I am glad you can relate! And, it’s men and women.

I have sexual molestation issues from when I was a kid, but honestly, I can’t completely explain what happened because I don’t know. Maybe that’s Neptune in the 4th, my core is foggy.

I am very self-protective and I have a full arsenal in my defense system (Moon conjunct Saturn, with Saturn in Cancer, and Mars in Cancer-I have Aries Sun, Merc, Venus and a bunch of asteroids all in the 8th house).

I can say that I was extremely sensitive to lewd staring and inappropriate closeness, and I can extract the sexual undertones of any seemingly innocent conversation. I put up such a tough exterior though that few people venture any closer.

Parents of girls w/these kinds of aspects should really be watchful of their daughters, especially as they enter their “monthly” years. It kinda sends out a signal to all males in the area that she’s good to go. Again, “dowdying it down” is called for.

Bingo! People began making overtly sexual comments about my appearance starting when I was about 7. I had an uncle (my marriage) who always wanted me to give him a massage- and I always made an excuse knowing it was f#$@ed up. No one seemed to be on top of this screwed up behavior. Who asks for a massage from a 7 year old? He was arrested about 1o years later for statutory rape of a 15 year old (he was 50-something).

@mu’min
Let me speak a bit on that because it is my firm view that the vast majority of women simply do not, or cannot, or will not, understand essential elements of Male Sexuality. Some 90% of which is Visual. Men are evolutionarily hardwired to be ready for sex ALL THE TIME

I have to agree with you on this. My boyfriend could have written this statement.

Mu – thank you very much for your comment! The Aries Venus – Gemini Mars describe me to a T.

BUT!!!

When you mentioned the sex drive:

Women for real, only get horny about a week every month,

I knew that for me, it’s MORE than one week a month (because lets face it: 2 or 3 times a week is more stabilizing for me). Then I found out I actually have sexual aspects afterall!!!

I have Venus Quintile Mars
and Mars Inconjunct Pluto!!!!!!

So how do I deal with inconjunct? I head these two do not share the same element, so they avoid each other at all cost. Help?

Stand alone, I’d say that Venus in Aries and Mars in Gemini in a female chart speaks to a good deal of “shock and awe” displays somehow; Venus in Aries is the classic “tease” placement, often women w/this placement are the ones who seem to get off on flirting w/guys, or in some other way enticing them, etc. On a deeper psychological level its a way to affirm one’s self worth and value in the sexual marketplace, WHICH IS REAL. More on this, soon.

Mars in Gemini would, I think, incline a woman toward the Mind sexually. “Dirty talking” or in some other way communication is important, as well as versatility and variety, possibly might like to use toys and definitly fingers/hands. The two planets together form a kind of lighter, flightier vibe, unless Pluto is involved some kind of way, then things take a much deeper “hardcore” feel.

As for whether women and girls w/such aspects in their charts sets them up in th ways mentioned, in a word, absolutely. Checkout Jon Benet Ramsey’s chart. The end.

Parents of girls w/these kinds of aspects should really be watchful of their daughters, especially as they enter their “monthly” years. It kinda sends out a signal to all males in the area that she’s good to go. Again, “dowdying it down” is called for.

Let me speak a bit on that because it is my firm view that the vast majority of women simply do not, or cannot, or will not, understand essential elements of Male Sexuality. Some 90% of which is Visual. Men are evolutionarily hardwired to be ready for sex ALL THE TIME, think about it, the average man generates about FOURTEEN GALLONS OF SPERM in his lifetime. That’s a lot of jizz, ladies. And that’s just for the average guy. How much do you think someone like Ron Jeremy done made?

Now-why are men “always thinking about one thing”? Hmm? Why is that? Its because, from an evolutionary stanpoint, you never knew when a woman would be available, and if she was, whether she’d be in the mood; you had to take advantage of the opportunity if it presented itself, because you never knew if you were gonna get another crack at the apple. If you blew your chance, you were on a one way ticket to evolutionary oblivion.

Women on the other hand, almost never want for chances to get some of the good wood. All of you know exactly what I mean, too-all you need do is send out strong signals, on purpose, that you’re available, and watch the line form to the left full of men who will only too happy to accomodate you. So the issue isn’t quantity for women, its QUALITY. Or, as I like to put it, Woman’s only real goal in life is to choose the RIGHT phallus. Yes, its true. They come a dime a dozen.

I was dead serious when I made the remark about “reverse engineering” society; we live in a time where the idea of “equality” is king, but in truth, it is not. And its causing real trauma to both men and women.

Why do you think some guys act downright crazy? You would too if you’re constantly in a state of sexual arousal. Remember ladies, wars have been fought over the poon.

Now, from a metaphysical and ideological standpoint, many women will recoil at much of what I just said; they’ll say that they should be able to wear whatever they want, and that men should just control themselves. This is foolish, because such a person knows nothing about life nor men or even themselves. They are looking at it through female eyes, and simply speaking, even the most sexual woman is no match for a sexual man. I just explained the reasons why. From the get go, men and women have different aims and goals, different strategies and objectives, and yes, different wiring and plumbing. Women for real, only get horny about a week every month, please correct me if I’m wrong; men get horny ALL THE TIME. Women don’t need to have an orgasm everytime they have sex, or even to get pregnant; if men don’t, they get blue balls, and let me tell ya ladies, its real and it hurts.

So now maybe you can see why I said that only one third of all women have Sexual aspects versus some two thirds of men.

I’ve been working on a larger piece that brings many of the things I’ve been talking about together and hopefully, that’ll be soon. Me and Jeff have been talking about it behind the scenes, so stay tuned.

Salaam
Mu

@ Michelle:

I used to feel paranoid (and still do sometimes) because people just stare. They don’t say hi, they don’t smile, they just stare. It’s freaky.

OMG exactly!! They stare, they follow you on the streets and in supermarkets…freaky.

Sub-Question To Females With SSA’s: Were you sexualized as a child or teen? Have you been a victim of sexual crime?”

I have heard this is common with people (esp. girls) with these SSA’s. I was sexually abused as a child and was propositioned for prostitution multiple times as a teen.

I have had strange/inappropriate interactions with adults as a teen from teachers, to social workers ect.

Because I have the trine I think I’ve actually had it easy, because a lot of women with squares/opps/conj’s have been the victim of more violent sexual crime.

What about you?

@May-

Having an SSA for me has caused a lot of issues and is not exactly as fun as it sounds…men see something with me that isn’t there, it attracts Plutonian men and scares off men as well (nice ones who don’t know how to deal with the energy), it interferes with friendships..there is good and there is bad.

I guess I assumed that the person would automatically do whatever he or she wishes, because in my “universe” people can do whoever they want. But of course, you are right, people do have choices to work with that energy. I’m very sorry.

Mu, Thank you for your comment.

This need not be a problem, since only one third of all women anywhere will have such aspects to begin with, versus some two thirds of men;

Are you serious? I thought equality exists. WHY DIDN’T I WRITE MY BIRTHCHART WITH SSA (Super Sexual Aspect) WHEN I WAS BORN?

how your chart looks wrt Sexual concerns so yor other half can cater to your needs;

I have Gemini Mars with Aries Venus (I’m a Taurus with Aquarius moon) What would be my sexual needs? They say my Mars in Gemini needs a lot of talking. Honestly, I don’t care if the other person talks, I’LL TALK. Aries Venus?

See for yourself, and then you’ll understand why a much older and NOT HOT looking woman like Camilla could took Charles from a very pretty BUT NO-SEXUAL ASPECT HAVING Diana.

Burn….

Exactly. That’s what I do when I don’t want attention.

I used to feel paranoid (and still do sometimes) because people just stare. They don’t say hi, they don’t smile, they just stare. It’s freaky.

Then, consider say, Camilla Parker Bowles. She also had strong Sexual aspects in her chart. See for yourself, and then you’ll understand why a much older and NOT HOT looking woman like Camilla could took Charles from a very pretty BUT NO-SEXUAL ASPECT HAVING Diana.

As for what you can do to minimize the Sexual aspects in your chart? Well, try not to wear “feminine” things when you don’t want your inherent sexuality to shine. Wear bland, earthtone pantsuits and the like, no heels, no cleavage, etc. Dowdy yourself a bit. Borderline frump. You get the idea.

Salaam
Mu

What I would look at in your case is to see first, how your chart looks wrt Sexual concerns so yor other half can cater to your needs; all guys know that once you get the gal’s juices flowing she’ll be down for whatever, LOL. Not having Sexual aspects as a woman only means that your man will have to be a bit more attentive to you to get you ready and in the mood. The chart will be helpful to him in this regard (BTW Jeff, I gotta another piece on this, the 5th house. Let’s talk!) in giving him strong clues as exactly what to do.

Next, I’d consider the actual planet to planet synastry between you and your man, focusing on the Sexual planets to see just how in sync you are to each other. Obviously, the more aspects, the more action.

Salaam
Mu