Comments on: What does it mean to "settle"?

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sun, 20 Apr 2008 01:02:00 +0000

“My one friend confessed to me that he hated his girlfriend, and has since married her and had a child. There isn’t anything he likes about her, but his dating self-esteem is so low that he was afraid if he didn’t keep the one he had, he’d never find anyone at all.”

Hmmm . . .

By: Jeffrey Kishner

Jeffrey Kishner — Tue, 01 Apr 2008 16:47:00 +0000

welcome back, flossy!

By: Flossy

Flossy — Tue, 01 Apr 2008 14:22:00 +0000

I’ve been out of action for a while and am only just catching up with what has been posted recently. Another great post with some great comments.

How true – settling and accepting are two completely different things. Just saying to myself “I’ve settled for him” feels so different to “I accept him”. The former feels heavy and depressing, the latter feels lighter and more expansive and something that isn’t a burden to live with.

By: Tony

Tony — Sat, 22 Mar 2008 06:02:00 +0000

Thank you for your concern.

By: fallen-astro-angel

fallen-astro-angel — Fri, 21 Mar 2008 22:13:00 +0000

@Tony

I have a Scorpio rising and Venus, Saturn, and Pluto in Scorpio.

Gosh, I think you have fallen in love with me. It is sooooo obvious Now that you are all vulnerable from love, I will try to be more sensitive towards your feelings.

Actually, I take that back. Watch it.

By: Jeffrey Kishner

Jeffrey Kishner — Fri, 21 Mar 2008 21:09:00 +0000

@ashley, that's easy. "to love" is a verb, an ACTION, while being "in love" ... well, I've written about this before

By: ashley

ashley — Fri, 21 Mar 2008 19:45:00 +0000

Karen said…
I don’t think anyone will knock our socks off forever–but everyone is different

Jeffrey, this would be a GREAT topic to discuss…loving someone vs being “in love”

By: Karen

Karen — Fri, 21 Mar 2008 06:05:00 +0000

Proserpine here btw–I prefer McIntosh apples myself.To me red delicious–isn’t.;-)

By: Karen

Karen — Fri, 21 Mar 2008 06:03:00 +0000

I don’t think anyone will knock our socks off forever–but everyone is different.I have had the best relationships wiht someone I liked and was friends with–and only after time we realized we loved each other much more!
I rather agree wiht the perosn who said settling is differnt than accepting.
I understand why some people would be afraid to end a tired or bad relationship–but I don’t think staying or going is the only answers.
I was unhappy, and my husband didn’t meet some important needs I have.I relaized I loved him still–but the problems seemd insurmountable.
But like greensea said–lots of therpay-plus marriage counseling too!
And I’m not just settling .I was able to make up my mind, once and for all.And beleive me only about 5% of me thought it would work, but I was willing to try.
And it worked very very well.
As I like to say:-)
(you’ve probably heard me say this before)we’re on each other’s sides now.
We do love one another, and there’s no question of one leaving the other.
We do fight–stubborn Taurus that he is,with Aquariu moon that needs space and isn’t very affectionate– and talkative demanding inquistive Libra that I am–we get into it–but we know we’ll be allright.:-)

By: Tony

Tony — Fri, 21 Mar 2008 02:09:00 +0000

Yes it is most obvious that Ms. Fallen Angel is in a perplexing state of confusion which is of no surprise to myself and others of the Scorpionic influence.