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- He makes your spirulina-and-fruit-smoothie in the morning.
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- He edits your term papers.
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@lucy
“you showed him a side of you because you were afraid of being hurt when you are not really like that”
I am actually very much like that. Extremely scared of rejection and of getting hurt. But when I’m right in the middle of it, I become strong and proud. I do not run away crying, that’s just not me. I rather cry on my own later on. Again, this is a self protective mechanisme.
Lucy, can I ask you what star sign you are and how long you’ve been with your Virgo?
@Luckycap what i meant was you showed him a strong side of you because you are afraid of getting hurt when deep down you are not like that like you said ” you would run away and cry later on” which shows me thats how you are which is natural for anyone.
When hes shown you other women did you talk to him after about it and explain that you didnt like it without arguing or did you let it go virgo men are like boys if you say nothing he will think its ok and carry on communication is the key when i met my husband he did that once to me once only i told him straight that i didnt like it he has never even done it again ever because he knows i dont like it.
Have you spoken to him verbally about it without arguing or just let it go see he thinks he can sleep with you and date others and its ok when its not.
I am a gemini and have known my husband years we were friends for years i even dated and lived with another virgo moved on and we were still friends until he caught me and proposed.
They love the chase they get bored easily if its too easy for them to get they dont bother as much even when you have them you have to keep up the chase i still do i drive him mad im always out always seeing friends and he loves it deep down the thrill the chase. They start stuff get bored after they do that with relationship.
See you have told him how you feel thats why i said let it go for now even if you have said goodbye if you dont he wont chase and will continue to disrespect you with other women even when i was dating other men and my husband saw me other women got left behind he would never ever do that ever.
The chase is over you have to leave him the end result is down to you but i would never sleep with a man offering me nothing and showing me other women virgos can manipulate you to think something more is going to happen when its not once they get what they want they go then come back when they want something again so you think this is it hes ready then hes gone again.
I say leave him be but you maybe cant its down to you hun. I said leave him as you have told him how you felt he needs time to analyse what you said.
@lucy
He has never used me. In fact, I have been the one to instigate it every time we’ve slept together. He’s always been the perfect gentleman around me. If I didn’t make a move, nothing would happen. Actually, he did make a move once. A tiny gesture of touching my shoulder while we were lying next to each other in bed. When I looked at him, he was terrified! He looked like a rabbit caught in the headlight! I’ll never forget the fear in his eyes. I think he’s extremely scared of rejection, especially after the breakup with his ex, which is why I felt I needed to tell him that I really like him. He’s triple earth – his sun, moon and venus signs are in Virgo, Capricorn, Virgo, respectively. I know this makes him very, very cautious when it comes to the matter of the heart. I know his sister quite well, and she’s told me something along those lines about him twice now.
I’ve seen some of the other women he’s been with. They are not very attractive. I get quite a lot of attention from other men, but he’s the only one I want. He’s the love of my life and I can’t let him go. I’ve never felt so strongly for anyone in my life.
As a Capricorn I need logic as to why things are the way they are. This thing with the Virgo guy has completely thrown me. It made no sense to me to have such strong feeling so quickly for someone I’ve spent relatively little time with. He’s got under my skin, I think about him all the time. My heart ache for him. I just want to touch him. When I touch him I feel calm. When he’s in the same room as me I’m extremely happy and it just feels right (even if we’re not talking). He’s like a magnet on me. I have to concentrate really hard to not just go up to him and touch him, because that’s all I want to do. Just hold around him. Stand very close to him. Feel his energy.
It drives me insane that I can’t even talk to him now. I have no peace inside, I’m rattling round like a lost soul and I don’t know what to do. I really pray that it will be OK. I cannot bear the thought of not ever being with him.
I turned to astrology to try and make some sense of it all. It turns out that our planets are a perfect match according to Cafe Astrology’s chart. With that I don’t just mean our sun signs (Virgo and Capricorn). I also mean our moon, venus and mars sign (and an intermix of these). I’ve never believed in astrology before, but now I do. When I read it, I couldn’t believe it. It just made sense.
I have even been able to “feel” his presence before he’s anywhere near me (and even on Facebook). I just got a really strong feeling that I was going to see him, and he would suddenly turn up, drive past a few minutes later! On Facebook (when he’s been away working) I often got a very strong feeling that he would be on there (there were never a regular time when he did go on there while abroad), and sure enough, he was on FB within a few minutes! This has happened a total of 7-8 times in the past 15 months. It’s almost spooky!
So, I really, really want this to be OK! I can’t bear it not to be. Please let me know what to do as I’m lost.
Sorry for the long post.
@Luckycap…….thats what im saying dont instigate anymore he needs to chase you i was like that with my husband even when i lived with someone else another virgo for 4 years we never lost that connection and although we were not intimate together as i was married and he was obviously doing what he was doing we both knew the timing just wasnt right.
You need to take a step back let him be if you keep pushing to see him etc you will lose him leave him he himself has to analyse the situation thats what he needs no amount of pushing will allow him to do that he needs to see that although hes dating others you are the one for him but he wont see that if you are around him he needs to miss you once i dreamt i saw my husband after not seeing him for months i got off the bus and nearly fell into him i was all dressed up it was so strange and he still had that look up to this day he still does it even in my sleep.
Just leave him for a while he needs to miss you give him space he will come around i promise you that let me know what happens xx
@ luckycap…let him miss you. if he really wants you in his life, he will. By sticking around and u chasing him and trying to make him feel something he might not, you become an option, a doormat, needy and clingy. I know it sounds ‘weird’ but that is how they are.
@Capbaby..spot on if he isnt chasing its because he doesnt have to doesnt need to hes dating other showing you other women even after being intimate thats because he knows no matter what he does you wont be affected. Thats shy i said leave him be he needs to chase which a virgo mean loves if he isnt chasing its because he doesnt want/have to.
Okay so I have a real question here I really need someone to answer, I was told that Virgo men can only hold one of two emotions for a Pisces woman, and that is LUST or CONTEMPT is that true?? and if so why does he keep trying to come back when I try to walk away?? and why does he always say things that make it appear he has feelings for me if he really has none? I am about totally walk away and never look back, I don’t like to be hurt, I don’t like playing games, and he told me once that when he pulls back and is doing the scilent thing, it is just a game.. IDK I was totally into him, but that doesn’t mean I can not hold my head up high and walk away, what do you think???
@lucy and @capbaby
Thanks for your advice. But I’m a bit confused and have a few queries:
1.
@Lucy, in an earlier post you said that if you tell a Virgo goodbye, they will respect that and leave you alone (i.e. not chase you). As you said, you thought my email to him sounded like a goodbye (as I wished him all the best for the future and told him to stay safe, always). So, if this is the case, do I not need to make him understand that I haven’t blown him off, that I still like him? Otherwise he would not chase, as you said in an earlier post?
2.
We do not see each other for months at the time, as he works abroad and is away for 2-3 months at a time. When we saw each other 4 weeks ago, we had not seen each other for 4 1/2 months or had any other form of communication. Before he went back to work 4 1/2 months ago, he stayed the night at my place, but nothing happened between us. Just sleeping next to each other, I held around him a few times. So, I really do not chase him, I leave him alone and respect that he needs his space. In the 15 months that we got a bit closer, I’ve texted him a total of 3 times, emailed him 4 times and opened around 5 chats on FB with him. Thats all. I do not click “Like” or comment anything he does on FC, unlike a few of the other women he’s been with. I back off, get on with my own things.
3.
@Lucy: To answer your earlier post where you asked if I had told him that I do not like seeing him with other women. No, not really. I confronted him about it once in the heat of an argument. The other times I’ve made some comment about it there and then, but have then just pretended as everything is fine the next time I’ve seen him. The reason for not saying anything about it is because we’re not in a relationship and he can do what he wants. Remember, I told him he could be with whomever he wants a year ago. He’s doing just that, and I’m saying nothing because I don’t feel I have a right to do so. He’s also told me that he does not like expectations and that he’s never promised me anything. He started saying this after I told him I only wanted fun and games, nothing heavy. Also, I have been chatting, hugging and laughing with other guys in front of him. It’s not to flirt, but these are guys I know and can chat easily with. When it happened once, Virgo guy looked very serious and just walked off. I was doing the same thing the night we ended up having a really bad argument. I talked, laughed and hugged other guys, but only said hello from a distance to him. When I walked up to him 2 hours later, he seemed really annoyed all of a sudden (but could talk happily with every one else). What does this mean do you think?
4.
What I’m really interested in finding out is about his reaction last Saturday. Although we did not say hello or talk, he seemed like a big kid in a candy shop after I’d turned up. He was a bit exited. Came up right next to me at the bar when I was the only one sitting there. Took a detour and walked closely past me a few times to get to the bar. Charged past me and stood right next to and stared at the guy who was very touchy/feelly with me that night. Do you think this was just to show me that he has no problems being around me and that he doesn’t care. A bit like “Look, I can do all these things and not care about it”?
I would love to hear your advice and take on this. x
ITA Lucy. I have to come to understand that Virgo’s are not for the weak. If u want to be with one, you’d better be a strong independent woman to stay, or a strong independent woman willing to walk away if they can’t get their shit together.
I moved my virgo out of my bedroom and told him he can sleep alone in another room. And that I would not wait for him to get his shit together. he should have already known what he wanted before moving in together. Within a few days..he has done a complete 180. He knows me well enough to know i am not kidding! and he will loose me forever because he won’t get another chance. A chance with me he wanted for over 10 years! and i was willing to give him one. To take a 12 year friendship and turn it into a romantic partnership.
This does not mean I have become complacent. I have found they thrive on drama. On picking fights. They tear you down. Pick your battles! And know how to fight back. 🙂 Know what you are willing to live with and what you won’t. Compromise is a must and they will bend but you had better bend too. Space..they require it and you’d better get your own hobbies and let them have it. It’s not personal and they will be back. As a Cap, I am like this too. And CONTROL is their middle name. Yes, Cap’s can be controlling too but not like a Virgo! LOL
They don’t do this/act like this with friends.
Will this work for us? I don’t know. Its as simple as that. But we are both willing to try. And BOTH have to be on the same page! LOL
I’ll tell you what happened the last night..
We went out Monday night together and I subbed on his pool league. We had a greta time with his friends and new people we met. He mentioned he wanted to go out last night and asked if i wanted to go. I said, “No..wanted to do my own thing..you go and have fun.” 2hours go by and i asked him when he was leaving. he said he changed his mind. LOL (I knew he would) Why? 1. because he has decided we are a couple FINALLY. 2. Control.(she doesnt want to go and wants me to go alone. why???) 3. if he stayed out too late I’d be in bed and he wouldn’t get ‘any’ and its been awhile. LOLOLOL 4. the chase…go do your own thing and catch me later 😉 5. give them the freedom they want and let them decide if/when they want it.
@His Girl…I have pisces in venus. he lusts me sexually. physically i am attractive too…or should i say.. an attraction he finds appealing.
Tell him YOU aren’t playing games. Be a bitch. seriously. There is only one place i can have tender moments with my virgo and he too. That is in bed…in the cover of darkness. That is when he feels and shows vulnerability and doesn’t care if you do too.
Freaking walking contradiction..thats why his actions and words dont match. Start making them match. Mine has a tendency to put me down in the boob department. Don’t ask..lol. So i started saying..’your free to go find..” OR..’no one else ever found it an issue, so it must be you..” And he will turn it around and say he never meant it, etc. Turn his own games around on him. Call him out. Again..be a bitch. Its all mind games and you’d be ready to play. i never realized just how bitchy I could be! But as sick and twisted as it sounds, it works! LMAO
Luckycap…Well I told my virgo it was over and we live in the same house. It was only then that he stood up and took notice.HE HAS to make the DECISION HE WANTS IT. Period. And he knows my history. He knows me. he knows I will not wait for him regardless of how i feel for him. (I am cap/aqua cusp with Aries rising-you either hop on our bandwagonor we leave you in the dust..we only stick around for so long trying).
IMO..you need to ditch him totally. he isnt making much effort with you. You seem to be doing all the work. if he was into you, you’d be getting more of a response. trying to make you jealous..i get that all the time. never works cause i could care less..i live with him, they don’t. LOL
AHH but the moment any man makes a remark/flirts/just converses with me, the green-eyed monster comes out for him and he gets nasty! I just fluff it off and love on him so he feels secure 🙂
@Capbaby
Thanks for your input, and it’s really nice to hear from a fellow Capricorn, too! 🙂
Do you think that my Virgo is not making much effort because I said right from the start that I just wanted fun and games, nothing heavy and that he can be with whomever he wants as it’s nothing to do with me? Then I’ve been blowing hot and cold. A bit keen, then pulling away completely. I posted a song on FB in the summer (songs mean a lot to him) by Tracy Chapman called “You’re the one”. That night he announced on FB that he was at a local venue which I had said I might attend, also on FB, the day bafore. When I got there, I did not go up to him at all. I said hello from a distance, but chatted to others. He followed me around and stood near me more or less the whole night. After a couple of hours, he came up to me, looked me straight in the eyes with a half smile and said “I’m confused”.
He went trough a bad break up with his ex six months before we got a bit closer, and I know he’s very scared of rejection. Could this be a reason that he’s not giving much back, as he’s not sure what I’ve been feeling and what I want (also being on the rebound after coming out of a 20 year long relationship, and he know’s my ex a little bit).
I wonder if I perhaps have confused him quite a lot over the last 15 months with what I’ve said and done. What do you think from what I’ve explained above?
I’m so glad to hear that Virgos thrive on drama. I’ve heard from a few people that they hate it. However, this Virgo have almost seem to like it somehow. In fact, he’s instigated it a few times. He’s thrown his arms up in the air at a local pub and stormed out. When I’ve followed him and called his name, he stopped completely and had a huge smile on his face. During the big argument we had a month ago, again, he was smiling and it almost seemed like a game to him the whole time. We said some bad stuff to each other, shouted and bickered, but his eyes were never angry or really annoyed. In the middle of the whole s….t storm, he suddenly looked at me very tenderly, before we carried on. He physically lifted me outside his front door, but did not slam it. He just stood there in the door, looked at me with a gentle look and half a smile and said: “I have to deal with you in this way because you don’t listen to me”. No matter how many crap things we said to each other or what happened, it seemed to be some sort of game to him. He knew exactly which buttons to press.
As a Capricorn, I give as good as I get. I’m very scared of rejection and of getting hurt, but when I’m pressed or in the middle of an argument, I stand my ground. Then I’m not scared of telling him anything, and indeed I have told him a few home truths. I can take it and I give it back. But what I’ve said has mostly been to tell him that he can be and do better things. It’s meant in a good way.
I would love to hear what you think of this.
Tell him what you want and put the ball in his court.
they can be nosy people..into others business when they shouldnt be. Always trying to fix people. have the need to be needed all the time. Arguments are like forplay to them i swear. LOL
what is his astro chart like?
@Capbaby
“Arguments are like foreplay to them i swear. LOL”
I really hope you’re right! In the middle of the argument, when we stood pressed against each other looking into each other’s eyes calmly and tenderly for a moment, I thought: “The makeup-sex now would be out of this world!!” LOL!
His chart is:
Sun: Virgo
Moon: Capricorn
Venus: Virgo
Mars: Cancer
Saturn: Virgo
Uranus: Scorpio
Jupiter: Leo
I don’t have his exact time of birth, so don’t know his Ascendant (but I have a strong feeling it might be Taurus).
I’ll be fascinated to hear what you make of his chart 🙂
@capbaby
Okay well here is the latest devlopment, I talked to my virgo through txt tonight, he was telling me he had a bad day at work, and that when I said I was sorry, he said ty, I then asked him when we might see eachother again, he did not answer me, so I said okay… I take it you don’t want to see me again, and he said that we would see eachother sometime, I said umm okay.. then I said friday night, when we were together did I do something wrong? and he said NO, and I said ok just not into me then? and he replied some yes, and I said what is it that you don’t like and he said were not single… because we are both married in the legal sense of the word, but not physical, waiting on divorce… and he said I am starting to get serious, and then I said okay I understand, but what do you want me to do walk away?? and he said we should yes, I don’t get it, WTH is wrong if he likes me… and has some serious feelings, why walk away???
@ His Girl
Just walk away. How many setbacks do you need? You want it badly, and he doesn’t. It’s not worth it when one person is doing ALL the work. Let it go.
My dad always told me that I should believe the negative things men say about themselves and to be skeptical about what they say is the truth. I’ve noticed in your posts that you complain about his actions not being the same as his words. (From what I saw, both are pretty clear. I think they match, but you’re HOPING they don’t and you’re reading into it) But say his actions aren’t the same as his words. Really? You really want to put up with trying to decipher someone’s motives for x amount of years.
Pick yourself up and get away from that guy. Lucy is right, no amount of pushing is going to make someone change their mind. But I say, just drop him. If he wants to be confused about you, let him do it by himself.
I was speaking to this older Romanian lady and she has many male friends and colleagues. They ALL tell her that nothing would keep a man from the object of his affection (love, not lust or some fling when he’s bored). They said they will be all up in your face, your business, making sure that another man has no room to wiggle his way in.
All of these guys sound like limp dick befuddled idiots without backbones, who prey on women like you ladies to feel better about themselves. It’s time to love yourselves more than you love chases these fools.
@cap baby your post was fantastic spot on yes you have to keep your own identity friends hobbies your one isnt going anywhere the chase always has to be on always thats what they like i am an air sign i drive my husband mad here today elsewhere tomorrow he loves it if hes going out great if not great if im going out he even fixes my clothes lol they do not do clingy possesive controlling women my friend a scorpio was dating a virgo he felt suffocated she followed him everywhere dropped all her friends for him he dumped her my sister dated a virgo briefly wanted me time all the time he dumped her they want and need a strong independant woman not one waiting for them to provide the answers well done capbaby you have now got the virgo degree lol xxx
I love that my virgo paid more attn to me while on his date than he did to me alln week…even when I was really sick with the flu. Some think the date texting was an ego feed…and it could be..but I know he isn’t a big phone junkie-he wouldn’t be paying attn to the phone when w a friend, he doesn’t even with his roomie.
I sent one email laying out my expectations which I explained I’m mothering and since he’s pretty much alone in the states I pretty much find myself worrying worse than anyone than I would normally. I’m now backing off.
Anyways is
@quiche i am an older lady late 40s with 3 adult children one virgo son of 22 not necessarily my virgo husband watched me living with another virgo for 4years and still did not say a word although i never saw him with another woman in all those years his behaviour was the same as all these men he wasnt in my face didnt say a word i watch how my virgo son behaves with women charming then puff hes left them hanging he will even be intimate thats why i say sleeping with a virgo so early is a no no that doesnt make him want you even if he says he does it means nothing if you are weak they will walk all over you and wont care less if you move on as they know they can come back when they want which is a man thing regardless of their sign if my son starts talking about a girl my words are that wont last or he will be fed up soon and im always right as soon as they start giving too much he pulls back!!!
May i add if you see a virgo dating criticising you etc and you say nothing for fear of losing them you have already lost them virgos believe in self improvement even as a friend when i met my husband we were not in a relationship after i saw him out with another woman i told him when i spoke to him that type of behaviour is not acceptable we didnt argue we were having a normal conversation he read between the lines i have never to this day seen him with another woman evereven when i lived with another man if you allow certain types of behaviour without saying anything for fear of losing them he will continue i would rather lose the man and keep my respect and dignity communication is the key virgo men are not leaders they need leading if you are not the stronger one you will lose him to someone who is
@jess take a deep breath i tried to read it yesterday im on my way to the office will def answer today hun x
@Jess send it to my email crossley474@btinternet.com
@lucy
Reading through the resent posts I suddenly had a thought. I’m still married to my husband (on paper). Although we live in different countries, we are very good friends and chat often on the phone. I also still use my married name. Virgo guy knows all this. Do you think that will be off putting to a Virgo?
I’ve told him that me and my ex will never be back together in a relationship as we’re only suitable as friends, that we’re completely over the marriage and that we wants what’s best for one another.
I know relationships is sacred to the Virgo guy I’m dealing with. We had a discussion about it 6 months ago. He thinks that a couple should stay together no matter what, even if it means struggling. I told him that sometimes it’s better to move on and be happy if things are really bad in a relationship. His parents divorced when he was a teenager, which his sister told me really affected him. That coupled with his own long term relationship breaking up (they bought a place together) has probably affected him quite a bit. He also has a tendency to generalize (his own words).
What do you think?
I would also love to hear what you think about my earlier post to you (when you have time to read it).
x
@Lucy
I hear what you’re saying. I’ve seen you speak about your hubby on the Virgo bashing thread that was taken down and he seems like a doll compared to these guys. What I’m seeing is that some of these ladies are setting themselves up for failure. This “hit it and quit it” game isn’t just about Virgos. That is a male thing to do with women they don’t respect. I’m sorry, but most of these guys sound like jerks who aren’t worth the energy it takes to think about them.
I’m sorry, but if I started dating some Virgo (or any man) where it was necessary to bait and switch and scheme to keep his attention, I say screw him and move it along to a guy that actually says and does what he means. They do exist, I’ve seen ’em, trust me.
I actually had an encounter with a Virgo like that; who thought he could string me along. After the first time he tried that mess I said deuces, see you later, don’t wanna be your friend because I have enough real ones already. Pfft
And about your hubby now, he didn’t say a word to you, but he’s your husband now, correct? It sounds like y’all are turning into mothers before you have kids, honestly. I mean, if that’s something you like and/or don’t mind dealing with, then have at it, I guess.
What I’m saying is, no man that wants you will play games like these guys are doing. Of course there will be confusing before the confession of feelings, that happens all the time. But there is no way a person that loves you, wants you and respects you will treat you the way some of these guys are treating the ladies on this board. And if he does, he’s ego tripping.
@all
I sort of laid the lines out with my guy today. The thing is, he came to this country to aspire to continue his career from his country (which is now apart of the arab spring.) He was on the right track for a while and lost his job right before we met. He lied to me not only about his age that night but about the situation how he lost his job. Being that he’s on a student visa, he has to go through certain things to remain in this country and when he dumped me initially last year his situation was looking really bleak. His roommate told me that it wasn’t me it was that things were very hard for them right now. I am a gemini, i constantly feel like it is my duty to give my all to everyone, so I did what I could to help them and was often met with resitance and hositlity by the virgo. He told me i was forcing things on him and doing favors for him to brag about them, which was absolutely ridiculous., I told him I knew he wasn’t happy, I could tell by the look in his eyes that regardless of how he acted he was truly a very sad person, which he eventually admitted.
Fast forward to now, his situation has improved due to a scholarship he received from his government. I told him today that I was concerned about his lack of focus on his career, and that I wanted him to do what he came here for because I dont feel he will be happy if he doesnt. I explained dating and his lifestyle is causing him to lose focus and he should reconsider recentering his attention to his career, and all else can be worked on later. I explained that if he was happy this way that’s fine, but it is my fear that one day he’s going to have no choice but to go home and that would devastate me. I also told him how I am an american citizen, I have a good career, and how I offered him so many positive opportunities that he did not want. He told me to quit prying into his personal life. I tried to explain that it is in my nature to worry about people, and its just how I am.
So, I’m pretty sure I ticked him off. Do I carE? Eh, kind of. However, I have a very good instict in reading people. I know this man, and he doesn’t feel good enough for me (or, anyone for that matter.) Honestly that’s his own fault. I’ve struggled in my career, i just got back into work out of a lapse in employment…..however, I didn’t complain about it, or sulk like a big baby, I worked.
That is what I want from him, and i’ve explained that to him over and over. I told him I did not want any decisions on dating or love until he finished his studies in this country, and solidified his career. He has not done so, and i am not happy.
@quiche,
the basic problem with us women is that we want the man we like to be a reflection of our feelings which may not be the case. Virgo men do not play games though it appears to us that they do. Virgo men need their own time and space to “analyze” and there are a billion things running on his mind. every human being is wired in a different way. no two individuals are the same. you love someone for who they are respect them n give them the space they actually need. love is not about investing and expecting a return of it .lol.tht being said i do have a virgo friend who i had a major crush on exactly a year back. i was in the same love,hate,love,hate situation. but then he was too slow and since he didnt respond i moved on and found another man got into a nightmare of a relationship. cos this man who was a cancer-leo cusp though was giving me all the attention i needed initially(and which i was so missing from the virgo) but then slowly turned into a monster constantly having his suspicions on me wanting to check my phone,etc. it was horrible. while i was going through this, a day when things were worse, i rang the virgo and asked him if he could meet me. he was there. he knew all about it. it was surprisin actually cos a month back the abusive man had even rang the virgo up and asked him if we were still seeing each other and introduced himself as my boyfriend.lol. m out of the relationship with the abusive man but still friends with the virgo. he doesnt necessarily return my calls everytime. but i take him to be my good friend cos when noone was there he was which means a lot to me. thats the thing with virgos they would be there without judging you when you really need them.
@quiche totally agree i did not and would not put my life on hold my husband did not say a word he knew i was dating he even saw me he knew i was also he did not have the confidence so i moved on and yes i married him but i chose him he did not choose me ……………………jackie stop advising him stop helping him they hate that unless they really know you and trust you he thinks you want to change him they seem to lose focus spend too much time analysing situations gossipying and wasting time instead of getting the job done they are stubborn and do not listen their life is always twice as hard thats why i feel they are so moody because they do not listen you are not his mum let him be the man and work it out for himself let him make the mistakes with my husband i leave it he then goes quiet so i know when im right if you keep helping him and telling him hes gone virgos are there to serve they prefer weak needy women at first as thats how they are which they soon get bored of
@lucy I’m a very easy lover to please. But I’m a hard working person I hate whiny people. I hate that his reason for pushing me away is not loving me and not having anything to offer me (which is wrong) when its his own fault he has nothing to offer. I’m over it, I can’t be his mom j have a job, pets and health issues. I feel God will intervene
@cancergirl
You call it love, I call it being a doormat. I feel that too many women are TOO willing to change who they are to keep “their man.” That’s not healthy at all, imo.
And everybody plays games, whether we like to admit it or not. It’s a matter of the extent and for what reasons. These dudes are playing games, and so are the women by coming here for advice to help them “see that she’s the perfect girl for him.”
@all
Sorry for being so harsh (sorta, I’m a Sag), but this forum really irks me. I just wish some of the ladies here would stand their ground and say cut the BS or I’m outta here!
@ quiche,
noone here said anything about changing yourself for any man. all that is being discussed here in this forum is how to help you deal with a virgo man and what most of us say here is to be less focussed on your man and deal with your life,carrer,interests and tht he will come along. if you expect him to shower you with all the attention u need well tht cannot happen. this is what is the point being said here.
And the title of the forum is “how do you know if a virgo man likes you” if it irks you i suggest you get off from it and empty your anger someplace else.
Maybe you should pay closer attention to what the ladies are saying and what they’re willing to put up with. I know the name of the forum, thanks, been on here for over a year.
@quiche,
its pretty rough to take ur anger out on the women who come here for help or who offer help.suggest you take it light and understand where each of us is coming from. Cos as i said, no two individuals are wired the same way and its best to respect everyone`s advice/opinion and take what u think might actually help you.Cos at the end of the day, it you who is going to make life decisions.
I started the conversation with you cos i felt you were really angry at something and shared an experience with you on how a virgo man was actually there for me when i needed a shoulder. Not all men are evil.Hope is what drives me everyday.Wish you luck.
I have nothing against you or the other ladies here. I don’t know you. Just shaking my head at the same old nonsense going on 5 years later and laughing when any sane advice (besides you lucy) gets ignored time and time again. And I know not all men are evil. Been around and with some really sweet ones, and in MY opinion, from what the ladies describe, most of these guys ain’t it. That’s my opinion, so you don’t have to be condescending about it.
Girls, Why entertain men that are obviously just playing with your head emotionally. This is not down to a virgo man, but down to men in general. You cannot possibly blame a star sign for the way a man acts? Have more self esteem, more self worth than to question and agonise over a man who clearly is not interested. @ Lucy, your help to all these girls is fantastic, but you are taking this on your own experience with a man who clearly loves you and you have known for years and years.
We have all had these experiences, but to place on a star sign alone is hideous. Read through all posts from every star sign, they all have the same starts and beginnings. Men are men, we were never put on this planet to understand them.
You can pour your heart out on here, even phone a pyschic.. but they will never give you the answer you are craving for……
Cancergirl & quiche,
You are both amazing. The problem is …sometimes we just misunderstand other’s
point of view.. I like up front people yes it would hurt us deeply but a wise woman
always takes it lightly and in some way it adds to her knowledge.
The bottom line It’s hard to understand men when they are not into a relationship.
we kept complaining but the real answer is that within ourselves.. cuz we know when a man falls in
love he can make our world wide..no pain and less heartaches…it’s just happiness and peace.
This forum will teach you on how to figure out virgo men…
Thing is regardless of race or religion all virgo men act the same i have lived with 2 work with many have many family members i read and study them and they all act the same great in the beginning then like everything else then they lose interest in it they blow hot and cold do not show emotion can be mean and selfish when worried but not mean to themselves lol deep down they have good hearts they worry what people think of them how people percieve them too much or too little emotion turns them off you have to know them inside out when they need their space when they are worried to be able to read between the lines they value honesty they want perfection because thats everything they are not no one is perfect but do not change for them my they are not stupid very smart and hate arguing they want an independant woman who is not waiting for them to make their life better who keeps herself immaculate at all times who is discreet and keeps their friendship private leave the gossipying to them
Also no matter how beautiful you are how much you help him how much you sleep with them if he isnt ready he just isnt a virgo will not commit until he is ready it takes longer than a few months or a few years no matter what he says if he asks you how you feel tell the truth if you feel like dating do so as until he makes up his mind he will be dating do not put your life on hold for him because he hasnt asked you to a lot of times they tell you what they think you want to hear then behave differently do not put your life on hold they like the chase if he isnt chasing its because he doesnt want to and has found something else to interest him
Lucy
My Virgo knows I love and care for him and hate that he is “dating.” I’ve decided to back off because he has been standoffish with me which generally means somethkngs wrong and I’m hurt he is claiming to date. What next? Sorry for typos I’m on my phone
Jackie,
cuz you give him much and he had enough…
moving on is such a healing process and that could be for better..
If he chase..you won.
if he ain’t do that..enough for you to move on.
wish you joy…enough for you troubles..
@jackie thats the whole point you are not his mother if you keep giving to a man and he isnt giving you anything in return why keep giving he doesnt respect you otherwise he wouldnt keep dating others in front of your face hes doing it because he knows he can get away with it remember he didnt ask you for guidance or help you chose to offer it he isnt at that stage with you yet when he feels comfortable enough to ask for help virgo men are difficult selfish but they can be changed like i said my husband never let me see him with another woman i would not stand for it my pride alone virgo men get bored easily they like the chase once its over they are gone its for you to keep the chase up even after commitment jobs people relationships they start off well but lose interest once the thrill is over they will keep you dangling telling you what you want to hear making you think that there is more to come when there isnt then they will vanish as something better has come along you have told him now leave him be
That’s just it; I’ve never seen him with another woman hd only tells me. The first time i caught him bold faced lying. This time I’m almost certain he’s lying or exaggerating the relationship.
When we dated, I didn’t know we were dating til he dumped me. It was going really awesome til I sent a text message about a guy at work being cute (the text was not meant for him, I made a mistake. ) he swore that wasn’t the problem but j feel deep down it was. Then his life started going to crap.
Ive been reading the conversations on here for a while as my new Interest after nine yesrs of being with a pisces is a Virgo man. We’ve been on a date a few weeks ago and it was brill, he made small but sweet touching my leg gestures, held me in his coat to keep
Me warm when we waited for a taxi, kisses me gently on the lips before he went and text me after ten minutes of leaving to say he thinks that I’m hot!! Trouble is I’m a cancer (albeit a hurt so rather defensive one) and so, being with a Pisces for so long, I’m used to shows of affection and the rush to meet up again, I know my new Virgo is busy and I have made a point of not txtn anymore than to say hi in a morning and leave him to it!! He always txts me back when he can and txts me off his own back to say goodnight!! Is this the right thing to do?? Because you guys on here say let him chase?? Blinking ink this dating lark is so hard after being out the game for so long!! Would appreciate any advice from those that know the Virgo world better than I :o) x
Ive been reading the conversations on here for a while as my new Interest after nine years of being with a pisces is a Virgo man. We’ve been on a date a few weeks ago and it was brill, he made small but sweet touching my leg gestures, held me in his coat to keep
Me warm when we waited for a taxi, kissed me gently on the lips before he went and text me after ten minutes of leaving to say he thinks that I’m hot!! Trouble is I’m a cancer (albeit a hurt so rather defensive one) and so, being with a Pisces for so long, I’m used to shows of affection and the rush to meet up again, I know my new Virgo is busy and I have made a point of not txtn anymore than to say hi in a morning and leave him to it!! He always txts me back when he can and txts me off his own back to say goodnight!! Is this the right thing to do?? Because you guys on here say let him chase?? Gosh this dating lark is so hard after being out the game for so long!! Would appreciate any advice from those that know the Virgo world better than I :o) x
My advice is keep being yourself, but never get too comfortable with a virgo. Mine is so freaking hot and cold its INSANE. When we first started dating he did the same chivalrous stuff, and always had me on cloud nine. Then he just flipped and said yeah, nevermind. Then he came back into my life and its been like this for a year and a half. He has been consistent in telling me he wants me to move on and find someone else and not to wait for him, that he doesn’t love me, and that there is no connection. However, when approached by a friend of mine once about his feelings for me (keep in mind we were at a nightclub at 2am) he really gave off a totally opposite vibe. his words and his actions NEVER match. When we aren’t on good terms, I severl times asked him to avoid going to the place we met so that I could have a good time and meet someone else…..he’d show up and stare at me all night. My advice after dating this guy has been to live every day like its your last with everyone and everything. Everytime I’m with my virgo I know it may be the last day I talk to him again. I’m not trying to be a negative nancy here, each person is different, just take heed that if your virgo does flip the script like that then you should try not to be offended and take it in stride.
It’s because loving a virgo man takes time atleast you as a woman has
a power to keep him interested by flirting with him at work.
don’t do it everyday atleast you know how to manage it…
the more you give him humuor and a happy relationship
with you…there’s no reason why you can’t keep him.
I still love my ex virgo…I broke his heart..so is mine…
Jennyans,
Don’t approach it too personal.
I maybe harsh but brutal honesty would make you feel better and not to regret it later.
Virgo men are nice …ohh who can resist these good looking guys…
I mean..Dont give much attention to him..he will come around as long as he wanted to.
He will tell all his promises to you as long as he is still interested..wow..all men are like that.
It must be your Beauty & brain…avoid being a cheapy lady.
Jennyann my advice is relax be his mate dont push for meetings dates or intimacy let him lead cancerians can be clingy albeit a hurt one who was used to having a pisces around her all the time when he goes missing its him trying to regain control do not chase him down let him be do not play games as they are not silly avoid drama at all costs keep it light and friendly let him decide to take the next step but do not sit waiting for him and keep your friendship extremely private talk to friends if you want but do not let your friends talk to him they hate that my husband and virgo ex are very private in what we say and who to see him as a friend keep it light and happy as they are so uptight so will always run to someone who makes them happy always tell him the truth if he asks just no games dont try to show him what a great catch you are etc he has to decide that in his own time patience is needed with him just be his friend ………great post marie spot on