How does a Libra woman resolve conflict with an Aquarius man?
February 29, 2008 by Jeffrey Kishner
Air signs like to talk things out — yet the three members of this clan do so in vastly different ways. Take, for example, Libra and Aquarius. Libra talks as a way of building a one-on-one connection, and one of her prime assets (as well as liabilities) is being able to view an issue from multiple perspectives. This understanding helps her to moderate between opposing parties, and suits her well for careers in mediation, law and public relations. However, this ability to balance the scales can work against her in her personal life, for in trying to please everyone, she may neglect her own needs.
Aquarius, on the other hand, approaches relationships from a more detached perspective. The Water Bearer is friendly, to be sure, but in a more impersonal way than Libra. Aquarius talks to spread ideas through the collective, as his ultimate purpose is to improve the lot of humanity. He has fairly fixed ideas, and thus is less able to be swayed by someone else’s viewpoint. He feels confident that his ideas are revolutionary, yet he also feels misunderstood because so few embrace his vision. This sense of alienation can make him unyielding in discussions.
What happens if you put Libra and Aquarius in a romantic realtionship? As much as these two Sun signs are compatible, they have their differences. Libra, being an initiating cardinal sign, will attempt to resolve their problems, yet Aquarius can be so stubborn in his belief of “how things should be” that Libra — able to get where he’s coming from — jumps off the fence (where she lives much of the time) to his side.
After having compromised numerous times, Libra’s anger starts to build up. This Venus-ruled sign may be refined and polite, but everybody gets angry! Libra just has a hard time owning and expressing it. After all, Libra is opposite from Aries, the Warrior, who has no problem blowing off steam. As Aries is direct, Libra can express her anger indirectly. For example, if she does not want to agree with Aquarius but also does not want to be upfront about it, she may use indecision as an act of defiance.
Comment below: Share your Libra-Aquarius relationship experiences.
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Great post Jeffrey! You are really taking the air out for a walk lately and I really think thats rad!!!
My husband has his venus in libra and I have my venus in aquarius..I laugh because when we talk about our relationship or when he is expressing his romantic love he is so typical libra. He uses the word “balance” every five minutes!! “we need to have a balance, this needs to be fair” and of course, I am like…”I researched this entire thing, I know it it’s insides, outsides and all sides and darn it, it’s this way!!”
But his libra really makes him unafraid of having a unique relationship that aquarius requires, which is good.
One of our major sticking points is the space issues. I think his libra feels the need for the presence of his “second half” a great deal and because I’m in love I feel free. I enjoy my love as not having to babysit it and go off in my head. When I do this for longer amounts of time, it drives him nuts. His mars in cancer makes him a passive-agressive warrior. He has to give it up because I am too airy “dense” to notice or too detached to care (moon and mars in aqua). We ususally have to fall back on our air to talk it out.
Ah yes the water bearer. I dated one for 7 months and that was more than I could bear. I rolled with the spacyness and stubborn for the sake of being stubbor-ness for as long as I could. Air signs are still great for one minute they are in lala land and then next they are zeroing to the bottom line of whatever issue is at hand. Fabulous. Great feed back. 2 Snaps for you Jeffrey.
coolness. i never got 2 snaps before.
thanks, angelineelise. It’s nice to hear a real-life example of libra-aquarius in action.
I am a Libra in love with an Aquarius… We both have aries rising, which makes for an interesting dynamic. It is certainly true that I tend to dither a bit more than him (and also like things to be more planned and organised), but in general, this is a soul mate relationship, a meeting of heart, mind and body that I had only ever dreamed of before. Simply wonderful.
yay!
yes, great insights. i’m a libra and i never even *really* considered the fact that my agression is passive and hesitant/indecisive… you caught me!!
i’ve been dating an aquarius/pisces cusp for 3 1/2 months (i’m a libra/scorpio cusp) and i literally just broke it off with him today. there is too much friction and misunderstanding between us, it is maddening and i can’t see myself devoting my future to him at all. i feel there is someone else awaiting..
some of our reasons for conflict:
- he is sag rising, i’m scorpio rising.
- he has a gemini moon, i have a taurus moon.
-his jupiter is aquarius, mine is pisces.
our conflicts are very emotional and drawn out, often about his politics vs. my spirituality, his stubborn intellect vs. my more emotional/artistic ways of communicating.
i wish the best of luck to other aquarius/libra couples, however.. my mother and father are a libra/aquarius couple married for nearly 35 years and still together loving one another! it can work
by stopping from reading horoscopes crap.
By using the libran ability to compromise, to understand where hes coming from.
But also, using his preference for space and certain detachment, to help build up their own independance, and maybe learn not to wear their heart on their sleeve!
Im a libra beginning to think so much passion all the time is such an unstable way to be. the ups and downs outweigh the periods of balance for me…maybe this aquarian man can give me some stability with his aloofness. Maybe i could use the space.
i’m a libra who met and was instantly drawn to an aquarius boy last march. within 2 weeks we were hanging out several nights a week. great sharing. great talking and honesty. within another 8 weeks we had finally decided to try dating after kissing one night (surprise for me!). things were amazing. we had plans to travel together after the election (we were both campaign workers). by the time my birthday rolled around the first week of october, things were colder than the fall air with us. he just completely pulled away. after the election i found out from a 3rd party that he had slept with another woman in september and gotten her pregnant. she decided to keep the child (of course he’s now about the be a dad). they are not together. he and i have barely seen each other in the last 6 months (we hooked up NYE and then had an argument 2 weeks later). the 2 times we’ve seen each other since have been this month (May). I’ve had progressive dreams about him EVERY NIGHT for 3 months. he acts friendly enough the past 2 times but never responds to IM’s i send (platonic always). he acts like he wants to be friends but can’t seem to get it together to actually do that. he told a mutual friend that it about killed him to be so cold to me last year but it was the only way he knew to drive me away so he could deal with his messes.
this guy, while he is a young soul and very repressed emotionally, totally has some karmic connection with me but i don’t know how to connect with him right now. i don’t want to be angry at him anymore. i miss my friend in him. how do i get past his aquarian frigidity???
i am an aquarius man in love with a libra women, she is my everything and will always be. i find so much in common with what this insitefull piece has showed me.thankyou for my reassurance of my wonderful relationship with my love ashley
Great post!
I am absolutely IN LOVE with the libra/aquarius combo. Whether its a frienship or something more, in my opinion, this is truly a surreal match.
My Best friend is an aqua, we do everything together,and i always find myself in the most halarious/unusual/exhilarating situatios when im with him.
It seems we’ve become too good of friends to take that “offical” plunge into a relationship. We’ve joked about it (but over drinks of course.Cant get emotion out of an aqua any other way
) and I think we’re both afraid of ruining what we’ve built up.We have almost a psychic bond, its unreal how we seem to be so well suited for eachother, on every level. He’s such a typical aquarius and im the typical libra. Dont think id want it any other way!
We hardly ever fight/argue, but when we do- i find myself hopping off the fence into his side of the yard, trying to save face. Though i ll admit, when i know im right, i can usually persude him to see things my way
and the issue is usually gone as fast as it appeared.
I love air signs, i find there is a respect level there, and a level of maturity that can always be found. Thanks for the great insight.
Okay, Aquaman is trying to come back — this time, after a month long “pilgrimage” — whereabouts unknown. (See previous posts on “Aquarian Man Acting Distant” page — we have been in a long distance for about a year, he gave me a ring after two months, I’ve been trying to relocate to his state, he says he knows that I am the love of his life but the way that he goes AWOL drives me nuts.) Anyway, love him to pieces, know that we are probably soulmates, yada, yada but this disappearance thing is offending my Libran sensibilities and I’m getting sick of it. (Personally, I don’t mind having more time to myself and I’m not the clingy/needy/snooping type at all, but I feel like he takes me for granted, knows I’ll always be there etc. and, hey, I want to teach his a** a lesson.) Need to hear from all the Aquarian men out there. What’s up? What did it take to finally get you to “act right”? With any other sign, I’d probably give him a healthy dose of his own medicine, disappear myself for a while and know with certainty that the light bulb would go off and he’d come to his senses. However, all the stuff I’ve read on here about Aquarian men not being jealous and being able to rationalize love and move on without a second thought gives me pause. I don’t want to loose him but I am not going to be in a relationship with someone who blurs the line between freedom and lack of respect. In the words of our president, I feel like this is a “teachable moment.” (LOL — had to laugh at that, sorry.) Other vital stats: he’s Aqua Sun but cuspy with Capricorn; Moon in Libra; Venus in Capricorn, Mars in Aries. Me: Libra I; Virgo rising; Moon in Gemini; Venus in Leo; Mars in Leo. Thanks for any feedback — think I might post this in the other Aquarian man post(s) as well.
Whenever Ive argued with Aquarius men, its been more like an exchange of wit and sarcasm, both congratulating eachother on “good comeback” It was never a real fight, just like a verbal joust, like mutual practice, always waiting for the others comment. I really enjoy talking with Aquarius men they can insult you and make you feel better at the same time, its hard to describe
BTW I’ve never had a problem with blowing off steam. I don’t use indecisiveness as protest, when I have a problem with someone, I tell them. We all have a fuse, rub me the wrong way and you won’t get silence, I assure you
All this “libra indecisiveness and/or lack of temper” is a myth….
Ive never had a problem deciding anything in my life….
And not all Aquarius men are genuis either. Some probably are but not all. I enjoy conversations with aquarians, they have all sorts of things to say that help you feel at ease but a Libra doesn’t always rely on one to help her decide things, another myth….. When a crisis hits my house, I know what to do right now, Im not a flake and I can solve problems very quickly. Everyone just mistakes our thinking outloud as indecision, we are extroverts, remember. We just think outloud. HOw many other people of other signs are struggling on this site right now trying to decide what to do with their relationships? NOT ALL Libras…. intersting isn’t it?