The Astrology of Kink: Beneath the Shell of Cancer
August 13, 2008 by Laura F. Walton
Leather and lace, fringe and fetish…in this series, we’ll take a peek at the kinkier side of the zodiac. Each sign has its own distinct sexual flavor; by combining the various tastes you find in the natal chart, each person’s unique sexual recipe begins to emerge. Now it’s Cancer’s turn, and there’s more to this sign than homemade cookies and apron strings.
Yes, Cancer is a very nurturing, maternal sign, and “maternal” doesn’t always jibe with “hot sex” in our cultural imagination. Many Crabs do tend to wear a prudish-looking shell, especially in public — but for the most part it’s just an act, designed to protect sensitive sexual emotions. And yes, Cancerian sexuality is always tied to emotionality, and it takes a while for this sign to open up — but once they do, they can be very intense, not to mention kinky in a very unique way.
Since Cancer traditionally rules the breast, it’s said that Cancerians are boob men (or boob gals, as the case may be.) This is often true, but here’s another tidbit: Crabs like bums, too. They often love rear-entry positions and anal sex, as well as spanking. If spanking, paddling, or caning is one of your turn-ons, whether male or female, spanker or spankee, you can usually find a Cancer happy to oblige.
If this can be turned into a discipline game, so much the better. Cancer females can really get into a good game of “dirty teacher/naughty student,” and Cancer males can make great naughty students themselves. While Cancer may not seem like the best candidate for the Domination Top Ten, they can surprise the unsuspecting.
Leather and spikes are not to their taste, though. Cancerian domination is more emotional, and often results in situational scenarios that tease the sense of vulnerability and taboo rather than pain or physical submission. A Cancer with a strong dose of Mercury (particularly Virgo on the Ascendant or Mars in Virgo) can also enjoy medical play, ranging from NC-17-rated “dirty nurse” games, to fantasies that involve elaborate setup, special equipment, and at least an XX rating.
They don’t make good swingers. This is a very partnership-oriented sign, and they prefer to stay one-on-one. It’s hard for Cancer to open up sexually, and once they do, they usually feel deeply bonded. While one tends to find fewer Cancerian lesbians and gay men than average, those that are same-sex oriented are often completely same-sex oriented — there’s nothing bisexual about them.
Casual sex isn’t an option, either, for either single or coupled-up Crabs. They may try it every now and then, but they miss the emotional depth and nuance they find with a long-term partner. One Cancerian described one-night-stands thus: “It’s like eating cheese puffs for dinner, when what you really wanted was steak.”
Indeed. Substance is what Cancer craves. If you’re looking for a partner who naturally excels at the emotional aspects of sexuality, look for the Sun, Moon or Venus in Cancer, or Cancer on the Ascendant. Once you’re allowed behind the tough exterior shell, you’ll find a sexy, erotic creature who can fulfill the most intimate and specialized of desires: yours.
About the Author
Laura F. Walton is a writer, artist, and arts instructor based in Texas. She has been a practicing astrologer for nearly ten years; she specializes in areas of sexuality, individuality, and creative self-discovery. She has contributed forecasts for print media, and currently provides monthlies on her blog Astro What?
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Well, with all this talk about Cancerian men, I’m so on target with my love interest, even though I’m considered “attached” to someone else (whom I don’t want to be with anymore and am trying to dump). I’m a Taurus, with my Sun, Moon and Venus in Taurus but have been loved from afar by this Cancer man for almost 9 years! He was too shy to say anything to me unless he had some liquid courage first (a beer — or two or three of them). But I really feel an emotional connection with him and my curiosity is getting the better of me. With Aquarius ascendent though, I’m afraid I might be too hippee for him. I don’t know his ascendent yet either, but he did appreciate the low-cut shirt I wore just for him so the boobage angle works for sure!
Being a cancer woman who has ben married to a scorpion male for 27 yrs, it is rather easy for me to say that who I trust, I completely trust and who I don’t, I never will. Trust is the key issue to cancers who are always seeking security. While choosing an intense and powerful sign such as a scorpion, we find that the intensity and control with a touch of meanness makes us close the doors of our shells quickly. While I love my husband dearly, I find him very hard to live with. He seems unfair and all out for himself, and this makes me not like him much.
Now, we can complain and get totally freaked out emotionally, we are only defending our positions, and ussually have to be provoked to fill defensive. However, what ever you say out of anger will be remembered, and a woman scorned when a cancer, can be deadly. They are not sceemers, but act impulsively. They value their childrens heart and mind and protect their feeling completely. DO NOT MESS WITHY A CANCERS CHILDREN!!!!!!!!!!!!!NEVER!!!!!!!!!!!!! Instead, let them alone and when they need help they will ask.
Once someone has hurt me, I never forget but it is easy to forgive knowing I am not perfect or even close, myself. We are fair and expect to be treated the same. I treat my husband as he treats me and he does not like that at all. We forget to defend ourselves out of fear, sometimes, fear of rejection.
We are mostly funloving and accepting, but please, dont cross us.
The phrase, hell has no fury began with a cancer woman protecting the underdogs of this cruel world.