Sagittarius woman wonders if it’s OK to be needy
January 16, 2008 by Jeffrey Kishner
saggirl provided her birth time (click chart to view) and writes,My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year. We are both Sags, and this year I will be graduating from school and leaving this city. I give him his space, but I get hurt often because I feel as if, sometimes, he doesn’t want to include me in his life. After we get into an argument (which has been frequently, lately) I am usually the one who ends up going back to him, tail between my legs, because I love him (and, also let my insecurities get the best of me). Am I right to be so apologetic?
Although you are a freedom-loving Sagittarius, you need cosiness and security in relationships. Cancer, an emotional sign that needs stability to feel comfortable, is on the cusp of your Seventh House, or Descendant. This is the area of your chart where the western horizon was at the moment of your birth, and it relates to the qualities you look for in a partnership.
Although you consciously identify as a woman who longs for adventure and mind-expanding books, you crave nurturing and an “at-home” feeling with a boyfriend. There’s nothing wrong with this — it’s just that you may judge yourself for this yearning. With Venus in Capricorn, you may think you need to keep a stiff upper lip when it comes to love. To show otherwise may be considered a sign of weakness. In addition, you may feel insecure about how lovable (Venus) you are because Capricorn has high expectations that are hard to live up to.
If you’re moving away, he may not want to get too close. It’s just the beginning of the year, and I imagine your term ends just before summer. Communication is not easy now — with Mars retrograde in Gemini and Mercury turning retrograde on January 28 — but you may need to have a direct conversation about where you want to go as a couple. Should you make most of your time together, and then break up when you graduate? Or try a long-distance relationship? If you both can feel comfortable with where you are and where you’re going, he may pull away less often.
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Hey, I am a Sag woman that was married to a Sag man for 11 years.
Lucky (I feel) for us, we didn’t waver when we got together – we were married w/in 6 months and I do believe that sometimes those kind of things work out (ours did for a long time and probably would have indefinietley except for some unfortunate unforseeable events that would/could have happened even if we had dated 3 years before we got married).
Being both fire signs, it was nice that we cut to the chase and used that fire and zing to get where we really wanted – then, it was pretty nice, we both needed and liked space and it worked well living together (he had Taurus moon and I Libra moon so co-habiting was ruled by the same planet
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I have Scorpio on my 7th but my pluto conjuncts my moon and so I always needed that Cancer nurturing in a relationship too (cuddles etc…). Don’t ever feel bad for your needs; we are all different and what in the world would we do w/out wonderful Cancer hugs in this world??!! I say, try to find a way to make sure you get this need met, maybe when the feeling is right, talk to your Sag about this need. What is his chart like? Does he have any Cancer stuff to provide you? That may be very important. It is for me. The Sag I was married to had mars in Cancer and that was enough for me – it did the trick and it was a blessing for me (that came out from him often enough) and now the person I am dating has, again, thankfully, at least one planet there, jupiter!!!