I guess this is the reason I lost all interest in marriage?? I’m pretty sure I wont be able to keep anybody’s interest soo long even if I’m crazily loyal. Coz i’m a sun gem, aqua rising, moon lib, merc and venus gem… altho there’s one aspect…. mars scorp, I find it working to its fullest extent when I enter a vebal duel where I pretty much thrash the opponent with so many words and so much intensity. Aand having a crush on a scorp over ldr is not helping either.

I doubt my make up is any fit for long terms. I am actually making a transition to life as a single.

The father of my child was bankrupt $17,000 in the hole and didn’t work for four years out of five of our marriage. We lived off my dead brother’s inheritance which I had to fight tooth and nail from the lawyer 9 years after my brother died because my father was holding the money from probate and hiding it from me and my sister. I worked for a secretarial wage the whole time, with the exception of two years just after my son was born (that’s when we used up my small inheritance).

I have learned my lesson. And I abhor women who assume other women are gold-diggers because they have also learned their lesson as surviving single mothers who have had to work for pennies to support themselves and their children, while men use them for their own pleasure and give nothing in return.

No more, no way. And be careful what you assume. ASSUME makes an ASS of U and ME and it’s a worn-out cliche but hey, it’s still valid.

Go ahead and marry a poor man. Have a child. Support your poor lazy husband and raise your child by going to the food bank and cutting coupons and then work for pennies giving more than half your wage to the daycare centre for some stranger to take care of your kid when you want to be with your kid, and you don’t know what horrible things and what neglect those children suffer in those daycares.

Think before you speak, and jump to those lofty conclusions of yours. Obviously you haven’t suffered yet. And obviously you haven’t had a child. Good luck to you, pride goeth before a fall.

I don’t like rich men. They make me sick.

If I want money in my life, it’s my responsibility to get a good job or find a way for those riches, not catch a man who can pay for my luxurious taste.

NOT ALL WOMEN ARE GOLD DIGGERS! And I am certainly not.

No, I’m not “fat” either.

I hate to sound cynical, but when someone loses their sexual attraction for their partner, it normally (unless some new agreement is reached) goes downhill, and never back up.

Valkyri says smart things and I always read her posts twice in case I miss something.

I really have to agree with this comment. Sexual attraction is paramount. Which is why it is so important for women to maintain their figures and be feminine and attractive and attentive; and so important for men to be generous with their affection and their time and money.

Fat women and cheap men are generally unattractive.

Of course there area exceptions to every rule. Some men like fat plain women, and some women like cheap unsuccessful men.

I haven’t met any yet.

Yes that’s partially the point though, because then he’d get mad and dominate her, or he’ll like it. It’s all about trying to arouse a new side of him. It’s all about getting an old dog to do new tricks.

Keeping it inside just makes everyone miserable. Putting it in the open opens up all sorts of possibilities. In their case, I’d bet that he will find a way to make things more fun for them – because of his Mars/Venus sign.

Fallen – I did mention kinks. I somehow doubt Mars/Venus in Taurus would tolerate being dominated. Though, he might want to do some dominating… and Libra sun might be happy to submit.

I cheated on my boring husband of 2years and I will tell you from experience that it was both the best and worse thing I ever could have done. The problems I was really having in the bedroom with him had to do with his inability to be intimate and the fact that he was 105% out of tune with me, as if he could have been listening to the radio while I was trying to communicate with my “soul”.

I LOVE Jeffrey’s idea that you should shake up your routine. I wish I had tried that with my own marriage.

But, erm, just to tell you what I really want you to try:

Tie that muther f**ker up to a chair and dominate him! Think of it as your way of punishing him for boring you to death in the bedroom. There is a song called “Punish Me with Kisses”. I think you should channel your sexual frustration into him. Do something you’ve never done before to awaken your own wild side, and see how he takes it. If the sex is boring, you are half to blame for it!!!

BUT you have to be careful not to swing with someone you may fall in love with. That could then bust up your current relationship. You are definitely playing with fire when swinging but it’s better than ending a relationship to some so heck…do what works for you two.

But the original poster’s comments about her husband being destroyed if she did pursue her attraction makes it seem that this is not an open relationship. Still, talking about it seems like a great idea because it may present some solutions.

I like talking about my attractions to my partner cause I prefer blunt honesty. I always have to keep things in the open. Especially since it’s another way to keep you from pursuing your whims. lol I don’t see it as repression rather than discipline. It’s not like I’m going to die cause I can’t sleep with someone I’m attracted to! You live and get over it if you don’t keep fanning the flames. I prefer sex with love over plain sex any day.