 9:20 am

    Hi,

  4. Bibi says

    February 6, 2017 at 3:47 am

    So am an Aquries lady, av been in a realtionship with a scorpio man for a year and the half now… and i was aware of what it is like to date a scorpio man…He trusts no one not even me and i totally understand. Am a full time student in the Uni studying law anf still have to shuffle between my part time jobs about three of them. But still i do best with satisfying him sexually. Last weekend I went to a business function without telling him vos I was called in the dying minuite. Called him on ma way there. He came all the way tk the function and believes that i was cheating on him. For some well thought out reasons which were facts misunderstood. Now I knw we said it might not be possible for us to get back together but it is so much pain. Going on like all is well is not a working plan either

  5. Dave says

    February 16, 2017 at 6:35 pm

    Hey I need help badly, I’m a 21 year old Aquarius man and I was dating a 17 year old scorpio girl for almost a year and we were madly in love, but she found out that I lied to her about something and basically left me, I’ve done everything that I can think of to get her to forgive me, I admitted my mistake and apologized as much as I could, I gave her some time and i even bought her gifts and everything, she’s still talking to me but barely and putting me through hell, I love her so much and I want us to get back together, what can I do?

  6. Cancer/Scorpio says

    March 19, 2017 at 11:29 pm

    Please help!!!!
    I was dating a scorpio man for a year and a half. He is the most amazing man. I am a single mother so it took about a year for me to let him into my life and meet my daughter. He was wonderful. We have broken up once a year ago and we got back together but i had to work very hard to have him back because he was so stricked to his decision. 3 weeks ago we broke up again and it was my fault. With all the stress from work, being a single mother, receing lots of negativities from the father of my child, i lost patience and snapped at my scorpio. Long story short, i was his first true love and the longest relationship he’s ever been in. When we broke up, he told me that he will never love someone as much as he loves me and he also told me to be careful and not to make a mistake of dating someone as a rebound. Now, i just found out from him that he met someone just a week after we broke up. This new girl looks a lot like me. I still see him wearing the watch i got him and carring the wallet i got him. Do you think i still have a chance to have him back? And what should i do to do so? He told me that he doesnt think it would be a good idea for us to text or call each other in tespect for the other girl but can Scorpio men move on that quickly? Thank you very much for listening.

  7. Cancer/Scorpio says

    March 19, 2017 at 11:32 pm

    Ms. Bee,
    I just read what you responded to the other cancer woman and you gave me hope 🙂 Thank you!

  8. Chloe says

    May 9, 2017 at 6:48 pm

    Hi,
    Well you see I’m a pisces Female and I was dating a Scorpio male but his feelings towards me were weird because he didn’t talk as much and he didn’t express his feelings so I really didn’t think you liked me so then I need it cheating on him with my ex who is a Libra and I told him about it and now he doesn’t want me back but to be honest I don’t want nobody but him and I want him back but I just don’t know how to win him back I told him how I felt and he said he needed some time to think but IDK I’m just scared of losing him so what should I do

  9. maja says

    June 2, 2017 at 2:02 pm

    im a scorpio women and felt in LOOOOOOOOOOve with my scorpio men for 1 year ago, still in love but to much missunderstanding become augly war between us!!… im stil in love with Him big time love!!!!!!!!!!! but he will never forgive me, thimk:(?? i become very vrebal cruel and nasty:(……
    ?????maybe forever lost:(
    ???????????????????

  10. Bee-Me says

    August 10, 2019 at 10:41 am

    Miss Bee is Right. A Scorpio hates someone having what is theirs, no matter what the gender is. The thing is when Scorpios truly love they love with their soul. They will go through hell and high water no matter how difficult it is. I don’t know what it is about Scorpios and Cancers but Cancers are definitely the Scorpios weakness. No matter how bad things get if they really love you Cancer they will always come back. Scorpios are known to go through what ever they have to for people they truly love. They give their best but the one thing they hate more than anything is being walked out on. I’m talking about where you check out of the relationship mentally and emotionally and then physically walk out. If they sense you love them, they will forgive you for walking out, but they never forgive for emotional desertion. Once you leave them emotionally you are as good as dead to them. They will never put up with relationships where feelings are not there because they know how emotionally attached they become.

    When a Scorpio feels like someone is their home and you convince them you want them around they will never leave no matter what, but God forbid you walk out because you take everything with you. Their heart, their soul, trust, love everything, so I think as far as Cancers go, tread carefully with a Scorpio because their love for you is so deep even they don’t understand it, but they do have their limits. I’m in love with a Cancer.

    We dated in high school broke up and then years later ended up back together. Ironically enough, not because of our own efforts but our friends have always sought to push us together, whether he reaches out to me or I reach out to him. The thing is I love him so much it scares me. I know how long it took for me to cope with the fact that he broke my heart the first time. It was truly a terrifying thing to experience. It was one that caused me to move across the country because I couldn’t handle the pain and how to communicate with him how he literally shattered my heart. I ran because I felt like that was the only option at the time. However fate has been interfering in both our lives since that point. I literally can see how it pushed me back to my home town and back into his life, It’s been a full circle event and I see how no matter how far you run or how deep you try to immerse yourself in other relationships, when the universe wants you to go back home that’s where you go, regardless of whether you feel ready or not.

    It’s been 18 years since we met in high school and 3 months since we ended up back in each others lives and trust me, it hasn’t been easy trying to start over with him because I for one have been dealing with a lot of my past issues. Things I believed were buried have been surfacing now and I have been struggling with the knowledge that no matter what I’m here and I can’t leave. Why because my heart won’t allow me to. I feel like we will have a lot of things to battle out and it will be an up hill battle but I’m home now and it’s time for me to accept my fate no matter what crazy thoughts travel in my head. I get the feeling the only way we will separate this time is if the same force that pushed us back together separate us. I know beyond a reasonable doubt that no matter what I will always, always love him.

    He’s the one guy who’s always been embedded in my heart, my soul even when I didn’t want him to be. In my spirit I know it’s final. I just don’t know what that final represents. A happily ever after or a split that will rip our souls apart. The reason I distanced myself from him as long as I did because I knew I wouldn’t have the upper hand. I knew I wouldn’t be the same and I am going to a place where for me there is no return. What I know now that I didn’t as a teen was our separation for me was because I needed to grow up. I needed to see what it meant to have something stable and grounded. I needed to intuitively understand what it meant to stay. I’ve only stayed in two relationships in my life. The first relationship with him was a year. The second I had was two years and the last was Five years. That is a lot less longer than his last relationship of 13 years. We are going to last a lot longer than that.

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