Comments on: Aries woman is torn between Gemini first love and Sagittarius man

By: Jeffrey Kishner

Jeffrey Kishner — Thu, 05 Jun 2008 01:45:00 +0000

Thanks for responding, Madame Mystique. I always appreciate it when someone whose question I’ve addressed leaves a comment. I wish you well in your potential travels!

By: Madam Mystique

Madam Mystique — Wed, 04 Jun 2008 21:37:00 +0000

A lot of what you have said has made sense for me perfectly and I now feel I can make an informed decision about my future. I was aware of on some level although not listening to it.
I think that beginning my own journey by travelling or going to uni this year is the best path, and dance class sounds like fun!
From the romantic side of things,it doesn't sound like either is the man of my dreams. Therefore, I wont have much to regret even if I do miss one of them.
What clicked the most was the part about me needing to skip town, that is the best way forward for me and gemini and Sag, which is what starry night was saying.
If either want to be my travelling companion then that will be good. Perhaps this wanderlust is because I have not had much experience in my life yet and so need to before even contemplating settling in to a relationship.
And with my soft heart, I will need to develop nerves of steel so say goodbye to my first love and do what is needed!
Thanks for the comments, it helped to clarify a lot of what Ive been thinking. And Karen, I will just have to try not hurt anybodyies feelings in the process of moving on and hopefully then I wont cause any negative karma. Thank you for the warning and Im sorry to hear you regretted your decisions. WE can only do what we think is best at the time.

By: Jeffrey Kishner

Jeffrey Kishner — Mon, 02 Jun 2008 18:05:00 +0000

@may, Virgo can be pretty shy and modest when it comes to sex (Mars).

By: May

May — Mon, 02 Jun 2008 08:12:00 +0000

Oh man, note about Gemini Mars with a Virgo Mars -

I have this aspect (Gemini Mars) with a Sagittarius man (Virgo Mars), and he said he’s “shy” when it comes to talking in the bed room!!! What the heck!!! How can a talkative Sagittarius gets shy at speaking!!!

By: Jeffrey Kishner

Jeffrey Kishner — Sat, 31 May 2008 02:37:00 +0000

@shygirl, I’m glad you’re asking questions, too. And I hope readers will correct me when I’m wrong!

By: Shygirl

Shygirl — Fri, 30 May 2008 18:31:00 +0000

@Jeffrey,

...More that his presence in her life stimulates her sense of adventure, which resonates with her Sag Moon. He would open up her sense of possibility....

That is sort of what I was getting at but I didn't make myself clear I guess. I didn't think she would leave him because of his Sun being in her 9th house, but rather, he may be triggering a desire for expansion/adventure in her, to which she is responding in her own way (which is where her Uranus transit comes in I suppose).

Thanks for the info! You know, I used to read these threads in the past & never had the courage to ask questions/write my observations, because I never thought I knew enough about astrology to do so. I still don't know much but I have realized that it doesn't matter. Now that I do ask questions, I find it so much more educational. If you're wrong, someone is bound to correct you. You get to learn, which is cool. I'm glad I got over my inhibitions....:-)

By: Jeffrey Kishner

Jeffrey Kishner — Fri, 30 May 2008 17:41:00 +0000

@shygirl, I wouldn't say his Sun in her 9th would stimulate wanderlust in the sense that she would consider leaving him. More that his presence in her life stimulates her sense of adventure, which resonates with her Sag Moon. He would open up her sense of possibility. You can read the paragraph on partner's Sun in the 9th at Cafe Astrology.

As for tr Uranus in his 5th house, I wouldn't give it as nearly strong an influence as Uranus conjoining her Venus.

By: Shygirl

Shygirl — Fri, 30 May 2008 17:13:00 +0000

I’m not sure what role transposed houses/house overlays play in synastry, but I see that the Gemini man’s Venus falls in the Aries girl’s 7th house. From what I have read, this is favorable for a romantic ralationship. Gem man’s Sun falls in her 9th house, which means he would activate her 9th house issues, higher learning, religion, philosophy, travel etc.Am I right? So is some of the *wanderlust* (for lack of better words) she feels could also be a result of this 3-year long relationship activating her 9th house? Also I notice that the Gem man has Pisces on the cusp of his 5th house (if I’m looking at it right), so the Uranus transit that Jeffrey you talk about which is about to conjoin her Venus in H6, is affecting his house of love/romance too??? Is that a double whammy for a couple ???

By: Karen

Karen — Fri, 30 May 2008 10:02:00 +0000

BTW, Madam Mystique–something I forgot to mention–Jeffrey stated that you Sag man has his Mercury conjunct your Moon and he really gets your feelings.
Now.To me that would be very important.
However my husband has th9is aspect wiht me himself, and if he understood me initially it still was not somethign he was able to express well.
I do feel now that he does–but we had great difficulties for a long time, and were not happy until after we committed to marriage counseling for some time.
So, all I’m saying is–this aspect may hold true for both you and I with our respective relationships–but I believe it takes more than that–the Sag must be able to *show* you he gets you, and more important–be able to *be* emotionally what you need if it would be long term..
Again–good luck.

By: Karen

Karen — Fri, 30 May 2008 09:37:00 +0000

Aries- woman,I went through something like this myself, though I was a little oler than you are, and living wiht the first person already, but for the same amount of time you’re with your Gemini man.
Speaking for myself only- I was sorry I left and the situation was one in which I felt obligated in many ways, and did not feel I could change my mind, or take some time to think it over.
What’s more, I might have been able to do so logistically, but didn’t feel capable emotionally..
That was a big mistake for many reasons and caused me no end of misery..
I am saying this only because I want no one ever to go through what I did if they do not have to.
I leanred somethig form my mistake–but it was emotionally like being in prison — and I don’t think we need to be miserable for years to learn our lessons in life.
That being said–if you know you really want something different, you are in charge of that.
I know that’s what you’re asking about–because you do not know yet–but my point is–the change may be within you and not in having a new relationship.
If you’re not ready to settle down–you certainly do not have to–and you don’t have to have a new relationship to be by yourself or to travel or learn new things.
The Gemini man is your closest friend and lover and that’s more important than it might seem.
However–it could be you’re not that happy–which is again–something only you will really know, for certain.
I also see more connections relationship-wise with your Gemini man.
I do see some with the Sagitarius, one of which could be ong lasting–but I don’t see that a lot of the other aspects are all that special.
However, again–you know if there’s a real chemisty and feeling there, and not just an inteest or sexual attraction.
I will say too–and this may sound like a contradiction to other things I’ve said–but in all honesty–we can, if we’re mature enough, work out a love relationship with almost anyone–but I don’t suggest *starting out* with a relationship that will need a lot of work, if you have a choice
Is it possible that neither man is for you long- term, but right now these two are who are all you can imagine being with and loving?
I’m interested to know what it is you’re concerned with when you said you have a feeling you may not know your Gemini man as well as you thought?
I know 3 yrs is not a real long time–but it’s not so short either.
Certainly you know him–while there is *always* more to learn–it’s unusual that you feel in 3 yrs you may not know the real him.
I always suggest seeing a counselor/therapist to see what’s going on inside when I’m faced wiht changing feleings, or desires.
Also, perhaps you can consider not being committed to anoyne as a way to find out who you are and who you want to be with.
I hope you get what you want and need good luck with it all-:-)