The follow guest post is by horary astrologer Christine N. Davis.
I met this man recently, and our chemistry is off the roof! We connect in every aspect, and he’s a sweetheart and literally everything I look for in a man. He feels the same way about me. Only thing is he’s a Cancer and I’m a Libra (plus, our planetary alignments aren’t exactly “made for each other” types, if you get what I mean), so I find it amazing how we’re connecting so well. If everything goes right, I would seriously consider a future with him. So, do you see a future for our relationship?
– L., a Libra in love
Isn’t it a relief that attraction doesn’t come down to sun signs alone? Otherwise we’d all have to wear signs saying, “I’m a Libra: all other cardinal signs, stay away.” And I totally understand about aligning his chart to yours and hoping the resulting synastry will spell out “Go for it!” in the sky. Right away, I’d say don’t panic if at first glance your natal charts don’t seem to mesh.
I’ve cast a chart for the moment I understood your question, and am using old-school horary astrology to interpret it. In this chart, you’re represented by Venus (your mind and, to some extent, your mojo) and the Moon (your emotions, your heart’s desire); and your guy is signified by Mars (his personality) and Sun (his mojo).
From Mars in Cancer, ruled by you as the Moon, it’s clear your guy cares deeply for your heart. And Sun in Pisces, which exalts you as Venus, tells me he digs your personality – and your feminine wiles – very much. Exaltation is like putting one’s sweetie on a pedestal: he may be idealizing you now, but at some point we goddesses have to step down from the clouds and reveal how we look without makeup.
To answer a horary question like “Do you see a future for our relationship?”, what we do is take the chart we’ve got and move our significators forward just a little. You’re asking the chart, “Is it better to go forward or stay put?” If important significators are about to change signs, for example, it can show an upcoming change in attitude – for better or for worse. I’m sharing the possibilities below with you, not to discourage you, but for you to know about so you can see them with open eyes.
Now, Mars is in early degrees of Cancer in this chart. Symbolically speaking, it’ll be in Cancer for quite a while, so I don’t see a change in his feelings for you any time soon. But I do see Mars aspecting Saturn by sextile. Saturn, ruling his 10th and 11th houses, may have something to do with his work or his buddies. Saturn in Virgo is in the fall of Venus, your significator: so whatever Saturn represents, it’s no friend to you. Your guy might have to make work or his friends a priority, for instance, which would mean spending less time with you.
Also, we know that the exaltation-goddess-pedestal phase has to end someday. (Sigh…) I see a couple of indicators suggesting that the electric attraction between you two is bound to calm down a bit. For one thing, Miss Venus, you’re about to enter Pisces – where you’re going to start exalting… yourself! It looks like a surge of self-confidence coming your way, where you start to feel more comfortable putting your needs first. Not a bad thing, to ask your partner for more of what you like! Venus in Pisces is also in what’s called the triplicity of Mars. This is a mellow sort of planetary dignity where you start to feel like you and he are keeping a nice simmer going. Not too spicy, but not at all cold.
As for him, I think he’s likely to start asking for more of what he wants, too. The Sun, which exalts you as long as it’s in Pisces, will eventually enter Aries. And Aries is the sign where Mars is top dog and the Sun is exalted. (Did you hear anything about your planets in that list? Nope, me either.) He won’t stop caring for you, but I bet he stops playing the selfless sweetie and shows more of his true colors.
But it’s early yet. You’re in a place together where everything is possible and every shared revelation makes you fall all the more in love. Treasure this part for what it is – the fun and the chemistry and the wow – and always check in with your heart, which is well-grounded in reality and knows what you really need.
Thanks for your question. Let me know how things work out!
Christine N. Davis offers traditional horary astrology readings. Her writing has appeared in The Mountain Astrologer. For private consultations, visit her website at www.askchristine.info.