I was dating a Capricorn “man” about a year and a half my junior for nearly six months when a Leo man (birthday 19 August) I had been interested in for four years began to return my affections. He did so by sending me elaborate messages, letters, and cards explaining his love for me and how it “killed” him to see me with the Capricorn, a very close friend of his. Although it was frightening, I was sort-of “amoured” by his extravagant expressions and I ended up cheating on my boyfriend with him — nothing more than kissing — but it was more an affair of the heart.
The Capricorn boyfriend actually witnessed a kiss, but immediately forgave me and told me he loved me and would like to continue the relationship, if I was willing. We dated for a month or so longer, and I broke up with him for the intellectual, enthralling Leo.
The relationship with the Leo began to slowly wither, but occasionally it would spark up again, but he forbade me to tell the Capricorn because they were both good friends. Eventually and inevitably, he found out. Leo immediately stopped calling, stopped message, and completely avoided me. He told me he wanted to break up temporarily, yet still tried to kiss me and always said things such as, “I love you and I want to be with you again” when we departed.
A shocking “back-story” however: The Leo man was “in love” to the point of obsession with the Capricorn for nearly two years. He is a somewhat closeted bisexual, but I feel he prefers males. The Capricorn has “made-out” with the former, but claims that was a youthful mistake and that he is straight.
I regret hurting my beloved Capricorn, with whom I’ve had a captivating, amazing sex life with and who has always been kind to me and proven that he would be an amazing long-term boyfriend.
I would like to date him again, and he has informed me that he still wants to be with me… he just does not want to date right now. His attitude towards me has understandably changed.
Although the Leo is still claiming he loves me, I have recently, nearly broken off communications with him.
Do you have any advice on how to win back the Capricorn’s heart and prove to him that I will be faithful?
Based on our charts, is it even wise to pursue a relationship with him?
Your Capricorn ex has Venus in Scorpio conjunct Pluto. (View his noon time chart to the right.) His love planet is in a possessive, jealous sign and is intensified by the planet of power, control and transformation. In other words, your Cap loves intensely and with his whole being. When his heart is broken, his pain can be profound. It is a testament of his love that he was able to forgive you so easily for kissing the Leo. Perhaps his Mars in Sag understood the nature of sexual wandering.
One of the challenges being in relationship with him is that your Uranus is exactly conjunct his Sun. You may be a constant source of disruption and instability for him. Not an easy experience for a Capricorn, but as his Sun is widely conjunct Uranus in his own chart, he is learning how to integrate a spirit of revolution in his self-expression.
The fact that he still wants to be with you — some Capricorns never come back to their exes — is good news. But you may just have to be patient. Capricorns take their time, as they are naturally cautious. And from what you’ve written, I see no reason why I should tell you whether it’s wise to be with him. You obviously love him — you were just caught off-guard by the extravagant courting of a Leo man. Your Capricorn may not be flashy, but he’s got substance and will likely be with you for the long haul once he’s ready to take you back.