Comments on: Why is unavailability a turn-on? http://sasstrology.com/2007/12/why-is-unavailability-turn-on.html Sat, 20 Mar 2010 06:14:06 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Crystal http://sasstrology.com/2007/12/why-is-unavailability-turn-on.html/comment-page-1#comment-15153 Crystal Sat, 14 Feb 2009 16:42:01 +0000 http://kishner.wordpress.com/2007/12/21/why-is-unavailability-a-turn-on/#comment-15153 Manipulation & GAMES will keep him "interested" - STRUNG ALONG, if you will - in the LONG RUN it will NOT KEEP HIM. Manipulation & GAMES will keep him “interested” – STRUNG ALONG, if you will – in the LONG RUN it will NOT KEEP HIM.

]]> By: Anonymous http://sasstrology.com/2007/12/why-is-unavailability-turn-on.html/comment-page-1#comment-1449 Anonymous Wed, 13 Feb 2008 13:23:00 +0000 http://kishner.wordpress.com/2007/12/21/why-is-unavailability-a-turn-on/#comment-1449 I think its true, that unavailability is a turn-on for man but not for woman.<br/><br/>why? because women have less options how to hunt:)<br/><br/>if a woman is chasing a man, she is dubbed as desperate, needy hysterics<br/><br/>if a man is chasing a woman, then he is in love, how romantic!<br/><br/>so a woman has to be on the receiving end and be passively manipulative, it seems to me....:)<br/><br/>get my point? I think its true, that unavailability is a turn-on for man but not for woman.

why? because women have less options how to hunt:)

if a woman is chasing a man, she is dubbed as desperate, needy hysterics

if a man is chasing a woman, then he is in love, how romantic!

so a woman has to be on the receiving end and be passively manipulative, it seems to me….:)

get my point?

]]> By: Cancer Rising http://sasstrology.com/2007/12/why-is-unavailability-turn-on.html/comment-page-1#comment-1448 Cancer Rising Fri, 18 Jan 2008 22:11:00 +0000 http://kishner.wordpress.com/2007/12/21/why-is-unavailability-a-turn-on/#comment-1448 Cancers crave it too. In spades. Cancers crave it too. In spades.

]]> By: Spica http://sasstrology.com/2007/12/why-is-unavailability-turn-on.html/comment-page-1#comment-1447 Spica Fri, 18 Jan 2008 19:53:00 +0000 http://kishner.wordpress.com/2007/12/21/why-is-unavailability-a-turn-on/#comment-1447 Marriage, to me is not an illusion of security, but an expression of love and devotion.<br/><br/>Of course, when we have a material turn of mind, it can seem so.<br/><br/>I believe 'security' is a Capricorn trait. Marriage, to me is not an illusion of security, but an expression of love and devotion.

Of course, when we have a material turn of mind, it can seem so.

I believe ’security’ is a Capricorn trait.

]]> By: Spica http://sasstrology.com/2007/12/why-is-unavailability-turn-on.html/comment-page-1#comment-1446 Spica Fri, 18 Jan 2008 19:50:00 +0000 http://kishner.wordpress.com/2007/12/21/why-is-unavailability-a-turn-on/#comment-1446 Hello, I don't think its truly a turn on, but it can be if we get used to it.<br/>See you mentioned it's a Scorpio trait, so those with predominant scorpio planets or planets in houses will use these tactics. And then we get addicted to it, because, well, it works.<br/><br/>No other reason, than that we are all suckers for punishment. I can bet that power and control are what drives alot of relationships, and truth be told, the players enjoy it. Hello, I don’t think its truly a turn on, but it can be if we get used to it.
See you mentioned it’s a Scorpio trait, so those with predominant scorpio planets or planets in houses will use these tactics. And then we get addicted to it, because, well, it works.

No other reason, than that we are all suckers for punishment. I can bet that power and control are what drives alot of relationships, and truth be told, the players enjoy it.

]]> By: whatever http://sasstrology.com/2007/12/why-is-unavailability-turn-on.html/comment-page-1#comment-1445 whatever Wed, 26 Dec 2007 09:25:00 +0000 http://kishner.wordpress.com/2007/12/21/why-is-unavailability-a-turn-on/#comment-1445 The point being:<br/><br/>Yes, marriage might be a panacea creating an illusion of emotional security. <br/><br/>No, marriage is not a panacea creating an illusion of financial security.<br/><br/>Depending of course, on whom you marry. And depending of course, on the type of security you seek. The point being:

Yes, marriage might be a panacea creating an illusion of emotional security.

No, marriage is not a panacea creating an illusion of financial security.

Depending of course, on whom you marry. And depending of course, on the type of security you seek.

]]> By: Victoria http://sasstrology.com/2007/12/why-is-unavailability-turn-on.html/comment-page-1#comment-1444 Victoria Wed, 26 Dec 2007 09:16:00 +0000 http://kishner.wordpress.com/2007/12/21/why-is-unavailability-a-turn-on/#comment-1444 Is marriage just a panacea creating an illusion of security? Marriage may create an illusion of love but there's nothing more solid than a binding contract to wave in front of a divorce lawyer to grab a little security. I learned that the hard way. He laughed all the way to the bank. Usually it's the other way around. Is marriage just a panacea creating an illusion of security? Marriage may create an illusion of love but there’s nothing more solid than a binding contract to wave in front of a divorce lawyer to grab a little security. I learned that the hard way. He laughed all the way to the bank. Usually it’s the other way around.

]]> By: Sagilarious http://sasstrology.com/2007/12/why-is-unavailability-turn-on.html/comment-page-1#comment-1443 Sagilarious Tue, 25 Dec 2007 21:56:00 +0000 http://kishner.wordpress.com/2007/12/21/why-is-unavailability-a-turn-on/#comment-1443 Yes, Jeffrey raises a valid point. But, there are different sorts of needing and I am just about fed-up with this uber-independent American culture. We like to think we can and should do every damn thing on our own. But this, to me, is an illness as well. Yes, a person shouldn't be 100% co-dependent on another person. BUT what in the h**l is family and the like for then? Why does a society exist then?<br/><br/>It's okay to need people. I think it's healthy in some cases. And when it comes to romantic love, saying "I cannot live without you" is not really literal coming from a relatively sane person. It just would sound so weird if they said "I could live without you, but it would suck so much, so I really cannot even think of it as an option." Maybe those of us with Virgo moons ;) would like something a little more articulate like this after all.<br/><br/>At the same time, don't we all dream of that love that will come into our life, rock our world and soul, and take our very breath away? That all-consuming, intense love is the only kind of situation I think is worth all the BS that a relationship brings along with it. Relationships are hard. If I am gonna put up with all that coordination, compromisation (made it up), and extra time outa my schedule, then I want the guy to rock my friggin' world!<br/><br/>Marriage, yes, Jeffrey is right about this too. But the problem with this is that since marriage is so common, saying "I love you so much I shouldn't have to marry you" is really what matters. But then there is that doubt of, "Then marriage really shouldn't make a difference, right? So let's do it." Now, suddenly, you have to do it to eliminate that subconscious doubt. Unless you and your significant other are serious philosophers and you have an extra long discussion about this and find some other way to both believe that what you've got actually knocks marriage outa the water (I can actually be that kinda gal, but I would need the extra-long discussion or I will bitch about it non-stop).<br/><br/>Love love love! What string is strong enough to hold that up? Certainly not doubt and ambiguity. Yes, Jeffrey raises a valid point. But, there are different sorts of needing and I am just about fed-up with this uber-independent American culture. We like to think we can and should do every damn thing on our own. But this, to me, is an illness as well. Yes, a person shouldn’t be 100% co-dependent on another person. BUT what in the h**l is family and the like for then? Why does a society exist then?

It’s okay to need people. I think it’s healthy in some cases. And when it comes to romantic love, saying “I cannot live without you” is not really literal coming from a relatively sane person. It just would sound so weird if they said “I could live without you, but it would suck so much, so I really cannot even think of it as an option.” Maybe those of us with Virgo moons ;) would like something a little more articulate like this after all.

At the same time, don’t we all dream of that love that will come into our life, rock our world and soul, and take our very breath away? That all-consuming, intense love is the only kind of situation I think is worth all the BS that a relationship brings along with it. Relationships are hard. If I am gonna put up with all that coordination, compromisation (made it up), and extra time outa my schedule, then I want the guy to rock my friggin’ world!

Marriage, yes, Jeffrey is right about this too. But the problem with this is that since marriage is so common, saying “I love you so much I shouldn’t have to marry you” is really what matters. But then there is that doubt of, “Then marriage really shouldn’t make a difference, right? So let’s do it.” Now, suddenly, you have to do it to eliminate that subconscious doubt. Unless you and your significant other are serious philosophers and you have an extra long discussion about this and find some other way to both believe that what you’ve got actually knocks marriage outa the water (I can actually be that kinda gal, but I would need the extra-long discussion or I will bitch about it non-stop).

Love love love! What string is strong enough to hold that up? Certainly not doubt and ambiguity.

]]> By: Victoria http://sasstrology.com/2007/12/why-is-unavailability-turn-on.html/comment-page-1#comment-1442 Victoria Tue, 25 Dec 2007 12:02:00 +0000 http://kishner.wordpress.com/2007/12/21/why-is-unavailability-a-turn-on/#comment-1442 PSYCHO: "Don't go, Baby don't go, I NEED you bad, won't let you go, you can't go Baby, I NEED you!"<br/><br/>PASSIONATE: "I NEED you bad Baby, and you better NEED me bad or just get on outta here!"<br/><br/>Let me make it clear<br/>To you my dear<br/><br/>If you're not in it for love (baby)<br/>If you're not willin'<br/>To give it all you got<br/>If you're not in it for life<br/>If you're not in it for love<br/>Let me make it clear<br/>To you my dear<br/>If you're not in it for love<br/>I'M OUTTA HERE!<br/><br/>- Shania Twain PSYCHO: “Don’t go, Baby don’t go, I NEED you bad, won’t let you go, you can’t go Baby, I NEED you!”

PASSIONATE: “I NEED you bad Baby, and you better NEED me bad or just get on outta here!”

Let me make it clear
To you my dear

If you’re not in it for love (baby)
If you’re not willin’
To give it all you got
If you’re not in it for life
If you’re not in it for love
Let me make it clear
To you my dear
If you’re not in it for love
I’M OUTTA HERE!

- Shania Twain

]]> By: whatever http://sasstrology.com/2007/12/why-is-unavailability-turn-on.html/comment-page-1#comment-1441 whatever Tue, 25 Dec 2007 04:25:00 +0000 http://kishner.wordpress.com/2007/12/21/why-is-unavailability-a-turn-on/#comment-1441 the difference between psycho and passionate is PSYCHO LOCKS YOU IN while PASSIONATE THROWS YOU OUT (of the house) the difference between psycho and passionate is PSYCHO LOCKS YOU IN while PASSIONATE THROWS YOU OUT (of the house)

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