The Astrology of Kink: The Naked Aries
July 23, 2008 by Laura F. Walton
The following guest post is by Laura F. Walton of Astro What?
Leather and lace, fringe and fetish…. In this series, we’ll take a peek at the kinkier side of the zodiac. Each sign has its own distinct sexual flavor; by combining the various tastes you find in the natal chart, each person’s unique sexual recipe begins to emerge. Let’s take it from the top with Aries, who is anything but vanilla.
In some ways, this cardinal fire sign is straightforward. Headstrong and willful, direct and impatient, Rams charge through their sex lives without so many of the exotic twists that slow down some other signs. Aries isn’t interested in needless variation; as far as sex is concerned, they want it vigorous, and they want it now. They rarely offer anything less than straight-up, full-tilt lust.
As direct as it is, though, even Aries has its kinks. Spontaneous sex in unplanned places is often a turn-on. Aries is not necessarily an exhibitionist, but there’s something delicious about wanting each other so badly that you’re willing to risk a charge of indecent exposure. The hallway at home will do — or the garage, or the hood of the car — anywhere, really, so long as it involves the prospect of wild, do-it-right-here-and-now action.
Aries also likes angry sex. The Aries libido runs parallel to the Aries will; switching an angry Ram into a horny one is an incredibly easy trick. Just let them know you’re turned on, and they’ll instantly forget an argument, at least for as long as it takes to work out your frustrations right there on the dining room floor.
It’s not uncommon for this sign to get off on causing pain. The Arian Mars, especially in combination with a power-sensitive sign such as Capricorn or Scorpio, can indicate a taste for full-fledged sadism. Most are content with the whimpers they get from minor discourtesies (such as penetrating a little too abruptly, or biting a little too hard) but many also enjoy the outright screams of pleasure mixed with pain. If you’re into a bit of pain as an erotic experience, Aries is often willing to accommodate; just make sure to set firm boundaries, and insist that your Aries respects them. They can be headstrong at times.
In situations that call for a clear distinction between assertive and receptive roles (such as BDSM, mentor/protege relationships, gender play, rape fantasies, etc.) many will top with great enthusiasm, though they sometimes lack self-control and subtlety. Aries is not really into the mental aspect of sexual fantasy; this sign responds more to physical than to psychological stimulation.
Arians will also bottom, but are only satisfied with a top who matches their lusty physical drives. Don’t try to top a strong Arian unless you have the Mars to see it through! They don’t like teasing, and are rarely into delayed gratification games or elaborate scenarios. Even in the most standard of sexual setups, Aries wants action, not words.
Aries is the hunter/warrior of the zodiac, and has the sex drive to match. If wild, uncomplicated, aggressive sex sounds like your idea of heaven, find a partner with strong Aries placements. Then get ready for the ride of your life — there’s nothing iffy about a naked Aries!
About the Author
Laura F. Walton is a writer, artist, and arts instructor based in Texas. She has been a practicing astrologer for nearly ten years; she specializes in areas of sexuality, individuality, and creative self-discovery. She has contributed forecasts for print media, and currently provides monthlies on her blog Astro What?
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All those are true though, the influence of other planets on us or others it can be scary. I am aries with a cancer moon and libra pluto and NN. All 3 cardinal and all 3 cause internal conflict. You would think that my cancer moon would soften the aries, instead it makes it worse. I hate to cry in front of people bc to me it shows weakness but I dont mind if others cry in front of me. I’m moody to a fault but always believe in fairness. I’m loyal and I never do anyone (whether or not I like them or not) bad. I’m very justice oriented. I love very deeply but hate to let people in. Just opposites always fighting each other. I love all kinds of music & reading & poetry & I LOVE to dance (mars in pisces) and I also love to write (sun in 3rd) but always ahead of my thoughts so alot of spelling mistakes (mercury in aries). No matter what your sign, planet or species, we are all at least a little bit jacked up and not all of that has to do with astrology. I started studying it to find out how people think and what makes them tick (pluto in 9th house and Sag rising) and I love psychology and social sciences. I have been studying and reading astrology for about 5 years now. And it is a endless search of info. The more you learn the more there is to learn and at the end of the day there are so many influences (charting, life, psychological problems and disorders) that we all do well just to get along.
Tomorrow is a new day Barb! Hope yours is wonderful!!!
Barb Libra/Monkey ,why you feeling sorry for him? he’s so cruel what he said to you was terrible some womens self esteem would be torn to shreds
p.s whatever do dont give him the cd hell only become worse hold your head up high and stop catering to this man.
oh and Barb Libra/Monkey ,did you and the aries date .i mean where you in a intimate relationship as in boyfriend/girlfriend?
Kate, No, not in an intimate relationship…just all the chase and talked on occasion…he was always nice when we talked. However, he used to watch me everywhere I went and get jealous every time I talked to another guy or played pool or whatever. He would come out to the front counter whenever I went to the restaurant to say hi and walk off with a huge smile on his face like a little boy(: I met his mum and she was lovely, very down to earth. He actually enjoyed watching his mum and I talk. I do still like him,but want him to be happy and hope he finds someone and maybe he can have babies…to be honest, it was immediately after a mutual friend got pregnant that he went strange. Maybe it is a sore point with him, and that is why he suddenly was repulsed at me being older…had my child and not able to have more.
Only he knows the answer to the puzzle, and only he can make himself happy now. Thanks for your kindness.
Aries chick, yes, it is all very scientific with different gravitational pulls creating different effects on our fluids in our brains and so forth at the time…more to the term lunartic than many realise or want to admit(: I would love to have my full chart done, but have never had the cash at the time to pay someone to do it. The Chines seem to be pretty spot on. This man is also a Dragon, which is Aries equivalent, making him even more superior minded…but I adore Dragons(: My Aquarian soulmate is a Dragon too…a lovely one.
He is the other man the psychic was picking up on, and she said a few months before Aries gets jealous and wants to make a move…we will be meeting up at a reunion for a town we met in back in the70s. Should b e interesting to see if the Aquarian will decide to finally leave his unhappy situation and stay with me…fingers crossed hey what?
You are right, tomorrow is another day and there is always sunshine after the rain, and sunrise after sunset. ‘Cheers
Anyone with an Aries Sun and Aries Mars!!??? … what should I be expecting?? I am a leo by the way!
Soooooo true. Aries has a very passionate sex drive, yes we do not like talk we LOVE action
i recently dated a aries sun/venus guy and he was an absolutely great lover.one of the best i have had
it’s true he wasn’t that into foreplay but to be honest i didnt really need it ‘cos i was so worked up with intensity plus he really made up for it during lovemaking ,only fault was he’s not into ‘talking’ during the act which is a shame because he has a very deep sexy voice which for me is a huge turn on but everything else was perfect.10/10
I have my sun and moon in Aries, mercury in pisces, venus in aries, mars in cancer, jupiter in libra, saturn in aquarius, uranus and neptune in capricorn, and pluto in scorpio. Can anyone tell me what I should do to lure and get into a relationship with this very popular and in demand, Sagittarius. What would the relationship be like? What should I look out for?
I find that I disagree with a lot of the stuff written about Aries. I am actually getting bad self esteem from it all. I think that I am generous to a fault, I adopted a little girl from China and she has autism. I love her with all my heart. I actually thrive on someone talking to me when I am in bed. I don’t like all action. Sometimes I think they are just talking about the Aries men?
ther aries men i have know have always wanted a threesum.. male male female.. is it there ego or what?? has anyone else had this experience..
i never did it as im fond off him and i dont think having another man involved will keep him keen…
to ???? says:
March 5, 2010 at 10:04 pm
yep,i have had that experience a very long time ago when i was about sixteen , it was me my female friend and the aries and his aquarius friend i never actually had sex or anything with the aries guy THANKFULLY!! because from what i saw he was quite the sadist ,really rough with my friend .
he had this really bad ’80’s hairstyle like one of those guys in a heavy metal!!! anyway apparently these two guys would do this sort of thing quite often .the aquarius would call up girls and bring his friend along .
anyway i know this happens a lot with them.
maybe there are hidden homosexual tendencies or maybe it’s that porn habit most of them have.
Aries III/Dragon ,dont let descriptions of sun signs make you feel bad ,
each person is very complicated .
a natal chart is like a game of connect the dots .each planet has a sign and a house then there’s the aspects ,asteroids etc.
your not ONLY ruled by your sun/aries your a map of signs and planets.
we all are
Kate, Thank you for your positive response. I am a Leo rising. I don’t think I follow that sexuality either. I really do like being talked to in bed. I don’t have fun when someone just needs to “get to business.” I am a double fire sign, so I know I am VERY passionate, and not just in bed. LOL I hate it when people treat the disabled poorly. It’s probably the one thing I fight the hardest. I hate it when people treat my duaghter like she is stupid just because she has a hard time speaking…see, soapbox all the way!
Haha. I met an Aries about 10 days ago. He kind of “glommed” onto me the first evening in my neighborhood bar and took me from the bar to dinner. He tried to talk me into taking him back to my place, and I was like “No way. I just met you. Duh!”
When he asked for my number, I said yeah “but I don’t have a pen”. I told him to remember my number and he walked back to his car repeating my number over and over out loud. Pretty funny, but he never called.
Tonight he showed up in my neighborhood bar for “no reason”…even though his neighborhood is about 30-40 miles round trip. LOL He doesn’t live in my “hood”. Said he tried to call me, but apparently didn’t get the number right.
Anyway on the subject of “astologic of kink”, he made a comment briefly tonight about “…so does that mean I can’t take you home and tie you up tonight?” Whoa…pretty forward comment for a second time meeting, huh? I said, “Only if you’ve got handcuffs with the very soft gentle feather lining!” LOL I was clearly just joking with him. Called his bluff, and he was quite the gentleman before and after his “tie you up” comment. LOL He did say he’d call. We’ll see.
He might be interesting…
Sorry for the typo … “astrology” not “astrologic”. Doh!
To Kate haha .. i wondered about the homosexual aspect.. i know he may not bethat way but his always hugging his mates in photos there for the lads do anything for his mates very influenced by what his mates are doing and thinkig..
i was thinking shall i do it to bring him closer but like i said i dont think it would.. so i may keep him as a friend and not explore with him sexually because his abit of a ladys man who brags xx