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I’m not a big fan of the adjective Cancerian, but it is in the Free Dictionary. Can you be a Cancer but not Cancerian?
And how can you make a Cancerian man propose?
First of all, let me say right off the bat that you can’t make anyone do anything. Cancer men have free will, even if their moods are at the whim of the Moon.
Secondly, why can’t you just take the Crab by the pincers and propose to him? (On the other hand, Cancer respects tradition, and may not feel comfortable with such unorthodoxy!)
Now that I’ve put those matters aside, the only sure-fire way I know to make any man propose marriage is to threaten him with your imminent departure unless he forks over the ring. Hesitant men need to be cornered.
And anyways, what do you think is holding your Cancerian man back from getting down on his knee? Maybe you’re not the kind of girl of which his mama would approve. Maybe he doesn’t think you’d be a good mama yourself. Maybe he doesn’t like your cooking.
These are important things to a Cancer man. Especially if he is Cancerian.
Comment below: If you have a Cancer husband, how did you get him to propose?
Hey there
I guess my reply would be more suitable at the ‘how to understand a cancer man’ or ‘how to know things sooner than later’. I am a cancer myself and i have been in a sort of relationship with a cancer man for a year. at that time i cared for him, now, looking back and being totally objective, i can give my most honest opinion, and i hope this helps. remember, i don’t believe in the description posted for the cancer woman (i’m actually going to comment on this one very soon…), but as a cancerian, maybe i have some insight on the matter in a potential deeper way than the other ladies…actually i see there are no categories in the cancer man subject where my comment would be useful, and i see people have posted messages not completely related to the marriage proposal. so here it goes:
1) the man i was with was born one day after me, seven years older. 27th of june is my birthday, he was (and hope still is) 28th.
2) he had a girlfriend when we hooked up and our ‘relationship’ was a sex thing. nevertheless this is how i got to know him in a sort of way.
3) when a cancer man wants a woman, he WANTS her. this is how i also feel about a man when i want him. it doesn’t matter why do i want him, or why does the cancer man want the girl, respectively. it turns into a major thing, consumes our mind, our body, until we have him/her. this is how he behaved- insisting. he would do anything to get in touch with me (we lived in the same building and he would always come knocking on the door to talk).
4) he would be very nice and charming and seemed a bit nervous because we cancerians never know if the card we’re playing is the correct one and the magnitude of the process (the conquest) completely absorbs us.
5) so he would be charming, almost suffocating. i liked it.
6) he was great in bed, did everything i wanted him to, never pushed me for anything just tried to manipulate me, which i hated because i can sense that immediately (because i also manipulate in the same manner, hehe…) and it kinda cast a light on our cancer man. no biggie, but back then i was pretty affected.
7) he was a cheater, a miserable liar, an asshole. a cancer man would do anything, and i mean ANYTHING to get what he wants. he would say things you’ve never heard before, touch and kiss you like you’ve never been kissed before, act like KING charming, what prince, and make you feel beyond reality. but that’s about it.
8) when a cancer man doesn’t want to do something, he will just not do it. from this comes the story-telling, bullshitting, cheating, etc, all the plethora of negative stuff. he wants something you’re not giving him.
9) cancer men, like cancer women, (and i am NOT proud of this, honestly) want things to be done how they want them, when they want them, and the mere trying to explain them there are also different ways of doing that thing will make them, subconsciously or not, hate you. sooner or later the grudges accumulate and at one point, he will draw the line and make his calculations. if the result doesn’t fit, namely if the asset-to-debt ratio is unfavorable to you, then he will start to distance himself from you. he might not even know this, and you will most certainly not know it.
10) the distancing begins emotionally. he will most certainly stick around in the relationship and continue behaving exactly the same with small blow-offs you’ll attribute to circumstantial factors (he was tired, you had an argument, etc). the truth is an uglier one, and i am not proud of it. but it is the following, and i am sure that if you look deep inside you will recognize it. it doesn’t always happen this way, but if there is one big flaw of the cancer sign, it wouldn’t be his clinginess, need for attention of hypersensitivity. it is selfishness.
11) all water signs are extremely selfish, the love as hard as they demand and also love themselves. when you’re not on the same page your cancerian man is going to drift apart yet try to identify, super fast and I MEAN IT, the advantages he will have from staying by your side as either friends, partners, fuck buddies etc. if there is a worthy aspect he will stick around and your relationship will appear as fading only a VERY LONG TIME after he
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after a long time he had already known it. don’t ever fool yourself, if things have repeatedly been getting bad then your man knows it, and he’s already working on it. it is not a behind-your-back thing, egoism is something embedded in the cancerian’s DNA. if he ever has a moment of remorse or just thoughts about it he will dismiss it immediately by correctly assuming everybody’s a bitch thus must be treated as such- after all, you’re going to dump him anyway, you don’t love him enough, etc, put your negative qualities on a piece of paper and the result will always be what he wants it to be.
cancerians are big liars. they lie because they want things to be done as they want them, as i previously mentioned, but if they love you they will do the impossible for the lie not to get through to you, because they don’t want to hurt you.
i’ve been with men i loved and still, if circumstances were favorable, slept with other people because i knew it was just sex for me. if my man would’ve done the same thing i would have never forgiven it because a cancerian will always be sure of his feelings but NEVER EVER EVER EVER sure of the loved ones’. this is the truth- cancerian men are egoistic and circu
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-circumspect and they will never trust anyone. this is the ugly truth. it is because we’ve learned it a long time before you, and we swore never to fall for it again, and unfortunately it happens at the expense of wonderful people in our lives.
a big quality of a cancerian is that he/she is willing to do ANYTHING, and i mean anything for the person she/he loves. and i mean it. nevertheless, everything has a limit and when a cancerian knows that limit was trespassed and that the loved one effed us really hard, then things change. first there is the crying phase, then the hate one. cancerians feel hate in a way other people can’t even imagine- is consuming, ripping you from the inside, just as intense as the initial desire and love were. this is our curse, if one can say so.
hopefully i am helpful to someone out there. will definitely come back on this site, i just discovered it (been inquiring about a pisces man, ehm ehm…), and it’s super interesting.
have a great day y’all!
oh and one more thing- a cancer will never feel comfortable around an ex if the situation hasn’t been clarified. you’re either in or out, there is no other way unless you have discussed it. it is very hard to transplant the ex into the friend category because cancerians like to attach labels to everything and nothing goes unlabeled- someone you loved, who was ‘love of my life’ now is either ‘asshole’ or ‘bitch’, because you, as a cancerian, see only that thing in him/her, or ‘friend’ if the breakup reasons weren’t strong enough to create warfare. for example i am friends even with one-night stands because i never held hard feelings towards them after the thing didn’t develop in a relationship, simply because they were bad in bed. if they were to be good in bed and i was to want more from it and they didn’t, i would’ve felt scarred for life and never have considered them friends (deep down, but not letting it out).
so yeah, apart from the selfishness and the story-telling the biggest problem of the cancerians is the radicalism- it’s either all or nothing, and everything has a big reason behind it. we see intrigues and strategies everywhere and we exaggerate everything. for my mental health, i am currently working on this issue:)
I to a great extend agree with u. i am a cancer women and i have also been in a 1 year relationship with a cancer guy. He had done everything possible to make me fall in love with him. he is so emotional but selfish at the same time. He cared alot about satisfying his own needs..
I am dating a Cancer man, he is 80 I am 62, we have been dating 1 year, he is charming and I dont understand him at all, one minute I feel love the next nothing, he is always running the street, more than I do. Sometimes I think of cutting my lostes and than he does something exceptionally sweet. I am so mixed up.
Hi,
I came across this site and thought to share also with you my current relationship with a cancer man. I have to say that I’ve only known this Cancer man for a month and a half. So it may not be as useful. I am a Virgo and I found myself instantly attracted to this man.
When i met him, there was certainly instant chemistry. But because I’m cautious at times (so is anyone that have had their hearts broken) and it’s not easy for me to show emotions (trust issues) I laid out some ground rules straight away with him. We are in a long distance relationship, which is both good and bad. Good because I’m getting to know him on the inside and we email twice a day morning and night. No flaw, or text if we can’t email, just to say ‘I love you’ or ‘I miss you’… which is cancer trait. This is a good thing about them. If they do want you they will work hard to get you and keep you. When he is here he will do everything for me including go out of his way to see me.
A cancer man in love (based on my experince with my Cancer man)will be protective, jealous, affectionate, will do everything for you, won’t complain, make you happy, gives you compliments and make you feel that you are the most perfect and beautiful person. Once they find the one and there is no doubt in their mind, body, heart, they will make you theirs and be committed.
From what I observed, what they need, is constant re-assurance that you feel the same way, they need to hear words of affirmation. They need to feel safe and secure with you and they can trust you. If you give them these in return, you will have the most wonderful man that will truly love and appreciate you. I’m still getting used to it, but I’ve never dated a cancer man before, first time and also first time I feel so loved and cherished.
So, what I did in the beginning, was I made it clear to him what I am like and what I want from a man any man that I will eventually give my heart to. Like I said, I set some ground rules with him regarding trust, loyalty, lying, cheating, marriage etc all the important things to me. I thought he’d run the other way but didn’t. Plus he liked it. (This may not work with every man, but at least I can eliminate easy and discourage those who are not too serious! But I think every serious woman should do this.)I also tell him what he can do better and teach him, also telling him how I am (loyal, faithful etc) and request for him to be the same. For example I will say, I’m not the sort of woman who will go gallavanting in the middle of the night with random strangers, so I would appreciate if the person I am with won’t do that either because it will make me feel uncomfortable and not trust them. Barbara, this may help you, since you are confused with your cancer man. Maybe, you need to give him direction and be open about your expectations. Request but don’t demand as this may push him away. Maybe just softly and kindly suggest to him things that you like and would like him to do and after he does them reward him by doing something you know he appreciates and like to hear. There’s a book that I can recommend, it’s a very insightful book on love. On receiving and giving love. It’s called “The Five Languages of Love” by Gary Chapman
To the other Nina, it seems that the only suggestion I can give you, is to find out if your Cancer man will come back is for you to get the truth. You have to risk getting burnt and have your heart out in the open. If he truly loves you then he will appreciate that and reciprocate but as I said the consequences are there. In my experience with my Cancer man, he appreciates straight-forwardness. Because you feel that he is the one, it’s not easy to not tell you what you may want to hear. Just be open with him, direct and let out your real feelings. It’s better if you do it in person, but if I can suggest maybe right it out first and read it to him if you get the chance, so you won’t miss anything important that you want to tell him. Either way, however it turns out you will know the answer. I wish you the very best of luck and hope my suggestion helps. Hope it turns out with a happy ending for both of you regardless.
At the end of the day, regardless if you’re in love with a Cancer man or a man of any other sign, a man in general. Their sun sign personality carachteristics are only a small make up of who and what they are. There are so many other things to consider, like his past, family, friends and childhood etc. And at the end he is still a man. That in itself is another topic of conversation.
Being determined and strong women from what I gathered from your comments. The best thing for you to do is be yourself, know what you want and need and don’t compromise yourselves. Compromise, but not yourselves. If you feel he’s worthy and you really want him. Pursue full steem ahead, like I said you want lose anything, if he feels the same you get what you want, if not, you still get what you want an answer. And if you feel you need to cut your losses, so be it, the best that can happen is he runs after you realising he doesn’t want to lose you, or you meet another wonderful man that can give you what you need.
Good luck!!!
From where I’m standing, I see it as a win win situation for you both! =)
I’m sorry, if what I mentioned above is not the answer you were looking for… I’m not sure much about Cancers apart from the general reading/research on the net. I find each person to be an individual and their sun sign is only a small make up of what they’re like.
Maybe I should let this one pass me by…?
I am really drawn to a cancer guy at work. Very attracted. And I feel like it might be mutual, but it’s very hard to tell. BTW: I’m Tau/Gem cusp and I seem to really lean towards Tau in relationships.
Anyway, this guy is younger than me, div/with custody of his two daughters, seems very mature for his age so our age dif doesn’t really bother me too much (not sure about him though). I try not to push things with him or read things into the way he acts towards me, but do feel an attraction between us. I have never dated a cancer man in my life (or met one as far as I know (LOL)) so I am not sure how to take him at all. I pretty much figured if a guy wants you , he will let you know under no uncertain terms–but I have never delt with a guy as shy as him and I don’t know what’s going on.
HOW CAN YOU TELL IF A CANCER GUY IS INTERESTED IN YOU? Will he come out and say it or just hint at it and expect you to make the first move?
hi…
i want to ask u people for some honest suggestions and help… tht would be much appreciated.
i have been liking this cancerian guy for almost 8 months now..we are in the same profession so basically we are around each other for good 8 – 10 hours everyday. i have been dropping hints to him recently tht i am interested in him… but im not getting any response from his side? i used to think he does like me but now tht he is not responding in the same manner as me.. i am getting confused wht he is really thinking? is it wise to confront him and tell him one day tht i do like u and ask him what he thinks about me? i dont want to scare him away from me by telling him how i feel since we are just friends rite now.
please advise me wht to do.
thank u!
does a cancerian guy ever come out and say he likes u or does he wait for u to make the first move???
Well I have been with my Cancer man since Aug 09 and it has been extremely hard. He was very attentive and sweet to me and would always listen to me talk about whatever. He took an interest in me and then one night he decided to take our friendship to the next level. Once we began our sexual relationship he became more nurturing towards me. In the beginning I just wanted to keep it light and fun (I’m a Libra after all) but he wanted to stay with me and cuddle until I fell alseep, or come see me the next morning and stay. I thought he was becoming too clingy but the sex was good so I handled it. Well he recently went on a 6 week training program were we had to corraspond via text and calls only, I got to know him and eventually started to develope feelings that could be called love. Well things were going great until he confirmed my suspicion that he was married. Married! He flat out told me that he was married and that he wanted to love me and that I was his mistress…I was like what?! I hate causing conflict but everyone (including myself) tells me to break it off. He is making it hard by calling and texting and getting all territorial with me. I still have strong feelings for him but now I’m lost. I don’t think he’ll ever leave his wife (not that I would want him if he did) since he also told me that I’m his second mistress hes had. What is wrong with Cancer men? They are sooo sweet and soo secretive, if he had just been up front in the beginning I would have respected him more. True we wouldn’t have gone anywhere but still! I feel played! He got me to Love him then he tells me he’s married!!!
All i can say is wow! Want hear my story, I am a cancer woman married to a cancer man but I have a very close male friend that is also a cancer. He is married as well. My relationship with my husband is ok. He is very sweet , loving caring loyal and would do anything for me. The problem is that I don’t think I was ever in love with him. I was married young and he is 9 years older than me. I just never knew what love was.He was my first boyfriend. So now we have been together fourteen years. Its a very comfortable relationship but there are no sparks between us. Kindof boring and he is extremely possesive of me and jealous when Iam around other men. Three years ago I met another cancer man. We have been becoming closer and closer all the time even though we are both married. We are extremely attracted to eachother and had one episode where we finally couldn’t take it any more and had to be with eachother. We didn’t have sex but just messed around. The problem is we both think it is very wrong and don’t want to hurt our spouses. All though I believe we are both unhappy obviously in our marriages. I feel he is a male version of me but he def is confusing. One minute he seems like he wants me so much and the next he is distant. I don’t know where this is all going because we both have children so it makes it hard. I just wish I knew if he loved me or not. He has never made that clear…i think he is afraid. What does one do in this situation? I am not proud of my relationship with him but we havent had an episode since, we are trying to behave ourselves although we talk just about everyday. I really want to be with him. I think I will eventually leave my husband but I feel extremely guilty bc we have children and our home life is not terrible. He really is a good guy. I don’t know what is wrong with me but I can’t help my feelings. Any advice?
I’ve been with a cancer for about 6 months. It’s been good on and off. Mostly good though. Im a Libra….. but he lied about his age when we first got together. He turned out to be 18. which is really young for me even though im only 23. But i still havent figured out what I really feel about this relationship. thats why im trying to read other people perspective on cancer men. But I do know i really love him.
Cancer men! Oh my. One chased after me and was “truly in love with me ” so I let down my guard and fell in love. Then I can feel some distance and find out he is cheating even though we are together 4 or 5 nights a week. So I stop sleeping with him and we are “friends” Then he’s in love with me again. Ok- so I fall for it again. Then he cheats again and that is it. I cut it off for good. Then he starts dropping by and I can tell he is trying to decide between me and somebody else. He tells me he’s been dating a lot. Whoop de dooo! I don;t give an inch. Then one day I’m having a really hard time and I call him just as a friend and tell him I’m having a grad time and can we just meet for a drink. The hard time had nothing to do with him or another man. He says he’s in a relationship. Ok This is after he just sent me card telling me he was moving and his new address- no mention of girl friend. So moving day comes and suddenly I am getting a ton of email, wanting to stay in touch with me. His soul loves my soul , etc. We have an email fight and I tell him we should have had this fight a long time ago and now he’s living with someone and he made his bed and he can lie in it. Goodbye. Then a christmas card with xxx’s Then another note saying he was moving to a house 2 blocks form my office. No mention of girlfriend. By the way, he is still not divorced form his ex and that battle has been going on for 4 years. So he BUYS this house with girlfriend next to my office and starts to write me notes again. I told him I was letting the office go. NOW a year after he’s been in the house with girlfriend, I see him at a meeting. I ignore him , but he finds excuse to say hi an dI can see he’s still smitten and frankly all my old feeling came back too. Then everybody kept telling me to call him because life was too short and I never felt jealous of the girlfriend ever. Always felt he loved me but I was too rejecting. So I call at a time I think he is at a meeting and I can hang up, but he answers…Blah Blah.. I ask some business questions and write him off again. Then he’s emailing trying to get me to meet him to take the train into a meeting. I get on an earlier train on purpose and I know he is freaking out that I stood him up. I let him suffer a but and then call and say I took wrong train but will see him at meeting. He comes in late and sits next to me in front of all the bigwigs. Formal goodbye, but electricals like made as usual. I go home and am sitting on my couch and my heart just opens and I know I love him but also that it is okay if we are never together. Then I tell god that he has to tell me how he feels. 5 minutes layer I get an email saying he missed me on the train and had been looking forward to it and “liked me very much.” I decided to be honest and tell him I liked him too.
So now he emails every day. I asked him point blank about his relationship. He says it is good and he’s still not divorced. I had a broken heart for two days then got over it. Other men smile at me and I don’t need the complications: Not divorced, bought house with other woman who he will probably break up with if the divorce gets final and now he’s saying he would really like to live near where I recently moved to. I feel like he’s setting things up so he can have me in place when divorce happens and he breaks up with girlfriend. I pray every day to find a new love- like a Sag or leo. And yet there is real love here– but that’s not enough– there has to be trust. So I’m now an email cheater with these notes to each other. I’ve never been a cheater of any kind but I’m not feeling guilty about it. His life is so crazy, I’m just going enjoy his notes with my coffee and find somebody else to spend my life with.
jolie thank you…you just helped me understand it wasnt all me after a 7 yr on and off relationship…he has hurt me so badly…..everything u said is sooo true…and being a pisces….made it even harder, due to my sensitivity…..Pisces think soo much more about their partner…thank u again…..I couldnt understand what happened…he ofcourse NEVER told me it was failing….just drifted…..but kept seeing me I guess as a f— buddy…..and whenever he needed his ego stroaked…..I have never had such emotional pain….
Hello all,
So it seems the Cancer males are quite complex with their feelings and their relationships and forever childish in the way they act them out too! I am also starting to date a Cancer Male (I am a Virgo sun, gemini moon) & i have an adorable Cancer nephew & thanks to all the reading material on the Cancer Male in the internet and all of your posts, i have been able to understand and handle the emotional rollercoasters of these two, like a breeze.. According to my experience, first with my nephew who is still a child and therefore an exponential example of the Cancer male and their emotional reactions, the most important thing is not to take things personal with these guys at all… It is certainly all about them, but i find it to be quite beyond their control!!! So the first thing that i learned is to be understanding with your words and manners. The nicer the way in which you inform them of your ideas (different from theirs), or if you ask them to do something for you, the better they react.. They hate to be told what to do, but only if it comes as a command! But if you say it nicely enough, they do not categorize it as an insult and they will do it gladly and obediently too! But if you decide to say it as a command and mention it twice, they surely take it as an insult!! For me it is quite funny the way these two react so similarly in many ways.. However, it is hard to educate the Cancer child, since he takes everything to heart and personally!!! If he does something wrong and you tell him it was wrong, he becomes sulky and insulted and runs and hides in his secret spot!!! And it is sooooo true that if you just ignore them, else even better, start saying nice things about them out loud, they will surely immediatley come out of their hiding spots with a big smile and totally forgotten the past episode… So, the question is… If these Cancer males where never understood and taught correctly how to screen their feelings as children, how can they cope correctly in their emotionally confused adult lifes? I guess that is why these males are so clingy to their mothers and to anyone who truly understands them.. Since, who else if not them, will take the time and patience to love them and help them grow in the loving, understanding and placid ways they so instinctively demand??… I tell you, being around a Cancer male for me as a Virgo female, is certainly a challenge. I am learning to constantly control my instinctive critical ways and pointedly critical remarks and treating my Cancer date as i treat my nephew; with the outmost care and loving ways that i can.. And to all of this, i am still loyal to who i am, the only challenge is accepting that these relationships are helping me transform myself into a nicer, softer, more tolerating person and, who doesn’t really want that? Me, i am all in…
hey!!
you guys i’ve been dating a cancer guy for only 5 weeks and i’m a gemini/cancer cusp. perhaps, i still need to know him more but he is honestly my dream guy! do you think i might be deceived in him?
oh plz tell me should i trust him?
hey 2 all of u out there…im a gemini girl who is 20 and i have a cancerian man as a bf….we’ve been together for almost 2 years….i must say…life with him definately is a bed of roses….i dont find him clingy like what most people say cancers do….actually he gives me plenty of freedom to do whatever I want…the funny thing is every website i know says our horoscopes are a horrible match for one another but im telling you my relationship is amazing. ive never had a more passionate and tender human being in my life that loves me so unconditionally. The funny thing is he has some traits of a cancer like he likes home, family, children, marriage and all that stuff but he is not controllig, possessive or clingy…hes wonderfully compassionate of my mood swings and i gotta admit ive given him hell some times because of a horrible ex-relationship….and he taught me how to trust again…..so whenever someone says stuff about cancers being liars and cheaters….i never think that he’d do that….he even talked about marraige recently and has made attempts to get along with my father which ended successfully (which is a big surprise because my dad hated every bf that dated me being a typical taurus dad of course)…another probable fact that drew him to me is that i am of mixed heritage…arabic/egyptian/indian so he found me different from everyone else he dated….i guess being mixed helps…..he loves good food…and i can cook…plus i work in a daycare with babies and told him i cant wait 2 be a mother soon…i guess being all that helps :)….however i have a love-hate relationship with his mother that at first bothered me…but he doesnt seem to care about it one bit…which is rare…i heard cancers are very attached to mother….he loves her…but he finds her possessive which i guess is the reason why he turns to me…but all in all… do respect her nonetheless…its just that her being a taurus and me a gemini we are like north/south pole…we just cant seem to agree on alot of things…its the taste i guess……but other than that our relationship is great…we’ve had our screaming moments but compromise is the key to our relationship and i guess all relationships…so if someone tells you…you guys arent meant to be…dont listen..its what you and your partner do that ultimately makes it work in the end…take it from me…i am a GEMINI…and im happy being settled down with a CANCERIAN man…i know it sounds crazy but its true…gemini’s are one of the most independent…freedom-loving signs of the zodiac but how we clicked…its definately got 2 be fate then….
It has been very interesting reading all the varied responses about Cancerian men. In response to Nora, I would advise that you take the time to get to know him rather than rushing in full steam ahead. Reason being that it would appear, correct me if I am wrong, that those relationships which have not worked seemed to have been the ones where people have rushed in all guns blazing.
As with any relationship with any man you need to take the time to get to know them first. Nora, if it feels right then give him a chance. I hope this helps.
To Jolie, I am a astrology student who fall in love with a Cancerian male a year ago. your posts really scared me.
Considering other famous cancers, I believe you are telling the truths. But, some cancer claim that they do not flirt nor cheat.
What is your response?
After almost 11 years with my cancer, I have come to realize, that they can just never be happy. They may not cheat in most peoples eyes as long as you don’t mind the talking to other women, flirting, complementing them, the internet sex, the promises of meeting these women…without ever knowing if they’ve really met. If you don’t mind feeling paranoid and betrayed all the time. The hot to cold, loved to nonexistent, kind of emotion that they give. Then you can make it work. In the begining it was amazing, I couldn’t imagine life without him, butterflies and all. I’m not so sure anymore, when is enough…enough? Especially when you have a child together?
dear Jennifer, I would say your post has said it. Enough is enough. You must be worn out by all this. I bet you can do better. He can babysit on the weekend while you go on new dates. Your happiness and respect for you is first. That is a good lesson for any child. Have courage.
Hi All,
Your comments are great. I have recently met a Cancer man, he is the most romantic man I have ever met. I am a Taurus/Gemini and he has caught me up in a world I have never been before. I am in love with him and he with me, he wants to marry me and I him and all this in less than a month. We have known each other for longer but its now that we sharing our lives.
If a man is going to cheat it has nothing to do with his star sign it has to do with how he relates to the relationship and whether or not it is working for him. Men show love through sex so if the sex isnt working he cant show love and cheats.
I am in a whirl with how I feel about my man and wouldnt swap him for the world. Take everyone as you find them, but know yourself first, then you can see if you are truly a good fit.
Be well.
I am a Cancerian male and I would like to know about me and my marriage lift ( when will I get married?)can any once help me,
….Oops I am 25, and I don’t have girl friend till now… this is because I am Cancerian??
No answer???
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Hi everyone,
I’m engaged to a cancer. We’ve been together for over 2yrs and have gone through a lot. We met in college both 19 and faced lots of opposition, people made up lies about me and him. But we ignored them and it made us stronger. In the first year he was very loving, everything he did was for me. But then in may 09 his father was diagnosed with lung cancer. My fiance was so broken I had never seen him like this,he cried like a baby non stop. His eyes were empty and sad and he would always force a smile but it wasn’t how he was. He would always be the one making people laugh but now it seemed unnatural. Somedays I see the old him but he’d go back depressed again. Then in april ’10 his father died. It was like he died with is father too. He would take so long to tx me back or to call. Became obsessed with his family roots and where is father from. I just felt to distant from him even though he said he needed me. I just don’t no how to be, he’s became so moody I don’t no what to say or how to comfort him. How do cancers cope with death especially someone to close. And how can I comfort and support him. Oh my a capricorn lady 🙂
Thanks x
Congrats Aisha:)
I think that the orignal post is true, but that there is hope.
One thing that I noticed about Cancers is that they distance themselve because they need time to consider what your are doing that is upsetting them. Very often you are simply not what they were told during childhood you should be. You did something that they did not expect. This does not mean that Cancer dislikes you. It means that they cannot fit you into their concept of the way it is supposed to be. Not to offend, but to people who have a lot of mascline signs in their charts, Cancer types do not simply appear selfish–they at times, seem dumb. Cancers often have a very naive quality in which they think that everything is as Mommy told them. The shock that things might be different is hard for many of them. First they go through the stage of hating you for not living up to their dream; then they feel sorry for you and think you are in need of help, and sometimes, they come around. I agree with Ariesgirl that it is a pain, and you might get tired of you Cancer expecting to be coddled.
Then there is the never ending mother complex. Cancers identify with their families. Often times, Cancer has a family that isn’t so hot and Cancer will still stay loyal. It takes a lot before Cancer gets a grip in this regard, but some times they do. The worst case senerio is that Cancer’s mother is going to abuse you. You aren’t the same religion, ect, and Mommy says that only partners like her are acceptable. Occasionally, Cancer does learn new tricks. It isn’t hopeless. Cancer has an easier time cutting the imbelical cord if Aquarius is in the chart. The thing is, by the time they do, you may have moved on.
@all
you wanna make a cancer propose. get a culinary degree. 🙂
Pisces woman-cancer man, im intrigued by the comments..Im reading this stuff because Im having a decision too about whether to stay or to go..I dont want to end up telling the tale of heart ache thats for sure! Met my cancerian man on the net through endless hours of friendship email, he asked to meet up which we did-it was friendly and chatty, then more email and another meet up, its gone on for over a year-we just had sex which was unromantic and unemotional for what ever reason-to cement a bond i guess however he is with someone else! aha..yes there you have ‘he says they are only together because of what theyve invested in a house-no children-no marriage-no rings. hes put her through uni and says now she can stand on her own two feet, when houses prices are right he’ll sell and they will go their seperate ways! I cant contact him after 5pm for fear she get upset if she finds out..I cant contact weekends! so our meets are working lunches for a half hour when ever and the work time texts start at 7am until 5pm every day! again hes a bit younger than me..which seems the norm on here from what im reading..Ive finished it about 5 times to date saying and having the talk with him! he wont budge but says bear with me itll get better, hang in there and the situation will improve trust me!! Ive been out with other guys and he gets so jealous in between me saying we’re through this has no where to go and Ive never been with anyone whos been seeing or with anyone else..Im not like that in nature and dispise anyone that would break a house up or marriage or commitment! and here i am for the first time-making sense of this knowinf theres so much more to come from him and the knowing the guilt hes having too (which is why the sex thing was crap as a one off)..its the emotional bond and the friendship thats hard to shift with him..any suggestions-he does persue me if I finish it for all the right reasons for both of us! Im single with adult children and independant. Im also a very typical pisces in my 40’s, we are known for crashing things against the rocks the moment we turn..doesnt work with him!
Su,
The situation is very unreasonable!! It is not credible that he does not sleep with her if you cannot contact him in so and so hours or days. Are you guys in love? Do you believe he is in love with you. If so, to win such cases, you tell him to get lost now. If he is in love, he will drop the other.
I say this because I know Cancerian male are very family oriented. If he still consider her as his family, you should not be in his picture. It will only hurt you in the future.
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To be a permanent partner of cancer male, you need to act like his mother or big sister. The cancer male usually prefer mature woman who takes care of him, loyal to him, and strong enough to handle him.
Tough women are best suitable for cancer male according to my experience.
Thanks Sandra-what your saying is true I know, Ive tried finishing it about 5 times and for all the right reasons -I dislike another party involved and have never had ‘an affair’ or any thing daft like this..must admit Ive been thinking about this situation all weekend-what to do for the best- and its to finish it again when i see him tomorrow!.
but i know he will be back texting me in a few days time with all the guff that goes with that-he says he wants something long term with me! He asked if I would consider marrying him! I think this is unfair of him as he has his cake and eats it! mean while Im still by myself without a guy to go out with. Naa your right- its needs to go for good-now the hard part! The house situation with her is never going to go away soon-if he is in an unhappy partnership then he needs to sort this himself before he can declare himself single..hes got his claws/critters all over me thats for sure! Men!! Cancer men!! cant get rid of them..they will hang on!
We met today and yes its still all going on! yep hes talked me round again..I asked him out right where he sees this relationship going with his partner and he responded by saying..I dont know, we arent happy, we are stale, its boring, we sleep in a king size bed and dont have sex, he said he doesnt want to have sex with her, they sleep at opposite ends of the bed and go about their daily tasks without thinking too much about where they are headed! Make of that what you will.. he keeps busy with house things and visiting his mother at weekends without her..usually thats the time he gets on the net to me. He thinks i mother my adult kids too much and he let me know it, maybe he wants the mothering?
Anyone else had this situation?
Su,
Men will never say no for sex, have a check
Well yesterday (on the net whilst he was at his mothers) I asked him to tell her he was unhappy in his partnership, he said he couldnt do that-so I told him that was the end of ‘us’. Its gone strangly silent! no texts or emails..perhaps thats the end of my cancerian fling? 🙁
I think he will be back to you. In this case, to end the story is just in your hand. i think he is more serious about his wife considering she is family member. Trust me!!
Understand him first every thing will be alright
found these posts to be very interesting. especially jolie’s. to all of you women involved with a cancer man, please be very careful with your heart. i was dating one and he made me feel on top of the world. like i could trust him with my emotions, talk about various things easily etc…i then took a short trip (planned vacation) with my daughter. well, before i left everything was great. i felt like we were both at the beginning stages of falling in love with each other. when i returned from vacation, he was like a totally differnt person and not in a good way. he was very moody which i had read about with cancers so i was prepared for that, but he was also non affectionate which unbeknownst to him ticked me off. he has only sent me 2 texts (lame) in that last month and it’s been two weeks since the last one. we haven’t spoken in over month. he never told me a reason, just disappeared. i have no closure and apparently he doesn’t give a flying u know what. and another thing i’ve noticed about cancers (i’ve dated two) is they are interested in teen girls especially one that is very close to the family in some way. so have fun, i say run for your life.
Geesh..I a Cancerian chick and have met a Cancerian male….omg..way too clingy..needy…We are not even an item and he wants to come to where I live, talks about making a home with me …..Sputter sputter…NOT!
I am most def not a typ Cancer chicy..:)
OMG! It all makes sense now ! The Cancer Male I dealt with was the same way He Lied, Cheat, was Violent, Manipulative, Secretative and Verbally abusive. He put on a good act for me (cared for me when I was sick, cooked for me , paid for everything, open his home to me,and I made him wait he was even patience, he was awesome in bed taught me lots of things 😉 but he turned out to be a Monster .I mean a Monster !!! I noticed his behavior changed , But it was too late…. Im a young gemini women, and he’s 9 yrs older . So to Andy EWWW but I think ur right ! about the young girl thing…I still can pass for a teen and im very short ..SMH grossed out . I havent seen him for months and All of a sudden I see him Last Week THREE Times !!! I decided to actually talk to him it was ARKWARD.. He was distant but so was I, He asking me how I’ve been and of course I tell him very well..THEN he ask me how”s my sex life.. are u F#$king kidding me ??? of course I don’t answer …he laughs and continues to tell me he’s in need of a massage but looking between his legs. I guessed he noticed I didn’t find that amusing so he stop talking and we basically went our separate ways … The D*&k he turned out to be was nutthing like the guy I met…and thats the one I missed…It wasn’t serious but lasted 8 months. it was an emotional rollercoaster I’ve never experience , but I ended up deeply caring for him and that I have to admit. But he was everything you guys mentioned. We won’t be friends ever again that I kno , after reading all these comments I don’t think I’ll ever bother dealing with a Cancer Male again …
I Know I didn’t answer the actual question …but Ladies just becareful ( and please don’t ignore the Red Flags) before its too late..
ICK!!!!! All of these comments COMPLETELY scared the crap out of me 🙁 Up until now, I have only read how charming and sweet and sensitive and loyal Cancer males are. I have recently begun talking with a Cancer male and *thought* he was all of those things but now I’m not so sure. Maybe he’s just manipulating me and in reality, he is a bi-polar, cheating, liar who is COMPLETELY selfish and self-involved with a wandering eye (and maybe more). Arghhhhhhh!! Thank you for posting… my eyes are WIDE OPEN NOW!
hi 🙂
im a male cancer with mars leo and venus cancer,
alot of what is on internet is vry tru, the last few days i have rly understood myself alot, i think jolie is bing too harsh, u have to remember u must include all planets for a proper read, 98% of what read on proper scope sites about cancer males is spot on, there is def diff versions of same sun sign because of planets as it what makes us unique. think jolie just found a bad version of cancer male, i met my fiance on net 5 yrs ago she is a scorpio and omg we r so perfect and just like all gd horoscope sites say on compatability wow hehehehehe.
but b4 i met her i did bump into a bad version scorpio she was so diff to what most horoscopes say too, had no loyalty at all cing multipe partners while still trying chase me.
if u want a gd cancer man, just always b honest as we can sence if lieing or fake, and drop completly obvious hints hehehe, we feel with our sixth sence or know whats going on, we hate guessing wo feeling it and confuses us, if things seem gd tell u love & will put him gd mood and say how much would mean to u to get married 1 day when he rdy, if u both r in love and doing great wont take him to long b4 wants talk about because of knowing how important is to u to :), i was alrdy thinking of marriage with my gf once was rl close, but to my surprise she asked me b4 i even had chance hehehe made me so fall for her more 🙂
My Crab man is married…I knew from the beginning as we started off as friends and I gotta say he put lots of effort in us happening. I had no doubt his marriage was practically over. He was the most caring and wonderful man, I was careful but eventually he became my everything. Then a couple of months into us being properly together he told me he had 2 kids. I was broken and horrified but he promised we could still have everything we wanted – family, kids. I said ok but things needed to be changed straight away. So here I am about 6 months later sitting here – in the flat that we rented together and that he moved out of 2,5 wks later because he couldn’t live without his kids. I gotta say it was difficult having him around – he was so stressed about it and I felt he was angry at me for requiring him to be away from the kids, even though we made plans of having our own family and kids! Last few weeks were horrible – ultimatums, ‘ill move back in by Fri’, ‘ill move back in by Mon’..every time I asked him not to contact me and just come back when ready – he would always break the rule and come to our place, just open the door with his key and ask to talk or keep calling or even wait for me on the street while I was walking to work. so now after I had a horrible breakdown and shed a lot of tears in front of him he agreed to stick to the rule and promised next time I see him is when he pulls over with his stuff in the car and this time for real. i even got his key to our flat. he says he cant get rid of the feeling of loss of his kids. we did couples councelling, he would always listen and nod but hed never follow the councellor’s advice (she basically confirmed what i was suggesting to him about the situation). i ask myself whether i will actually ever see the change in him..his marital status is the only thing i ever disliked about this man. otherwise we are a match made in heaven…i miss him horribly
well, Cancerian male are family men. He can’t stay without his children. But think of it. Was he cheating his wife? If it so, this is a bad news for you.
For his situation, I could imagine how he suffered for his kids. By the way, my husband had been cheating on me for 7 years and I found out when my younger child was two. I cannot take my husband back as I know he will never stop cheating. I cannot go away from home yet I would be loosing my children. It was a hell for me.
Men, they would say what ever they could find in the air, just for sex.
Isn’t it horrible to read such things about relationships..I’m really sorry about your husband. How can you ever trust anyone..Did you eventually leave him?
I met my Crab’s mum – she knows things haven’t been ok between them. His wife is Russian, she seems to live in a totally different world, she hasn’t settled down in the UK culture and society. She’s also violent towards him and even the kids because the kids and the father stick together. And now that he found me I don’t think he’d be able to carry on living there, but the time will show.
I’m sure your relationship has been very different to their marriage though and I totally understand the kids situation. We did our research and arranging the custody over the children in a way that everyone’s happy is very difficult, especially when both sides just can’t communicate and want it all.