The Astrology of Kink: The Naked Aries
July 23, 2008 by Laura F. Walton
The following guest post is by Laura F. Walton of Astro What?
Leather and lace, fringe and fetish…. In this series, we’ll take a peek at the kinkier side of the zodiac. Each sign has its own distinct sexual flavor; by combining the various tastes you find in the natal chart, each person’s unique sexual recipe begins to emerge. Let’s take it from the top with Aries, who is anything but vanilla.
In some ways, this cardinal fire sign is straightforward. Headstrong and willful, direct and impatient, Rams charge through their sex lives without so many of the exotic twists that slow down some other signs. Aries isn’t interested in needless variation; as far as sex is concerned, they want it vigorous, and they want it now. They rarely offer anything less than straight-up, full-tilt lust.
As direct as it is, though, even Aries has its kinks. Spontaneous sex in unplanned places is often a turn-on. Aries is not necessarily an exhibitionist, but there’s something delicious about wanting each other so badly that you’re willing to risk a charge of indecent exposure. The hallway at home will do — or the garage, or the hood of the car — anywhere, really, so long as it involves the prospect of wild, do-it-right-here-and-now action.
Aries also likes angry sex. The Aries libido runs parallel to the Aries will; switching an angry Ram into a horny one is an incredibly easy trick. Just let them know you’re turned on, and they’ll instantly forget an argument, at least for as long as it takes to work out your frustrations right there on the dining room floor.
It’s not uncommon for this sign to get off on causing pain. The Arian Mars, especially in combination with a power-sensitive sign such as Capricorn or Scorpio, can indicate a taste for full-fledged sadism. Most are content with the whimpers they get from minor discourtesies (such as penetrating a little too abruptly, or biting a little too hard) but many also enjoy the outright screams of pleasure mixed with pain. If you’re into a bit of pain as an erotic experience, Aries is often willing to accommodate; just make sure to set firm boundaries, and insist that your Aries respects them. They can be headstrong at times.
In situations that call for a clear distinction between assertive and receptive roles (such as BDSM, mentor/protege relationships, gender play, rape fantasies, etc.) many will top with great enthusiasm, though they sometimes lack self-control and subtlety. Aries is not really into the mental aspect of sexual fantasy; this sign responds more to physical than to psychological stimulation.
Arians will also bottom, but are only satisfied with a top who matches their lusty physical drives. Don’t try to top a strong Arian unless you have the Mars to see it through! They don’t like teasing, and are rarely into delayed gratification games or elaborate scenarios. Even in the most standard of sexual setups, Aries wants action, not words.
Aries is the hunter/warrior of the zodiac, and has the sex drive to match. If wild, uncomplicated, aggressive sex sounds like your idea of heaven, find a partner with strong Aries placements. Then get ready for the ride of your life — there’s nothing iffy about a naked Aries!
About the Author
Laura F. Walton is a writer, artist, and arts instructor based in Texas. She has been a practicing astrologer for nearly ten years; she specializes in areas of sexuality, individuality, and creative self-discovery. She has contributed forecasts for print media, and currently provides monthlies on her blog Astro What?
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Love it Laura, Great Post!!!!
Don’t try to top a strong Arian unless you have the Mars to see it through!
So true! As a sexually aggressive woman, that was a tough lesson to learn!
Every Aries I’ve been with I’ve had to be aggressive from the bottom….lots of hair pulling (they love when you grab their hair) back scratching, pushing, pulling.
Sex with Aries ends up being more like a wrestling match with an orgasm at the end for me. They like a little fight in the ladies, it gives the cavemen/cavewomen a way to assert their power over you.
But no… no long, deliberate, drawn out foreplay…just as you said…or when there is foreplay you’ll definitely see the change in attitude/enthusiasm when it’s “show time”.
they sometimes lack self-control and subtlety
Yeah, I’ve noticed some Aries need a little “sensitivity” training sometimes as they can get really focused on themselves…but once they know what you need, they’ll give it to you but in their own way!
Love the Aries. Love ‘Em!
Both my mom and daughter are Aries, so … eewwww.
My daughter is double Aries, Sun & Moon……so a double eeeewwwww.
She also has Scorpio rising with Pluto (in Sag) in the 1st house. I shudder to think of the 'teenage years'……I'm so not ready for this.
My last partner and I both had Mars in Aries.
Our foreplay was in fact wrestling matches. I’ve actually managed to coerce my current Cancer boy (sun, mars, and venus) into pre-sex grappling matches. It’s not the same, he wants to conquer, while my ex and I just liked the fight itself.
Another ex of mine also shared Mars in Aries with me, unfortunately the sex sucked, and it was a relationship fraught with domestic violence. Not good.
Yes, Aries sex is fun, at least for awhile, then it seems to fizzle out.
You just described my Aries lover perfectly. We’ve been together for nine passionate years, and he has never let me down or bored me for a moment. But I guess I have a little of the masochist in me. He does like it rough. There is nothing gentle or tender–it’s raw passion. I wouldn’t want it any other way.
Yep, that describes those Aries brats. I don’t particularly care for them….I like the aggressive, dominant nature of them, but I HATE the fact that they cannot get into the mind game of it all. Scorp Rising, Pisces Moon, and Venus Scorpio……I want heart connections and mental tango! The whip can stay, but whip my brain, please. Is that possible?
Every “dom” I have known was an Aries, except for one reeeally confused Sag guy….ufff he was weird/confused.
PS – Can we just skip all the crap and get to Pisces?
@fallen – You’ll have to wait eleven weeks for Pisces – I’m publishing them in zodiacal order. And I thought you didn’t believe in this stuff!
@Jeffrey: I give up. I have no idea what I believe, but the speculation is, at times, fun. I mean, which old Greek astronomer guy, sitting in his robe and eating bread, went ahead and assigned a bunch of planets jobs and personalities, like sending messages, exaggerating or organizing? The premise doesn’t quite make sense. Man sees big ball in sky and decides the ball is a “love ball” or a “war ball.” The idea is just asking, begging for my criticism!
However, I am highly entertained by the never ending coincidence-like accuracy of certain, erm, love ball, war ball, luck ball, etc. relationships with their victims. That is just asking, begging for my inquisition! Why do I always fall for Pisces men? Why can I guess peoples’ signs, often within a few minutes of meeting them? Perhaps a combination of collective consciousness and our ability to create our own reality?
And why skip to Pisces? Um, cause Pisces are the best, duh!
My baby is a Pisces
Aires men..love them! That discription is so accurate! Spontaneous want you now raw passion. That is what i love about my aires.I look forward to the next posts on the subject of kink and all the different astrological signs! Thank you…
@sagilarious/fallen-astro-angel — astrology precedes the Greeks, but anyway, astrologers observed a correlation between the “balls” and significant events on earth, it certainly wasn’t an arbitrary assignment.
you are right angelineelise, aries love when you grab their hair, i’m aries ascendt gemini mars acquarius.sexe is good when my man is little agressive and strong but i also like the subtilities and the affection , the pure tough sexe doesn’t interest me.
This is very true.
I was raped by a “friend” that was an Aries. He raped me while I was sleeping in the bed with my other friend who also happened to be an Aries! That previous night he also tried to start a stupid fight with someone for following me around a club. We hardly even talked after that and the next thing I know he’s on top of me while I’m trying to sleep! I was DRUNK and I fell back asleep to awake to torn fissures around my anus where he forced penetration to get his way with me. He’s a monster. This particular Aries is a monster. I honestly don’t remember anything aside from that one moment I awoke and fell back asleep – and it just makes me sick to my stomach to think that he felt pleasure from causing me pain. I know him, and if I know in his sick mind he just wants to smack me around with the back of his hand and violently get his way with me, because he gets pleasure and frustration from me at the same time. It’s disgusting and sends chills down my spine.
gauvaispure, that sounds horrible and traumatic. I hope you taking active steps to heal from being violated.
Both my mom and daughter are Aries, so … eewwww.
Hahahahahaha. Amazing.
An Aries male I’m very attracted to has Moon in Libra, Mars in Gemini, Venus & Mercury in Pisces. I’m a Pisces girl with Mars in Taurus…. If I have a sexual relationship with this man can I expect this rough/fast/on-demand sexuality be toned down a bit??? I hope this is the case because I like my sex enduringly sensual, and yes I love the tease and keep going all night long. I also have an adventurous [read: naughty/provocative] side as well, thanks to my Venus in Aquarius when I flirt.
@gauvaispure:
I am so sorry for the trauma and pain it caused you. Sadly, it tends to be the people you know who do these kinds of things. Are you going to confront this ‘friend’? Are you taking legal action? I think you should report this incident to the police and make the monster pay. If he gets away with it, what if he goes on to harm other people? If you feel strongly about it, denounce/shame this detestable person publicly, get a restraining order, etc. Just some suggestions. Take care.
i have to start this post off with saying, i’m truly sorry to hear your story gauvaispure, my heart goes out to you & i hope your doing alright. aries men are usually too aggressive, you really have to be careful with them because they’re quick tempered; if you simply bring up a subject they do not want to talk about they will snap and act like all the sudden their just not in the mood; i know, i’m dating one. you and the aries have to find a balance with eachother, or its not going to work out. i’m a leo, and somehow my aries man and i have found it, after a few heartbreaks of course. if you really love this man, you have to work hard at it, its not as easy as dating a cancer man or woman, you comfort them once and your their life partner. anyways, our relationship is great since we never have a dull moment together, even when we’re fighting. if you want to find any leo/aries couples, just go to your local six flags. in all, you just have to find the right aries. :]
so you had or heard of a relationship and XXXXzodiacsign was (insert any adjective here) wow you must set the precedent for EVERYONE in that group.
everyone in here is dumb.
Phillip Craig Garrido is an Aries
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jaycee_Lee_Dugard
The worst depraved sick dude.
I have an Aries Moon and Virgo/Libra cusp Sun (Sept 22) and I find sexually at times I can be very aggressive.
I’m also an Aries moon LOL scorpio rising…..
tick tick tick….
What do Aries men think of Libra women? Is it just physical or can there be a deeper relationship? Being oposites must make it a bit frustrating so does the Aries guy just run off after he’s bored with the sex or can the two of them share more then that?
Keyword: NOW
when we’re ready.. we’re ready NOW and not in a minute, not in a month but now….
Yeah but if a girl tells him NOW, would he run?
My first love is an Aries, and we been off and on for 9 years, He is a loving boyfriend, but His bad-boy mentaliity got in tHe way tHat got Him in trouble. We are deeply in love wiTH eacH otHer, and We balance eacH otHer Like Ying and Yang. Aries admires a women’s soft and sensitivity because He cannot Have tHat. WHile Libra admire tHE Aries Strong leader, strong willed approacH. EverytHing about Him I love. THe Sex…… 5 Stars ***** lol it was spontaneous and rougH witH passion. It was like He was starving for me….. I love Him