Cosmic Dating with PensiveGemini: Laying low
April 8, 2009 by Pensive Gemini
“Cosmic Dating with PensiveGemini” relates the true-life chronicles of a twenty-something Brooklynite with a Gemini Sun, Aquarius Moon and Cancer Rising. Last week, her time spent with Aquarius Stellium triggered thoughts about the woman she wants to be. (If you’re new to her blog, start at the beginning.)
While the Moon in Cancer transited my first house, it was transiting Mr. Aquarius’ fifth house of pleasure. Needless to say, I received a fair amount of drunken texting that night. I didn’t ignore him. I thanked him for the poem he texted — as he said it was an original — but nothing more. My Cappy was busy over the weekend with an audition and Aqua Stell — well, he was probably busy, too. With the Moon in Leo over the weekend transiting my second house of money, possessions and self-worth, I decided it was best to stay in. I committed to my budget (ahem, for the weekend) as I’ve needed to compensate for my Air sign propensity to socialize with my paycheck — indulging my detached, half-committed sorrows in Mojitos and buying rounds at birthday parties.
Venus retrograde transiting through my tenth house of career has been showing obvious effects. My workload has doubled and my personal time is spent half awake and in bed with books. Also, the Taurus I’ve had a sporadic crush on at work, well, turns out he has a girlfriend. Of course he does! He casually mentioned it to a coworker. (I’m so greedy — it’s not like I don’t have enough going on, right? Grrr.) I don’t usually go for earth signs, let a lone a Taurus (no offense, they just come off cheap to my generous Air placements) but lately it seems that I’ve been going for the grounded type. Even Mr. Aquarius had Moon conjunct Mars in Capricorn, which I found appealing — at least until I could literally see him struggling with the conjunction’s semi-sextile to his Aqua Sun. Even Aqua Stellium is grounded — just in love with his freedom at the same time.
I keep thinking about Aqua Stellium, and while I long to speak and hang out with him (and he actually has given me an excuse to contact him with the book), I’m afraid to reach out to him now more than ever. I keep thinking about it. I honestly don’t know what I’m afraid of, because I’m not afraid of my feelings for him anymore. At least I don’t think so.
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Blahhh… last week was so uneventful… I have no great updates or insight… and this week is tough, too… siiiiiiiiighhhhh… anyone else have anything interesting going on???
Ugh…I feel the same way….I feel frozen, like I can’t act. I wish I knew more about the planets and such, cuz I think one or more is affecting us, me with my cancer sun and u with ur cancer rising..I’m supposed to see my aqua today and I feel like canceling. I know that one look of those icy blue eyes and all my pent up emotions will just ooze out…yikes…I feel like vomiting….waaaahhhhhh!
Definitely a strange week…. Sorta like being in a waiting room.
I found the following link to be very interesting. I don’t fully understand all of the transits, etc., check it out:
http://www.cafeastrology.com/thisweekinastrology.html
PensiveGemini,
I’m new here, so I’m just saying “Hey!”
You’re revealing quite a bit of yourself in this chronicle. I’m a male Aquastel, myself. So, I can see the flip-side of what you are dealing with.
If you haven’t mentioned it already, what are the hard aspects to Venus between you and your love interests?
Aqua7– Yea, funny you point out I’m revealing a bit of myself… truly I am… how does that come across to you? Are you my AquaStell who’s found my blog? ha… THAT would be embarassing…
Mr. Aqua
sun trine my sun, conjunct my moon
moon (Cap) square my sun, venus, mercury, sextile my mars
venus (Pis) square my sun, venus, mercury, trine my mars
Mars (Cap) square my venus, trine my mars
Capricorn
sun opp my ascendant
moon (Aqua) conjunct my moon, trine my sun, venus, mercury
venus (Sag) opp my sun, venus, mercury, sextile my moon
mars (libra) trine my venus, square my mars
AquaStell
sun conjunct my moon, trine my sun, venus, mercury
moon (Aries) sextile my sun, venus, mercury
Venus (Aqua) conjuncts my moon, trine my sun, venus, mercury, square my mars
mars (taurus) opp my mars, square my venus
As you can see Mr. Aqua and I have a bit too much squaring going on…
What’s your moon and rising?
P.S. on Mr. Aqua, I meant that his mars is sextile my mars
AquaLover– thanks for the article!
Yea, I’m still trying to teach myself transits to figure out whats going on in detail… right now I know enough to know what areas of my life are being stimulated and by what… Uranus is in Pisces at 24 degress, just about to exactly square my Gem sun and venus at 25 degrees (I know, I’ve been freaking out about this for weeks already)… and already the little things are crazy… i lost my wallet with my cash and my state ID after I had taken out the rest of my money from my bank (not much, but enough to hurt)… I tried to e-file my taxes yesterday and today I get an email that my birth date is incorrect… excuse me? So now i have to file in person which I no longer have money for because I lost it… I also lost my metrocard so I am scavenging for quarters and nickels and my fake piggy bank for money to take the train to work! And I tried to transfer my pay pal money to my savings and there was a “banking error”!! so now they want me to fax over my state ID and pay stub but oops, I lost my state ID and since its expired cuz im a gemini and am so irresponsible, I can’t just get a new one, I have take a day off work to go to the DMV and try to prove with my birth certificate and social security card (which is not enough these days) that I’m a real person who should get a new ID… then i have to wait three to five weeks to get it so what in the world am i going to do till then! *breathing breathing* Lets just hope I don’t get mistakenly deported in the meantime… sigh*
Sorry for the delayed responce in your last blog seems the comment box is missing for some unknown reason… I have the reponce just no where to post it, it seems.. hehe
PG – “Needless to say, I received a fair amount of drunken texting that night.”
I’m glad to hear its not just me.. I try to hide my keyboard and phone when I’m drunk.. It’s such a guilty pleasure.
PG – “Also, the Taurus I’ve had a sporadic crush on at work, well, turns out he has a girlfriend.”
I couldn’t count the number of times that type of thing happens to me. Taurus’s are great fun though… Wildly sensual flirts too…
PG – “I keep thinking about Aqua Stellium, and while I long to speak and hang out with him (and he actually has given me an excuse to contact him with the book), I’m afraid to reach out to him now more than ever. I keep thinking about it. I honestly don’t know what I’m afraid of, because I’m not afraid of my feelings for him anymore. At least I don’t think so.”
Sometime fear is more about the not knowing and the hidden potential/possibles then the actual parts you do know.
hitchhiker72 – “Definitely a strange week…. Sorta like being in a waiting room.”
I couldn’t agree more or say it better myself…
PenGem, wow, so sorry to hear that ur having a difficult time. I’m counting my change too, my car decided to spring a leak and of course those kind of things always happen when your budget is stretched to the max. Have you ever heard of the law of attraction? Its a theory based on positive thinking, the main premise is that we put out a negative vibe and the universe answers you with more negative. So from this moment on, you will think positive, you will get your id problem fixed and you will make it to payday (smile). Oh yeah and Aqua Stell will call you….btw, I punked out, I canceled my date. I can’t face him today…
TCA!! Hi!
“I couldn’t count the number of times that type of thing happens to me. Taurus’s are great fun though… Wildly sensual flirts too…”
I agree! the man didn’t say two words to anyone before, now he’s saying hello and asking me questions… its like, ohhhh, now you want to talk, nice lol… very cute tho, very cute…
“Sometime fear is more about the not knowing and the hidden potential/possibles then the actual parts you do know.”
You hit the nail on the head. I just don’t know whats going to happen. Things were so great the last time, it left so much room for potential, it’s almost scary to use that word, potential. Deep down I’m also scared he’s going to get all detached on me again… I think someting switched in me during the five months I didn’t see him… I don’t think I could take him disappearing on me like that again… not for months… I’m just not the type anyone needs to run away from, I don’t think… I approach everyone as a friend… I don’t nag, I don’t bug him, I don’t demand anything from him, I offer space, I text once in a blue to check up on him but I’m not all in his face, I listen to him, I accept him as himself, stubborn, cynical, hard to please, rebelious and all, just no judgements… and I mean, he’s great to me, you know… I’m not asking for him to be around, its more like im asking him not to run away… does that make any sense?
AquaLover! Noooooooooooo you canceled? Whyyyyyyyyyyy lol aw man lol its okay though, i’m guessing you just feel so crappy you don’t want him to see you that way, you only want to give him your best… I totally feel you…
Ugh, thats why i dont have a car cuz the same would happen to me, it’d start messing up at the wrong times… thanks for the positive energy, I hope you get your things sorted out, too… but you are right, law of attraction!!!! Maybe I’ve been freaking too much about this transit that I created all this stuff myself (or at the very least, making it bigger) so I need to think positive! Like the little train that could– I think i can, i think I can! thats me! haha aww thanks AquaL, I needed a pick me up… when i stress out, I start talking (writing) like a parrot! lol
You hit it straight on! I feel like I can’t bring my “A” game today. Of course being the understanding person that he is, he was very concerned and all he kept saying was, “You never cancel”…oh well, when Virgo stops this retro on the 17th, I will do something spontaneous (you know I like that more). Your very welcome baby girl, what are friends for?
AquaL– AWWW we’re friends!! Yayyyyyy* we just had a moment! ha!
Aww “you never cancel” hmmm this actually may work in your favor… now you have him THINKING about you, concerned about you, wondering, trying to figure it out… hmmm… yea, by the 17th that friggin Saturn will be going forward and so will Venus! so actually, good move! oh goodness, that Saturn, what a had transit thats been, and of all signs to be in- VIRGO! anyway, no more complaining, just positive thinking!
Hitch! What’s up with your Leo? Hows the saturn and uranus transit hitting you? Just curious…
PensiveGemini,
“Aqua7– Yea, funny you point out I’m revealing a bit of myself… truly I am… how does that come across to you? Are you my AquaStell who’s found my blog? ha… THAT would be embarassing…”
To me, you actually come across as very charming, and open. You obviously have a willingness to evolve, and one day become the very special woman that some very special man cannot afford to lose. But, for now, you’re still learning how to relate.
I’m Aquarius w\ Aries moon, and Leo rising. Venus and Mars are also in Aquarius. So, I’m not your AquaStell, but…
Ya’ know, the squares with the inner planets aren’t so bad – they keep things interesting. But, the conjunctions and squares from Saturn through Pluto tend to make or break relationships.
Take a look at aspects from their outer planets to your inner planets, and vice-versa. That will show your real challenges.
Ah shucks, Aqua7–GRIN– thanks for what you said and for reading…
You scared me a bit when you said you have an Aries moon, I thought, gasp! so does MY AquaStell… but alas *phew* you have an Aqua Mars– and leo rising! love those placements…
I’ve taken a look at the aspects of our outer planets… his entire chart is mostly air. I, on the other hand, start getting all the water and earth placements from mars to neptune and thats where I start squaring his inner planets. But his outer planets trine and sextile my inner planets nicely (that almost sounded dirty) so Im guessing thats’ where I “keep things interesting” like you said. I just hope you are right.
You said ” I’m a male Aquastel, myself. So, I can see the flip-side of what you are dealing with.”
can you offer any insight or advice regarding AquaStell?
I got that reply posted to your last blog entry late last night. Thanks Jeffery for fixing the missing comment box issue…
PG – “You hit the nail on the head. I just don’t know whats going to happen. Things were so great the last time, it left so much room for potential, it’s almost scary to use that word, potential. Deep down I’m also scared he’s going to get all detached on me again… I think someting switched in me during the five months I didn’t see him… I don’t think I could take him disappearing on me like that again… not for months… I’m just not the type anyone needs to run away from, I don’t think… I approach everyone as a friend… I don’t nag, I don’t bug him, I don’t demand anything from him, I offer space, I text once in a blue to check up on him but I’m not all in his face, I listen to him, I accept him as himself, stubborn, cynical, hard to please, rebelious and all, just no judgements… and I mean, he’s great to me, you know… I’m not asking for him to be around, its more like im asking him not to run away… does that make any sense?”
It makes plenty of sense and I actually understand totally what you mean about not wanting to be run away from as I’m kind of in the same boat with the new girl. We didn’t talk for a month after all the drama exploded (nothing I did total third party manipulations). Then we spent two days straight talking again and then she vanished again… It’s almost been a month again and it just feels really weird. She’s never been anything but honest with me so I trust that what she said about missing talking and wanting to be friends. And I don’t want to bug or nag her either but I do feel like I deserve to be on the same page if you know what I mean.
The question that’s really been bothering me lately is am I opening myself up to always being treated like this, or is it just a temporary behavior in a difficult time. As I know I don’t deserve the silent treatment. The only thing that has me feeling like its temporary though is that I still talk to her sister (not as much as I ever talked to her but I would think if it was to be a ending type of silence. It wouldn’t be like it is now).
PG – “I agree! the man didn’t say two words to anyone before, now he’s saying hello and asking me questions… its like, ohhhh, now you want to talk, nice lol… very cute tho, very cute…”
With the one I knew, we use to just get into ice cube fights and attacking each other with the cold condensation from our glasses at the bar. Her boyfriend worked there so it was just innocent fun to pass the time but ya total flirts… And so much fun. (This would be part of the reason I get into problems with jealous boyfriend way to often though too.)
PG, Aqua7 – Hard aspects…
Theres a good book out on synastry that’s been out for awhile called skymates its ISBN 0-9649-113-5-3…
PG – “The wallet drama…”
Ack that’s rough, I’m sorry to hear all that happened…
AquaLover – “my car decided to spring a leak and of course those kind of things always happen when your budget is stretched to the max.”
Same thing happened to me (gas line popped) I was like oh no my cash is flowing down the street… Come back overly priced gas….
AquaLover – Have you ever heard of the law of attraction? It’s a theory based on positive thinking, the main premise is that we put out a negative vibe and the universe answers you with more negative.
It parallels the old axiom of “you catch more flies with honey than with vinegar”. Even though most people think of the axiom as referring to how you treat people it actually says a lot more.
AquaLover – “oh well, when Virgo stops this retro on the 17th, I will do something spontaneous (you know I like that more).
Just watch out for the 15th’s Mars, Uranus interplay prior to Venus going direct.
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PenGem, “I don’t nag, I don’t bug him, I don’t demand anything from him, I offer space, I text once in a blue to check up on him but I’m not all in his face, I listen to him, I accept him as himself, stubborn, cynical, hard to please, rebelious and all, just no judgements… and I mean, he’s great to me, you know… I’m not asking for him to be around, its more like im asking him not to run away… does that make any sense?” This statement makes me sad because that is exactly the way I am with my aqua and very rarely I will get statements like “your such a good person” or “thanks for being you” for all my efforts. I tiptoe around his defenses, I don’t intrude, I don’t press him, I don’t demand attention and still the same result. That is one of the reasons I decided to cancel yesterday, I’m tired of dancing to his beat. What is the measure of a friend? To be there for each other when needed and not needed. Its not fair to invest so much in a person and never get any back, or better said, only when they deem it to be safe for them or when u have almost given up. These past weeks with Venus retro has made me contemplate my past lovers (since they keep popping up and asking for dates, lol) and I realized that not one of them was ever not available to me. We had relationships, whether they went south quickly or we just parted ways, we laughed, cried, talked, fought, made up with all the emotions laid bare, raw, in your face, not afraid. Emotions are meant to be felt, not put in box and thought about and then when all logic has been exhausted the faux emotion is released, sorry that is not what I want. When I am around my aqua I feel off center, like someone turned off my radar, I am flying blind and it scares me because I don’t know when I going to crash into a wall. I think I finally realized my attraction, I have never met a person male or female that I can’t read, he is my first. When I look at him its as if I am peering into a mirror, you cant see into the depths of the reflection only the surface, I stopped trying to peer in and guess what I saw, I saw me reflected in the mirror. I took a good look and I am definitely worth more than what I am getting. So from now on, I am taking it (my “friendship with him” for what its worth. What is it (your relationship) worth to you?
TCA,”just watch out for the 15th’s Mars, Uranus interplay prior to Venus going direct.” Can you explain this to me, pretty please
AL -
Giggle I’ll try… As a heads up though I tend to forgo a fair bit of tradition though when I’m looking at the general forecast and try to just look at the type of energy interchange it might put out there. Mostly because it’s hard to tell at any point how something will affect anyone or really anything in particular.
Mars is in Pisces now moving towards Uranus they will be conjunct right around the 15th. Whenever mars and Uranus get together there is the potential for unexpected heated moments and events to take place good or bad its always hard to tell with Uranus until after it happens. Usually with Uranus moments its all in how you deal with it as far as how it will play out.
On the same day (15th) the sun will be sextile from Aries to Neptune in Aquarius. How I look at this is kind of like the sun which always moves forward looks to the past at the planet of illusion, dreams, fantasies, and fallacies. And I say looks to the past because the sun was conjunct with Neptune back in February. Now Neptune rules Pisces and look where all the activity is playing out…
It makes me think of the ego (sun) thinking or acting in retrospect. At the same time Venus in retro will be slipping back into Pisces from Aries. (I.e. Venus the wavering heart at the moment.) And Venus is moving towards Mars who will be affected possibly afflicted by that Uranus meet up prior to the pair going conjunct on the 21st and swaping off some of that left over Uranus energy.
Does that make more sense??? hehe
PensiveGemini,
*can you offer any insight or advice regarding AquaStell?*
The first idea that comes to mind is that “water flows to what is wet”.
The second idea is that “water flows along the path of least resistance”.
Bottom line: If an Aquarian, or any man, really wants to be with you, he will be. If he’s not, it’s because it’s easier for him to be somewhere else.
Men see being with a woman as an accomplishment. Aquarian men also want to feel absolutely unique – like there has never been anyone in her life like him.
So, if a man feels that being with you is too hard, or an Aquarian feels that he could easily be switched out for just any ol’ guy, he might just back off.
In any case, if you have more than one love interest, then you’re still in practice mode. And, you’re preparing yourself for something serious.
Keep it light. When you’re ready, you can take advantage of your window of opportunity, which will surely come. And, when you get really good at this relating thing, windows won’t matter.
That’s the short answer.
“The question that’s really been bothering me lately is am I opening myself up to always being treated like this, or is it just a temporary behavior in a difficult time. As I know I don’t deserve the silent treatment. ”
Are you questioning whether this is how it will continue to be? I hope not but what sucks is that in this story, you are not the protagonist, she is. And she has a crazy boyfriend who while becoming the antagonist in the story, for now, he has her. You are the curve ball, the possibility, the climax, but also, at her whim. I personally don’t think her not calling is a reflection of how much she cares or doesnt care about you (even tho thats how it seems), its a reflection of what she’s focusing on right now (“the squeaky wheel gets the grease”) and I guess its that crazy relationship she has (for whatever reason) and she is giving it another shot… talking to you may set her man off… and be too much emotional temptation for her…
Also, I noticed you mention that you and the Taurus flirted and she had a boyfriend, too, who was there… question: Do you find yourself attracted to girls who are unavailable to you, whether its because they are already in a relationship, live far away, are you best friends girl, or some obstacle? Some people (im not saying you) especially those that are afraid of emotional pressure, subconsciously sabotage themselves by emotionally connecting with someone who is not emotionally available… it takes the pressure off… does that make sense?
AquaL– sigh* its a rollercoaster, isnt’ it?
“I think I finally realized my attraction, I have never met a person male or female that I can’t read, he is my first. When I look at him its as if I am peering into a mirror, you cant see into the depths of the reflection only the surface”
When my friend met AquaStell last month when he joined us on our outing, she commented that she’s never seen me so at peace. When I asked her if she noticed anything interesting in his behavior (did he have a twinkle in his eye, did he seem nervous, etc) she said “It’s hard to read him” and I was just like, umm, yea thats the problem, I can’t read him either. I guess thats why they say you have to being really intuitive and just KNOW but sometimes you need to HEAR it! At the same time, with my aqua moon, I’ve even noticed my own behavior when I like someone (which Mr. Aquarius pointed out)– I give them lots of space which some ppl misinterpret as disinterest, and I used to (i’ve learned to change this) rarely vocalize a thank you, an I like you, an I like this, i appreciate that– the difference is that I changed that because I realized how much it was hurting ppl around me, my friends, family, boyfriend, etc, but I honestly can say that it felt unbelievably uncomfortable to me to say those things… i felt awkward, I dont know why (my scorpio mother always hated that about me, she would yell at me that i was as cold as a cucumber lol) … but I most certainly did care and definitely noticed every single little thing someone did for me… and your Aqua most certainly cares and from what you’ve said, he would be there for you if you called (if YOU called) the problem is he doesnt do it on his own… but I guess it all depends on what you NEED, like you said… I would love to have a fairy tale ending and end up with my Aquastell… but with him I only think about the near future… sometimes i get mad and have to remind myself that what i’m getting from him is friendship, the friendship he can offer… i am getting inspiration… someone who has taken my dreams seriously and who is ALWAYS on top of me about it, never lets me forget it… When im with him, he treats me like a princess, covers me with the blanket in the middle of the night, lends me his books *sigh* i have gotten hurt by his disappearing acts and sometimes, like you, I just want to KNOW and HEAR from HIM what he thinks about me… but so far I just keep reminding myself that what we have is enough… for now… and if i decide differently… i will most certainly have to let him go… *frown*
Aqua7-
“Bottom line: If an Aquarian, or any man, really wants to be with you, he will be. If he’s not, it’s because it’s easier for him to be somewhere else.”
Yea, the bottom line is always clear, and inspite of all my run around, I know that when someone wants something, they get it. I just want him around, to learn from him as much as I can… and if I get a little romance out of it, then wonderful. some inspiration, even better. I only have more than one love interest because the one I really want, AquaStell, doesn’t feel the same.
“So, if a man feels that being with you is too hard, or an Aquarian feels that he could easily be switched out for just any ol’ guy, he might just back off.”
Being with me would be too hard, we’re too different in our outer layers. That’s what makes me sad… to connect with someone on a deeper level and yet be a part of two different worlds…
Can you explain a bit more what you mean when you say- relating? It implies that I’m not getting it, that I’m not getting him, which is true, but don’t we all miscommunicate?
TCA, ohhhhhhhhh ahhhhhhhh….lol…thank you for your wonderful explanation, and yes even though I jest, it is clearer now. So I think I’m gonna lay low on the 15th, view the fireworks from a safe place
PenGem, You’re right he does care about me, I know this, but you hit the nail on the head as usual, if I reach out. When we were dating, I always felt so empty and lonely during those “radio silence” days, grant you I like my space too, but I like to touch base, and then head out again. Mind you, I have a very full life and most of time my mind was occupied, but after 3 or 4 days of not hearing from him, I would start to get that nagging “is it me” feeling. I hate that. Anyway, it is a roller coaster, but I’m determined to get off….lol, now to switch gears, I have agreed to spend tomorrow with one of my exes, he is an aries with a cancer moon and venus in taurus (we share the same venus), I dont know his rising. This is the guy that I was in that intense emotional relationship for 10 years remember? Why am I doing this you ask? I don’t really know, other than its his bday and everyone should be happy on that day. Thoughts?
Good morning, PG!
Yesterday you asked me:
“Can you explain a bit more what you mean when you say- relating? It implies that I’m not getting it, that I’m not getting him, which is true, but don’t we all miscommunicate?”
By “relating”, I simply mean interacting energetically. And, you may be getting it\him better than you think.
You may have learned that the planets in your chart represent parts of your personality. And, as you develop these parts, they show up as relationships in your life. These relationships evoke feelings, and stimulate ideas that may not otherwise be expressed. In this way, you gain a kind of unconcious competence.
You may have also learned that you will become like the 6 people you spend the most time with. To me, that means that in spite of possible miscommunication, energy is the complete truth. We always attract what we need, and have an opportunity to internalize it, generalize it, and express it.
If you are attracting Aquarians, you are learning the lesson of personal truth (we like that!). If you are attracting MULTIPLE Aquastels, this must be a critical time for you to learn this lesson. And, your blog is evidence of your sincerity. You’re getting multiple viewpoints, taking what you need, and leaving the rest.
In fact, taking a look at AquaLover’s profile, I see that she and I are the same age. That means you’ve attracted at least 2 different people with 6 planets in Aquarius! Coincidence? Nah, fool… SYNCHRONICITY!
I’m glancing at the Aquarian indicators in your natal chart. You have an Aquarius Moon (your feminine side), the N. Node in the 11th house (your life path), the Part of Fortune in Aquarius in the 8th (yeah, that should attract some ’stels), and UranusRx in the 5th within a few degrees of the S. Node (like you’ve done this all before).
As far as transits: trUranus is setting up tension by squaring your Sun\Venus conjunction (expect the unexpected in love, romance, finances, home life, and friendships); trN. Node is funneling Aquarian energy into your 7th house (bringing Aquarian relationships); trJupiter, trChiron, and trNeptune are all in Aquarius in your 8th, and closing in on your Aquarian Part of Fortune (attracting Aquarian teachers, mentors, and karmic\spiritual connections); and trMars is poised to strike on 4.15 when it conjoins trUranus (which TCA has already spoken of), and squares your natal Sun and Venus (the trigger will be pulled).
Okay, that was pretty long-winded. But, all that to say that for a Gemini, you certainly have very strong Uranian energy, you’re attracting it like a mutha*****, and it’s gonna get triggered in the next few days.
Think about what you’ve learned from Aquarius, own it, then express it. You should be getting some intuitive flashes about how to put it to good use. Actually, your 3rd Eye should catch fire!
So, as far as I’m concerned, not only are you getting it (however subconsciously\unconsciously), but through your own efforts, you’re actually spreading it… like a virus!
Okay, so how does this really help you in love and romance?
Well, studies show that it takes about 10,000 hrs to become really good at something. That goes for writers, race car drivers, ghost hunters, even people trying to have love in their lives. We can also shorten the learning curve by connecting with people who are already good at what we want to achieve.
So, give yourself time. Keep the energetic interaction going with Aquariuses, and hang with people who already have successful relationships. You will eventually become the woman that the right Aquarian man will find easier to be with than to be without.
I think you have a good start.
Hi, AquaLover.
Just a thought about you and your Aries ex:
With Mars and Uranus, the rulers of Aries and Aquarius, meeting in Pisces, the sign of the past (also, the sign of forgiveness), it makes sense that you and the ex would get together for this occasion.
I think we attract relationships to resolve personal issues. When the relationship is over, hopefully the issue has been resolved.
If you are reconnecting with someone you have already released, either you haven’t completely resolved the issue, you just need a tune-up, or it’s actually not an issue anymore.
My sense is that you two are coming together in a different spirit than before. This time, it’s Pisces, instead of whatever it was the first time around. That could also explain why you don’t really know why you’re doing it. Pisces is all about unconscious motives.
BTW – I think you and I were born around the same date. I’m 2.8.62. You?
A7, hello, thanks for your insight. Its so weird that your bday is 2.8.62, because on the 8th (this week) I kept thinking that the number 8 had some meaning for me. I racked my brain trying to remember whose bday was the 8th or why I felt that I should remember the number, but couldn’t come up with anything, so when you said that the 8th was your bday, I just smiled. But unfortunately your feeling is wrong, unless there is something in my chart you are zoning in on, my bday is 6.24.61. I’m a Cancer Sun/Scorpio Moon with Aries Rising, my placements are listed on my profile and so is my chart if you are interested.
“My sense is that you two are coming together in a different spirit than before. This time, it’s Pisces, instead of whatever it was the first time around. That could also explain why you don’t really know why you’re doing it. Pisces is all about unconscious motives.” You are correct, my ex and I were married for 10 years and have been divorced over 14 years now. We have always remained friends and stay in touch. That relationship was very intense and we were co-dependent. I turned the page on that stage of my life a long time ago, but I feel that he needs guidance, hence he always reaches out to me when he is sad or can’t understand what is going on with his marriage (he has remarried). I view him as a brother and I am hoping that I’m not misleading him with us hanging out, but if I have to I will break it down for him (gently of course).
“You may have also learned that you will become like the 6 people you spend the most time with. To me, that means that in spite of possible miscommunication, energy is the complete truth. We always attract what we need, and have an opportunity to internalize it, generalize it, and express it.” Can you explain this theory to me, I’m curious, why 6?
Aqua7- im in the middle of some work right now and I will write back later but I just wanted to drop a note and say THANK YOU SOOOOOOOOOO much for what you wrote! It’s given me sooooooo much to think about, which I like, and confirmed a lot of things I’ve already suspected… i’m just a little nervous about the 15th because it almost feels like whatever happens, will affect my whole life, nothing will be spared… sigh…
AquaLover- I think thats great that you are meeting him to support him, especially if you are willing to be clear about what meeting up is and what its not… everything is so crazy now, he may really really need you…
By the way… Mr. Aquarius’ b day is also Feb 8th… interesting…
PG – “Are you questioning whether this is how it will continue to be?”
I’m just hoping it’s not something that becomes a normal occurrence because it doesn’t feel good being left in the dark especially after someone has been always very honest and open in the past.
PG –“I hope not but what sucks is that in this story, you are not the protagonist, she is. And she has a crazy boyfriend who while becoming the antagonist in the story, for now, he has her. You are the curve ball, the possibility, the climax, but also, at her whim.”
Ya you got it… Yes that is why it sucks so much and part of me just really wants the denouement to come already. Originally I though the drama explosion was going to be the climax but he somehow managed to, manipulate and lie his way out of it and she knows that. So I’m sure there’s another round brewing just doesn’t know the when, how, nor outcome.
PG – “I personally don’t think her not calling is a reflection of how much she cares or doesnt care about you (even tho thats how it seems), its a reflection of what she’s focusing on right now (”the squeaky wheel gets the grease”) and I guess its that crazy relationship she has (for whatever reason) and she is giving it another shot… talking to you may set her man off… and be too much emotional temptation for her…”
I don’t think the silence is an indication either (she just accepted some picture tags for some art work she had posed for that were sitting around for a few months). And I do realize the potential talking to me could have with him as he is. The thing that gets me though is initially she said that he would just have to deal with us talking via the web we just wouldn’t be able to hang out till the heat died down. As she really doesn’t like this behavior of his and expressed that she wanted him to get over it. So her changing her mind to some extent just makes me feel like I’m not on quite on the same page with her anymore as far as a plan of action or in-action. As for the possibility of emotional temptation it’s a real possibility too as she did say having me around made breaking up with him much easier. I could speculate all day and night but I only know what she said she was going to do and that it doesn’t match up to what she’s seemingly doing which is what confuses me.
PG – Also, I noticed you mention that you and the Taurus flirted and she had a boyfriend, too, who was there… question: Do you find yourself attracted to girls who are unavailable to you, whether it’s because they are already in a relationship, live far away, are you best friends girl, or some obstacle? Some people (im not saying you) especially those that are afraid of emotional pressure, subconsciously sabotage themselves by emotionally connecting with someone who is not emotionally available… it takes the pressure off… does that make sense?
It makes sense.
There isn’t a lot I can do to change the fact that I get along with women a lot better then I get along with men. I literally have one male friend (most of the ones I did have moved out of state) and even with him, his girlfriend talks to me more than he does and I’ve known him longer. The Taurus’s boyfriend actually was the one that introduced us and we just quickly got along because we’re both huge flirts when the energy is agreeable. Its different chemistry for different people though. The new girl and I don’t really flirt beyond dancing every now and then and sticking up for each other, most of our friendship is actually based around shared interests and simple appreciation for each other’s company.
Generally when I meet a new woman and am in the process of getting to know her I actually have to pry the boyfriend situation out of them or just wait to find out if I really want to know. Normally I find out from their friends, with a comments the likes of you know she has a boyfriend right. And even after that it’s rare that they even mention them to me after the fact unless they want advice such as my on male friend’s girlfriend. If they do have boyfriends or even girlfriends in some cases I friend them if I like talking to them enough. And normally when I do that I eventually get to know the boyfriend or girlfriend too and that tends to defuse any of the jealousy issues and they normally genuinely take a liking to me. With crazy boyfriend though he just never took a liking to me from the get go so there wasn’t much I could do.
Aqua7- “In fact, taking a look at AquaLover’s profile, I see that she and I are the same age. That means you’ve attracted at least 2 different people with 6 planets in Aquarius! Coincidence? Nah, fool… SYNCHRONICITY!”
That would be 9…
PG – Aqua7 “So, if a man feels that being with you is too hard, or an Aquarian feels that he could easily be switched out for just any ol’ guy, he might just back off.”
Keep the emphasis on “might” and remember that we all (Aquas and others) have our individual lines in the sand. After all one person’s pebble is sometimes another’s bolder…
AquaLover – “So I think I’m gonna lay low on the 15th, view the fireworks from a safe place”
PG- “i’m just a little nervous about the 15th because it almost feels like whatever happens, will affect my whole life, nothing will be spared… sigh…”
I don’t know if you need to lay low or worry excessively but it’s one of those days where you need to think about how you want to react and feel you need to react before you do react should something happen. After all Neptune is involved…
AquaLover – “When we were dating, I always felt so empty and lonely during those “radio silence” days, grant you I like my space too, but I like to touch base, and then head out again. Mind you, I have a very full life and most of time my mind was occupied, but after 3 or 4 days of not hearing from him, I would start to get that nagging “is it me” feeling. I hate that.”
It’s not just you that gets that feeling…It’s all too easy to for a person to try to blame them self when they don’t know why.
AquaL-
Apparently, I smashed together some random facts, and thought you were another Aqua – oops.
So, it would be more accurate to say that trMars approaching trUranus is an indicator of your Aries ascendant coming to this Aquarian party. And, both you and your Aries ex are under the influence of Pisces.
“You may have also learned that you will become like the 6 people you spend the most time with.”… Can you explain this theory to me, I’m curious, why 6?”
The 6 person theory is something I hear kicked around in motivation circles. And, I think it is just some practical limitation – like taking college courses.
But, we’re constantly picking up each other’s thoughts, habits, etc.. Its a good practice to choose our relationships consciously.
PensiveGemini-
I’m glad I can offer something of value to you. I’ve been right where you are, and everything turned out fine.
“By the way… Mr. Aquarius’ b day is also Feb 8th… interesting…”
On Feb 8th, the Sun is right around the cusp of your 8th house. So, Mr. Aquarius and I are both here to alter your life – mooohaahaa!
TCA-
“Aqua7- “In fact, taking a look at AquaLover’s profile, I see that she and I are the same age. That means you’ve attracted at least 2 different people with 6 planets in Aquarius! Coincidence? Nah, fool… SYNCHRONICITY!”
That would be 9…”
Actually, I counted AquaLover by mistake. But, 8 is GREAT!
8? There it goes again…lol…
I survived yesterday, yeah! We had a great time, but I’m relieved its over, I think that good deed clears my karma for the rest of the year, hehehehe.
A7 – “Apparently, I smashed together some random facts, and thought you were another Aqua – oops.” I get that a lot, I think its like PenGem pointed out to me, Gem is ruling my third house so the way I communicate is much like a air sign would. Also I have Jupiter in Aqua in my 11th House, my chart is strange, I have all this water, fire and earth and then poof the air I mentioned. I have been reading about empaths and I think I have a lot of those qualities, have you ever heard of them?
Happy Easter!
And, AquaL,
“I have been reading about empaths and I think I have a lot of those qualities, have you ever heard of them?”
Yes, I have heard of empaths – very water… VERY.
Happy Happy Easter! My Cancer Sun is its glory, I’m cooking, roasted chicken with stuffing, baked ham, mashed potatoes with homemade gravy, veggies and for dessert, homemade coconut ice cream with homemade choco chip cookies. Can you say comfort food? LOL, Enjoy your day everyone!!!!
Aqua7–
“You may have also learned that you will become like the 6 people you spend the most time with. To me, that means that in spite of possible miscommunication, energy is the complete truth. We always attract what we need, and have an opportunity to internalize it, generalize it, and express it.”
I agree with you completely. I am completely aware and selective of who I surround myself with. I talk to everyone, I get along with all kinds of people, but when it comes to those very close to me, I have to be able to learn something from you in order to really connect.
“If you are attracting Aquarians, you are learning the lesson of personal truth (we like that!). If you are attracting MULTIPLE Aquastels, this must be a critical time for you to learn this lesson. And, your blog is evidence of your sincerity. You’re getting multiple viewpoints, taking what you need, and leaving the rest.”
Personal truth! You hit the nail on the head! That is what I am consumed by. I spent my entire childhood trying to be “a good daughter” a “good spiritual leader” a “good student” a “good worker” which, of course, to a certain degree are valuable merits, however, I was so consumed by what everyone else wanted from me that there was not enough time to figure things out for myself… for the past two years (I met Aquastell almost two years ago)- after surviving a depressing transit- I’ve been on this quest for Personal truth, MY personal truth, exploring and learning so much. I’ve evolved for the better. I don’t ever want to go back to the way things used to be (sounds like lyrics, ha!)—and this blog is definitely part of the process (I hadn’t realzed!!!!)… my sun and venus are in my 12th house and you can’t believe how difficult it is for me to share so much of my personal life, ideas, struggles, in a public form… but that shy almost aversion to public expression is whats held my creative writing back for so long… this blog is not only helping me gather information from others and share my own (which pleases my Gemini placements) I’m also breaking free from my 12th house phobias and now writing soooooo much more and getting my work out there!
“I’m glancing at the Aquarian indicators in your natal chart. You have an Aquarius Moon (your feminine side), the N. Node in the 11th house (your life path), the Part of Fortune in Aquarius in the 8th (yeah, that should attract some ’stels), and UranusRx in the 5th within a few degrees of the S. Node (like you’ve done this all before).”
You know, I knew I had a significant amount of Uranian influence, but you pointed out that my North Node, my life path, is in the 11th house ruled by Aquarius. I knew this, too, but it never sunk in until it was all staring back at me how significant this placement is!
“So, as far as I’m concerned, not only are you getting it (however subconsciously\unconsciously), but through your own efforts, you’re actually spreading it… like a virus!”
I’m getting the personal and creative understanding from Aqua’s but most significantly from AquaStell… it truly felt like he was exactly who I needed to meet, to the point where no obstacle was big enough, nothing stopped me from finding my way to him… inspite of everything, he and I (or I) have held on…
“Well, studies show that it takes about 10,000 hrs to become really good at something. That goes for writers, race car drivers, ghost hunters, even people trying to have love in their lives. We can also shorten the learning curve by connecting with people who are already good at what we want to achieve.”
Well put. I am definitely putting in my 10,000 hours to myself (and my personal goals) and boy do I hope some Aqua is around for the result…
AquaLover–
If its not too intrusive… what did you and your Aries do? How did the conversation flow? Was it weird?
How have your Scorpios been??? :O)
PenGem, so funny you should ask that question, I was on the phone with one of the Scorps as you posted, lol. Okay first things first, the Aries, we played some paddleball (I am old school and play a mean game), had dinner (sushi, yum), went to a movie and played video games. We talked about old times and problems with his marriage. The flow was just as I remembered it, I have grown so much, I can’t believe I was ever “in” love with him, no spark at all, just me thanking god (privately of course) that I divorced him and that I’m FREE!!!! He is still the same, only slightly more mellow and old (hehehehe). I made it very clear that I view him as a brother only, my stomach turns at the thought. Funny how things change, this man was my life for a long time.
The Scorps, the younger one is hibernating, comes out to say hi, for some reason I’m thinking he is planning his next move (I just feel it, don’t know how I know, but I do). The older one called today and wants to meet up for drinks, no strings (his words). I haven’t made up my mind yet.
New development, there is this Sag interested in me, I have never dated one, any thoughts? BTW, I’m an open book, if I post it, you are free to ask
AquaL– first things first, where are you hanging out? I want to hang out there, too! I’m going to take another look at your chart because you have all these guys in your life and now you’re being spotted by a Sag! haha
Well, I have to say that while I love me some fire signs, I’ve NEVER dated a Sag and probably never will. Sag is my south node so I’ll have to stay away from that! haha but my Leo bff attracts them like moths to a flame… on the weekend I met Mr. Aquarius, she met three Sagittarius’!!! crazy stuff… they seem fun, though, very energetic and down for a good time… whats he like?
Oh goodness, thats funny that you see your Aries ex as a brother lol he really must have killed it for you lol… Not that you need confirmation of what a good decision you made by letting him go, but that was hilarious– “I can’t believe I was ever “in” love with him, no spark at all, just me thanking god (privately of course) that I divorced him and that I’m FREE!!!! He is still the same, only slightly more mellow and old (hehehehe).” haha I know the feeling!!
So the young scorp is laying low and the older scorp wants no strings attached?? hmmm how do you feel about that?
LOL, please do look at my chart again. I meet ppl all over, you would be surprised at the things strangers tell me. My aqua (let’s call him AquaBlue) told me that I make ppl feel comfortable, like they know me forever. I befriend men in general and I guess they like it, cuz I have a ton of men that I speak with. But I’m really picky and only a select few make it to the promised land (if you know what I mean, lol) But I digress (to bite off ur line). I have been researching Sags (one must be prepared) and from what I learned, they are intelligent, open minded rebels, who love their freedom and will try everything once, hmmmm sounds like my cup of tea (am I really a cancer? lol).
He is straight forward, young (27 – I attract young guys, go figure) and thinks he can rock my world, lol. Very sensitive and impatient and very very persistent. Has a slight chip on his shoulder, I bet he has been hurt and also someone has tried to tame him and he is NOT having that. He doesn’t know what to make of me (who does? lol). He rubs me the wrong way, but he is learning quickly and is changing his style, this sign is mutable and its awesome to see it as it happens. He might make my list, we shall see.
Scorps – the young one, we clicked and he got scared because I know he likes me and he knows I like my space, so he is confused and is keeping his distance to keep those deep urges under control, I suspect I will be hearing from him very soon, he just had to think about how to approach me and get what he wants. The older one, hmmmmmm he usually texts me, this time he actually picked up the phone, that means to me that he really wants to connect on a personal level, the “no strings” is for my benefit (doesn’t want to scare me away, since I’m a notorious free spirit and he knows that).
Aries – if I sat down and told you the story about us, you would be spellbound. A novela, but once I turn the page, I’m done, I warned him plenty, but c’est la vie, he didn’t listen and here you have it.
ha! The Sag sounds interesting! Hmmm… I’m sure your Cancer aspects are very soothing and comforting which makes you so easy to talk to and connect with! And then they are placed in your third house ruled by Gemini so it adds that childlike quality to it… love it… I’m sure that combo will keep attracting younger guys… and then that fire… back to that Sag again, I wanted to add to my last post and then you just wrote it in your last post- Sag’s are very persistent!! I’ve seen it with my very own eyes! you say no and they think its a dare! LOL its funny… It’s a good thing that he doesn’t know what to make of you, haha, its that mystery that keeps the rebellious-independent guy coming back!
And you have both Scorps coming back as well, all lured by the mystery! haha That’s it, I want to do that, too! I’m on a mission!