Capturing and taming the wild Sagittarius male: A guide to his Venus sign
January 20, 2009 by Matthew Currie
Horses have been usefully domesticated for thousands of years. This didn’t happen until our ancestors figured out that you can’t outrun a wild horse … but if you put your mind to it you can out-think one. If you find yourself in a relationship with a Sagittarius man, applying the same logic can help you get what you want out of the situation.
Sagittarius men aren’t an inherently worse bet than anyone else for a committed long-term relationship. However, their boundless, bouncy enthusiasm at the beginning of a relationship can be mistaken for a permanent feature. They wax enthusiastically about you until the relationship lives out its natural life span, and then something (or someone) becomes the shiny new distraction.
Understanding the love style of your Sagittarius man can give you the upper hand in a relationship. Odds are good that he’s so busy with his enthusiasm for you (and life in general) that even he isn’t aware of how he’s wired for love. Find his Venus, learn its language, and this could be the one you ride all the way home.
Sagittarius Man with Venus in Libra
This is a highly magnetic combination that really grabs your attention from the other side of the bar. They tend to be more charming and presentable than the average Sagittarius. Generally, they perform well within the context of a developed romantic relationship. The biggest problem with this combination is that you aren’t the only one noticing these qualities in them, and they can often be led astray by their sense of adventure with just a little romantic coercion … just like Woody Allen (who nonetheless remains faithful to his current wife, despite the unusual nature of their relationship). The best way to hang on to one of these is to play into a shared sense of adventure, like with Anna Nicole Smith. Just be careful not to play along too far … like with Anna Nicole Smith.
Sagittarius Man with Venus in Scorpio
When the sporting nature of Sag is combined with the intensity of Scorpio, the end result is a man who wants to play, and play hard. Doors front man Jim Morrison is a good example of this: when he dedicated himself to his sex life, no one was more focused — whether within the context of a relationship or not. These Sagittarians are also better at keeping a secret than the average, and take more pleasure in it. A good example is magician Criss Angel, who combines the openness of his Sun Sign with the smouldering Scorpio air of mystery. Play along, and you could disappear with him, as opposed to him disappearing on you.
Sagittarius Man with Venus in Sagittarius
Bouncy and fun, open and idealistic, these are often the Sagittarians who can be the most work to pin down in a relationship. They love the ideal of a committed, long-term relationship, but often overestimate their ability to play along. They’re rarely manipulative, but you might end up feeling handled after the thrill of the hunt is over. Share in that sense of adventure. Find their game and play along, just like tattoo artist Kat Von D does with her Sag/Sag man, Nikki Sixx. Try to be the voice of reason on occasion, too. Remember: Sag/Sag Jimi Hendrix overdosed on his girlfriend’s pills … not his own.
Sagittarius Man with Venus in Capricorn
Venus in Capricorn has a well-grounded reputation, and nicely balances out the “stray factor” inherent in Sagittarius. Consider the case of Brad Pitt, successfully married to his female equivalent Angelina Jolie. Their fame and unearthly good looks might make them a hazard to stray, but they stay grounded by their mutual love of collecting small children. Even Britney Spears, for all her craziness, remains strongly focused on her kids, on business, and on her sense of family. Find the stability behind the sportiness and this could be a keeper.
Sagittarius Man with Venus in Aquarius
The independent and non-traditional flavor of Venus in Aquarius can be a difficult combination to grasp. Treat this one fairly and open-mindedly, without too much jealousy, and it can work. Amy Lee of Evanescence, who manages to quietly maintain a marriage to a non-celebrity without any sign of difficulty, is a good example of this. On the other hand, you could be dealing with someone so non-standard that neither you nor anyone else will break the code. A good example of this is Andy Dick, whose name rarely appears in any sentence with the words “good example” in it.
Remember: although everyone says “no head games” in their personal ads, every relationship is a game, of sorts. There are rules (spoken and unspoken), goals, and strategies. A Sagittarius man is naturally fond of sports, games, and competitions. And all it takes to win any game is an understanding of the rules and of your opponent. Have fun with it, and he’s likely to have fun with it, too. And that, more than anything else, is what makes a Sagittarius man come back for more.
About the Author
Matthew Currie has been a professional astrologer and counselor for twenty years, with numerous appearances on television and radio. Drop by his web site and feel free to pet the monkey. He’s friendly.
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Cap girl here! Can’t believe this article has gotten no love yet!! I’ve dated a couple of Sag’s with Venus in Cap…and one I broke up with around 6 times (I did the breaking up.) and it took us both around 8 years and a few lovers in between to say “lets just be friends” the last time we got back together we both admitted it was because we got carried away with the sex. We both have Moon and Mars in Aquarius, I have a Venus Aquarius…and normally guys kind of get iced out of my life but he was the only one to ever stand up to me…that’s why we’re still best friends.
He is so sweet and smart and surprisingly true-blue!! I like to ask him what my problems are in relationships and he says “Whenever things got good, you left!! You are like Chairman Mao, you like constant change!” What a Sag thing to say! (my Uranus is conj. Jupiter in Sag, god help me!)
I um… had a thing with a Sag w/ Venus in Capricorn. Always spoke about commitment (his initiation), but failed by him sleeping with someone else. Oops.
Bravo Matthew- I loved this!
I hope you’ll do a follow up on the rest of the Zodiac. You’ve covered the Scorpio for me but what about the other Sag who dropped the ball- Sag with Venus in Aries?????
Venus is never more than two signs from the Sun. Therefore, the obvious issue with your Sag ex with Venus in Aries is that he’s a huge liar, or possibly from a different solar system.
Australia is possibly from a different solar system….
Sagittarius with venus in scorpio. How should I handle and attract this kind of combination?
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I will always be mesmerized by a sagitarius man. The love of my life passed away and he was a saggy. I had a blast with him and no one can ever compare to him. I miss him dearly. They are by far the Rockstars of the zodiac and live and breath passion. The thing that was sometimes hard to deal with is that I knew I was not the only admirer or biggest fan. He had a way of being one of the most charasmatic, lovable, laidback and easygoing man that could get along with any group or just about anyone.They are extremely accepting, friendly, and open-minded.. I truly loved him for that…and he was extremely funny and sarcastic. As an aries female…I always seemed to find myself in incompatible relationships like with a capricorn or another aries. But this relationship went very smoothly and was always exciting and light hearted and oh soo sexy. Wow…I never knew it could be so GOOD! Only thing is with loving a rockstar was the vices that came with it…since he was so expansive and a thrill seeker…he had a fixation on drugs. And it became his demise and what took his life. I will never forget how his love for me during that time changed my life and how much I loved him. His venus was in scorpio which made him so magnetic and he was the most intense, passionate, and mind blowing lover imaginable. God I MISS HIM…Everyday!!! His fire will always be an eternal flame in my heart….Rest in Peace my Love!
My brother is a Sagitarian hot headed….just kidding, I love him
I know that he loves women who love him, if a woman shows him attention, if she tells him hes okay in some way, he adores her 
His GF’s have been all shapes, sizes, race ect. All he cares about is if you care 
If a woman tells him she loves him, he instantly belongs to her 
These guys are as bad as Libra women. In love with love…..
My Sagitarian brother is a good father and was a faithful husband to his ex wife, He was very heartbroken when it ended even though it wasnt his fault, she just didnt want the committment he did. Now he’s with an Aries woman who is so nice to him, Ive never seen him happier. I think Aries women are really good for Sag guys, she is really there for him as he is for her and they both enjoy the kids, anyone would think she was their mother, she’s fantastic with them.
I was always told by people that both Sag and Aries are selfish and childish but I am seeing the complete opposite with these 2, maybe its the Aries/Sag combination that gets their good side out
I dated a Sagittarius man he was 17 and I was 20 and I am a Libra.
There was an attraction but we were too busy with our lives well actually he more than I. Anyways my friends were telling me that I don’t deserve him because he sleeps with other girls and that I was okay with it its odd that i was okay that he sleeps with other girls (because he informed me that he has no feelings for them and i read they do these things (flirting) for them its like eating and drinking) but sometimes he does phone me telling me that he misses me and he wants me and him to chill together and stuff but anyhow they advice me to dump him and when I did he told me he still want to be my friend because honestly we have A LOT of things in common and I swear I kind of have feelings for him but i feel a bet bad for dumping him i know he had feelings for his ex because she was a different girl but when he was with me he told me that although i am not his type in a girl his attracted to me :S? thats what i am puzzled about the attraction and still want em to be his friend after the break up we’ve been together for a month and a half. Is it possible to get a Sagittarius man back? even if I Was the one who left him
i wish i didnt listen to them!
Camilla
My Sag brother just proposed to his Aries GF, they’d been apart for 10 years before meeting again and all she had to do was bat her eye lashes at him LOL
A Sag guy is just as sentimental as a Libra girl…..You can get him back easy if he is unattached…..Just be cute when you approach him
LadyLibra:
well i do notice that i get along with sag people reaalllyy good
! hehe so ur considering that i flirt with him 
? I’ll try my best hehe although I would love that he approaches me first again.
WOW 10 YEARS APART!!! ?? :S thats really shocking i thought if an ex left you they will never take you back i thought they were like Aries people that they never look back, do they? I wish them all the best =).