1. Sex and The Virgin
For some it’s a mind bender to attribute Virgo with a pronounced sexy streak. After all, Virgo is the celestial virgin. It is in this sign’s energy field that one can unwittingly fall into the Madonna/Whore complex that plagues much of our culture. So let’s get real about Virgo and clear up some of the erroneous ideas that are projected onto her. Screw the virgin. The modern definition of virgin is a distant cousin to the original meaning–which is an autonomous woman; one who did not ‘belong’ to a man, back in the days when women weren’t quite ‘persons.’ Often, in ancient times, a virgin or maiden or unmarried woman was sexually uninitiated, as was expected of unmarried women. Then again, some virgins actually worked as sacred prostitutes, and this was a culturally accepted tradition.
Today we have a somewhat narrow definition of virgin, which can lead to an incorrect assumption that Virgo is a sexually repressed sign that would be most comfortable living out her days in a convent. Not correct. Consider that this is an earth sign, which makes Virgo very comfortable in her body. While she may consider it a temple–from a hygiene and nutritional stance–Virgo is open for business, so to speak. So here’s the real deal: Virgos are into sex. Hot lovin’ non-puritanical guilt-free sex. And they really care about your satisfaction. Interested yet?
2. Helping Hands
It’s not just your sexual satisfaction that Virgo wants to ensure. He’s genuinely interested in attending to any matters that would make your life easier. He listens very carefully to all that you say; not only does he want to enjoy stimulating conversations, but he’s also tuning into your expressed and implied needs. That’s because Virgo wants to fulfill those needs. Now don’t take this to mean that he’ll let you walk all over him and make unreasonable demands on his energy or generosity. This guy knows when someone is trying to take advantage of a good thing. Besides, there’s nothing sexy about a pushover.
But Virgo really comes through in a pinch. Got a crisis? Call him. He remains calm, thinks clearly and acts strategically. The coolest part? He won’t hold it over your head, throw it in your face, or demand payback. Virgo really is the quintessential ‘good guy.’
3. The Quest for Perfection
Rare is the Virgo who will rest on her laurels. She is driven by a desire to keep improving herself. This may admittedly show up as an almost neurotic quest for perfection–not a particularly human trait–but the fact that Virgo values self-evolution speaks volumes about her character. She is grounded in her value system and, as such, she will be as true to you as she is to herself. Anyone who’s ever been devastated by deception can really appreciate this gift.
That doesn’t mean that Virgo can be pegged as the same old predictable gal day in and day out; she belongs to the mutable modality, and likes to change things up from time to time. Some days she’ll surprise you with dinner waiting on the stove; other days she’ll come home a hot mess hoping that you’ll allow her to vent and move that energy out of her system. But what Virgo will not do is pull the rug out from underneath you.
4. Virgo/Mercury in Your Chart
Virgo is ruled by planet of communication, Mercury. That already signals his smarts. If you feel a strong attraction to a Virgo, you may be able to identify these markers in your natal chart, which will help ground a mutual connection:
- Virgo on the 7th House Cusp, Mercury in the 7th House, 7th House Ruler in hard aspect to Mercury: Looks alone don’t capture you; the object of your affection must be intellectually compatible. Spirited discussions of current events and even the banal sharing of the day’s events stimulate you. Communication in general is at the very foundation of your most important relationships. The good news is that you are wired to connect with Virgo, who shares your astute observations and a desire for meaningful conversation.
- Venus or Mars in the 6th House, or in hard aspect to Mercury: In a perfect world, your ideal lover conveniently materializes in the places that you frequent from day to day. This could be at work or at any place, like the gym or a favorite coffee house. Provided you feel comfortable in your environment, you can generate heat through your interactions with people–even strangers. And it would seem that Virgo gets some kind of charge out of you, too.