When you enter into a romantic relationship, you’re (hopefully) engaging with your partner on an adult playing field. The idea is that you have moved beyond your childhood. But for some, parent/child dynamics remain a major part of their love life. If you have Cancer/Capricorn on the 1st/7th House axis (or vice versa) you probably end up playing the role of the child and/or parent in your intimate relationships. This is who you are; it’s neither positive nor negative. But it can cause difficulties if you’re not conscious of how these energies are operating.
Cancer and Capricorn represent family. More specifically, Cancer represents the archetypes of mother/child, and Capricorn represents the paternal archetype. Cancer is about nurturing, and Capricorn is about authority. Together, they create the security that enables you to survive. These zodiac signs can be embodied in men or women, even though the Moon (Cancer’s ruler) is associated with feminine energy and Saturn (Capricorn’s ruler) is associated with male energy.
Cancer Rising, Capricorn on the Descendant
If you have Cancer rising, nurturing is part of your identity. The house/sign position of your Moon will describe how and where that nurturing is expressed, and it may not be obvious. But on some level, you want to take care of others. Cancer’s flip side (the child) will also be expressed. You need that nurturing just as much as you dish it out. For example, if your Moon is in 10th House (career) Aries, you probably don’t come across as domesticated because your ambitious needs are hooked into making a name for yourself. But you may express that mothering energy towards people you work with, or even the public. Perhaps you impulsively (Aries) stick your nose into their business when you think they need help. If things don’t go the way you want (in your career) you may have temper tantrums: moody, foot-stomping explosions of anger.
The partner you’re drawn to is described by Capricorn (on your 7th House cusp). This person will embody your ideal of authority (they may be older than you), and the house/sign position of Saturn will dictate how that authority is expressed. For example, Saturn in your 2nd House of personal resources (in Leo) may suggest that you end up with partners who control or even limit your finances and your confidence (Leo). This, despite the fact that you’re a driven, career-oriented person. Something just seems to “happen” when you partner up, and that assertive, Aries energy takes a backseat to what your partner says. However, if you work with your inner authority (remembering that the 7th House is your projected qualities) you can become your own parent. By taking control of your finances (or whatever area of your chart Saturn occupies) you’ll attract balanced relationships. You and your partner can “parent” each other. You can act as the assertive mother, while your partner still provides the structure and stability you crave.
Capricorn Rising, Cancer on the Descendant
Capricorn on the Ascendant suggests that you’re the boss. If we put Saturn (your chart ruler) in 11th House (friends/group) Scorpio, you take your social position very seriously. Maybe you’re the one people go to when they need guidance on deep or ugly matters (Scorpio) that everyone else is afraid to touch. You could be intimidating and intense — not an easy person to get close to. You’ve got the adult thing down pat, because control and responsibility is part of your identity.
But your 7th House cusp in Cancer indicates that you crave a softer touch in your relationships. If your Moon is in 5th House (self-expression and children) Taurus, you definitely have an indulgent side. You may be drawn to partners who are pleasure-loving or childish, because you’re looking to have your needs (Moon) for playtime met. This is OK, but if these dynamics become extreme, you’ll always end up playing “the heavy,” and eventually you’ll get tired of looking after these playmates. One astrological truth is that in order to be truly happy, you must feed your Moon. This is especially relevant for Capricorn rising; your Moon represents your emotions, and they must be honored. You can own those 7th House qualities by doing something that meets your needs. In the case of a 5th House Taurus Moon, that would involve the physical (Taurus) manifestation of your self-expression in a way that invites appreciation from others (the 5th House wants an audience). By owning your needs, you can attract a relationship with someone who nurtures you, rather than someone you have to parent. You’ll still have authority, but wouldn’t it be nice to partner up with someone who isn’t totally dependent on you?
Whether you have Cancer or Capricorn on the Descendant, the goal is to become involved in a relationship where the exchange of nurturing and authority is relatively balanced. No matter where your Moon and Saturn are located, it’s probable that romantic difficulties are related to unhealthy parenting in your relationships. While your relationship with your parents will obviously have a huge influence, know that you are not your mother or father (and neither is your partner). You have the power to create a healthy relationship that honors the needs and authority of you and your lover.
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