Pisces woman in flirtatious relationship with Cancer male boss
November 21, 2008 by Jeffrey Kishner
stickylabel writes,
I started work back in January and within days my boss started opening up and telling me all about his family, his upbringing, his relationship with others at the organisation. I am confused as to why I am the person he’s trusted with all this information, and if we go with the traditional English stereotype of being reserved and not sharing feelings; I’m even more confused. I’ve kept everything he’s told me confidential. I feel like there is some deeper connection between the two of us.
Overall, he’s a pretty good boss but I don’t think he manages people well. We’ve developed an “interesting” relationship, one where I spend my days feeding his ego and validating his worth on the job, which I think should sometimes be the other way around. We’ve developed a friendship on the job loaning each other books etc. I feel I can be honest with him but I’m struggling with where to draw the line. It’s apparent to my boss and me that we really enjoy working with each other, often making jokes and being able to communicate with just a simple look across the office. It’s beginning to really develop into a flirtatious relationship and I’m not too sure how I feel about it all. I’m wondering if there is anything astrologically I should be wary of or look out for or even why he feels he can confide in me.
stickylabel,
You two do have a fair amount of connections (view synastry chart). You’re both water signs (you a Pisces and he a Cancer — why else would he talk about his family and upbringing?), so you resonate on an emotional level. In addition, his sensitive Pisces Moon is in your Sun sign, while your Cancer Moon is in his Sun sign; Sun-Moon conjunctions in synastry are a classic husband-wife aspect (not that it has to manifest as marriage). His Virgo Venus — which probably accounts for being a librarian — conjoins your Virgo Ascendant and opposes your Pisces Sun; simply put, his planet of affection connects with two key parts of your chart. Additionally, your Pisces Venus makes a harmonious 120-degree angle — called a trine — to his Cancer Sun. These multiple Venus-Sun contacts suggest a mutual attraction.
There are also some more combustible combinations when comparing your charts. Your Pisces Venus makes a 90-degree angle – called a square – to his Sagittarius Mars, adding a level of erotic charge that may not necessarily work out in the long run; his sex planet wants to play the field, whereas your Venus wants to merge in oceanic bliss.
Your Capricorn Mars opposes his Sun-Uranus conjunction, which can also create lots of tension. This combination may lead to danger, as Mars-Uranus is the aspect of rash, impulsive actions. Although this opposition occurs in conservative signs, you’ve got three energetic, yang planets, so something’s gotta give eventually.
You write that you feel like you feed his ego when it should be the other way around. His Moon falls in your Seventh House of Partnership. With this placement, you may be his caretaker, mothering him when he ought to be more in a position of authority. Speaking of being the boss: his Saturn — planet of authority — is exactly conjunct your Uranus, the planet of the rebel. You’ve already got a generational difference — he’s old enough to be your father — but to add to this, you’re going to resist him laying down the law, as it triggers your need to be an independent person.
I gather that you’re asking if this energetic connection will lead to romance … or even if it should. I’d advise against it, because all these Uranian connections may result in some unexpected episode that may lead to you losing your job. His Cancer stellium — ruled by his Moon in your Seventh House — falls in your Eleventh House of Friendship. I suggest you keep your relationship on the level of good friends. Use your pragmatic Earth-sign Ascendant and Mars to draw firm boundaries when you feel you’re close to crossing that invisible line (which may be all to easy given your strong Pisces emphasis).
~ Jeffrey
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Thanks very much for this. Could I get some clarification on something?
“Your Capricorn Mars opposes his Sun-Uranus conjunction, which can also create lots of tension. This combination may lead to danger, as Mars-Uranus is the aspect of rash, impulsive actions. Although this opposition occurs in conservative signs, you’ve got three energetic, yang planets, so something’s gotta give eventually.”
Are these rash impulsive actions on both are parts? Is one of us more rash than the other? On two occasions we’ve had really heated arguments where we both ended up yelling at each other. Does this and the “resist him laying down the law” cause long term tension? When you say “something’s gotta give eventually” what’s that all about?
Thanks again for your insight. And as of last night leaving work, I already started drawing firm boundaries.
@stickylabel, it takes two … so it’s really a matter of how you trigger each other. Your Mars is probably more focused on getting work done, while he sees the office as more of a family-environment where he can either display his quirkiness or run things in an unconventional manner. This may anger you, or more precisely, his Uranian personality may spark your drive to fight against him to establish some sort of order.
At the same time, there’s the Saturn-Uranus interaspect by conjunction, where there’s a bit of an opposite dynamic. So, yes, long-term tension.
“Something’s gotta give” means explosiveness, rebellion, fighting.
Sticky,
Welcome to Office Wife Land. You’ve entered a peculiar place of where you are expected to offer emotional intimacy as part of your job description. All the work and none of the perks.
And how like a Cancer man to do this. Women are often confused by a Cancer male’s propensity to offer instant intimacy. But this does not mean that he see you in anything other than your current role. In fact his Jupiter, Mercury combination sitting on your Moon argues that he sees you as a good friend. So if you are looking for something more, you must tread carefully.
If you value your job, keep it all business. If you can’t, find another.
Good luck.
Hmm.. maybe you should write Work Husbands by Sign, Beth
Beth took the words out of my mouth. I originally read this post over at Astro Dispatch and I immediately said to myself, “Oh, she’s becoming his office wife.”
Like Beth, I’m a veteran of corporate America. The office “marriages” I’ve witnessed often last longer than the real ones. However, they function best if never consummated.
Just don’t make the mistake of sacrificing your life for this guy. Ever see the film “Mr. and Mrs. Bridge,” where Paul Newman’s secretary confesses to him that she’s given up her entire life for him? It happened a lot in the old days, when women were limited in the professional sphere.
Knowledge is power.
What a fun idea, Jeffrey!
Thanks all. I’ve never heard of Office Wife Land before….but it sure doesn’t sound good.