“The Astrology of Cheating” is a two-part series by Fern Feto Spring. The second installment can be found here.
“Your cheating heart will tell on you….”
How can you tell if someone has a cheating heart? In addition to using your own intuition and hard-earned judgment, you can rely on astrology to help you avoid partners who look for love in more than one place.
Not every person with the following astrological indicators is going to cheat, and there are many chronic cheaters who may not exhibit any obvious astrological patterns in their charts that fit the “cheating” signature. Rather, they may have more intricate and complicated chart dynamics than can be detailed in this post.
The natal birth chart is the first place to look for indicators of extra-curricular relationship activity. We’ll first look at clues to infidelity in the birth chart, and then explore cheating by transit, looking at what happens when Uranus and Neptune transit over sensitive relationship points in the natal chart.
Venus/Mars in Air and Fire signs
Venus and/or Mars in Air and Fire signs are the most prone to looking outside their primary relationship for dalliances and flirtations. Air (Gemini, Libra, Aquarius) and Fire (Aries, Leo, Sagittarius) need constant stimulation and change. They want to feel entertained and excited in love. This is particularly true of those who are pre-Saturn Return (younger than 30). Post-Saturn Return individuals with this natal chart signature are more likely to understand the benefits of commitment, patience and persistence and are less likely to leap at the site of something shiny and new.
Are they airy? Air is an element that needs to move, flow, have space and be exposed to new experiences and situations … constantly. Air signs get bored at the drop of a hat, and need to change, move, experiment and communicate. If your potential cheatee has Venus and/or Mars in Air signs, they may be inclined to have more than one lover or relationship interest at a time. This is particularly true of Venus or Mars in Gemini, but both Libra and Aquarius are also inclined to “dabble on the side” as well. Air signs are motivated to cheat out of intellectual or mental boredom rather than because they are missing some kind of sexual passion or heat in their primary relationship.
Got fire? Fire signs are always on the look out for the next best thing. They want action, adventure, drama and torrential passion. If they’re not getting a steady diet of “wow!” with their main squeeze, they’ll generate fire elsewhere. Venus and Mars in Aries, Leo or Sagittarius may leap before they look, making a move and then later regretting their haste. They cheat because the opportunity arises and they hate to miss out on anything that offers fun or excitement.
Outer Planets in the Relationship Houses
The 5th, 7th and 8th houses concern love, romance, sexuality and relationships. When Jupiter, Uranus or Neptune are placed natally in one of these houses, the individual may be more inclined to take risks or have a desire to push the boundaries in love and romance. Jupiter can make them want to experience many different types and “flavors” of love, trying a little bit of everyone, just because they have a desire to expand and grow beyond pre-established limits and boundaries. Uranus in these houses instigates a need to rebel, step outside the box and push the limits in love and sex. People with this placement want to experiment and be free, any kind of boundary in relationship makes them feel constricted and constrained. Neptune in one of the relationship houses has a deep need for escape, salvation and spiritual connection through love — such a deep need that, in their desire to “merge” with anyone offering an escape from the day-to-day grind of reality, they may forget about any agreements or commitments that they have made
Each of these planets can find other ways to express itself in the “love” houses, and the examples given above are only possibilities that may arise when the planet feels stifled or thwarted in some way. The more the innate energy of these planets is kept alive and active, the less need there is for the individual to act out in ways that may hurt the person they love, as well as prove self-destructive in the long run. The overall natal chart will indicate whether the individual has the self-discipline and maturity to harness the energy of these planets and put them to good use in more constructive ways.
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- Uranus, the 7th house, and infidelity
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