I am not afraid of men, I knew more men than women most of mmy life I ahve a brother close in age, and I always had guy friends–no men don’t scare me.
I have been quite assertive when it comes to being interested romantically and seually in a man too.
but, it is also true, that in my eagerness, and humger and lust I scared some guys.
Yes, some loved it–but forever or for one night?
And some oved it because yes, I was clear and direct–but not because I grabbed them ad said I ahve to have you in my life now, and you’ll move in, and marry me and stay and take care of things, etc!
It was because I was fun, and *real*.
If i tried tooo hard and was overly accomodating, he was uncomfortable with it, even if he liked me.
The writer I think is saying that if we desire a relationship, too many of us try too hard to “get” him –and that fails.
“Use your Venus to attract” is one piece of the equation and–doesn’t mean “don’t be yourself”
It’s like saying hey–proserpine you have pale skin iwht undertones of blue and red, so those colors look good on you..
It doesn’t mean I can’t wear yellow or orange, or black.
It means that some colors look *better* on me, some only OK, and some–well..not my best..
I don’t have to go out and buy fire engine red eitherI do’nt like it, so I don’t wear it.
However, some kinds of red– cherry red, burgundy, magenta–they look good on me, *and* I like them too.
Does this make any sense?
Proserpine

it must be- at odds that is.

check again, the natal chart is nearly foolproof

for instance i of course only speak personally but as an aloof person w/ venus in cancer i would never attract someone thru maternalism (or whatever related ‘way’). not only im incapable of being maternal or nurturing but it would turn me off, too unsexy and non merci to me. not to mention i wouldnt want to attract the type of person who wants mamaing.

perhaps it is true. if your venus doesnt fit as for me, it does go together w/ what i call my highly unattractive personality. lol. ‘oh well’. if the astrology doesnt give u a satisfactory answer, i say move on ya. yup.

As far as s*** tests go, that is a brilliant philosophy but works better for some signs than others. Still it makes good sense, and women do it, subconsciously to make sure the man is worth his mettle.

There is a best-seller by Elizabeth Wurtzel entitled “Bitch: In Praise of Difficult Women” which endorses “bad” behaviour and provides food for thought while provoking controversy. In our quest for the “perfect man” we women tend to be too nice, too accomodating, too damn good to be any good in bed or otherwise. Men get bored of this fast as they prefer the challenge of the hunt and the kill, if you will.

What sport is there in shooting a deer who is frozen in your headlights? Or a moose who waltzes over and nuzzles her nose to your rifle while sniffling sweet nothings. It’s more ego-boosting for a man to sneak around the forest and catch the poor thing off guard and seduce them to a spot where you can aim and fire from a strategic distance.

Deer are naturally graceful and women are naturally Venusian by nature. We retreat when threatened by danger. Men are dangerous.

And if we are cornered emotionally or physically and it is impossible to retreat, then we pull out handy Mars honed to perfection as the years go by, and CHARGE. And let the chips fall where they may, the guy is invading our territory and the deer has nothing to lose but its life.

Now if the man would pack away the gun and offer a carrot (like the sparkling carat variety, a girl’s best friend) maybe the deer would approach in a more friendly fashion.

Again, it’s all in context, and depends on the situation.

Beautiful women are often dynamite bitches because they have to be to survive in this dog-eat-dog existence, survival of the fittest. The rest drown in their tears after giving too much for too little.

And some give up the ghost and turn to prostitution and other forms of self-deprecation to turn a profit out of their existing losses and even out the balance.

Call it the balance of nature. The law of gravity. What goes up must come down, and what goes around comes around.

For every Martian woman there’s 10 Martian Men who put her there and maybe more. Bitches aren’t born, they’re made.