“I feel like a prisoner, like I’ll go crazy or explode if I don’t leave.”
“I’m tired of being an ‘us.’ I need to just be ‘me’ for awhile.”
“I need some excitement, some adventure. Our life together has become so dull.”
“Can’t we just try something new for awhile? Bringing another person into our relationship would add the spice we’ve been missing…”
Ouch! Any of the above sound familiar? These are expressions of the planet Uranus. They can include any of the following:
- Desires for excitement or change
- Expressing oneself as an individual
- The need to suddenly break out
- A craving for uncharted territory or for experimentation
Along with these can be a sense of anxiety or anticipation, with the irresistible urge to push yourself over the edge of some cliff, because taking the leap seems a lot more reasonable than staying where you are, itching, itching, itching for change.
Uranus takes about seven years to go through each sign, symbolizing the possibility of sudden change in whatever house of your chart it’s passing through. There are many different house systems in astrology, each with its merits, but by using the “whole sign” house system, you can see this particular symbolism of Uranus’s passage through the houses of your chart more easily. If you started a relationship when the planet was at the beginning or end of a house cusp, it will be in a different house, with different desires for change, seven years later. (By the way, the following can also apply when you began the partnership when Uranus was anywhere in a particular house, for instance indicating the difficulties that can occur at the three year point in a relationship when Uranus enters the next house.)
Uranus Moves from the 1st to the 2nd
Let’s say you got into a relationship when Uranus was near your Ascendant. The person you fell madly in love with—and maybe even married—really helped you to develop as an individual and opened you up to exciting forms of self-expression and self-realization. Seven years later, Uranus is now in your house of money, security, your material possessions (second house) and is about to drastically change your material circumstances. Your partner walks out and you wind up scrambling to make ends meet! Yes, Uranus can symbolize the projection of the change you need onto the actions of someone else, too. One way or the other, you’ll get the change your life needs you to have in order to progress as an individual.
Another way this could work (out of many) is this: Perhaps you want to buy a home and alter the way you handle your finances due to the anxiety Uranus symbolizes by being in your money house. Your partner might have helped you actualize yourself so well that you decide to leave, because you suddenly realize they don’t share your values around security issues any longer, if they ever did.
Uranus Moves from the 7th to the 8th
Here’s another example. It’s not uncommon for people to get into a committed relationship with someone unique when Uranus passes over their Descendant (seventh house cusp). Your partnership is exciting, full of new discoveries and a bit volatile, too. The sex after fighting is great! As Uranus moves on its way to your eighth house of shared resources and not incidentally, sex, what do you think will happen? You might decide your sex life is dead as a doornail and needs some shaking up. How will you do that? By leaving? By having an affair? By talking about your needs and hopefully getting your partner to experiment with you? Or will your partner enact the need for change symbolized in your chart by doing any of the former? Of course, the eighth house being about shared resources, you might also have similar issues as with the second house, only it will entail what you own together. Will you both be in a period receptive to new ways of doing things? Like maybe getting separate bank accounts?
Think about how Uranus might operate in other houses at the beginning of the partnership and how it will herald a desire for freedom or change in the area of life signified by the next house seven years later. Fifth house could mean being with a very stimulating lover, with lots of partying. Once entering the sixth, it might indicate the itch to clean up your health! Will you need to leave the relationship to do that? Experiment with finding your own ideas with the house meanings and Uranus symbolism.
You could also be tempted to ditch your partnership when Uranus transits your Sun, Moon, Venus, Mars or Jupiter. You might be craving a change and think that it’s your partner who is holding you back, when what you really need is a switch in career or something else, or to express your individuality in some new way. You might use the relationship as a scapegoat.
The planet Uranus transits—plus where in your chart the planet resides—will determine the symbolism and what wants to be expressed. When Uranus transits Mercury, you may not feel a pressure to change your relationship game plan, but you might find yourself interested in very different things and communicating in unusual ways. Your partner might feel they don’t know you any more.
So, should you worry or freak out that the love of your life is going to walk out on you or have an affair during a Uranus transit? Of course not. For one thing, Uranus just changing houses may not (but can) symbolize something as drastic as a permanent break-up unless there are other things in the chart indicating this possibility. Yet, it would be wise to look for ways to spice things up. Be aware of stagnation and disagreements that involve issues of freedom. Know that change is necessary for a healthy relationship. If you tend the garden of your partnership well, you’ll know way ahead of time when change is needed. Heed that call and you may find that Uranus is the best friend the two of you ever had.