Your mother, your sisters and your friends will all warn you about him. The gunslinger, James Dean, the Hell’s Angel, the gambler, the gangsta, the player: You know who I’m talking about! The pretty boy with a chip on his shoulder and his eye out for you. The attraction is immediate, he sees you, pursues you, consumes you with his all-encompassing passion. Then just as breathlessly as he took up with you he is gone, leaving you with a shattered heart and a trail of tears. “What happened?” you wonder, as you try to piece together the events of your relationship, like a victim of a car wreck.
What happened was Uranus.
Uranus brings events and people into our lives suddenly and unexpectedly, and with a purpose. But that purpose is rarely “happily ever after.” Uranus is called The Great Awakener and this planet’s purpose is to wake you up to something you’ve probably been ignoring. Like your own individuality.
What do bad boys have to do with this?
Forgot all the nonsense about how women are attracted to bad boys because they are sexy. Well, they are, but other kinds of men are sexy too, so that’s not it. It’s because these men dare to do what so many women are still afraid to do — live outside the box and do as they please.
What an aphrodisiac! With these men, you can explore a side of your sexuality and being that traditional society deems bad for you. Through these men, we live out our fantasies of being free of these societal expectations.
Ultimately though, these relationships, are unfulfilling. Why? Let’s look at the essential nature of the kind of individual that tends to be a “bad boy.”
A bad boy is a man who seems outwardly attractive, but is unwilling to offer … love in a relationship. He is too immature and preoccupied with himself to share genuine compassion, concern, or acceptance. A bad boy lacks character and might exhibit the following behavior: lying, aloofness, irresponsible dreaming, fear of commitment, sexual promiscuity, addiction to substances or pornography, selfishness, hunger for power… In addition, a bad boy is not interested in true love, because real love requires consistent sacrifice. A bad boy will only sacrifice for someone if it’s convenient for him or if he gets something in return. He expects the woman to do most of the giving, while he ignores her needs or takes advantage of her.
A “bad boy” is the expression of Uranian energy in its most negative form, like an Aquarian on personality steroids. He is a two dimensional character in a three dimensional world, unable to enter into a world where trust, intimacy and caring are the cornerstones of a relationship.
Astrologically, there are three entrances into the Uranian-based relationship. One is through your birth chart, where hard angles from the planet Uranus impact one of your personal planets — Sun, Moon, Venus, Mars and sometimes Mercury. When a transiting outer planet touches this sensitive point, it’s off to Oz you go. The other is when Uranus by its position in the heavens (i.e., by transit) makes an energetic connection to one of your personal planets. Lastly, when Uranus travels through your Fifth, Seventh or Eighth House, a Uranian-based lover may show up at your door.
When a Uranian type individual manifests in your life, this is the Universe’s signal that you are ignoring some important personal developmental needs. Perhaps you should follow this road sign instead of buying a ticket to ride the Uranian Express.
About the Author
Beth is a professional astrologer with over twenty years experience counseling clients in career and relationship issues. She writes an astrology column for a weekly newspaper along the Connecticut shoreline and blogs about astrology daily at the 451 Press blog Astrology Explored.
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