Sometimes a person’s planets combine with your planets to create (seemingly) insurmountable relationship challenges. But actually, that person is the missing piece of your puzzle. Case in point is if you have a natal T-Square: two planets in opposition, and both squaring a third (the focal planet). If your partner’s planet opposes your focal planet, a Grand Cross is created between the two of you. That’s a whole lot of tension (a giant square with two oppositions inside it). However, this is actually one of the stronger synastric connections.
Let’s start by breaking down the T-Square. Melanie’s Saturn (rules and limits) opposes her Neptune (dreams and illusions). The tension between reality (Saturn) and fantasy (Neptune) is pronounced in her life. Neptune and Saturn both square Mars, the focal planet. Her actions (Mars) are undermined by dreams, or blocked by restrictions/fears. She either chases after illusions, or gives up in frustration because everything is overwhelming.
Melanie meets Ahmed, whose Sun (ego and purpose) opposes her Mars. Rather than cranking up her tension even more, Ahmed seems to reassure Melanie. Yes, his Sun is being hit by awkward squares from her Saturn/Neptune opposition. But the key with a T-Square is that the missing piece (the house and sign that oppose the focal planet) functions as the solution. And Ahmed’s Sun fills in that missing piece.