When Neptune has hard aspects in your chart that impact relationships, it’s very difficult to see dangerous or troubled people for who they are.

In this case, I would say that being single is better than being in a relationship with a strong undercurrent of denial and darkness.

My trouble aspect is Venus in Aquarius (in my 7th) square Neptune in Scorpio in my 4th. I have the Sun in Aries, Moon in Cancer, and Mercury.. ah beloved Mercury, retrograde, in Pisces, trine Neptune (a daydream believer).

I’ve been married twice (once to a guy who insisted on an “open marriage”), and have been romantically involved with countless troubled souls (alcoholics, stoners, recovering addicts, and other extraordinarily needy folks).

When I was a young woman and first studying astrology, I used to wonder (daydream) what my life would be like in my 40s, and what these illusory aspects would mean for me. What it turned out to be was a tendency towards falling for guys who needed me to take care of them, or me finding guys who I thought would “rescue” me, with a couple of relationships that were “fairy tale” in nature thrown in for good measure.

I definitely wonder if I would be better off alone, because the relationships I conjure up in my head have always been better than the real ones.

Excellent article.

i belive my neptune and venus are in aries. Leo met leo the other night as I was involved witha leo with thier moon in Pisces it’s as iff we -switched signs last night . My leo or maybe this explains my neptune came out. I have a question . Do leos generally as a rule accuse others of cheating, spy and stalk then lie. I never thought this person would do this to me . LOng story short I got my tires flattened for watching movies with my home girls. I am very intuitive and it is true when they say that the leo will hardly ever have any secrets . When I asked them who they thought did it it was painted all over thier face. Im really hurt about this No trust for me but I have not given a reason not to trust. I may have played with fire a bit they were trying to rub it in my face that some bidy was flirting with them so I told them the truth about a friend who text me all the time who wants to screw. By the way that would never happen. We both have people that have crushes on us but , My whole point is ” Get the F*%^&% over it!!!!! I amm expecte to be completly passave and fit into a box for thier convienience. Well that is a role I simply won’t take. So what if I have friends . It;s like they are accusing me of being a whore when i have done nothing wrong. I let them know if we have no trust we have nothing. It’s been this way . It was a very romanti9c recipricall relationship with a lot of friendship laughter and sexual attraction, it has turned into someting really messed up and I believe it ended last night, I really felt towards the end that i didi not know where I stood. I mean I hasd this person not sure wheter or not to commit to me but then getting jealous over everyone that shook hands to the point they flattened my tires and screamed and cried at me!!!! well I say if you feel that strongly then what the hell are you doing. Sorry for going on an on but I got so pissed about this behavior. Am I with a passive agressive lion ??? Is that what happens when a leo gets thier moon in pisces. If so what does that make me ???? I highly anticipated a mate being a leo that would be able to have a tough skin when it came to social matters . Some body who would be charasmatica and mingle such as my self, Instead I in the last two weeks have had somebody who re-acts to imagined wrongs and doesn’t get a simple joke. Did I lose my Lion By roaring Back????????????? Kinda sad now……

I think the lesson is that I teach them sensitivity and they help me develop a tougher skin.

Unfortunately it is proving a difficult lesson.

Moon, Mars, South Node in Pisces
Moon, Mars Square Neptune

Thanks for the great articles…

xoxo

Women are assumed to be in the “giving” and support role while the men are in the “doing” (performance). If a man were to give, he somehow questions if anything is taken away or if he is less manly. The man (in dominant culture) somehow felt that he is losing something when giving.

Women, however, when things aren’t right, they give more and more. It feels like they assumed they must give with no permission to stop.

– so that’s some weird neptune theme; it seems like “giving” is also some hidden society assumption based on gender. So perhaps some women grow up knowing/believing that giving is what it’s meant to be a women.

In addition to the sacrifice aspect, I’ve also heard a 12th house moon will give you a tendency to experience your emotions fully in solitude or in “secret.” I definitely find this to be the case with myself… usually the full emotional impact of something doesn’t hit me until much later. You can guess how this isn’t so good for relationships