Cancer man wants to make flirtatious Gemini girlfriend jealous
May 9, 2008 by Jeffrey Kishner
Micah (view chart) writes,
My girlfriend is of course a gemini, and we’ve been dating for about 2 months. As you know gemini’s are the flirtatious kind, and I can get a little jealous. But i don’t tell her i’m jealous because i know they hate when you tell them to stop flirting. My question is How Can I make my gemini girlfriend jealous?
Micah,
Instead of making your Gemini girlfriend jealous, why don’t you just work on your own jealousy issues? Her flirting is triggering your own insecurities about how much of a “hold” you have on her. Perhaps you are afraid she will leave you for someone more interesting. You have your Sun, Moon and Venus in Cancer. This Water sign desires security, and with your planets of needs and affection here, you want to be coddled. When you watch your Gemini girlfriend flirt, your feelings may be akin to that of seeing your mother pay attention to your siblings instead of enveloping you in her love 24/7.
Mars, your action planet, is in possessive Taurus. Your impulse is to take what you feel is yours — and forget about sharing! Planetary heavyweights Saturn and Pluto add to your frustration. Saturn squares your Mars from Aquarius. You don’t feel you belong, and this insecurity only fuels your desire to cling to your relationship. An opposition to Mars from Pluto in Scorpio intensifies your jealousy.
Neither Cancerian clinginess nor Taurean possessiveness are attractive to a Gemini. And trying to make a Gem stop flirting is like telling a car it’s not supposed to drive. Just continue to be interesting so that she stays fascinated with you.
~ Jeffrey
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And trying to make a Gem stop flirting is like telling a car it’s not supposed to drive…
Jeffrey, are you suggesting that anyone dating & or in relationship with a Gemini just has to accept this ‘fact’ & not expect anything different from them? That doesn’t seem fair to me. Just as the Cancer guy needs to work on his insecurities/possessiveness (BTW, I feel you on that one, Cancer guy….:-)), shouldn’t the gem girl be expected to curb her flirting tendencies as well out of respect for his feelings?
I’ve had a lifetime of entanglements with Gems, Aquarians, and Mercurial men (my Mars & Saturn is in Gem, my Venus & Mercury in Aquarius) and I have to agree with Jeff: you either take them or leave them, flirting and all. Another fun Mercury-person game is to fall in and out of love with you at least four times a year (this is often accompanied by brief “relationships” with other people, though not always physical ones, thank god.)
It drove me crazy when I was younger. It still drives me a little crazy, but it’s also taught me self-sufficiency and the value of emotional flexibility.
Of course, this is easier for me to say, since my love planets are all air themselves!
No, Gem will never stop flirting, and no, Cancer/Taurus will never stop trying to possess. But if there’s enough maturity and tolerance, both Cancer and Gemini could very well learn to love and accept one another as very different people.
My two cents, for what it’s worth!
Laura,
After reading your post, I can only reach one conclusion that I better NEVER get involved with a Gemini. Kudos to those who can take this type of ‘relationship’, I know myself well enough to know that, it will push me over the edge (of sanity, that is)…:-) I am a Cap Sun & Cancer ascendant with mutliple Plutonic connections in my chart. This would drive me CRAZY. Interestingly I’ve Gem Moon myself, one that I have never identified with really, feels more like Cancer moon to me.It was interesting to read your viewpoint though.
Yes, shygirl, I think one does pretty much have to accept this ‘fact.’ But flirting can be harmless, what counts is how devoted the Gemini is to his or her partner. One has to remember that it doesn’t have to be personal.
Cancer man,
So you want to make your flirtatious Gemini girlfriend jealous, then I suggest you do the same. She probably might flirt more but show her that it doesn’t bother you.
BUT I think you should not do that and just talk to her and see if she is doing it because she is a flirt or because she is looking for some attention that she might be lacking in your relationship. If she is doing it because she is just a flirt, maybe you can let her know that it bothers you and if she can tone it down a bit. If she is doing it because she is lacking some attention in your relationship, then you guys need to address that. If she doesn’t want to compromise, then I say RUN and don’t look back.
Hope it works between you guys. Best of wishes. Keep us posted.
Hi Jeff, this is a Piscean woman posting about a Capricon man. I have just met him, he is from work, and we have met each other two times. How can I tell if he is interested in me? I dont want to take the first step here, or do anything which will make me look like a fool. We ( him, me and another girl and a guy from office) are to meet up at his place next week.
So far, he has told me and the other girl about his parents, his sister, his niece, his work, his work, his work ( which I dont mind, I too love talking about work), what he thinks about the country we are living in etc…
Any tips, helps, would be very appreciated!
@jokerista, I wonder if a Capricorn would make romantic moves on a coworker, could be risky. They tend to be reserved in their expression of affection. I’d say any efforts at all to be alone with you could be interpreted as interest.
Hey people, I am a Gem girl dating a Cancer man, and all I can say is that our relationship is perfect! He knows I like to flirt but he also knows that its very inocent and I don’t want to hurt him in any ways because I love him. When we flirt, we don’t go all the way, we just like flirty conversations with people because this is stimulating our brains. But when I flirt with some guys, this doesn’t mean that I will kiss them or do something dirty with them, because I don’t need to. I have my man out there and he is lovely and all I want in him!!! So, don’t be scared to date a Gem person, we are harmless and very innocent!!
Hi Gem Girl, maybe you think your relationship is perfect, you can flirt and he understands. But maybe he doesnt think its perfect and suffering by it. Maybe he is hiding it. Dont be surprised, if suddenly he says good bye to you:) I dont think cancers like flirtatious partners, but some of them can hide it.
I know, that Gems flirting is really innocent, but every person I know who is dating a Gem is suffering(openly or secretly) from their constant flirting
hiii im a gem girl n i would like to say i agree wih jeff you either take it or leave it but flirting with other people as she does will not make her jealous she will jus drift farther away from you she will flirt even more and than in her flirting she may find some one more intresting than you either she may cheat on you or leave and if she see’s you flirting she will probaly wont even cheat n she will just leave beacause she see you flirting as moving on beacause you never really flirt right?
so the best thing for you to do is just tell her how u feel
Ignore her! That’s the best way. But not too much, but just enough. And when she goes on and on talking, interrupt her and tell her something funny a girl “friend” said to you that you found hilarious. I’ve dated many Geminis, so I know what gets to them.
I am a gemini girl and i LOVE to flirt -it has nothing to do with the person that I am romantically involved with. IT’s a completely seperate thing. I would just learn to accept it. Obviously she should be respectful and not cross the line but weather I am single or with a boyfriend, I love to flirt. It does not take away from anything I feel for the person that I’m with.
Well, geminis are not flirty, they just like to talk with different kind of people which includes both guys and girls, and if those people are guys then obviously you will feel insecure and jealous. It seems like they are flirting but the fact is they are not flirty. And Lol i have seen what the people are saying that if shes doing this then you should do the same, i just want to tell you one thing that if you will do the same thing( i mean flirting) then believe you me she will SURELY leave you. And im sorry to say atleast she is talking to guys or her freinds or whoever they are in front of YOU, i have seen so many Girls flirting with other guys when their boyfreinds leave them only for 15 minutes or cheat on them when they don’t see their guys for a week or so. Geminis are what they are, they will be the same when you are with them or without them. And if u still really feel insecure then better tell your girl that” I love you but sometimes I feel really insecure when you talk to guys, i trust you from the bottom of my heart but im sorry im really possesive when it comes to ones who i love thats the way im, i wanted to tell you this for many days but i thought you would think im insecure and all, which im not, i just feel for you blah blah “thats kind of a long letter..hehe…personally i don’t think geminis like insecure pple but if this thing is really bothering you then tell her what you think.
Btw, im not a gemini but my friend is-:)
Bravo, Geminis ! Only a Gemini can justify flirting while having an affairt at the same time. Geminis indeed have excellent communication skills thats for sure.Lets analyse the real problem here. Cancer man jealous of Gemini Girl flirting. Clearly from this post it appears that flirting is a innocent game to Geminis. But not for cancerians. Being a long term guy, flirting to cancerian are like the initial stages of ultimately falling in love and perhaps getting married some day. Thats what Geminis dont seem to understand why Cancerians are insecure of their partner flirting. To Cancer male, it means their partners are looking for new options and the relationship he is in, is terminal.
Currently (and only temporarily) me (Scorpio) and my Scorpio friend are renting a place with his mother (a Cancer) and her boyfriend (a Gemini), and even though I go out of my way to avoid the boyfriend – for reasons I’m about to state – every time they are drinking and get in an argument, I hear her hollering my name, asking him why he doesn’t just go talk to me (aka the slut) since he likes me so much and is waiting around for me to come out of the shower just to get a glimpse….. and blah blah blah.
The insecurity is so extreme on her part that she conjures up irrational ideas and reasons to be angry every time something doesn’t go her way, and then proceeds to manipulate and play guilt trips.
) there can be a tendency to let insecurities take you and your loved ones for an emotional roller coaster ride.
She is a pretty dysfunctional person, to say the least… not that all Cancers are, but (and this goes for my kind too
In regards to jealous Cancer and social Gemini… don’t let her interactions with the opposite sex make you insecure. Love her for her and don’t jump to negative conclusions or try to manipulate a desired response out of her to satiate your insecurity, or you surely will push her away. Talk it through, Gems do love talking after all, do they not?
That’s my 2 or 3 cents on the Can-Gem love dynamics, tho it goes for any relationship. ;P
well iam a gemini (female) and im in a situaTION similar to this and my advise to you is to not let it get to you she’s goin to flirt its in her nature what human doesnt its normal but to a certain extent if she gets out of line simply tell her how u feel but if u keep going back and forth you going to b left alone, and what i’ve recently found out after dealing with my cancer guy is that cancer men are very jealous and insurcure and have problems expressing themselves and saying how they truly feel about a situation and after seeing what your asking advise on i find that to be true, instead of hiding behind your emotions tell her how u feel instead of holding back , because at the end of the day looks how on her askig for advise you not her she’s out there fliting away
Good day to everyone, especially to Jeffrey!
I don’t think you can stop your Gemini woman from flirting especially if the relationship had just begun coz her feeling is not yet progressing. However, you should show CONSISTENT care, passion and love to her for she wants to see how true your feelings are to her. Be “visible” every now and then by calling her or texting or seeing her everyday.
Show to her that she is very important to you until she loves you back so deeply.Do not be threatened on what she is doing (like talking to other guys) for she just wanted to see how you react on such, so better show that you are jealous but not totally freaking, huh…
Believe me, in few months, she will be chasing after you!!!
I’m dating a Gemini man and boy is he a flirt. He works in retail and is constantly meeting new people (mostly women) He gives them his phone number and talks to them at work and at home. He says it’s nothing. He is always at home and 99.9% of the time I know where he is or what he is doing. He tells me he loves me and he knows what is good for him. He tells me he is not trying to sleep with any of them, he just likes to flirt and have conversation. Well, it drives me NUTS!! Leo’s can be a bit jealous and no matter how much I try and hide it, my jealously always seems to win. I don’t know what to do. Do I ignore it or leave?
I had dated with three cancer men and i am a gem girl. Never there is a good ending.
Anyway, the way you can stop her being flirty is simple – ignore her.
Cos i am being ignored now – by a cancer man and i am really hurt.
The colder he is to me the deeper i love him. He’s a prick! Loser!
Anyway, if u need a suggestion that will definitely work for u, i am quite sure.
Stop calling her
Stop texting her
Give her pleasurable sex that she can’t forget (remember, cos she’s a flirt)
Make her jealous by showing her some evidence that you might be dating with other girls