Virgo man retreats when he and Aries woman get too close

This Virgo man is my next door neighbor and a very good friend. I see him almost daily, as our group of friends is very close. We’ve known each other since July and have had an instant connection. Whenever we’re in a room it’s like a magnet is pulling us together. We’ve gone on several “dates” and spend a lot of alone time together, but never even kissed (lots of cuddling, though) until recently when I approached him about the situation. We admitted our attraction to each other, but couldn’t come up with a solution. I basically told him I would like to give “us” a shot, but no decision was made. On my way out the door, I went for it and kissed him. It was the hottest kiss I’ve ever had. He retreated for a couple of days after that, which I’m used to because he tends to do that when things get too close between us, but then he bought me a vintage dress for my birthday. Now things are back to where they were; we flirt and touch, but don’t kiss, he cooks me lunch, we go dancing, and we don’t talk about the situation at all. What is he doing? I want things to happen now, but I know that isn’t the Virgo’s nature. Do you have any insight or advice? Is this a lost cause?

Your Virgo friend (view his chart) is about as “yin” as one can get. All of his personal planets are in Earth or Water signs, suggesting he’s both introverted and fairly cautious. His Taurus Moon takes things slow, and its conjunction to Chiron may relate to a core emotional wound around sensuality or security issues. His Mars — planet of assertion — is in indirect and self-protective Cancer. And he has a stellium in Virgo, including Mercury, Venus and an exact Saturn-Sun conjunction. He may be very inhibited and controlled. But with an exact Venus-Mars sextile, he does have an undeniable erotic allure!

You resonate with him (view your chart), as you have your Moon in Virgo and Venus in Taurus. However, with Mercury, Sun and Mars in Aries, you’re pretty assertive about expressing your desires. (Otherwise, possibly nothing would ever happen between the two of you!)

Saturn in Virgo is transiting your Moon until the end of June. Your Moon is the only planet in your Seventh House of Partnership, so this transit may correlate with a feeling that your relationship needs are not getting met. Remember, Saturn is the planet of delay and restriction. It’s unlikely that any movement is going to happen until the weight of Saturn lifts.

On July 16, transiting Venus enters your Seventh House (depending on the accuracy of your birth time) and transiting Mars exactly trines your natal Venus. Mars will also be energizing his North Node at this time, potentially activating a feeling of having a fated connection. This sounds like a good time to ignite a romance. I know that as an Aries you “want things to happen now,” but I suggest you keep dating, and don’t push for more until this summer.