What Are Your Relationship Resolutions for the New Year?

New Year's ResolutionsYeah, yeah, I know you want to lose weight and make more money and see your friends more often. But if you’re reading this blog, you want a more satisfying romantic life as well. Nearly everyone has a dysfunctional pattern (or two) that sabotages relationship success.

  • Attract the wrong type of guy? Check.
  • Push the perfect guy away when you’re feeling vulnerable? Check.

The list can go on, but we’re all individuals so I’ll let you fill in the blanks.

  • ( ___________? Check!!!)

If astrology teaches us anything, it’s that no two years (let alone days) are the same. So let’s take a quick look at what love planet Venus has in store for us in 2011. By studying her patterns, you’ll know the best times to move forward in your love life and tackle your relationship resolutions.

Unlike in 2010 when Venus had a long-ass four-month stay in Scorpio due to its retrograde cycle, in 2011 the love planet makes a straight shoot through the entire zodiac, and hits some of the later signs twice in the same year:

Venus in Scorpio (as of this writing)  
Venus enters Sagittarius January 7
Venus enters Capricorn February 4
Venus enters Aquarius March 1
Venus enters Pisces March 27
Venus enters Aries April 20
Venus enters Taurus May 15
Venus enters Gemini June 9
Venus enters Cancer July 3
Venus enters Leo July 28
Venus enters Virgo August 21
Venus enters Libra September 14
Venus enters Scorpio October 9
Venus enters Sagittarius November 2
Venus enters Capricorn November 26
Venus enters Aquarius December 20


I obviously cannot do individual readings here, so to simplify: When Venus is moving through your Sun, Moon or Rising sign, you can expect gifts, greater pleasure, and increased affection in your life. And the big caveat: any factors in your natal chart can obviously temper this effect (for example, if Saturn squares your Moon).

That being said, if want to make any significant changes in your love life in the coming year, take advantage of one of these time periods, because the goddess wants to support your goals when she is touching one of the key points in your chart.

Changes in Venus’ Mood

We can look at Venus’ conjunctions with the outermost planets to get a sense of how her mood will shift over the coming year. (“In effect” below means that Venus’s aspect to the other planet is in orb. I am using ten degree orbs, which means ten degrees applying to the planet and ten degrees separating from the planet.)

Venus conjunct Pluto

Exact on February 9, in effect from February 1 to February 18

Pluto intensifies and deepens Venus, adding a compulsive element to our sexual and romantic lives, as well as dredging up issues that we’ve relegated to the shadows. This is a good time to excavate the crap from previous relationships and expose it to the light of day, which believe-it-or-not can be a healing experience.

Venus conjunct Neptune

Exact on March 26, in effect from March 18 to April 4

Venus’ connection with Neptune results in a loss of boundaries, poor judgment, self-sacrifice and delusion. When we meet someone new during this period, we usually see what we want to see, not who they really are. The upside of this aspect is the bliss that one experiences when two people dissolve into One.

Venus conjunct Uranus

Exact on April 23, in effect from April 15 to May 1

Now is the time for experimentation, for flouting the “relationship rules” dictated by the mainstream. We want to experience independence within our relationships, and can easily feel smothered with too much closeness. This is a good aspect for shaking things up in staid partnerships, but there is always a risk that a relationship can end with this much instability.

Venus conjunct Saturn

Exact on September 29, in effect from September 22 to October 7

Affection is expressed in a tight-fisted manner when the love planet connects with stern Saturn. We feel less loved, less able to give affection. The upside is that this is a good time to cement a relationship, to formalize a commitment. Typically, this aspect either further consolidates a partnership or nips it in the bud.

Venus conjunct Pluto

Exact on December 1, in effect from November 23 to December 9

See above!

To get a thorough understanding of Venus’ natal placement the signs, read any of the following posts:

Comment below: What are your relationship resolutions?

About Jeffrey Kishner

Jeffrey Kishner is founder and publisher of Sasstrology. He is a licensed mental health counselor and has been doing astrological counseling since 2001. Jeffrey has been published in print magazines including The Mountain Astrologer and Dell Horoscope, and has written online for sites including AOL, Tarot.com and StarIQ. Jeffrey has also been heavily involved in the astrology blogger community. Read his personal blog at JeffreyKishner.com.

Comments

  1. TheSagGirl says:

    I have venus conjunct neptune natally…and gosh, i wish neptune would get out of my 7th house already!

    lol. neptune did help me to work out some of those dreaded issues…

    i’m wondering how the venus conjunct pluto will play out in my fifth house…universe knows i don’t need another unhealthy obsession. lol!

  2. 5th house isn’t only love/romance. You could feel driven to create something that taps into your deepest, darkest truths. Or you could feel obsessed with conceiving a child. Or feel drawn to enjoyable, fun experiences are are intensely sensual in nature.

  3. Great article, Jeffrey! I have just started learning about Venus transits this year and this helps!
    The box with the related articles is a plus, too! Handy. Keep up the good work.

    Happy New Year!

  4. Venus? Who’s that?? Sounds vaguely familiar…….

  5. I don’t make New Year’s Resolutions generally.Although in a sense,one could say I have,because I’ve wanted to make changes and have been working on some of them, without resolving or committing to anything outwardly.

    I want more over all for my husband and me–more and new expereinces together and singly.Since all I can change is my part, that’s what I’m looking at now.

    However, in my relationships over all–friends and fellow members of groups I’m involved in, I’ve made an effort to be more present and more consistently involved.
    This *is* happening more.
    It’s productive and meaningful, yet also tiring.

    I’m forced then, to set boundaries with others and otherwise to face what I don’t want to deal with at times.
    I’m referring to the fact that I’ve often just drifted along, doing what comes to me, what is needed at the time, or what I feel strongly about at a particular point.

    What I’m needing to face now, is deciding when and how I want to work, how much I *can* do if anything (I’m disabled but am improving somewhat) and if I *can* work or study, how much effort I *honestly* want to put towards an activity or course of study.

    Therefore my resolutions are to face all these things square-on, but with acceptance and grace.

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