What makes a great lover? More importantly, can you tell if someone’s good in bed by looking at their natal chart? Keeping in mind that all natal potential is just that (potential), there are some aspects between natal planets which increase the flow of sexual and emotional energy. However, “good in bed” is a very subjective term. One person’s turn-on is another person’s shudder of distaste. The descriptions below are only suggestions: if you think I’ve missed one (or if you disagree with one of the aspects mentioned), feel free to leave a comment.
Although the condition of the entire natal chart (thoughts, emotions, habits, health, boundaries) will impact how someone approaches physical intimacy, Venus and Mars are the main players. Mars represents the initiation and pursuit of physical desires. Venus represents the awareness of another’s needs, and self-esteem/self-love. Note that I haven’t mentioned planets in the signs; there’s a section on this site that describes Venus/Mars in all the signs. Also, while the quality of a sign (and how a planet’s energy is expressed through it) must be kept in mind, the descriptions in this article can be applied to planets in any sign. There is no particular sign that makes a better lover; all signs manifest their energies in ways that work for (and against) great sex. These descriptions can be read for straight or same-sex couples. In the case of a same-sex couple, Mars would represent the partner with more male energy, and Venus would signify the partner with more female energy.