Bad Boys: The Uranus-Ruled Relationship

Your mother, your sisters and your friends will all warn you about him. The gunslinger, James Dean, the Hell’s Angel, the gambler, the gangsta, the player: You know who I’m talking about! The pretty boy with a chip on his shoulder and his eye out for you. The attraction is immediate, he sees you, pursues you, consumes you with his all-encompassing passion. Then just as breathlessly as he took up with you he is gone, leaving you with a shattered heart and a trail of tears. “What happened?” you wonder, as you try to piece together the events of your relationship, like a victim of a car wreck.

What happened was Uranus.

Uranus brings events and people into our lives suddenly and unexpectedly, and with a purpose. But that purpose is rarely “happily ever after.” Uranus is called The Great Awakener and this planet’s purpose is to wake you up to something you’ve probably been ignoring. Like your own individuality.

What do bad boys have to do with this?

Forgot all the nonsense about how women are attracted to bad boys because they are sexy. Well, they are, but other kinds of men are sexy too, so that’s not it. It’s because these men dare to do what so many women are still afraid to do — live outside the box and do as they please.

What an aphrodisiac! With these men, you can explore a side of your sexuality and being that traditional society deems bad for you. Through these men, we live out our fantasies of being free of these societal expectations.

Ultimately though, these relationships, are unfulfilling. Why? Let’s look at the essential nature of the kind of individual that tends to be a “bad boy.”

A bad boy is a man who seems outwardly attractive, but is unwilling to offer … love in a relationship. He is too immature and preoccupied with himself to share genuine compassion, concern, or acceptance. A bad boy lacks character and might exhibit the following behavior: lying, aloofness, irresponsible dreaming, fear of commitment, sexual promiscuity, addiction to substances or pornography, selfishness, hunger for power… In addition, a bad boy is not interested in true love, because real love requires consistent sacrifice. A bad boy will only sacrifice for someone if it’s convenient for him or if he gets something in return. He expects the woman to do most of the giving, while he ignores her needs or takes advantage of her.

A “bad boy” is the expression of Uranian energy in its most negative form, like an Aquarian on personality steroids. He is a two dimensional character in a three dimensional world, unable to enter into a world where trust, intimacy and caring are the cornerstones of a relationship.

Astrologically, there are three entrances into the Uranian-based relationship. One is through your birth chart, where hard angles from the planet Uranus impact one of your personal planets — Sun, Moon, Venus, Mars and sometimes Mercury. When a transiting outer planet touches this sensitive point, it’s off to Oz you go. The other is when Uranus by its position in the heavens (i.e., by transit) makes an energetic connection to one of your personal planets. Lastly, when Uranus travels through your Fifth, Seventh or Eighth House, a Uranian-based lover may show up at your door.

When a Uranian type individual manifests in your life, this is the Universe’s signal that you are ignoring some important personal developmental needs. Perhaps you should follow this road sign instead of buying a ticket to ride the Uranian Express.

About the Author
Beth is a professional astrologer with over twenty years experience counseling clients in career and relationship issues. She writes an astrology column for a weekly newspaper along the Connecticut shoreline and blogs about astrology daily at the 451 Press blog Astrology Explored.

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About Beth Turnage

Beth Turnage is a professional astrologer with over twenty years experience counseling clients in career and relationship issues. She writes an astrology column for a weekly newspaper along the Connecticut shoreline and blogs about astrology at Astrology Media Press.

Comments

  1. Jeffrey Kishner says:

    Excellent article, Beth. Don’t you think a Uranus transit or a natal Uranus aspect could “attract” a good Uranian individual to help shake up one’s life? Not a bad boy, but someone who’s simply vital and free, someone who rebels in a healthy way against the rigid constraints of society?

  2. SynthiaRose says:

    This is a very interesting column, Beth. Because it presupposes that convention is good and rebellion is bad.
    So, if a Uranus relationship emerges, run! Wow.

    I would argue that many great shifts have occurred in the world because of people who choose to rebel. So, I say if Uranus energy emerges, embrace that. It doesn’t have to be read through a negative lens.

    But while I support rebellion, I don’t see the bad boy as synonymous with rebellion as you claim. That gives them way too much credit. That is not the heart of the bad boy and his essential attractive force. It’s something way simpler than that.

    I wish these so-called “bad boys” WOULD rebel — against cliche’!
    Because they follow very staid and traditional patterns of being “bad.”
    Think outside the box? Um, I wish they could. The player schtick is tired and not ingenious at all.

    So Beth how would you account for the fact that many edgy girls who are already self-defined and embracing individuality are also attracted to “bad boys.”?

    Likely just because they have this hardened manhood. Bad boys evince a strong, uncompromising masculinity that many women secretly crave. If only gentleman could learn to retain some aggression along with their manners, that’d be great.

    The bad boy’s secret is really not so esoteric as being unconventional.

    An Aquarian on steroids? LOL. They wish! (what’s with the Aquarian bashing? These brilliant, inventive men beat bad boys with one brain cell.)

    Also, I’m sort of disturbed that you present women as being passive in the Universe, suggesting that the universe blindsides them by sending in this Uranus trickery… and that a bad boy sees them and pursues them?

    You suggest a Uranus relationship sort of materializes — without them willing it and agitating. That takes power away from women. Many, many, many women rabidly pursue the bad boys. Even the conservative girls.

    If they are hungering that badly for the experience, I say pursue. And like you, I say learn from it.

    I see this whole column as a subtle admonishment against being nontraditional and Uranic (is that a word??lol). In short: the manipulation of astrology to preach archaic values.

    You present the bad boy as the icon for individuality and ‘thinking outside the box”
    Then quickly relate that to all his bad, hurtful qualities.
    Then end with, steer clear!

    C’mon Beth. Is this the 1950′s?

    P.S. Hope you’re not offended by an alternative opinion.

  3. Starry Night Astrology says:

    Synthiarose,

    No I’m not offended. I laughed. You see I am a Sun sign Aquarian with a natal opposition to Uranus. I am the definition of an Aquarian on personality steriods. And I absolutely reserve the right to trash my own kind.

    But here is the difference. After taking my lumps, smacking into reality, as it were, I learned that are some good and valuable things about “tradional” society.

    There is absolutely nothing wrong, in fact it is very healthy, to explore Uranian based personality needs. And yes, those that step outside the box expand the parameters of our existence. However, in its most negative expression, (and if you read the article through again you’ll see those exact words), it is an extremely selfish existence. Now do you really want to experience a relationship that is so one sided? Go ahead if you want to.

    You are disturbed that I seem to view women as passive, blindsided by Uranian trickery? When you’ve been at the other end of the phone consultation as many times as I have with a person crying their eyes out because of their Uranian lover you might see it differently. I don’t expect women to be passive, but frankly, there are plenty of women out there who are waiting to be “found.” Edgy, self-possessing women who are drawn to bad boys? What, its healthy to engage in a relationship where one person takes and takes, and the other person gives and gives? I would have to say that that woman is not as self possessing as she imagines.

    There is a whole world of difference between men who are unusual but have the skills and the heart to have a relationship built on mutual respect and true caring and the “bad boys” I described.

    And to answer Jeffrey’s question: Is it possible to have a healthy Uranian relationship that helps you navigate the rigid constraints of society? Of course it is, but it really is up to you to discern if the Uranian person has the skills and the honesty to be in relationship or not. And no matter the relationship, Saturnian, Jupiterian, Uranian, Neptunian or Plutonian, that is the question

    Beth

  4. Cappy Cat says:

    First off:

    Your mother, your sisters and your friends will all warn you about him. The gunslinger, James Dean, the Hell’s Angel, the gambler, the gangsta, the player: You know who I’m talking about! The pretty boy with a chip on his shoulder and his eye out for you. The attraction is immediate, he sees you, pursues you, consumes you with his all-encompassing passion. Then just as breathlessly as he took up with you he is gone, leaving you with a shattered heart and a trail of tears. “What happened?” you wonder, as you try to piece together the events of your relationship, like a victim of a car wreck.

    I know I’m going to get stoned by other Scorpios who read this…but are you sure you’re not describing a Scorpio male here? Tee hee hee.

    Secondly: That little boy….I bet he could pass as a young Jeffrey, with that radiant, flowy hair and all :)

    Thirdly: Your second paragraph nearly had me in tears. You described my Scorpio to a “T”. We both also have Uranus in Scorpio :*(

    All in all, thanks for the good blog, Beth. And thank YOU Jeffrey for posting and sharing it with us.

  5. Cappy Cat says:

    Oops, I meant this paragraph reminded me of my Scorpio and had me in tears:

    A bad boy is a man who seems outwardly attractive, but is unwilling to offer … love in a relationship. He is too immature and preoccupied with himself to share genuine compassion, concern, or acceptance. A bad boy lacks character and might exhibit the following behavior: lying, aloofness, irresponsible dreaming, fear of commitment, sexual promiscuity, addiction to substances or pornography, selfishness, hunger for power… In addition, a bad boy is not interested in true love, because real love requires consistent sacrifice. A bad boy will only sacrifice for someone if it’s convenient for him or if he gets something in return. He expects the woman to do most of the giving, while he ignores her needs or takes advantage of her.

  6. Jeffrey Kishner says:

    @Cappy Cat, I was always a sweet, good-natured happy little boy who never brooded and had a stupid 70s bangs haircut.

  7. Starry Night Astrology says:

    “are you sure you’re not describing a Scorpio male here?”

    A Scorpio/Pluto based individuals would tell you “possession is nine tenths of the law”. They aren’t prone to sudden entrances or exits like the Uranian ruled.

    Aquarians/Uranian ruled people wonder what possessions are.

  8. Jennifer says:

    Eh, I don’t find this offensive. It’s saying that some people will hop the Uranian Bad Boy Express because they can’t figure out any other way to make interesting changes in their lives. And maybe it would be better to say, take off to Scotland at random than date a guy without the personal development to have a relationship, and get all attached to him, when he’s not up to attachment. Assuming you have the self-control to make that choice, anyway.

    (I do not date “bad boys,” but I like the unusual ones and have Uranus rising, so I plead guilty to this.)

  9. Laura F. Walton says:

    This is a fascinating article, Beth, and some fascinating responses too!

    I know I’m going to get stoned by other Scorpios who read this…but are you sure you’re not describing a Scorpio male here? Tee hee hee.?

    CappyCat giggles, but she makes a good point. From my perspective, Uranian energy has very little regard for anyone’s feelings at all, their own included; it’s not that we’re all horrible sociopaths, but emotions are simply not a priority with Uranus. It takes a true touch of Pluto to make a real bad boy, and I mean the kind that play you for all you’re worth– emotionally, financially, whatever. Uranus can’t be bothered with that sort of thing; it’s completely foreign.

    Uranus just makes for people who need freedom. Without corresponding Uranian/Aquarian energy, of course a partner will end up perpetually hurt, because they will constantly equate “my partner can’t engage with me on the emotional level I feel is appropriate” with “my partner doesn’t love me enough.” That’s rarely true…it’s just that Uranian love is different than, say, Venusian love or Neptunian love. I’ve never, ever known a strong Uranian or Aquarian to hurt another person knowingly (minor snits aside, of course.) They simply do their thing, and people either come along for the ride or get left behind.

    Don’t you think a Uranus transit or a natal Uranus aspect could “attract” a good Uranian individual to help shake up one’s life? Not a bad boy, but someone who’s simply vital and free, someone who rebels in a healthy way against the rigid constraints of society?

    The difference lies in where we put the focus, I think. Placing any kind of qualitative judgment on the Uranian person/situation itself is totally beside the point; Uranus in its pure form is a catalyst, is not affected by the encounter, is ultimately not important to the encounter at all. It’s the “Uranian-ee”, so to speak, that has the lessons to learn about individuation, personal will, existing without obsession about outcomes and future ties, true emotional self-sufficiency, etc.– all the lessons that accompany freedom.

    That said, living with that brand of freedom is not everyone’s cup of tea. Someone with personal or love planets in Scorpio, Taurus, or one of the more emotionally interactive signs will defnitely have trouble with that sort of energy, especially long-term. Those with strong Aquarian influences of their own might find a Uranian “nonengagement” (as opposed to a Gemini “noncommittal”, as a contrasting example) perfectly satisfactory.

    It’s such a diverse old world, isn’t it? Lord knows it hurts when we’re mismatched, when our needs and expectations go unmet; but the spectrum of needs and expectations is so amazingly varied that there’s some person or relational sitation out there for everyone. The best thing we can do is set out on a deliberate mission to find out exactly what it is we really want, deep down….even if that happens to be Uranian freedom.

    (Spoken like a true Pisces with strong Aquarius/Uranus, huh?)

  10. Beth, you sure nailed this one. My most Uranian boyfriend came along right in time for my transiting Uranus square to natal Uranus, age 21-ish. He detonated my entire life for a couple of years, and it was high drama – but I was enormously relieved when he moved far, far away!

  11. I am BORED by bad boys.

    Oh, THEY’RE the cliche themselves. YAWN.

    I am a uranus person, and dating another uranus person (which I did last time) is SO boring. Is that ALL? All you do is REBEL? You just act out of resistence without having the time to think for yourself at all if you want to accept x, y, z or not?

    Drugs? Motorcycles? Climbing roofs? Boring. I climbed lots of roofs, and bad boys are a bore.

  12. angelineelise says:

    *****”I’ve never, ever known a strong Uranian or Aquarian to hurt another person knowingly (minor snits aside, of course.) They simply do their thing, and people either come along for the ride or get left behind.”****

    Well said!! I have moon/venus/mars Aqua(Uranus in 11th house semi square asc/sextile moon & venus) and I feel the Uranian energy strongly….and YES I was always the “bad girl” as a teen!! I would get a whim and leave my bf just because it felt right, because I was feeling “boxed in”!!

    I attract all the good guys too, the sweeties who’s affection felt like a pillow over my face!! The more they loved me, the faster I ran (I am very uncomfy with strong emotions)!!

    At some point I was talking to my friend and said “I love the feeling I get when I break up with a guy…it’s like I’m free again…and I can do everything I wanted to do.” It’s hard for Uranian types NOT to see their lover as a possible authority figure/freedom blockage when the relationship goes sour…stopping them from doing what it is they really want to be doing!!

    It can be daunting being with a Uranian person, lots of space, friendship and “down for anything” attitude is necessary!!

    I hate all the “bad boy/girl” stuff though…because I know I’ve never meant to hurt anyone by ending something that isn’t going to work… I constantly change up my friends too (except a core few…who I feel we are growing together in the same direction…)

    But I know my negative reaction in relationships is to rebel against my lover….thus the moniker.

  13. SynthiaRose says:

    Beth, you’re an Aquarian! No way!
    I would have NEVER guessed that from your posts in the forum or here.

    You seem like a Capricorn!

    Beth said: “it is an extremely selfish existence. Now do you really want to experience a relationship that is so one sided? Go ahead if you want to.”

    Um, Me? No thanks. I go for real men, real Aquas, not the cliche bad boy. LOL. Way too immature for me.

    Beth, I do agree that there is much good in tradition.

  14. angelineelise says:

    @May- it’s against our nature to date bad boys!! You’re so right!!! ;)

  15. Starry Night Astrology says:

    “Synthiarose said; You seem like a Capricorn!”

    No, I write like a Capricorn. Mercury conjunct Venus in Cap. In the ninth.

  16. Jeffrey Kishner says:

    “It’s not personal” is a mantra one would need to repeat if they are with a Uranian individual. Thanks, Laura F Walton!

  17. CappyCat says:

    May, are you a Cappy like Ang and I? Yes, bad boys bore me as well, no in fact, they repulse me. I want someone practical with all that criterias a Cappy REQUIRES. A bad boy here and then to bring excitement is ok, I don’t mind those, but they’re not going to last longer than a Mento for me.

  18. Starry Night Astrology says:

    April and Angelineelise,

    Thank you for providing some very illustrative examples of Uranian manifestations!

    Laura F. Walton,

    You are on point, every single paragraph. I loved your response I’ve tried to think of clients involved in a Uranian type relationship, where the love interest didn’t have a strong Uranian energy, just represented it by virtue of being present, and I couldn’t think of one. And of course as you, Jeffrey and Angelineelise point all, Uranian energy is all very impersonal, and the Uranian ruled person never means to hurt anyone. The you-can-come-along-if-YOU-want-to-BUT-I-am-not-responsible-for-the-results attitude does lay the responsibility on the “Uranian-ee”. But this is a relationship, right? Give and take, you and me, to have and to hold, etc., etc. I submit that when you enter into relationship with someone that goes into the sharing of bodies as well as of minds that the stakes are upgraded. No matter what the planetary influences you have a responsibility to treat the other person with caring and respect for their feelings. This is so difficult for the Uranian ruled, because as you point out, the level of emotional engagement is much different. I’m not saying it is wrong. It is what it is. The lesson for the Uranus person is to become aware of the effects their actions have on other people’s emotions and respond appropriately.

    Let’s take for example the character Indiana Jones, whose chart I delineated on my AE blog (before “Crystal Skulls” premiered). Indy has Uranus in Sagittarius inconjunct his Sun, We’ve seen through the movies how he solves sticky emotional problems by beating the streets or in his case any convenient jungle path. In “Crystal Skulls” Miriam pointedly asks him, “What trail of human wreckage have you left behind?” He admits “A few.” Awareness, finally. But at what cost?

    Bad boys never realize the emotional cost, and that’s what makes them an unhealthy choice at any time.

  19. Jeffrey Kishner says:

    And yet she marries him.

  20. Laura F. Walton says:

    Thanks, Beth! It’s a great topic, and I’ve enjoyed all the responses. The urge to reject the status quo is almost lionized in Western society– our heroes are those who have the guts to fight for what they believe in, even if it means leaving behind those they love, or facing societal retribution– your Indiana Jones example is the perfect illustration. It’s no wonder we fall for them in relationships!

  21. Starry Night Astrology says:

    Jeffrey says: “And yet she marries him.”

    Yeah, at his second Saturn Return. How about that one!

  22. I like this article too.(htough Jeffrey, excuse me, but that little boy has a flopsy-mopsy hair non-cut that looks more like a kid in the 60s who did not get a haircut because it was going to get evne longer–or,a boy in any time periuodwith parents who let it go for awhile before they have his hair cut.70s indeed.;-)
    Anyway, I understand this article to mean that those women and men who are most affected by a bad boy are being affected by a Uranian transit, or a Uranian aspect in their charts(I have 5).
    I know bad boys are not always inspiring or all that unusual, but they do break the rules because they don’t obey the law nor do they care about other’s feelings.
    And that still corresponds to non-conventional and Uranus–but again–while *he* may be Plutonian or,even a Scorpio, for example, the *tie* is Uranian.
    There are still many many women who would probably be happiest if they could find their inner rebelious nature or, maybe need to seek their
    inner male.
    But what they do is find someone else, a man who has obvious qualities that she doesn’t know how to access in herself.
    While she might just need to set some boundaries with others or not allow others to take advantage of her so much–she instead finds a man who seems to be strong and irreverent–because she woud like to be a *little* bit more so.
    This guy may though be a poor choice for a *secure* relationship.

  23. angelineelise says:

    ***But what they do is find someone else, a man who has obvious qualities that she doesn’t know how to access in herself.
    While she might just need to set some boundaries with others or not allow others to take advantage of her so much–she instead finds a man who seems to be strong and irreverent–because she woud like to be a *little* bit more so.****

    Karen, you seriously, SERIOUSLY just described over half the dudes I’ve dated!! They get drunk off the excitement and rebellious nature of our relationship only to wake up one day and start trying to corral me into something I’m not or becoming uptight about the way that I live…. ;( Then I leave them as they make me feel bad about myself.

    These guys expected me to start “calming down” and getting more focused on the relationship when I made it clear from the start where my priorities were.

    I have been asked to get married at least a couple of times I’m sure because I think the men think once I marry them I’ll “settle”. Terrifying! (Was engaged 2x before my marriage..turned down one proposal outright.)I relate to many more men than women in relationship issues!!

    The hardest part of my uranus influences is I feel my actions cause reactions that make me feel gender oppressed. Men who are “bad boys” …. or “stoic” …. or just “detached” are just being who they are, they are like John Wayne.

    But not the women…we are heartless, icy, spinster-like…and everything a woman shouldn’t be. Growing up I never thought I would feel this way but I do!!

  24. Angelineelse said:

    Men who are “bad boys” …. or “stoic” …. or just “detached” are just being who they are, they are like John Wayne.

    But not the women…we are heartless, icy, spinster-like…and everything a woman shouldn’t be. Growing up I never thought I would feel this way but I do!!

    Oh I can identify for sure Angleine.I’ve been used for my outrageous qualities–and abused for same, too!
    One more thing, that’s “not allowed”
    is so-called promiscuity.
    A very sexual man is just being a man-maybe a heartbreaker–but he’s still “cool.”
    A woman enjoys sleeping around –and even other women call her slut whore and hussy.
    (sigh)

  25. very wonderful blog on the uranian influence and the “bad boy”. thank you! what i’d like to point out is that the “bad boys” (or girls) get involved with those who are not bad like themselves. why? for the thrill of power and control? i think not. they are not plutonian, but under the influence of the freedom changeability planet… so why do they again and again hook up with those who will fall for them who they are supposedly indifferent to? what are these people trying to learn? what do they seek on a karmic level? i think it may be a lesson about the steadfast nature of love…

    and what of these poor “victims” who love the uranian “bad boy”? what is the purpose of this? my feeling is that it is a lesson in UNCONDITIONAL love. yes. those who are attracted again and again to this type are wanting, and mostly unaware of this, of learning how to be completely in the moment. not to want more, but just to enjoy what is…. this is the beautiful lesson these characters can bring to those hapless enough to fall for them. the beauty of not expecting anything in return, yet allowing oneself to feel love… hey, i’m not talking doormat here, as in lack of respect or gross mistreatment, but for those who love this uranian type, with their seeming absolute selfish indifference “after the lovin’…”, it can open a beautiful doorway to spiritual development. the relationship can also serve to clarify what one DOES require in a serious partnership just by virtue of experiencing its lack, too!

    of course, that said, one has to be fairly spiritually aware and open to the possibility of gaining something completely different from what you went into the relationship to get…

    at any rate, just another view from a scorpio sun with aquarius descendant… ;D

  26. Fiona Haliburton says:

    I had a relationship with a bad-boy that was the most amazingly intense and spontaneous thing I’ve ever experienced. An astrologer explained this (the general influence of Uranus) to me once – it was during a special rare Uranus transit and I also didn’t contact my parents for awhile, they didn’t know where I was for months and I liked it that way. I was 25 and having the time of my life but with absolutely no consideration of the consequences. Years later I’m still affected by this past transit’s drastic end, which was a real bring-down and quite traumatic. A lot of other people seemed to be just in my way. i went away from that experience with a real bitterness that was almost unknown to me, the depth of it and the kind of… humbling and confusing, unfinished feeling it left me with. As if I was not able to finish what i went to that place to do. Thinking i could bury it and forget it was not really healthy for me. As it turned out.

    my birthday is Dec 16 1963 and this happened in the spring of 1989. I ended it and always regretted it actually, but part of me has never let it go. I haven’t felt free much since then. In fact I think i failed to take proper advantage of the transit and suffered for it (Uranus is my planet and I am very impulsive, freedom-loving). He may have been a bad boy, but my Uranus-transit bad boy was the bad-boy i wish I could have back, and all the other bad boys in my life, well… meh. But with him, the attraction will always be there because I’ll just never know what could have been. And I called my parents, in the end, because I wanted my Christmas presents. Big mistake!!!

    Just in the last couple of weeks I’ve become consumed with guilt over this 20-years-buried relationship (I usually obsess over past lovers, but him i never did – about 2 years ago i realized i was probably in love with him. slow, eh?). Why? It must be Uranus. What happens when Pluto – which will be almost exact to my moon in late Sag – and Uranus – which i’m guessing will be in late Aries – go Direct? Could it be … anything? I have been hoping for freedom from the constricting conditions of the last 20 years.

    ***
    By the way i THINK my bad boy is ALSO Uranus and Pluto ruled like me

    I believe he was born on May 23rd, 1971 (yes i robbed the cradle, but he was 6’3″ and fairly experienced – and i was emotionally about 10.)

  27. i just found this article….WOW.

    me and bad boys go together like peanut butter and jelly!!!!

  28. this is a total eye opener….im wowed

  29. I’m just now seeing this article and my sentiments are exactly what the first responder said. While this is a GOOD article, it really does color the facts from the point of view that these women are unaware like doe eyed victims covered in the bad boy’s favorite flavor (whether it’s cannabis or covacier).

    “You suggest a Uranus relationship sort of materializes — without them willing it and agitating. That takes power away from women. Many, many, many women rabidly pursue the bad boys. Even the conservative girls.”

    This soooooo describes me. I look for a man with scarring and signs of hardship or edge. Without that, men often times come at me aggressively by nature of their testosterone levels (true conservatives need not apply) and EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM end up running with their tail between their legs with the sentiment “You hurt me” on their lips. Like a Cap said a couple of weeks ago…”I really need you to just…calm down.”

    When I say “bring it”, I mean it. I’m not playin games of “pretend to be hard”. I accept the fact, that by nature or experience, truth is…I’m one bada$$ chick. Conservative style and all. By the way, and no offense, but if the women who were in tears would rage against the machine when these dudes act like pricks, then maybe they would get the respect/recognition they deserve. If a man is being a prick…call him one. Plain and simple.

    Signed, one inherently bad girl who gets along better with bad boys.

  30. This is the beautiful lesson these characters can bring to those hapless enough to fall for them. the beauty of not expecting anything in return, yet allowing oneself to feel love… hey, i’m not talking doormat here, as in lack of respect or gross mistreatment, but for those who love this uranian type, with their seeming absolute selfish indifference “after the lovin’…”, it can open a beautiful doorway to spiritual development. the relationship can also serve to clarify what one DOES require in a serious partnership just by virtue of experiencing its lack, too!

    This couldn’t be MORE ON POINT!!! Man, I really wish I would have seen this earlier, but maybe there’s a reason why I’m just now reading this article. lol

  31. This article is unbelievable GOOD! And reactions are wonderfully truthful! Beth, thanks, you are the One kind of astrlologer with a real art of deep insight and descerning.

    When I had Pluto square Pluto transit started a efw years ago, plus Saturn square Pluto, then Venus square Uranus came along and voila there he was, the Bad boy among all Bad boys,- gaizing at me with his stoned eyes, and beautiful smile with impression all over his face like ‘ O ya girl, you are the one i Will have fun with, alotes of it!”.

    I was working in coffee shop back then, not the coffee shop, where you drink coffee, the one people smoke marihuana. He asked some, i gave him some, he bought some. That how it all started, with whims of delusins and fantasies of Neptune, coz, for some who does not know, all drugs substances are the Neptunian domein.

    He came back very quickly, only i am a Bad girl myself, so i did not allow him to approach me behind the bar. He told me later, he was studying me. He was sitting there some times for the whole day, every day watching me working. His friends are also bad boys, were trying to catch my attention also, all of them, i talked to them ina polite manner, but never allowed to flirt wiyh me, just ignored their attemps. And he was just watching some times ona distance. I even did not notice him, coz he wanted to convince me, that he was totally indifferen to me.

    Untill, one day, he made his move …I am astrologer, so first thing i did, i have asked his sun sign, Sagi he was. Then i asked his exact birth time. Do you know, what he did? He just called hi mom in front of me. I thought, it was very sweet. he just called his mother immidiately and asked her, like he was asking his best friend.

  32. P.S. To make a long story short.
    His ascendant is Aquarius, Mars in Aquarius in the 1st house, Venus in Aquarius in the 1st house, Sun in Sagi conjunction Uranus in Sagi in 10th house, Mars sextile Uranus. He has a very quirky personality and very dark aswell because of the Pluto in Scorpio in 8th house. When i got to know him better, he warned me that he was very complicated and a real bastard. That did not scary me, but later i felt the danger of his poweful games. I needed to read alote of astrology, to talk to some psychic people, astrologers themselfs or just very emotionally developed people to understand his games to attract me and then to put me down.

    ‘ is a man who seems outwardly attractive, but is unwilling to offer … love in a relationship. He is too immature and preoccupied with himself to share genuine compassion, concern, or acceptance. A bad boy lacks character and might exhibit the following behavior: lying, aloofness, irresponsible dreaming, fear of commitment, sexual promiscuity, addiction to substances or pornography, selfishness, hunger for power… In addition, a bad boy is not interested in true love, because real love requires consistent sacrifice. A bad boy will only sacrifice for someone if it’s convenient for him or if he gets something in return. He expects the woman to do most of the giving, while he ignores her needs or takes advantage of her.’ – It is so true. Unfortunately i did not find this article a years ago.

    My understanding of Uranian energy is to make revolution in their own lifes and others. But there is a very BIG BUT,- very thin line between revolution of improovment and destruction, the perfect timing for a progressive change and recognition of a higher goal.
    Without contemplating, descerning, without the ability to quiet their mind during daily activities their lifes might become an eternal storm in a cup of tea, unnecessary rush, running in the same circle.

    If you are involved with them, they are very magnetic. Their talent is and magnificent ability is to create a joyful experience out of nowwhere. But the danger is, untill they are themselfs are not grounded yet they will drag you in to their chaos, they will dissappear out of your life and come back when its suit them. Every attempt from your side to build bridge of understanding they see as attempt to take their freedom away, when you really do not intent to do that.

    I am a very independent person myself, my Uranus trines my Venus, Uranus opposition to ascendant. So i understood his love for freedom, untill i saw, that his thrive to be so different from nobody is kind of compulsion and fuss, and unreasonable rebellion and kind of nastinees to show a reversible behaviour just to make a statement: ‘ No way i will do, what you expect me to, even it is something good for us!’
    That is a moment, when things are starting to be boring and all invested energy just draining you out.
    My personal experience with my Bad Boy has taught me alote about my own freedom and chaos in my own life. It took place indeed during transit of Uranus squaring my Venus.

    He- Bad Boy taught me to be free in my way of expressing myself, being more tolerant of others individualities and being much more less prudent. I was really prudent and it was not my natural, authentic expression of myself. But also i have learned to say no to his chaos. I understood one very very important lesson, when he was taking aan advantage of my pleasing others character trait is:
    PEOPLE DO NOT DO THINGS TO YOU, YOU DO NOT ALLOW THEM TO DO.

    The end

    Thank you all. I have enjoyed alote reading everybody’s comments.

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