The Astrology of Kink: The Leo Sensation
August 20, 2008 by Laura F. Walton
Leather and lace, fringe and fetish … in this series, we’ll take a peek at the kinkier side of the zodiac. Each sign has its own distinct sexual flavor; by combining the various tastes you find in the natal chart, each person’s unique sexual recipe begins to emerge. Get ready to be amazed — when it’s Leo’s turn to take the stage, nothing less than center spotlight will do!
In the areas of life that require clothing, Leo is larger than life. Dramatic yet sensitive, generous yet self-centered, these big felines have oversized hearts and egos to match. The Leo energy is pure Sun energy — hot, bright, and always at the center of some personal universe.
Sexual Leo is no different. Leo as a sexual energy is strong, steady, and charismatic; the Lion seeks love in the form of adoration and applause, and usually gives a great performance in the bedroom. It’s often a standard performance — this sign is a traditionalist at its core, especially as a Sun sign — but there are a few unconventional areas in which Leo shines. They can be summed up in one word: exhibitionism. Leo is a show-off, and the Leo Mars and Venus in particular love to be watched and admired. Video libraries of do-it-yourself porn are a Leo specialty, and erotic photography (involving themselves, of course) also has a strong appeal. Give them plenty of admiration, and they’ll fill a thousand sim cards with their naked adventures.
Some Leos enjoy performing in public. There’s at least a touch of Leo in all the best exotic dancers, performance artists, drag performers, and sex show workers (this kind of unconventionality goes against their basically conservative nature, though, and requires an additional concentration of air-sign placements or Uranus contacts.) Many professional porn stars also have Leo prominent in some part of their charts.
Role-playing can also appeal. One of the biggest complaints about sex with Leo is its tendency to become predictable. Even the greatest show gets boring after you’ve seen it a couple hundred times, but role-playing can be an easy, fun remedy. Once Leo is confident that they know what’s expected, they’ll happily take on various fantasy roles. Offering to film the encounter sweetens the deal!
Here’s a hint for partners: overt remarks about his or her sexual style make Leo stubborn, sullen, and hurt. You’ll get better results through the subtle encouragement of interesting behaviors than you will with open complaints about dull ones.
In other words, you have to work them, and some people enjoy the game. Of course, if this sounds to you like a completely silly way of interacting with an adult human being, Leo will drive you crazy. A simple “Hey, I’m bored — let’s get drunk and do it in the neighbor’s treehouse!” just won’t cut it. The big-hearted Leo sex drive is generous, warm, and steady, yes, but also very sensitive. Gentle manipulation is a skill you’ll need to cultivate.
Leo is the sexual diva of the Zodiac, the undisputable star of the show. Look for a Leo-influenced lover if you enjoy steady, warm-hearted affection in exchange for your loving feedback. You may have to let them take center stage, but the sacrifice is usually well worth it — from opening night until the last curtain call, Leo pours its heart into every performance.
About the Author
Laura F. Walton is a writer, artist, and arts instructor based in Texas. She has been a practicing astrologer for nearly ten years; she specializes in areas of sexuality, individuality, and creative self-discovery. She has contributed forecasts for print media, and currently provides monthlies on her blog Astro What?
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AHHH!!!
I dated a Leo Rising Cancer Sun with Leo Mars.
Show off!!!
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The truth was, what he was trying to “show off” or “give” wasn’t even to my liking. Boo Hoo, somebody didnt like your performance. When I suggested something, he’s sulking, saying, “But I tried to give you the best of sex.” YEAH. The best of sex according to YOUR universe. Participation from the audience/partner is IMPORTANT, don’t you think
Here’s a hint for partners: overt remarks about his or her sexual style make Leo stubborn, sullen, and hurt.
Tell me about it. The days I kept sending him internet porns or articles suggesting new ways to make love (which had nothing to do with him, but he thought it did) made him hurt. I find that with Leo prominent people, you just have to let them think it’s “their idea.” Which is tiring afterwards. NO. It can’t always be your ideas.
A simple “Hey, I’m bored — let’s get drunk and do it in the neighbor’s treehouse!”
Perfect example!
And well, dramatic indeed. One time we made love, he said I looked like a “Princess.”
…weird
Also, my roommate is a Leo Rising, Sun, Moon, and some other planets in Leo.
He told my roommate a year ago, that he was tired of “good girls.”
“I’m tired of dating good girls. I want to date bad girls.”
Then my Leo rising Leo Mars ex once told me along the lines of, “I wish you would just dominate me.”
I think Leo men want a powerful women in their bed. So keep that in mind when you keep “praising” the ego!!
I’m sorry you’ve had bad experiences May.
I have actually had great experiences with Leo…
The way I see it is this, he is the King of his castle and wants nothing more than to make you his Queen that he adores…always one of those guys who if you fluff him a little he will do anything for you.
But he’s no Cancer sacrificing for love..the fluff is necessary!
I often found myself picking one thing I really liked and modifying it and he was always glad to comply. But once again..a little butt kissery is needed. “Your so hot when you do (this)…sometimes I fantasize (this)!” and he was always on it!
When all else fails tell him he will LOOK hot doing what you want in a sultry way…he always wants to look hot.
My ex Leo was always with the titles with me too…regal! “How is T Town’s baddest, smartest, tastiest, most sexy woman ever doing today!?!?”
I love my behind some Leo!
Also May, I agree with the strong woman thing..I think that all Leo men take great PRIDE in their women, and like them to be as powerful as they imagine themselves to be!
i think leos just look like they love you,adoration ,gifts etc but its just till they r getting what they want,when the show is over they say goodbye
Leo guys are funny creatures
I have had a crush on a few Leo guys. They always run away before I can talk to one. If I smile at a Leo guy he takes off ??????? For a strong person, they seem to fear certian types of women, not the committment but a woman that will speak her mind, these guys are tough, but try to get one to sit with a Libra woman,it isn’t going to happen 
They hide from us…..All I wanted was a lousy cup of coffee with him, not his baby LOL
Hello LibraLady
I’ve had few encounters with Libra ladies, the most recent of which you know of more than anyone else
Seems, from reading other posts, women find it hard to read Leo men. If I am a typical Leo, then this applies: make Leo think it’s him who initiated the pursuit. Project a sense of helplessness. The more subtle the interaction the better. Make it seem like you’re a prey that he just got his eyes on in the distance. This works for me at least.
On the other hand, Leos are truly self-centered.. they could easily miss on all signals. Leos go about their daily life with self absorption.
A good read on Leo’s psyche is the red Sextrology book. It could be taken as a little satirical at some points, but I found it close to true.
curious how to deal with a 20 yr old leo.. i am um older(gemini).. do leos like to just hookup or… he seems very well inexperienced. no i havent had sex w/him..
negentropy
Thanks, I dont think Leo’s are any more self absorbed then Libra men LOL (was married to one) I guess I shouldnt have looked at him knowingly
Ok, I have a question for Laura…
The Leo man Im dating seems to want to jump my bones everytime I see him (which im not complaining, it is great to know that he’s THAT attracted to me) but.. I want him to be a little more romantic rather than sexual. I have expressed this desire to him but havent heard anything as of yet. He says the physical expression (e.g. kissing etc, no sex yet) he gives me is the way he expresses his love to me. Now mind you its been only a month and a week that we been dating but he calles me like 4 times a day, txts me like 100 times a day to see what Im doing… Again, no complaints there.
How do I make my point though that I want to connect with him in a higher level (meaning no sex for a while) without scaring him completely and have him run away to someone else?????
I want him to take it easy cause he gets worked up as soon as he sees me and it doesnt help when Im trying to have a serious conversation.
Pls Help, Laura!!!!
Hey Ariesgirl, I’ve been with a leo for 4 years and I know EXACTLY how you feel. He does the same thing to me all the time. The best way to get the point accross is just to come out and tell him. Seriously, communication really is the best.
I am a Leo lady looking for a lover and so far there’s not one who can put the effort elbo grease and stamina it takes to live the high life sio I keep looking
Hehehe, I’m a Scorpio lady engaged to a Leo man and I have to admit reading this post made me smile! Oh yes, the king of the castle wants a lot of admiration in order to purr happily, but then again, when he looks at you with this adoring look at his eyes and you know you’re his queen, oh well, what’s a few compliments, right?
And honestly, in terms of quality, I honestly have had much worse… There’s no such thing as the perfect man ladies!
Im a Scorpio man Moon/Leo…why cant Leo women deal with me?..Its not that im that dominating, I just Like to go to the Extreme….