Libra ex-husband says the door is never closed
February 7, 2008 by Jeffrey Kishner
Rosalind provided a birth time (click chart to view) and writes,I was married to a libra man, we have a child together. i want him back, and he will only say “the door is never closed”. how do i proceed? how do i win back a libra?
Coming from a Libra, “The door is never closed” can mean one of two things:
- “I’m not willing to say ‘no’ to you because that will hurt your feelings.”
- “I am not able to make a firm decision, hence the door always remains open.”
In the first case, he is being insincere, and there is no hope of winning him back. In the second case, you have some room to squeeze through the door. Being an Air sign, your ex approaches relationships mentally. Because Libra always views a situation from various perspectives, your ex is balancing both the positive and negative views of your prior relationship with each other. If you can add the weight of rationale to the scale that’s in favor of reunion, then you’ve got a chance.
I suspect that he may have experienced your Jupiter-Mars conjunction in Aries as overbearing, so you should not try to win him over with force or an appeal to “higher reason.” Your best bet may be to rely on the wit of your Mercury in Gemini. Mercury in such a flexible sign knows how to maneuver through cracks and skirt around obstructions. Although not powered by the “almighty” attitude of your Jupiter or your Sagittarius Moon, this is a good thing, for Libra may feel that you’re trying too hard to convince him to take you back.
Your Mercury opposition to fantasy-prone Neptune provides you a strong imagination and poetic flair that will help appeal to Libra’s idealism about relationships. I suggest you use your gift of gab to incrementally win your Libra ex to your side. Then use your fiery and fun Venus in Leo (supported by trines from both Jupiter and Neptune) to turn up the heat in the romance department.
What this means in English: If your Libra ex-husband is of two minds about whether to reunite, convert him to your side with stimulating conversation and playful flirtatiousness. Don’t come on too strong with directness.
Comment below: What do you think “the door is never closed” means? And how would you win back a Libra?
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HOPELESS
We’ve been divorced for 10 years now, the marriage never really “broke down” because it was never real to begin with. He pretended to be someone else and thats the guy I cared for, not the real him. yes, as soon as I told him that I wasnt happy he became more intense about our relationship, at least physically.
We were childhood friends that both decided to experiment with a new life style I guess, only what I wanted/expected was a lot more serious then what he wanted. The committiment was his idea but he never showed any devotion.
After we broke up he became obsessed with me, and even now, he wants to get back together. Wrong is wrong, even 10 years later….I know that he would try harder now then he did then, but I hate him.
I am going on 4mos without my boyfriend. and he is very upset with me. I had confronted him about staying out late and bringing “one-nighters” home. We had an open relationship–more his idea than mine–but the problem I had was it seemed that he was more interested in them than he was me. He can drink a lot too and so i called him a drunk. To be honest, the whole situation got out of control. The thing is, however, I love him and don’t want him to stay upset with me about this. True, I called him names and apparently that same night had texted a friend our arguement and he found out. He feels that the trust is broken because he feels that i was talking about him behind his back. Semi-true, but I was angry at him and ppl say all kinds of things when they are upset. I want him back. He went to dinner with my best friend last night and my friend told me it was not too good. Said he feels that its over between us. I don’t want that. We still live together and i am extremely desperate to get back together. What hope do i have. I’m 28 he’s 34. I don’t want to loose him over something this petty and I understand that he’s hurt. PLEASE any advice???
haile d
If you didnt hurt him really bad, its easy to get a Libra man back, if I called mine and said “I miss you its too bad we arnt together anymore” he would be back instantly, If you tell him you love him (OMG what Libra can resist that?)The number one goal for a Libra is to be loved. If youve done something mean then you out in effort to fix it, he will love it, or as in your case all you did was say something he didnt like at the time, all you have to do is look at him with you saddest eyes tell him you miss him and sigh, he will not be able to sleep that night, thet become obsessed, oh and wear your prettiest most feminine blouse or dress (they cant resist girls in a dress) To a Libra, romance is oxygen. We need it to live.
Thats all he needs, just that recognition that you miss and love him.