A reader found this blog by searching for “Pisces men are like girls.” It’s a provocative statement, but I can see where she (?) was coming from. Girls are into unicorns and fairy tales and magical kingdoms, sappy love songs and romantic movies and stuffed animals. Hey, that describes me!
No, not really — I’m not into mythical creatures, unless you mean a woman who takes care of all my domestic and sexual needs … on demand. But Pisces is a rather girly sign. All Water signs are archetypally feminine, as the world of emotions is experienced inwardly. But not all members of this triplicity are equally girly. (Although feminine polarity does not equal female, the development of a language of emotions is more encouraged among women here in the U.S. — hence the sight of a man crying or being sensitive is often derogated as being like either a woman or a gay man.) Scorpio is tough, and Cancer — however nurturing and sentimental — is protective and defending. Pisces, on the other hand, has a floaty, wispy quality which in no way can be construed as masculine.
Think of it this way — Pisces is both Water and mutable. Water needs form to contain it, or else it just spreads itself over whatever surface is available — or it sinks into any porous material. Mutable is the most flexible, changeable modality of all three quadruplicities (the others being Cardinal and Fixed). Therefore, it is the most receptive modality, and this quality is traditionally feminine.
Part of the problem is that “girly” is, to some extent, a social construct that our culture imposes on girls and young women. My daughter, for example, is no “girly girl.” She (with five planets in fire) defines herself as a tomboy. Yet she’s no less a girl than a 10 year old who dresses in pink and adorns her notebook with Hello Kitty stickers. Yet if you’re strong-willed, fearless and impulsive, somehow you have to describe it as “boyish”?
If Pisces men are like girls, it’s partly because the quality of being sensitive and yielding is considered weak. But think of the strengths of this sign! Unicorns spring from the Piscean imagination (unless you believe they’re real!) — as well as songs and films and works of art. And if more men were Pisces (that is, if they were girly), there would be less war. There would probably be lots of guilt-inducing, martyrish behavior … but that never killed anyone.