Pisces men are like girls
June 6, 2008 by Jeffrey Kishner
A reader found this blog by searching for “Pisces men are like girls.” It’s a provocative statement, but I can see where she (?) was coming from. Girls are into unicorns and fairy tales and magical kingdoms, sappy love songs and romantic movies and stuffed animals. Hey, that describes me!
No, not really — I’m not into mythical creatures, unless you mean a woman who takes care of all my domestic and sexual needs … on demand. But Pisces is a rather girly sign. All Water signs are archetypally feminine, as the world of emotions is experienced inwardly. But not all members of this triplicity are equally girly. (Although feminine polarity does not equal female, the development of a language of emotions is more encouraged among women here in the U.S. — hence the sight of a man crying or being sensitive is often derogated as being like either a woman or a gay man.) Scorpio is tough, and Cancer — however nurturing and sentimental — is protective and defending. Pisces, on the other hand, has a floaty, wispy quality which in no way can be construed as masculine.
Think of it this way — Pisces is both Water and mutable. Water needs form to contain it, or else it just spreads itself over whatever surface is available — or it sinks into any porous material. Mutable is the most flexible, changeable modality of all three quadruplicities (the others being Cardinal and Fixed). Therefore, it is the most receptive modality, and this quality is traditionally feminine.
Part of the problem is that “girly” is, to some extent, a social construct that our culture imposes on girls and young women. My daughter, for example, is no “girly girl.” She (with five planets in fire) defines herself as a tomboy. Yet she’s no less a girl than a 10 year old who dresses in pink and adorns her notebook with Hello Kitty stickers. Yet if you’re strong-willed, fearless and impulsive, somehow you have to describe it as “boyish”?
If Pisces men are like girls, it’s partly because the quality of being sensitive and yielding is considered weak. But think of the strengths of this sign! Unicorns spring from the Piscean imagination (unless you believe they’re real!) — as well as songs and films and works of art. And if more men were Pisces (that is, if they were girly), there would be less war. There would probably be lots of guilt-inducing, martyrish behavior … but that never killed anyone.
Has it?
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1. LYALYA… kill the caps… it’s hard to take someone seriously when they don’t know how to use their keyboard…
2. I hope you were talkin’ about PISCES… and not Reese’s PIECES… I almost broke out an EpiPen because of the allergic reaction your article has given me…
3. Our confusion is born from the people we mirror
4. If a Piscarian shuts down, he/she is likely in contemplation… difference between us and some other signs (like an AIR sign) is that we are not limited to a “rational” solution to a problem… we’ll likely take into account a potential emotional response… now, how do you communicate that to a person who doesn’t think on multiple planes?
5. If we’re weird, what’s normal?
maybe as Pisces, I should constantly cuddle, and coddle, and subject myself to a like suffocating interchange… at least, I’d fit the profile of being more feminine…
I totally agree. The pisces boy i went out with was at total pu*sy. He cried in the Sex in the City movir.
The whole point of my post is that it’s strong cultural messages like “a man is a p**** if he cries” that make it difficult for some men to be comfortable expressing themselves. I frankly see nothing wrong with a Pisces boy crying at SATC.
Im a Pisces, didn’t the main character die or something? Maybe a similar death occurred in his life or perhaps he in visioned himself in that situation I dunno sometimes i think of crazy stuff and I associate it with my life. Sometimes it could be overwhelming and freaky.
Hmmm, that’s why whenever Jensen Ackles cries on screen the girls (especially on youtube) are like “Awww, I wanna hug him.”
Bah, there isn’t a person who knows me that wouldn’t call me tough and tomboyish and I still cry at most movies. I have squares, and I have Mars in Aries and that gives me the edge over the Pisces Sun, 1st house Neptune, and Venus in Pisces (conjunct Merc in Aquarius). I spent my childhood beating the crap out of my best friend, then running home in tears because she hurt my feelings.
I’m a girl, but I have no shortage of masculine energy, and try as I might I simply cannot control the waterworks. I try, but I can’t, even in my mind I wonder – why am I crying, this is stupid, but I can’t stop.
My young great niece, also a tomboyish Piscean girl was upset at Disneyworld that she was not able to get an autograph from one of the people in the costumes, and she cried. Everyone berated her for her tears, and kept telling her to just stop, that she could get her autographs later. She finally shouted out “I’m trying to stop, but everyone keeps talking about it!” The piscean, male or female I don’t think it makes much difference has an inherent problem with sensitivity, and I’m not talking about empathic caring, because most of the time I really don’t care – just a nerve that gets hit and causes the tears.
I say, cut everyone a break, the children, the men, and the women. The tears mean a lot less to us than they do to you, they just aren’t easy to control.
As for men seeking out traditionally feminine things, so what? It’s not a problem if I play hockey, why is it a problem if a Pisces man wants to express his creativity through ballet? Don’t like it, STFU, and make friends elsewhere. It reminds me of the name calling that my friend (who I beat the crap out of) used to taunt me into a fight, painful and unnecessary. Most of the time Pisceans just want to be left alone.
Like I started out with this.. Bah.
I’m actually dating a Pisces (I’m a Pisces female, myself.) and to say the least, he totally reminds me of a Scorpio. He isn’t submissive, he takes control in the bedroom, he’s sweet and loving, and he totally isn’t overly emotional.
I think the whole “Pisces men are like girls” tid-bit, though somewhat true, is stupid. Even if they are like girls, what’s wrong with that? I guess, more than anything, the reason why it’s bad for men to act feminine is because of the prefixed standards our society has placed on men. If a man isn’t strong, domineering, the money maker, and all the other male-stereotypes, he isn’t a man. I know I personally **HATE** submissive men, and my ideal man is more like the male-stereotype but I think that a man with emotions is great, too.
Not all men have to me overly UN-emotional.
Amen, Pisces_Princess! I am a Pisces Queen who is seeing a hot Pisces King who, like yours, is ALL man with sensitive and caring qualities. Like I said in another response, what is so wrong with that? I don’t tolerate “bad boy” behaviors, and yet I don’t want a wimp. If I can talk to a man, cry on his shoulder when needed, and get longing, luscious sex from him too??? Guess what. He’s mine. End of story.
It must be said that we Piscean women enjoy the strong, silent type who can protect us…someone who we can spoil and surrender to. I believe Pisces men are the same way! That doesn’t mean they’re like girls though. I just think that if they are sensitive and caring, they will naturally want to have their hearts protected. This is not a weakness. Besides, its in the bedroom where I enjoy every ounce of the Piscean man’s strength…he’s not going to miss a beat anywhere, and because he’s so in tune with your feelings, he’s gonna make sure you enjoy yourself too. Whoo hoo!!!
Iam glad im a Pisces we are so cool… i would punch you in the face if you called me a p****.
Why is the “p” word used to demeaningly describe anything considered cowardly and also used to describe again rather deneaningly a certain female body part but anything considered courageous and strong is called having “balls”, the make counterpart? First of all that word is “profane” and should have been deleted and shows a huge lack of respect for women since it’s use is founded in negative images of women. Secondly women have far more courage than men and therefore should be the one’s who are described as having balls aka guts!
If society would stop projecting certain images onto both sexes and making it totally acceptable to male and female bash I bet there would be no battle of the sexes and Pisces men wouldn’t need to defend their honor on this post! There is absolutely nothing wrong with a tomboy girl or a sensitive man.
I never found Pisces men act like girls ! I think they are just comfortable enough to share feelings
They still leave the seat up in the bathroom LOL
I like Pisces guys, very good to talk too, but I don’t see feminine in them, in Libra guys? maybe a few but not Pisces…..
I think guys should share their feelings more. Its nice to know that they care
Everytime I have a fight with my Pisces boyfriend he expects me to fix everything. I’m a Libra so I believe both people have to make some effort, but he completely sits back, acts hurt and wounded (even if I’ve done nothing at all!) and blames me for it, and tells me he’s “done” trying and it’s up to me to make some big, elaborate gesture. He says he wants reassurances but then he says that it’s “just words” and it won’t make a difference.
When I try to initiate contact with him he balks, turns his phone off, and I don’t hear from him forever. When we do speak he’s still really hurt and upset, even though I thought the distance would help him get over it.
I have NO IDEA what to do. It’s like he likes being sad and dragging things out over days that I thought we had resolved already.
It’s seriously driving me insane. As much as I love him, I can’t stand this for much longer. We’ve been together for three years and this is an established pattern for him. Help would be appreciated.
- Libra at her wits’ end
Everytime I have a fight with my Pisces boyfriend he expects me to fix everything. I’m a Libra so I believe both people have to make some effort, but he completely sits back, acts hurt and wounded (even if I’ve done nothing at all!) and blames me for it, and tells me he’s “done” trying and it’s up to me to make some big, elaborate gesture. He says he wants reassurances but then he says that it’s “just words” and it won’t make a difference.
When I try to initiate contact with him he balks, turns his phone off, and I don’t hear from him forever. When we do speak he’s still really hurt and upset, even though I thought the distance would help him get over it.
I have NO IDEA what to do. It’s like he likes being sad and dragging things out over days that I thought we had resolved already.
It’s seriously driving me insane. As much as I love him, I can’t stand this for much longer. We’ve been together for three years and this is an established pattern for him. Help would be appreciated.
- Libra at her wits’ end
libralady-
i am my wits end as well so not sure i can help at all. my pisces is frustrating in a differnt kind of way but since finding this website i have been able to figure out that apparently alot of pisces men are the same way…and unfortunately if they are not willing to compromise then it’s extremely tough on the woman they are with. we always end up doing everything. don’t get me wrong, I am ALL for equality of the sexes but someimes it’s nice for the man to be a man once in a while!!!
I feel like he’s so negative about the relationship sometiems and he makes things inevitable. Like I got angry at him for being so negative and told him it was over, and said things like, that’s what you wanted, isn’t it? Of course I didn’t mean any of it. I was speaking out of anger. I just feel, like if all my efforts for his everyday low mood isn’t getting me anywhere, then I completely ruined it now.
I don’t really know what to do
. He’s just soooo negative.
libralady
Everytime I have a fight with any guy he expects me to fix everything…. Face it, your a Libra so men will always expect you to handle/maintian and fix the relationship… Its the curse that comes with our pretty faces…. Guys are mostly big babies, no matter what the sign….Its his lack of maturity, not his sign…
Maybe, but it’s so damned annoying!
Just recently, I thought things were great. We even spent a nice weekend shacked up in a hotel and had a lot of fun. I know he’s stressed about school and I’m trying to be nice and there for him, without getting in his way too much. Long story short, we meet up for dinner and he prefaces the conversation with, “if I didn’t have this, I’d have a lot more time. it’s just that it’s a huge drain of time.” And I went quiet and said I didn’t know what to say, and asked if he was trying to pick a fight, and what his objective was, and he got really annoyed that I “jumped to conclusions” and said he just wanted to talk. it led to some weirdness between us and now things just feel weird as hell. I ordered pizza and invited him over if he wanted but otherwise have not heard from him since last night! Despite him being online and usually he says hi.
help
I realize Pisces Hold on to alot of pain tHan one realize. As a Libra, wHen we get mad, we say tHings tHat we dont mean, but if we do, we will let you know. If I told Him tHis relationsHip is not moving to a HealtHy direction and we sHould part, He would say tHings like ‘THat is wHat you wanted anyway” Pisces men would try to make tHings seem as tHougH its your fault, but it is not most of tHe time. THey play victim, and tHeir inner insecurities stop tHem from pursuing THere dreams. THeir Funny tHougH, Have female friends some our ex girlfriends. YOutHful, and very spiritual. WHen tHey look at you, its like THey are scanning your soul. I realize Pisces Have tHose big dreamy fisH looking eyes.
Pisces Are sensitive, and emotional. My boyfriend love to sing women songs, like to paint my nails… He likes to watcH Young And THe REstless witH me…. I sometime feels like I got tHe best of botH worlds witH a Pisces. But He loves His football, and sports, and is very competitive. Pisces men are open to tHeir soft side tHat most men tend to sHy away from because tHey deem tHat is being weak or make THem vulnerable to a woman. Men freak women Having tHe power to destroy tHem! So tHey potray tHeir Ego side to secure tHeir soft side.
Let me tell something being a Pisces. If creator has given both the sexes tear glands, emotions, feelings then why not cry? Instead being like a stone having no sensitivity, better to taste all aspects of life. Why to be so miserly? Whatever comments are passed, it is anyway to the creator. So beware!!! In way you are telling the creator a p****, of course its his/her creation only. I don’t know whether to cry or to laugh, still enjoy
my pisces ex used to withould sex when he was mad at me. if that’s not like a woman i don’t know what else is. lol
they are very easy to love though and ever so affectionate.
@little libra lady – hehe, there are two of you now! Pisces take words to heart. MY ex of 7 years and my bff of 15 are both pisces and ohhhh, do the words destroy them. There is no “i didnt mean it”. It’s like you just put a gash on them and they’ll always feel it. Even if it scars over they know it’s there AND they can recall exactly what they felt the day you said it. Be VERY VERY careful with your mouth with a pisces.
As far as them getting over stuff, you’re an air sign (so am i). we can breeze right into a fight and breeze right out of it. Those water signs don’t get down like that. You have to wait until a new tide comes in or that tainted water flows far enough down river for them to get over it. And they do take some time. So frustrating for us but it is what it is. And in all my experience, i really couldnt tell you the way to help speed it up or facilitate them moveing past it. Appologies don’t help, grand gestures dont cause them to budge. But on the other hand, they expect both. You just won’t be rewarded for it. They love to give the silent treatment but as much as it’s meant to be a punishment it’s also their self preserving mechanism. They retreat/escape to that pisces world only they know about until they feel its safe to return.
They also as a sign are notorious for victimizing. I think because for all their soulfullness and sensitivity, they appear to lack perspective. And once they’ve been injured, even if they injured you first, they can’t get around it. They’re just in pain and you did it and end of story.
They also seem to need someone who’s the rock, the staying power in the relationship. Because they are predispositioned to swim away at the first sign of trouble…which is necessary for them sometimes. their survival depends on it. So yes, you will often be tasked at being the “fixer”. They also need things to be easy to a certain extent. Not too much comotion, not to much change. nice calm waters to swim happily around in. but if those waters get disturbed, watch out! They may be sensitive but they can create a storm that will beat down even the strongest. Think hurricanes, or typhoons. All ruled by pisces.
And though they’re sensitive does not equate to being pussies (they’re i said it, lol). My pisces ex was highly sensitive, definitely prone to his eyes leaking (as he used to call it) but he would kick the living $hit out of someone if need me and was definitely no stranger to manning up in the face of antagonization.
The good thing about pisces is as senstive as they are and sometimes as delicately as you need to handle them, they don’t need alot from you because they’re always in their own little world. Just give them ample hugs and pats on the head and tell them they dont have to be afraid, you’re really DO love them and they’ll just roll at your feet like a puppy and give you all the same love and affection back verryyy easily.
any other female libra’s feel like just giving up on pisces? i know we’ll still be friends and if i want him back in the future i can try again if he’s unattached. after 3 years i find myself getting increasingly fed up. just the other day i felt so in love with him and now i just don’t know?? it’s just too frustrating!
I’m pisces with saggitarius rising and I’m certainly masculine. I will fight for self deffence and be domineering and aggresive. Though on the flip side I’m emotional and sensitive and can be hurt very easily. I will cry and even through a good movie. This does not make me like a girl. I beleive that everything in life should be shared with your partner. Secrets frustrate me, flirting hurts me and dishonesty will definately break me. I tend to carry everyones problems on my shoulders but I can do it with ease.
I’ve had libra girls and I found that they wont tell me exactly whats in their minds. Share your feelings and you might be suprised in how we approach things. Be mindfull of bad words and verbal dioherra because we do take everything to heart and hurt easily.
Sooty
the ones that care the most, love the most and do the most worrying in a relationship are always the ones that suffer the most…Regardless of sign. I never found any Pisces man that Ive met feminine at all…I have no idea why its not okay for a man to share feelings in this stupid world, I respect men that share…..Im one of those Libras you were referring to, I tell too much, it gets me hurt but Im not ashamed. And no guy should be ashamed to express his feelings either.
Right on LibraLady. There is no reason for anyone to hold back. I’ve posting on here for awile now and they same answers keep popping up too. We aren’t like girls at all. No to blow my horn here but I think you would get the best of both worlds, a sensitive man and the rock. But everyone has thier own opinion lol. And where have you been all this time? LOL
What about when we do share our minds and our hearts with a pisces guy and get nothing in return. I took all theadvice and opened up, small steps then a little more to let him know i really liked him and wanted to be with him. Mine just doesn’t seem to be sensitive or able to show emotions at all and it’s hurting me terrible.
It’s a little diff with us because we don’t have the typical relationship per se, but it was good for both of us at one time…..
My Aquarius man has Venus in Pisces, I can’t believe I’ve found an Aqua guy that cries, I think it is his Venus doing this but me with Venus in Scorpio, once one of us cries it triggers the other…..I don’t know how to handle this, I’ve spent a life time fighting my emotions and now he touches that part of me…I don’t find him less masculine since he’s started this, funny thing is his arms feel more protective around me when he’s emotional….I hate to admit it but he makes me feel safe. My father was a Cancer so maybe that’s why I feel safe….Its hard to be a tough lady when your man keeps touching your heart…LOL
leo female
I can relate. I used to run into a lot of guys that didn’t care about my feelings, regardless of their sign. There isn’t anything more hurtful then spilling your heart out to someone that doesn’t share feelings…..
Sooty
I’ve been struggling all this time with my inner conflicts LOL I have found love again but I’m not a kid anymore….I mean what I say about sharing emotions, in fact I know that my guy loves me now, I’m 100% sure because of his emotions…Men are beautiful when they share feelings (in a masculine rugged sort of way)
Sooty, I like pisces masculine but also very sensitive personalitys. They actually are the one sunsign that unintentionally breaks most womens hearts. But the one thing that does bug me is they never say goodbye always floats off, and if it’s for fear of hurting the other person, well they need to realize the other person would be better off with the closure of goodbye and the truth. I’ts like a missing person once found even dead there is closure.
hi everyone… i have been with my pisces boyfriend for a little over 3 years and the relationship’s had its share of turbulence. he always seemed to swim away when things got too harsh between us and always found his way back because i never moved on, but over time i’ve grown some resentment and insecurity towards his behavior. i love him with all my heart and believe that he is the man for me despite the pain he has caused me. it is the sign of transformation and he has changed me in a lot of ways. i’m on here because recently after a huge break up, probably our millionth one, he just dumped me again over the internet because he said i was calling him too much, that it was desperate, needy, and a huge turn off, and he wanted to be with a “hot girl.” he told me to not call him ever again that it was over between us. the next day i sent him a long heartfelt email and the end of which i asked him to put this behind us and move forward and his only response was “maybe.” We chatted for 2 minutes and there were smily faces… it was somewhat friendly but I know not to believe it as any kind of commitment.
This was two days ago… now I want him to talk to me and tell me what is going on. Are we really broken up now? For real? Or did he just push me away and he will come back? My heart is in pieces on the floor. Just last week he told me that I was 100 percent the girl for him, even when I expressed reservations to him, and he’d been so sweet. I feel like maybe I pushed him away with my own insecurity, but then an angrier part of me feels like he shouldn’t just break my heart and dump me everytime he’s upset at me.
Not sure what is going on, or what to do… I am in a strange limbo… please help me out
I’m Libra sun, cancer moon, scorpio venus, scorpio rising
He is Pisces sun, cancer moon, aquarius venus
Pisces are sweet dreams or beautiful nightmares…
Attractive and/or Distractive…
Is life short? Pisces tend live in the moment and sometimes at others expense
They have a lot of love and some people would suggest that love carries so many burdens even hate.
Man does not exist on what doesn’t resist: Pisces exist on whatever resists them in ways most people would never understand…….its life and we are ALL different, I guess pisces have the intention to move on since there in the last house. No advice, just a thought :}
Love is in the air keep your joy.
Trinity-
great comparison and so true…”….once found even dead there is closure”
HI PLEASE GIVE ME SOME ADVICE. THIS BOARD IS WONDERFUL AND WISE AND I’M HOPING TO ADD TO MY UNDERSTANDING OF PISCES. I’M SORRY FOR THE ALL CAPS BUT I AM TRYING TO GET ATTENTION AND HOPEFULLY THIS WILL HELP!!
I’VE BEEN WITH MY PISCES FOR 3 YEARS. IT HASN’T ALWAYS BEEN SMOOTH SAILING, BUT WHENEVER THINGS GET REALLY BAD, I REALIZE HOW MUCH HE MEANS TO ME AND I TRY TO MAKE IT WORK. I’M A STRONG GIRL WHEN THE GOING GETS TOUGH AND DESPITE MY FLAWS I THINK MY PISCES TRULY APPRECIATES ME.
HE STARTED SMOKING TONS OF MARIJUANA A FEW MONTHS AGO AND HE HASN’T STOPPED, EVEN THOUGH WHEN HE STARTED UP I TRIED TO WARN HIM ABOUT HIS ADDICTIONS. HE DIDN’T LISTEN. INSTEAD, HE JUST SHUT ME OUT AND BROKE UP WITH ME OVER AND OVER AGAIN. I KEEP GOING BACK TO HIM BECAUSE I CAN’T STAY AWAY. WE’VE HAD THIS PATTERN REALLY BADLY IN THE PAST FEW MONTHS. I EVEN MOVED ON AND DATED SOMEBODY ELSE BUT FOUND MYSELF BACK WITH PISCES.
I’M A LIBRA WITH A MOON IN CANCER AND A VENUS IN SCORPIO. I’M VERY POSSESSIVE, UNDERSTANDING, CARING, GENERALLY A MAGIC MYSTERY WOMAN. BUT THE PROBLEM IS, I TRY TO COMMUNICATE WITH PISCES TOO MUCH AND HE JUST SWIMS AWAY. TODAY I GOT FED UP AND YELLED AT HIM ON THE PHONE! HE AVOIDED MY CALLS AND HAS NOT CALLED ME BACK TODAY.
DESPITE THE STUFF THAT HAPPENED BETWEEN US THINGS WERE REALLY GOOD RECENTLY UP UNTIL I STARTED ACTING TOO NEEDY AND CALLING HIM TOO MUCH ON HIS TELEPHONE. I WANTED SOME REASSURANCE ABOUT HIS FEELINGS FOR ME, TO GET TO THE TRUTH OF THE MATTER, BUT HE EVADED ME, AND GOT ANNOYED, AND BROKE IT OFF WITH ME YET AGAIN.
I NEED SOME ADVICE ABOUT WHAT TO DO NOW. I WANT HIM BACK, FEELING FOR ME THE WAY HE DID WHEN THINGS WERE GOOD, BUT AT THE SAME TIME I DON’T WANT TO LOSE MY POWER OR CONTROL AGAIN AND GET TOO NEEDY AND INSECURE. I WANT TO FEEL IN CONTROL SO IT DOESN’T HAPPEN AND I CAN GIVE HIM HIS SPACE!
PLEASE GIVE ME FEEDBACK. THANK YOU AND MUCH PEACE.
I am a Leo woman, and I love sensitive sentimental men who are nurturing (literally and figuratively!) and caring. Machos have their merits, of course, but still a gentle sensitive man suits me better. I get encouraged to improve and demonstrate my best qualities, my strength. I need to be needed.
I’ve noticed a lot of these Pisces men, are with Libra women.
I have a Libra bestfriend who introduced me to her Pisces male friend, who she had been intimate with whenever she’d come to where I now live, despite the relationships she was in back home, they still hooked up. The fact that most Libra women, yes, are gorgeous, but need to constantly be with someone, and use any means necessary, making them seem disingenuous, and fake (more often than not, they are), I’m suprised these relationships have lasted that long.
I think it’s the Libra’s initial attraction to the kind-hearted Pisces, that gets things started, and the Pisces infatuation with the pretty facade, and having the inability to initiate into a relationship that is pre-doomed, which they’re masters at doing. With that already being said, it’s the Libra’s need to get what she wants more than it is the Pisces desire.
Anyway, my Libra friend introduced this Pisces and I. I’m a Cancer, through and through, moods and all. I became good friends with this Pisces, and his group of long time friends.
I tried to not become interested in this Pisces, but as you all should know, Cancers and Pisces, have a very, I guess “magical” connection. Although I had no intentions of anything, since his long standing intimate relationship with my Libra friend, I would be lying to say the thought didn’t take part in a dance in the clouds somewhere in my dreams. It didn’t help us both being intuitive, we weren’t oblivious to the connection either.
However, after several weeks of our connection, nothing serious still as I won’t make a move till I’m sure, and he usually won’t make one first; a group of us went out on the town(without him – he was working), and at the end of the night his best friend crashed at my house (also a Pisces but no connection-for me). Naturally, I felt horrible about it, even though nothing happened, and despite my usual open-ness, I asked BFFriendPisces, to just wait and not say anything – I’d like to think I was waiting to tell him in person, however I have a feeling I just hoped it wasn’t a big deal, and would blow over.
Well, instead of blowing over, he blew up, apparently BFFP mentioned we did more than we did, and I told him to completely lie to his friend(I’m pretty sure the BFFP has a liar, possibly a problem with pride in his mercury). My P, is a very unhappy fish right now, and because I am moody, and can get over emotional about things, I tried my best to apologize for being selfish by not feeling the need to tell him right away, explained that I did care about him, apologizing profusely, and just let him know I understand how he feels. I shouldve went to his house, and explained in person, because I think I would have had a better advantage at smoothing this over, but its winter, and facebook chat was where he caught me off guard.
Well, that was last night… I did send him a message after he left. Explaining it all, and hoping that he wouldn’t hate me forever, I still care about him despite the words that were said(which is obv rare, cause words usually cut deep with us Cancers), I guess it helps I know it was out of anger. Regardless of zodiac, I think the BFF is never a good guest, and to make it clear, I’m not sure if I want anything more with the Fish then just good friends – since he did sleep with my Libra gf for years and still has feelings for her although she has moved on, and he’s aware she still keeps him on her emotional leash just enough to keep him going – but that may just be my Cancer reasoning not to get too attached.
Anyway, I’m not writing a novel, but I won’t know for a couple hours if he got that message. So if any Pisces men have more advice, or ways to go about this – and get through this with no broken fins, or shells, that would be great. =)
Hi
So my boyfriend just went back to school, and I’m still at home with my parents (he is from around here too) – and I already graduated. Anyway he and I have had some rockiness, mostly him pulling away, me nagging, etc. With the new year I’ve turned a new leaf and trying to be much stronger for him, because I love him soooo much and always want him around
I’m Libra sun, cancer moon, scorpio venus.
So I’m wondering, what are some ways for me to show him how much I love him, without putting any kind of vise on him, or making him feel pressured or cornered in any way? I don’t call him too much but we chat on the phone and sometimes online, and I’m always light and friendly with him, and don’t get things too emotional, though I did drop earlier that I missed him
Any advice you guys can give me would be much appreciated!
I love my fish who I’ve been swimming with for 3+ years, despite the drama/heartache we’ve had along the way
I agree that a lot of Pisces men are with Libra women, I’ve noticed this too. The thing is though, this is a frustrating relationship for a Libra. On one hand you’re with a man that treats you like his buddy but also like he adores you then oneday you notice that he really isn’t making any effort to take the relationship anywhere….Pisces men. Libra men and some Aquarian men do this. Things begin to fizzle out because he won’t get up from him fantasy world and take on a real life. There are acceptions of course but it always hurts when you find yourself feeling like you’re just not worth the effort……
My Aqua guy has venus in pisces and I see his beautiful glasses come out too, I’m just glad he puts them away from time to time to look at reality and how we are building something for real.His moon is Capricorn, so he comes out of the clouds a lot. Pisces guys are beautiful though, thats how they get Libra girls..One daydreamer following another
Wow! Boy can I relate to the frustration of dealing with a Pisces who can’t make his dreams a reality. I am having the worst Valentine’s weekend ever, and wondering if anyone can relate.
My Pisces and I have been together three years and I know we love each other, but sometimes we have fights and miscommuications that end in tears. He’s been away at school (7 hours away) for the past 7 weeks while I have moved back home. I have been the gentlest, most accomodating person – I never let on if I miss him because I don’t want to burden him. I have been there for him, listening to his dreams and fears. We talk several times a day, including on video chat. He came home for the weekend, and I thought, after all the lovely things we said about how much we missed each other, that I would see him, especially since it is Valentine’s Day. He has been here since Thursday evening – he lives 20 miles away. He didnt make plans to see me and has been very “busy” and can’t be on the phone so much. Sure, I should have been more “understanding” but I asked him point blank whether he was busy, what his situation was, more than once, and he was vague.
Anyway I ended up getting angry and frustrated because I felt like despite the pretty words when it came to it, for whatever reason he decided not to see me. And what a bad situation that is to be in. Well, I guess my anger passed, and he said he is still hurt by what happened, and that he does not feel like seeing me. Despite how much I’ve been there for him the past six weeks when it came down to it he couldn’t swallow his emotions ad have a nice time with me. In fact he told me if things were okay for a “year or two” we can go on a really nice date like “a hot air balloon” (I am putting these in quotes to show you his exact words).
Now, I just feel sad, drained, and like he can’t recognize the good thing he has in front of him and wants to be a baby. He knows I care for him and will be patient. But I just feel so hurt, like nothing I did mattered, and he just “doesnt’ feel like” seeing me, and gets angry if I suggest it, like I am forcing him.
I don’t know what to do…today is the only time I have since I have work tomorrow…he is leavning and will be back in school Monday night…I don’t know if I should act differently or what…
That’s simply the most hilarious description of any sun sign I have ever read, and it’s especially funny coming from a Pisces man himself. Kudos for the honesty. As it happens, there’s something alluring in “feminine” men, and I, an Aries woman, ended up marrying a Cancer (yes, really!).
There’s one Pisces man that I love and have loved for decades, now: David Sylvian. Physically, he’s as beautiful as a girl (despite that very deep voice he has) and his music is just what you’d imagine a very talented Pisces musician would come up with. It’s “watery” music and it’s just timeless.
man! I had no idea other people was going thru the same thing!
met a pisces, everything was great, but he was always on the fence for some reason. I know he liked me, but kept me at arms distance the entire time.
like someone else mentioned before, even though he hurt me several times, when I offended him, he will not let it go. let him tell it, the one thing I did made him fall back and everything I’ve done since is just making him fall back more and more. nothing is ever enough and everything is too much.
he keeps falling back, then I step up and everything is good. but if it gets too good, he’ll fall back again. he doesn’t want a “relationship right now” but he never completely leaves. its the most frustrating thing I’ve ever dealt with.
but I looove me some him! when its good, its great! he makes me feel so good! when he looks at me, I melt! I think I’m addicted to his kisses!
but I feel so lost and confused when he leaves. I’ve never felt so depended on another person in my life! and now he’s talking about how he’s getting attention from other women… I can’t take it!
is it worth it? could this work? am I wasting my time??? please help?
another libra in love…
I happen to be a Pisces man (in fact I’m celebrating my birthday in 2 weeks), but I tend to have feminine qualities in my personality and physically too (also in my tastes). I am kind of tall (about 5 feet 8 inches tall), but I’m not very plump. I have womanly arms and I don’t have big legs for a guy. I have big feet and hands too. I had long hair one-time (although I cut it off one-time because I hated the way I always styled it, which I admit to regret doing. I have now learned my lesson). I am going to be using a wig for the moment while my real hair grows back. I’m also going to be starting to wear womanly garb so that I could adopt an effeminate appearance and lifestyle due to my qualities. I am also very shy, sensitive, caring, kind, sweet, everything dealing with good. I’m also a bit of a big baby as I live with my mother because I can’t live on my own, and she may not approve on what I am planning to do. Hope that is okay with everyone here.