I’ve been simply exhausted from so many Mercury influences in my life: The Moon transiting my Gemini planets early this week; transiting Saturn in my third house; transiting Mercury in my 11th house of hopes and wishes. Where am I going? What am I doing? Who am I meeting? Is this it? Needless to say, I have not been able to sleep.

I decided to finish up the book AquaStell lent me. Consequently, I was thinking about him. Not that I need a reason, really. I texted him (because I am the monster texter, I know) telling him how much I enjoyed the book. With all the Mercury stimulation, I just needed to talk to him. He said he was glad that I enjoyed it, that Victor Hugo is one of his favorite authors. I then asked him how he felt about Dostoyevsky and a couple other authors, and after some back and forth I decided to ask him, ”Do you still write music?”

I had been meaning to ask him that question for a while already, but I was always distracted from it. Whenever we’ve spoken or gotten together, he asks me about my writing, and I get so excited about being able to talk to someone about it that my Mercury in Gemini takes over and I go on and on, and I forget about him! I know music is really important to him, it was the reason he moved to New York, to pursue it.

He responded, “I gave it up. I couldn’t get my skills where I wanted them. It was really hard to let go.”

Oh, my maternal Cancer rising melted into the biggest pile of mush. I wanted to grab him and console him, give him a big bowl of vanilla ice cream and tell him how wonderful he was and how he should keep on trying no matter what. But my Aqua Moon decided it’d be best to show controlled sympathy:

“I can imagine it being hard to let go; it’s like an extension of you. Maybe you will go back to it later,” I wrote.

“Maybe,” he responded.

I had been sensing something different about him lately. I didn’t want to let my Gemini placements overthink it, or talk myself into believing something is terribly wrong. But at this point, my Cancer intuition is pushing me to acknowledge that something is different. Ever since I met him, he’s had a way of glossing over any topic that could potentially open him up emotionally. We spoke about his parents divorcing when he was 21, and he followed it with a sarcastic, “I was old enough to deal with it.” When something would go wrong at work, I would ask him how he was feeling about it, attempting to get him to vent to me or something. But he would always say, “I fixed it all. I feel like superman, again,” and that would be it. If I asked him just a simple, “How have you been?” he’d say “Great!” but now it has become, “I’ve had some ups and downs.” And his music, I did not expect him to say that he gave it up! I know that just a year ago he was still playing and writing music, it is not like he gave it up five or ten years ago. What’s happened? I never sensed as much emotion in anything he’d said to me than when he spoke about giving up his music. Sigh. It is probably nothing major; the transits have been rough on all of us lately, right? I just wish we could talk more about those things that are lurking in his head. That’s when I remind myself that he is AquaStell.

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Last week, Uranus exactly squared my natal 12th house Venus in Gemini. I have been waiting for the unveiling of this event for over a month already. All things pointed to something hidden being revealed. I thought it was I who was hiding something, as I had been dating Mr. Capricorn and Mr. Aquarius at the same time. Dating more than one guy was acceptable to me because Mr. Aquarius wanted to keep our relationship open, and I also wanted to take my time. While Venus was retrograde and Mr. AquaStell came back around, Mr. Aquarius’ disappearing acts and arm’s length interactions became unappealing. Still, I reunited with him last week, only to have his secrets revealed.

Mr. Aquarius insisted he pick me up from work and take me out to dinner late last week. After dinner, we made our way to his house to watch a movie. I excused myself to use the bathroom. I noticed there was no toilet tissue, so I made my way to his cabinet beneath the sink. I didn’t see any toilet paper. I was about to close the cabinet doors when I spotted a pink shower cap. That’s funny, I thought. I pulled it out and decided I would walk out of the bathroom wearing it and make fun of him for having a pink shower cap … and that’s when I spotted the tampons. What?! Tampons?! Then I saw a Sephora bag with a hair brush poking out of it. Right beside it were two Skintimate shaving gel cans. I didn’t touch anything. I wish I could write that my Cancer ascendant took over and began to weep, or that my Scorpio Mars threw all the contents of that Sephora bag in Mr. Aquarius’ face in a passionate frenzy. But I didn’t. We had been dating, but we weren’t committed to each other. Sure, at some point I really thought something could happen with Mr. Aquarius. And now it made sense why he kept me at a distance and disappointed me all those times — why he didn’t care if I met his friends or not, or if I felt uncomfortable with the whole Janice situation — because he never had any intention to fully allow me into his life. I thought back to the first person he mentioned to me when we were on our first date — his Scorpio ex, someone he dated for eight years but was supposedly not speaking to any longer. I need to think about all this, register it all, I thought. I told Mr. Aquarius I had forgotten I had to finish a project for work before the night was over. I took a cab home.

Saturn is retrograding through my third house of communication, forcing me to really examine my communication style, or lack thereof. I am not the best at sharing my feelings. Even as a kid, the minute I felt someone would question my feelings or push them to the side — as my mother did — I shut down. I have my natal Saturn in the fourth house, which can relate to difficulty with a parent. I am finding that my lack of communication with my mother (my father passed away when I was four) is really affecting how I communicate in my intimate relationships. That’s the cycle of life, right? Add my Cancer ascendant, and I become guarded with my feelings. Throw my Aqua Moon into the mix, and I have to say that I am not always sure about what I feel.

The next morning I sent Mr. Aquarius a text message: “Why do you have a pink shower cap and tampons under your sink?”

He replied, “They have been there for a while, they are my ex’s.”

“Then she is still coming over?” I ask.

“No, that is why she is my ex.”

“Why would you keep them for so long if she is no longer coming over? You wouldn’t keep something so personal under your sink unless it was still needed.”

And no response after that.

I am not exactly proud about how I handled the situation. I probably should have done it in person, you know, the right way. But what for? Why expend that energy on something I had already decided was not working for me? I simply appreciate that the Universe was giving me an opportunity to find out the truth.

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Venus retrograded back into Pisces over the weekend, and thank goodness for that — I needed a break from Venus in Aries! With transiting Uranus in Pisces getting closer and closer to squaring my Sun and Venus — creating a bit of chaos in all the little details of my life — I was a bit shook up last week when I received a call from Mr. Aquarius. Consequently, I picked up the phone.

“Wow, I was getting ready to leave you a really long message. I’m really surprised you picked up!” he said. And relieved to be talking to someone who I could find comfort with, I told him everything that was going wrong in my life. How I lost my ID, my credit cards, my cash, my metro card and how I was taking coins from my piggy bank to find my way to work. How I had attempted to file my taxes online and it came back in error saying that my birth date was incorrect, even though it is the same date I’ve been using since I was capable of writing it down. How I almost made a $100,000 mistake at work, and how it was all consuming me, leaving me little mental space to do my writing. Of course he made his little jokes, “You shouldn’t have left me!” he said. “You are falling apart without me!” All I could do was chuckle. Maybe he was right, my broken little Cancer Rising thought. I need a rescue!

That night with the Full Moon in Libra in his 7th house of partnerships, he called and invited me to meet him for drinks at a lounge. The Moon was squaring my Ascendant from my 4th house, and I honestly preferred to stay home and dwell. He called back and insisted, and since I had been feeling particularly beaten up, I figured a drink and some company was probably what I needed. I joined him for drinks, conversation and dinner. It was a good night. He had reached out to me just when I was in need for some pick me up.

The Other Woman

The Moon in Scorpio on Saturday, trining his Venus and my Ascendant, facilitated more interaction. He said his friend, who we will call Janice, had a church performance he was going to attend, and after that we could meet up. This is the first time I will speak of Janice. I’ve known of this friend Janice since I first met him. Aquarians are extremely loyal and very protective of their friends, so I am aware that someone like Janice is going to mean a lot to him. With an Aquarius Moon, I’ve learned to listen to people without judgment (sometimes without speaking). People usually react to this by revealing a lot about themselves, as they feel at ease. I’ve always kept this Janice friend in the back of my mind, but never reacted jealously. I wanted to know as much as I could before I came to any conclusions. I remember him mentioning in January, when we first started dating, “Yeah, I just came back from surprising my friend Janice at her school [she’s a teacher] … paid her a visit.” Note to self. Once, he received a text in the middle of one of our dates and he told me Janice had texted, telling him that she had received a job offer that would consume her time completely, and wanted his opinion on whether she should take it. This was during the time when I would text him without a reply ’til the next day. Mental note. His birthday, he spent with Janice. Mental note. He also recently told me that he and a coworker would soon be visiting her school to do a presentation for her students — he’s a firefighter. Mental note. On Saturday, he told me he’s going to her performance. Later that night, we started talking about astrology and he told me that Janice is a Sag, then casually added he’d always thought a Sag would be a good match for him. Then this morning he texted me her stats and asked if I could look up her chart. For curiosity’s sake, she’s a Sag with a Leo Moon and Rising, with several Earth placements. Granted, he said they grew up together, known each other for 15 years, yada yada. Friends are important; no one knows this more than I. But I think there’s something more there. If I needed a reminder as to why things couldn’t work out between he and I, that’s it.

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While the Moon in Cancer transited my first house, it was transiting Mr. Aquarius’ fifth house of pleasure. Needless to say, I received a fair amount of drunken texting that night. I didn’t ignore him. I thanked him for the poem he texted — as he said it was an original — but nothing more. My Cappy was busy over the weekend with an audition and Aqua Stell — well, he was probably busy, too. With the Moon in Leo over the weekend transiting my second house of money, possessions and self-worth, I decided it was best to stay in. I committed to my budget (ahem, for the weekend) as I’ve needed to compensate for my Air sign propensity to socialize with my paycheck — indulging my detached, half-committed sorrows in Mojitos and buying rounds at birthday parties.

Venus retrograde transiting through my tenth house of career has been showing obvious effects. My workload has doubled and my personal time is spent half awake and in bed with books. Also, the Taurus I’ve had a sporadic crush on at work, well, turns out he has a girlfriend. Of course he does! He casually mentioned it to a coworker. (I’m so greedy — it’s not like I don’t have enough going on, right? Grrr.) I don’t usually go for earth signs, let a lone a Taurus (no offense, they just come off cheap to my generous Air placements) but lately it seems that I’ve been going for the grounded type. Even Mr. Aquarius had Moon conjunct Mars in Capricorn, which I found appealing — at least until I could literally see him struggling with the conjunction’s semi-sextile to his Aqua Sun. Even Aqua Stellium is grounded — just in love with his freedom at the same time.

I keep thinking about Aqua Stellium, and while I long to speak and hang out with him (and he actually has given me an excuse to contact him with the book), I’m afraid to reach out to him now more than ever. I keep thinking about it. I honestly don’t know what I’m afraid of, because I’m not afraid of my feelings for him anymore. At least I don’t think so.

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Mr. Aquarius and I officially broke it off on the day of the Aries New Moon — a perfect planetary introduction to new beginnings (or endings that lead to beginnings) which smoothed the transition into what I had been leaning towards for the past two weeks. In our last conversation, he brought up my detachment and opened the door for me to voice my decision. I explained that I had grown uncomfortable with certain aspects of our “relationship” and preferred to move on. He said he would miss me and that he’d be there if I needed anything. I hate goodbyes, but I knew that I had already mentally decided to move forward. Putting my Cancer rising to the side, we parted ways. Avoiding any dwelling, I changed and met up with friends for a birthday party later that evening.

My cell phone buzzed on Saturday morning, and with a tightening in my chest I saw it was Aqua Stellium on the line. He invited me over for breakfast. Sure, why not? I met him in the city at his apartment as he was just walking in from grocery shopping. After a six floor walk up, I helped him set the table. Out of his bag he pulled out strawberries, raspberries, melon, bananas, fruit juice and ice cream. He brought over two plates and two champagne glasses. We sat beside each other, and with a kiss on the cheek, we served each other breakfast.

In typical Aquarius-Gemini fashion, I read a chapter of the most recent book I’m reading out loud to him, by his request, while we cuddled on his love seat. He later pulled out two books from his shelf and said, “If you want to be a writer, you need to read Victor Hugo,” and I slipped them into my purse. There was playful teasing, poking, caressing, and a light strike of a pillow across my face. I thought it interesting that he offered to lend me the books, as he had only last done so when we worked for the same company and saw each other everyday. Prior to our last interaction, we hadn’t seen each other for five months — maybe two weeks in Aquarius time. I almost believed I wouldn’t see him again — let alone share books, as it would imply meeting in the near future — and I figured that would be too much commitment for an Aqua! It felt great to be with him, especially to feel that we had grown closer — as close as you can get to an Aqua stellium. However, I felt apprehensive despite how positive our time together was. The thing is, the last time I felt close to him, he took his space. At this point, I am not sure if my Aquarius Moon has learned to be numb to him and to detach from his sweet gestures, recognizing that he would not hesitate to disappear for another six months. Or if my Mars in Scorpio secretly resents him for doing as he pleases. I can’t figure it out.

I know we cannot be together for many reasons, and I am not yet the woman I want to be. He is almost eleven years my senior, and I have a lot of goals I have yet to achieve before I could be with someone like him. So why bother trying to figure out how he feels about me, right? Sigh. And maybe with transiting Venus in Aries, along with many of the planets transiting my relationship houses, I am becoming more and more aware of my needs in relation to others, and no longer hesitating to truly explore those needs. Aqua Stellium will always represent this aching possibility of who I want to become, but I feel like my attachment has much to do with projecting my dreams onto him, as if he will lead me there. I hate it when I do that.

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Next week, Pensive Gemini lays low, thinking about Aqua Stellium and a Taurus at work.

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I have to say I am stumped. While Venus retrograde has been helping me reevaluate what I have going on in my relationships, some things just keep coming back. The Aquarius keeps calling and leaving messages and texts even after I tried to ignore him. I don’t want to behave like a child, so I respond occasionally, assuming I have already made myself clear regarding the end of our “relationship.” Then on Saturday, as I was having a pleasant lunch with my Capricorn, I received a text from Mr. Aquarius: “You are not responding… did you dump me again?” (The Moon — planet of emotional needs — was in Aquarius, stimulating my Moon and Aqua’s Sun.) When did I take you back?! I didn’t want to call him; I was spending the day with someone else! And honestly, why respond to something so childish?!

Then, my Cap — exhausted from working double shifts all week — took a three hour nap on my couch in the middle of The Fifth Element, one of our favorite movies. My Cancer Rising knew all along he would be tired and would need a nap, and while I could have woken him up without a complaint, I wanted him to rest.

A little Gemini restless, I attempted to distract myself by surfing the internet. To no avail, I decided to respond to Mr. Aquarius’ texts and say, “What are you talking about?” Okay, now I know what you are all saying: “Why did you respond??” I have to say that while I am a little uneasy about him freaking out and showing up at my doorstep — he’s just so unpredictable — that’s not why I responded. Allowing my Aqua Moon to analyze my motives and emotions, I contemplated, maybe it’s my Cancer Rising that makes me an enabler to his neediness? However, I have a feeling it’s mostly all the Gemini (Sun, Mercury, Venus, North Node) in me that becomes restless and doesn’t stick to her plan. Did I text because I was concerned about his feelings? No. Did I text because I want to see him again? No. Did I respond because I felt guilty? No. I responded because I was BORED. Pretty silly, but at least I can understand myself enough to know that it’s not because I secretly want him back. Frankly, I’m tired of his antics, but with the attention span of a fish, I get sucked in to whatever is entertaining at the moment.

I am working on it, trust me.

Mr. Aquarius attempted to contact me the next day. Regretting that I responded to him at all, I ignored the call. I get so mad at myself sometimes; this is why Geminis come off so fickle! I wish I could be as blunt as an Earth sign and just cut straight to the point. I would avoid so much of the back and forth.

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With Venus in Aries retrograding, like clockwork I have been reexamining my habits and expectations in my relationships. Because of all the Air in my chart, I tend to be a “go with the flow” kind of person with others, typically calm and patient, occasionally interrupted by the needs of my Cancer rising. However, I am not a kid anymore, and I now know what I want and what I need — and I’ve learned that I have to speak up much more and ask for what I want. Mars, Jupiter and Neptune are transiting my 8th house of sex and transformation, and it is no surprise that intimacy and relationships consume my mind every day. I don’t want to make the wrong choices. I want to grow, but change should be progressive.

Mr. Aqua has been demanding more of my time and trust. Although he is as yet unwilling to build that trust, he expects me to give it. I try not to be negative or think the worst, but at the very least it’s not sitting well with my Cancer intuition — and that’s one thing I’ve learned to trust over the years. For me, whenever things are going wrong in one relationship, I think back to when they felt right. For the past two weeks, I have been thinking about a man with a stellium in Aquarius, someone I had a distinctive, unconventional and friendly romance with while Pluto in Sagittarius was transiting my 5th house of creativity and pleasure. He left the most positive impression on me and my creative future. His Moon is in Aries conjunct Venus retrograde, and while I had decided to let him go and hadn’t spoken to him in three months, I kept aching to contact him. I wanted to feel the way that I felt when I spoke to him about my plans, about the book I last read, about writing — about passion.

I was out with a girlfriend, and after a glass of wine (or two) I messaged Aqua Stellium. To my surprise, he quickly messaged back … and then a call was in order. An hour later, he showed up to keep my friend and I company. I couldn’t believe how random it was. I couldn’t believe my friend was meeting the guy I had spent almost two years gushing about! We had drinks, enjoyed the band and conversation, and even hopped over to another bar with a live salsa band playing. Once my friend decided to go home, he and I stayed behind to talk. We didn’t address anything regarding how long it had been since we last spoke — just caught up and enjoyed each other’s company. Talking to him took me to a piece of my recent past that I had been neglecting since the year started. I figured out what had been bothering me. I wasn’t being inspired by my relationships and interactions, and with my Moon in my 7th house of partnerships, I couldn’t survive without that nourishment.

I started thinking about who I was neglecting and why. Capricorn didn’t deserve my negligence, and Mr. Aquarius didn’t deserve my attention. I started my Saturday watching a PBS Special “Broadway: The Golden Era,” and knew that it was something I could only share with my Capricorn. Between seeing Aqua Stellium and being reminded of what’s important to me right now — my spiritual and creative growth — I decided I needed to be surrounded by people who support and inspire me, not people who stress me out. I spent the rest of my Saturday with Capricorn, and without a complaint and only a smile on his face, we spent the day watching movies and comedy shows. There was no conflict, just enjoyment. My 12th house Sun and Venus felt stimulated simply by the positive energy.

As of right now, I told Mr. Aquarius I need my space. He’s messaging me and calling, but I have work to do. I can’t give him the attention he needs right now. I need to concentrate on me again.

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I had been observing that my Aqua and I tend to meet up during the week, but not the weekends. The Moon was inTaurus that night, opposing my Mars in Scorpio and squaring my Moon in the 7th house. His negligence was affecting me, and I went for it — I texted Mr. Aqua, “How come we never see each other on the weekends?” and the next day he called and said he hadn’t really noticed that we didn’t hang out on the weekends (typical!). With his Mercury in Aquarius, he proceeded to clarify his boundaries with one simple question: “Do you think we are official?” He caught me off guard. He went on to say that he cares about me and he feels that I care about him, that he doesn’t want us to hurt each other by not being honest. He said he enjoys the pace at which we are taking things, and about anything else, he is not sure yet. I was confused. I thought we were getting closer? Whenever someone confronts me in any way, I feel the pull between my Cancer rising and my Aquarius Moon, wanting to run and hide and yet trying to harness my feelings reasonably. I wasn’t sure what I’d be fighting against if I reacted emotionally. I didn’t contest. I told him I agreed that the pace was fine.

The next day, he and I were supposed to meet up, but the weather was bad and we (or he!) rescheduled for Wednesday. Then on Wednesday, he said that he didn’t feel too well and preferred to stay home. I analyzed what that could mean. Was he trying to pull away? Completely pushing aside the Gemini thought process and taking heated Scorpio action, I messaged him, “After Sunday’s talk, Monday’s cancellation and today’s excuse, I feel it is best to remove myself from this situation. I appreciate you very much but I need something with possibility.” I went off shopping, attempting to distract myself from overthinking, backtracking and regretting anything. I received a call from Mr. Aquarius. I didn’t pick up. He then texted, “I don’t want to talk via text … pick up please.” I decided to call.

Without being able to get a word in, he began, “Are you busy? Are you out? You sound like you’re out; if you want I can call you back later? I don’t want to bother you if you are out. Should we talk later, or do you want to talk?”

He went on and on apologizing and asking me if he should call later.

“I just don’t get it … should I put up a fight? What did you get from Sunday’s talk?” he asked.

I wasn’t talking to Mr. Aquarius anymore; I was relieved to be receiving a call from his Pisces Venus — that’s when my Cancer rising opened up: “I was just confused about why you would want me around if you’re canceling on me and also making it clear that we are not exclusive … I felt like maybe you were trying to brush me off,” I said.

“If I weren’t interested, you would know … trust me, you would know. What’s going on? I thought we were getting closer,” he said.

“I thought we were getting closer, too! But then you go out of your way to make it clear that we’re not official, that you enjoy the pace, and then you cancel on me twice. I don’t want to play any games or be played with,” I told him, and we vacillated between defending our Aquarius and Gemini points of view, and reassuring his Pisces rising and my Cancer rising that we are still interested.

Not much changed after the talk (we were exhausted by all the emotion! We’re still Air signs, you know) and we still talk and hang out as usual. I felt better after hearing his nervous voice over the phone, acknowledging that he felt we were getting closer. I guess I just wanted to know if he cared if I was around. However, now I’m not sure if I’m okay with the pace.

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Ever dated two people at the same time? Well, I haven’t, at least not until now. I met an Aquarius a couple weeks ago and a Capricorn soon after. They are both completely different, but both appeal to a significant element of who I am and what I enjoy.

With the Aquarius, it was instant attraction. He’s tall, handsome, a firefighter (!!), the confidence of an Aqua but the down-to-earth demeanor of an Earth Moon. I met him at a lounge on the LES while I was out with a girlfriend. His approach was gallant, introducing himself by offering his hand and his name, and excusing himself for being so forward. He was cool and debonair, having the bartender serve me a drink in his name while he interacted with others around me. Mr. Aqua gave me his card, and I gave him my number. Throughout the night, we exchanged texts while sitting just a couple feet away from each other. Nothing less than memorable with an Aquarius! He was so charming, I had to choose only the best adjectives to describe our encounter.

With the Capricorn guy, it was less instant attraction, but more fun and play. I met him while joining my Cancer friend on a short road trip somewhere in deep Jersey to meet up with the Virgo Moon guy she’s been “talking” to (but its taking them forever to get anywhere! Don’t get me started on Virgos.) Mr. Capricorn is very outspoken and talkative, breaks into dance moves in the middle of the street if he hears a song (he’s an awesome dancer), and has something to say about just about everything he observes. And me, being the witty Gem Mercury that I am, has to call him out on his loud comments, rebut with my own sarcasm, tease him about his observations, and question his theories. I thought he would hate me. But we just went back and forth with our flirtatious teasing. Behind all his sarcasm, he was detailed enough to hold doors, say “yes ma’am” and limit his teasing when I gave him a look. (This is all within hours of knowing each other.) I hadn’t considered getting to know him or talking to him after leaving Jersey, but my friend played matchmaker and gave me his number, saying that the Capricorn wanted to see me again.

On the phone with Capricorn and Aquarius

Now I’ve never juggled two guys before but hey, I’m single and free and not committed to either. Besides, my North Node is in Gemini and I am supposed to strive to satisfy the Gemini in me — and what better way than to date a guy for each twin! (I kid!) In all seriousness, the good thing is that while Mr. Aquarius is out and about and too busy to call or return my calls, Mr. Capricorn is attentive and thoughtful. He sends me texts throughout the day to say hello, and asks how my day is going. Mr. Aquarius calls when I least expect him to, and it usually leads to an unplanned meeting an hour later. I have to say that Aquarius’ spontaneity is incredibly romantic. On two occasions, he’s met me at work during my lunch hour to take me out for a bite. Once, he called and asked if I could come down for a hug. He had stopped by just for that! (All together now — Awww.) I love spontaneity! Mr. Capricorn prefers to plan and likes to find out first if I have anything set up for the weekend before he asks if I’m up to see a particular movie, if I’d enjoy a play (he’s an aspiring actor), or if there’s something else I’d like to do. So we make plans. I’m totally cool with the planning, because I get to fantasize about it later! He’s not usually the one to initiate something spontaneous, but he’s definitely down if I suggest something.

At least three times so far, Mr. Aquarius has texted inquiring what I’m up to while I’ve been at a party or lounge with friends. He’s then asked if he could stop by and see me (the man has GPS on his car and there’s just no stopping him!) Sure enough, he shows up to party with me, as well as people he’s never met before — my friends think he’s so cool for that, by the way. If I don’t pick up Mr. Capricorn’s calls, his Aqua Moon gives me my space and lets me get back to him. If I don’t pick up Mr. Aqua’s calls, he calls my work phone or leaves me messages on my voicemail like, “I feel like I’m stalking you … but I just want to know if everything is okay.” What’s that about? I’m thinking that’s his Pisces Rising — not always getting that I’m just a bit busy.

Freedom vs. Security

As of right now, I feel they both have something that I want. Aquarius’ spontaneity is exhilarating; I definitely don’t mind the popping out of nowhere. What I do mind is that it all happens on his time. The Capricorn’s attentiveness is awesome. He is literally always there when I need him. When a good friend of mine passed away last month, Mr. Aquarius was unreachable — although in his defense he did check up on me … on his time, of course. Mr. Capricorn was there when I called — major brownie points. However, then there’s security. Mr. Aquarius appeals to my Cancer rising. He has his career together, his own place, his own car, his own stuff, his own life. Mr. Capricorn got a bit too comfortable too soon. He invites himself over to my place or assumes he can spend the night. Dude? But then, Mr. Cap is a creative type who I can talk to about my poetry. We also find each other incredibly hilarious. Mr. Aqua’s sense of humor is too … how do you say? He’s not funny.

Make a decision between the two? Not likely. This is too much fun!

Coming Up…

Next week, PensiveGemini writes about feeling neglected by Mr. Aquarius.

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