Let the Good Times Roll: The Jupiter-Ruled Relationship

“Hey baby, want to play?” With a fun-filled glint in his eye and a come hither smile, you can hardly resist the charms of Mr. Jupiter. And he knows it, too, because he has played this game before — many, many times.

Unlike your former lover — Mr. Bad Boy Uranus — this fella is eager to please. You can hardly believe your luck, as this guy wines and dines you … and even acts interested when you speak! Swept away by the larger-than-life quality of this romance, you think, “Maybe, just maybe, this is the one!”

Then as quickly as it began, he stops calling — or another girl answers his phone. When you do finally get to confront him, he acts confused, like a four-year-old asked to explain the theory of relativity. “We were just having fun, weren’t we?” he says, with his all-encompassing smile. “Look, I’ve got to go, sweetie, but I’ll give you a call, soon … really.” As he saunters off up the street, you realize that maybe it’s best if you delete his number from your cell phone … because he’s already deleted yours from his. And you wonder, “What happened?”

Papa is a rolling stone, darlin’, and Mr. Jupiter is all that and more. He’s living for the experience, like a toddler exploring his world in uncoordinated baby steps. Nothing pleases this guy more than a good time, and in his mind, a good time is only good if it’s shared with whomever he rolls into. But because experience is what he is here for, once he’s sucked up whatever it has to offer, it’s over — and he’s off to find his next experience.

Or not. If he realizes that he didn’t drink all of his milkshake, he may come back for more. How maddening! “Is he serious this time,” you ask? Well, how can you know, considering the number of times he’s moved in and out of your apartment?

Jupiter, God of Opportunity

Jupiter, an enormous gas giant, is the second of the so-called impersonal (or social) planets. Jupiter is traditionally associated with expanding boundaries, opportunity, freedom, optimism and enthusiasm. From the Sun through Mars, the emphasis is on personal needs and concerns. Saturn — the planet of form — defines our boundaries and the rules we live with, as well as the practical application of earthly affairs. Jupiter is the first breath of heaven, the sense that there is more beyond that which exists on this mortal coil. The flip side of Jupiter is less attractive. Extravagance, indulgence, and a shallow understanding of the consequences of actions taken can dog those under the influence of Jupiter.

If Jupiter or Sagittarius planets are prominent in your chart, you are susceptible to the Jupiter-ruled relationship.

Jupiter is prominent in your chart when (natally) it makes a connection to a personal planet — Sun, Moon, Venus or Mars. This can be any energetic connection — square, trine, sextile or opposition. Jupiter really makes you crazy when it forms the 150-degree angle aspect called an inconjunct to one of these planets. Then you swing back and forth between loving and hating the guy!

Sagittarius is marked in your chart when one of the four personal planets mentioned is in the sign of the Centaur. Regardless of the way Jupiter or Sagittarius manifests in your chart, your innate sense of personal freedom leads you to choose partners who manifest the same ideals.

If by transit — that is, by its current position in the heavens — Jupiter makes a connection to one of the four personal planets mentioned, the stage is set for you to experience this kind of relationship. If Jupiter is sweeping through your Fifth House of Romance or Seventh House of Partnerships, this coupling is possible as well.

Is it possible for a Sagittarian/Jupiter-ruled person to settle down into a relationship?

Let me clue you in to a little secret of these folks. Often, they carry a torch for “the one that got away” — usually an idealized version of the actual person. It is difficult for you to live up to the image of that person, unless you, yourself, embody one of your lover’s most essential ideals. Study his Moon and Venus to see if you closely match the qualities of the planets in those signs.

Should you be such a person, or if your Saturn sits on his Sun, Moon or Venus [i.e., conjoins by interaspect], then you have a shot at long term stability. This is dependent on how mature your lover is. If he’s in his teens or twenties, you may have to wait until his Sun has progressed into the next sign (Capricorn) for different facets of his personality to emerge. Since the progressed Sun moves only one degree per year, this usually results in an unacceptably long wait. This is why you hear stories of people who reunite after a decade or two of separation.

Even if you were to get your Sagittarian/Jupiter lover to settle into a permanent relationship, you need to be aware that restlessness is part of the package. One Sagittarian Moon man who is settled into his long term marriage describes it as being locked in a cage. Its not that he doesn’t love his wife. He does, absolutely and without reservation. But itchy feet is part of his astrological heritage, and sometimes he expresses a desire “to get away from it all.” Be prepared to provide steady doses of spontaneity and playfulness in your mutual daily routine, and don’t protest too much when he goes out for a newspaper and doesn’t return until seven hours later. He needs his freedom to be who he is, and when you realize it, you do, too. That’s what Jupiter-ruled relationships are all about.

About the Author
Beth is a professional astrologer with over twenty years experience counseling clients in career and relationship issues. She writes an astrology column for a weekly newspaper along the Connecticut shoreline and blogs about astrology daily at the 451 Press blog Astrology Explored.

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