The Astrology of Kink: The Scorpio Taboo
September 11, 2008 by Laura F. Walton
Leather and lace, fringe and fetish … in this series, we’ll take a peek at the kinkier side of the zodiac. Each sign has its own distinct sexual flavor; by combining the various tastes you find in the natal chart, each person’s unique sexual recipe begins to emerge. This time, we’ll tackle the question of the ages: what makes Scorpio so sexy?
According to common wisdom, Scorpio is the sexiest sign around. Even when standing in the cat food aisle at the grocery store, trying to decide between Tuna Tenders and Liver Surprise, Scorpio exudes a mysterious, dark charisma. You can be sure that sex in never far from their minds; common wisdom is absolutely correct in this: Scorpio is practically obsessed.
Pluto, the planet that rules Scorpio, is powerful and difficult to predict. A strong Pluto often indicates several fundamental realignments of the core self, and a Scorpio at 45 may be an entirely different sexual creature than he was at 25. With even the slightest hint of sexualizing aspects (such as an aspect of Pluto to Mars or the eighth house) at least some of this self-regeneration will take place in the bedroom … or the basement dungeon.
Self-renewal requires a confrontation with the hidden aspects of human nature; therefore, Scorpio sexuality often includes elements of the “unacceptable.” Power games are foremost. The most persistently successful master or dominatrix will have the Scorpio/Pluto touch. Other signs may give a strong will to power, but Scorpio gives the intuitive insight and the desire to carry it through — this is a lover who can find and exploit every secret hot spot, whether on your body or in your subconscious.
We’re not talking about Bondage Lite, either. Whips, gags, genital torture devices, fully equipped dungeons … you name it, Scorpio is willing to use it if necessary. There’s a penetrative aspect to Scorpio, whether male or female, and both sexes tend to enjoy anal sex; if your sweet, mysterious Scorpio lady doesn’t already have a strap-on hidden somewhere in the house, just give her time.
Many also have vampire fantasies (Scorpio Venus especially) and some are into blood fetish. The double taboo of sex/death is Pluto’s domain; certain extreme practices, such as consensual erotic asphyxiation, are also Scorpionic in essence.
Of course, not every Scorpio you meet will be secretly sizing you up for a studded collar and leash. Depending on Mars placements, etc., some are fairly vanilla, if a bit overbearing at times. There’s no way to avoid the Scorpio desire to control, though, and if it doesn’t emerge in the bedroom, it’s likely to emerge on an emotional wavelength. Jealousy and possessiveness are often a problem, but the good news is that even the most stubborn of Scorpios can usually learn to control themselves instead of you, given enough time, patience, and even-handed treatment.
Scorpio is often known as “enigmatic,” but in truth, it’s one of the easiest of signs to understand: no matter how enlightened or self-controlled, some part of Scorpio will always want to own you, body and soul. The rest is simply a matter of working out which parts you’re willing to give up, when, and how. If you can come to a compromise with Scorpio — possibly one that includes nipple clamps — you could find that the relationship fulfills not only your need for an intense emotional connection, but also your deepest, darkest desires. Enjoy.
About the Author
Laura F. Walton is a writer, artist, and arts instructor based in Texas. She has been a practicing astrologer for nearly ten years; she specializes in areas of sexuality, individuality, and creative self-discovery. She has contributed forecasts for print media, and currently provides monthlies on her blog Astro What?
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RowdyRaven
I’m sorry for rasing my voice LOL but high school and college though WOW well I have never been in a threesome with two women I’m a selfish lover I don’t like sharing my woman with anybody not even another woman.
Mountaingoat….
Funny-I have never done a threesome either, by me and my girlfriends have all shared the same guy. Most recently on vacation, me and my girl were kicking, and spyed us a real hottie, and it was like we both knew what the other was thinking instantly! Not granted she is a sag-but way too cool, we were definately on the same wavelength.
just say the word and off come the clothes-lol. Yeah- I can be a selfish lover too….lol.
So we all hooked up later-but she brought him back to our room…not knowing how he would take something like that. Any how-since played “retriever”-lol, she got to have her way with him first, then me, then her, then me, then her….you get the drift. Neither of us are shy-so that was not even an issue. But we both have a jealous streak in us that neither wanted to see, and we both knew a threesome wasn’t gonna work cause of that….but sharing works just fine
I have had threesomes plenty of times with 2 guys-damn that was reaaaaally fun. very right-on. I’d do that again in a heart beat
Why on earth straight guys fail to consider how uninhibited it makes a woma is beyond me-thing is over thier perception of gay vs. heterosexual view of themselves, they loose out on an even better time for themselves.
I would highly recommend you give it a shot some time-at least once in your life for experimentations sake-does not make you gay in the least bit you know.
My other cap guy…from way back when….he went down that road-but….he had to be the dominate one primarily between the two-otherwise it would have never worked for him. He never once regretted it, and styill enjoys them to this day.
Hey-theres always halloween-dress up and nobody can tell who you are-think about it-…wink wink.
RowdyRaven
NO CHANCE IN HELL!!!!!!!!!! I WOULD NEVER IN A PARALLEL UNIVERSE TOUCH, LOOK AT OR SO MUCH THINK ABOUT THAT UR CAP FRIEND WAS A FAG FROM THE START AS FOR U UR JUST FOUL LMAO
Mountaingoat….
You silly Cap man….he never touched the other guy or vice-a-versa.
Now I am going to guess you would never be the type to attend an orgy would you?
Hey dude, if that’s not your thing-no worries-don’t have a cow over it…hell I am not one to do the orgy thing myself. But there are a lot out there how certainly would. I don’t hold it against them….I say live and let live.
Neither of the two guys were gay in the least bit, but they did have to have a somewhat open mind. I think of it like this…two naked men in the same room is not much different that if they were in the locker room-or taking a shower in one.
Dude-take a chill pill-it’ll be alright-really. Nobody is even close to associating you with any homosexual behavior just because you might discuss anything here. It’s all good.
RowdyRaven
Oh they didn’t touch, damn I spazed out for nothing I sorry I just don’t like Gay People. lol
Wow. I am a scorpio woman and i found this to be quite accurate. One thing though: We may be a bit hesitant to show this off in the beginnings of a relationship for fear of rejection, but it’s in there! Even in a tamer scorpio sun/ cancer mars (such as myself), there’s always some bondage fun to be had!
I think this is pretty accurate, being a scorp sun wit aries moon i enjoy not just a little bit of control.With that being said i have no trouble being a submissive to a secure and dominant partner male or female. I like to “play” submissive and then steral the power back. You would be surprised how much power you can gain even when the other thinks they hold the reins.
@Softfocushalo
your really on to something, in the back of mind i always thought i was the only one deep enough to understand that. my Sag woman likes to dominate sexually, i like being dominated by her. it empowers her. but through my submission i am the one that dominates. she has a strong sex drive, likes it hot and spontaneous. when it comes to sex i have a ropa dope style, a woman will wear herself out f***ing with me, after that i ease into overdrive and go into my rhythm going deeper and deeper emotionally just when they thought it was over.
you see, so she may dominate physically and sexually. but i control her emotionally and mentally.
Rowdy says:
“Most recently on vacation, me and my girl were kicking, and spyed us a real hottie, and it was like we both knew what the other was thinking instantly! Not granted she is a sag-but way too cool, we were definately on the same wavelength.”
i can only fantasize, the best of both worlds, having sex with two women. Sag and a Scorpio. The “sting” of scorpio and the “fire” of a Sag.
that lucky bastard!
What do you wemon recommend sexually?
Phenix/scorpio
Making love isn’t a job, it’s supposed to be fun, dominate, be dominated, switch, experiment, its all like a dance…LOL Personally I like the way it’s always different with my Aqua lover, I’m amazed at the depth of his perverseness…..Just kidding, actually what I love is the way he never says no….LOL
Sorry, if I’ve made a few brows raise, I’m a Libra/Scorp/Aries combo sexually….If it’s legal, why not?! 
Just remember if it feels good, go with it
Ever wear a disguise? that’s fun, you are cheating on yourself LOL, then you catch them (yourself? whatever)….well, I guess its not for everyone….Role playing is so much fun, you can literally take it to any level after that
@ LL -if its NOT legal..EVEN BETTER!
(says the aqua with a penchant for sex in public places, hehe)
LOL, havent tried that yet..hmmm…..
oops, I forgot, I did that once….A guy went down on me at a theatre and pleased me while leaving me virgin for a few more years LOL
hmph. after reading all this, now i’m sad. i’m not going to get to have any more scorpio sex.
i’ve never thought this before, but that’s really heartbreaking.
Libra lady it seems like it sometimes lol anyways im a scorp enough said but i was wondering what you like indivudually. Its interesting to me in two ways. One for personl reasons i love to learn more two because im thinking of becoming a sex therpist in colledge as a carrer feild.
Phenix/scorpio
sex therapist huh? You shouldn’t ask Libra women what they like, you’ll never hear the end of it LOL seriously though I think as long as you love someone, you can make them happy easily because it makes you happy to just be near them. My ex husband was mechanical, he knew how to do a lot of physical things but I never enjoyed it much, we played sometimes it was okay but because I didn’t love him, I could never really get in to the mood for long with him….I also should remind you, I’m almost 40 (next year) and that changes a lot, including a womans drive, but somethings never change, the one thing that I absolutely adore about my lover when were together is the eye contact, another thing about what he does is he is never the same, he can be romantic one night and primal another, but he is always gentle…even when I beg him to hurt me he only goes so far, just enough to be scarey fun…..You should ask other women instead of me though LOL, I’m a freak sorry
He also likes to switch, trust me, playing both sides of the dominance card can be stimulating…once trust is there, you can make anything enjoyable
@phoenix – literally all women are different. I’m kinda freaky like LL but there are things i like to do that literally every single one of my best girl friends would say over their dead body would they allow a man to do, and they’re both very sexually expressive. My pisces bff absolutely NEEDS a man to go down on her before they have sex. She simply won’t allow it if he doesn’t. It’s her THING. Now while all women enjoy that, not all of us are so adament about it. In fact, personally for me, i dont like to have that done to me for two long because i dont like being passive where another woman wouuld look at me like i had two heads if i said to them since they enjoy it so much. Sex should be a purely unique experience and half the fun is experimenting with a new lover to find out which things are good and what are kinda duds. We all have our little favs, other things that are ok and some that are no-go. If you want to be a good lover, PAY ATTENTION. If you move to do something and her back arches, thats a winner, do it every time. If you go to do something and after a minute or so she’s not doing anything much different than before, you prolly want to discard it. Her body will give the clues. And try everywhere. I have a thing for my back and also the cut right inside my hip bone. Runing your hand over it or kissing it drives me insane. MY ex had a thing for behind his ears. Legs are a big errogenous zone, inner thigh. Experiment with different pressures is a big thing. Applying sequencing pressuring going from light and teasing to firm or biting can set off major endorphins in the brain as it tries to catch up with each sensation. Get one of those books where it has 101 different things to do in the bedroom and just get playful. you might both discover new things you like that you never knew! But always, always look at how her body reacts and her breathing, these are things you can’t fake and women and men do reactively and without thought.
Just a thought that i always like to warn younger male lovers about, and please don’t be offended, it’s jsut it happens so often that i feel the needs to give a heads up…don’t try anal by surprising us with it, lol. A lot of women are more open to trying it than we let on, we just don’t want it to be like “Surprise! We’re doing anal now!”
A little pressure on the anus though with the thumb is usually acceptable and quite pleasurable. But go slow and while in the heat of the moment so she’s distracted and doesn’t have to feel self conscious like “omg, there’s a finger in my butt”. That, you kinda do and everybody just pretends it not happening. LOL.
Countess
Really? My lover keeps trying to get me to let him do that….yikes!!!! Kind of scarey
We scorpions enjoy taking the “boo” out of “taboo” so to speak. I might try it once for the hell of it and see where it goes out of curiosity’s sake, but even with a fairly open minded scorpio, no surprises! Like Countess said, no “omg there’s a finger in my butt” moments, lol!
Everyone- Lol not to sounds odd but im a calculated one everything i do is within a momment and i realize it as well. And yes anal yeah i diddnt suprise her i did the finger thing and i dont thnk she much noticed it. Though anal not to sound odd but she tried this with me. I wouldnt fit in. Yeah i am aware of being younger. No the ohnest truth of it being younger is that most younger peole dont understand the vlaue of patience. Patience in slow depth of it and touchering as i call it. Or they dont take there time. The biggest fualt i would say even of older males. Would be to focus on one point in the body. there are so many places on a womas body. Its alot more enjoyable if you can hit more places at once. Though i have a question. What is with some wemon wanting to give oral and others who dont but want a guy to do it to them. I think thats a bit twisted.
Some may think it’s a bit degrading for women to do oral on a man, and some don’t. I think it depends on how you’re conditioned to look at it. Maybe it depends on context, idk. That is kinda twisted I figure, if it feels good why not?
It’s not just women, some men aren’t into doing it either. I think alot of times the ones that don’t like to “give” don’t do it because 1.) they view it as a chore or 2.) they’re not confident about their skills so they feel inadequate and again like its a chore. But all in all, its not really something you can “convert” someone to. I think you just gotta accept it’s there thing or its not and be compatible to that. I’m not huge on getting oral myself because i find it hard to sit still and be submissive and receptive but my lover is very insecure about giving it so it works well for us. Likewise, i actually enjoy the more giving aspects and it’s my man’s favorite thing in the world, even above actual sex so we’re very compatible that way.
@blackgoat
EXACTLY I’m all about your mind and your soul. I’ll get to your heart and the rest of your body later lol My lover typically dominates me sexually i dont see the problem with being submissive if it gives me what i need in a partner and that is someone with tremendous self discipline and strength of mind.To me playing the submissive during sex is the best way to find out how developed those traits are.
@countess Your very open and quite interesting countess. Since receiving oral is a submissive act i would like to know if like to give oral? I’m not sure if you said what your sign is I’m a scorp btw and to be honest i have never heard anyone else speak on the submissiveness in receiving oral. Every time i talk about it people look at me side ways. I do enjoy it tho but not as much as i enjoy giving it.
Anyho, I enjoy giving oral however it depends on the individual and how they respond. I love a responsive body meaning twitches, shakes, back arched, moaning,talking,panting EVERYTHING i like to play on all five senses and i found that the best and most genuine responses come when you give great oral and you enjoy it. I don’t NEED oral but i need you to learn me physically and LIKE IT.UGH I absolutely cant stand half ass oral that s*** is insulting i take damn good care of my lady and if a lover cant give her a proper kiss they need not kiss her at all…
@softfocushalo – with the guys i really dig, not just emotionally or even physically but sexually, i actually really like giving oral. And i get many compliments on how great they think my skills are, lol. But really i don’t think it’s my technique that really brings it, its because i truely enjoy it, feel very carnal and powerful and naughty doing it and it really turns me on. I love when a guy watches, desperately trying to get my hair out of my face so he can get a better view, the gasps, the almost pained look they take on before climax – its just all very real and intimate and that really turns me on. So yes i enjoy giving. BUT i don’t do it for everyone. If you’re just a fling or a one nighter or like a friends with benefits, no – you dont get the goods, lol. Maybe the first time we hoook up, to declare my sexual prowess but after that, nope. I just want to get in and get out.
phenix/scorpio
oral sex is’nt for everyone. Personally I don’t do that or like it….Sort of a respect thing, I respect someone and don’t desire their face , well you know…also. its a “ew” thing for me. I just could never attempt that….Ive had lovers try to please me that way but only after they held my hands behind my head, I just don’t like the idea of his lips being anywhere besides my mouth…LOL
Just find it a bit too animal for me..
LibraLady
Really
lol
Thats interesting theres nothing on here. However i still remember what was said. Now interesting takes on things. Personally i would if i could block out the smell or is there anyways to chnge the smell of a womans cum. Personally i wonder if its just a current phase but a tuaros friend of mine said it was only afte you pop a girls cherry that it smells really bad for awhile for osme reason. Or at least thats his take but he can block it out me not me not so much. Or is it i dont care to give what i wouldnt get in return. I like everything noce and balanced. or at the least to know i could have it should i want it. ok since the rest is not on here that is allfor now.
that’s thing, everyone has a certain smell, guys and girls. and some people’s phermones affect you differently than others. Also too, stating kinda the obvious, smells sometimes have to do with external factors. I had a guy want to go down on me one night but i hadn’t showered since that morning and had been walking around all day in the florida heat in pantyhose so i was like “no, no, no – not a good idea”. But he said he didn’t care, that its his thing and he likes it. But i wouldn’t like it if i were going down on me. Lol. I’ve been fooling around down there after my man was surfing all down long and it had a bit of a different aroma but nothing that bothered me too bad. And then everynow and then i’ll run into one, especially when i was younger and it was just like dank and musty but not in the good way, lol.
Like LL says, oral is very animalistic in a certain way and not all people are that kind of lovers. If smell is a big deal but you still want to please, maybe give her a romantic bath and wash her hair and then get her when she’s fresh and clean.
Everyone,Hi
OMG, my guy did the thumb thing last weekend, It was unexpected and shocking….. I told him about my hang ups with oral sex and then he blew my mind, I tried to do it for him but he wouldnt let me….I always have a bath before I get near him, he calls me his mermaid LOL Anyways, he is an amazing lover, What I dont get is the hands behind the head thing, Ive only been with 3 men (ever) and they all did this, Im beginning to wonder why, I want to please him, but cant if he is doing all the loving….he pleases me untill I’m too weak to move and like the other 2 guys before, when I ask him why he grins……Why do guys do that? I feel spoiled and selfish if he doesnt let me do anything. I want to make him happy too
If i were to answer ohnestl id say that because when a girls on top at least for me it doesnt feel as good. Besides that we like to do those things and please her. Or it could be an inactivity that we dont really want to just lay there.
phenix/scorpio
Everything you mentioned about how to talk to him and treat him really works, I think Im making him happy too…That feels great
interesting…Im going to ask him if thats it. BTW remembr when I told you how beautiful my first lover was (scorpio man) well, all the wishing I did to find another experience as good has come true…My guy is a lot like he was, very emotional, we connect spiritually……Its amazing, I never though I could find that again, his Venus is in Pisces and mine in Scorpio so its very spiritual when we touch…..must be that way with you and your lady since youre both Scorpio, I dont know what I did to deserve this but I smile a lot more then I have in years…BTW thanks for all your insight about the male mind, I can relate so much better in this new relationsip now that I have an idea what a man really needs
I started talking to a scorpio almost 7 months ago. He is 18 years older then me, and we havent met in person yet. We have gotten closer as time went on. He started telling me (around 4 months ago) how much he trusts me, and he didnt think he would trust anyone again. About 2 months ago, I told him I love him, he said he loves me too, and was waiting for me to say it first.
Since we’ve been talking, he hasnt asked for me to do anything out of my comfort zone (Im a virgo by the way), he hasnt asked for Dirty talk, or naughty pictures or anything like that. It surprises me a little, being that he is a scorpio. Im not sure if that is a bad thing? It does make me more comfortable and makes me feel like he is interested in me more then just for sex. He is kind of shy a little, because I know he thinks about me “that way” but he tells me he is sorry and that he doesnt want me mad at him… too cute, did I mention I love him?
I honestly cant picture going through one day without having him to talk to (7 months and we havent gone one day without talking in at least 4 of those months, since we got closer). I am hoping to meet him in the coming months. I am not sure if I am going to fly to meet him, or if he is going to come here. Is there any “surprises” I should know about scorpio before we meet? I havent ever dated a scorpio before.