[ad]In the comments section of How Scorpios get over breakups, Dramatoso Scorpioso wrote,
A Scorpio get dumped?I’ve known a few Scorps and this one thing holds true in all cases, male or female– they do the dirty work (the dumping). They are well ahead of the game and as master strategists will not place themselves in a position to get dumped.
If their spidey senses pick up on a waning interest, they pull out the knife and slash it then and there. Hurts like hell but you gotta do what you gotta do.
I feel suspicious whenever I read “one thing holds true in all cases.” Sun sign behavior is not as reliable as, say, the orbital pattern of Mars.
Scorpio is not only about control, strategy and manipulation. This sign ultimately concerns the depths of intimacy one experiences with another person — the true sharing of one’s innermost self, as well as one’s body and belongings. To be this close, a Scorpio must relinquish power. As long as she holds the knife, she is on the defensive, fearful of getting hurt. Vulnerability can be terrifying to a Scorpio, for wounds to this intensely emotional water sign can feel as painful as death. Thus, the scorpion develops an arsenal of shields and weapons, as well as enhanced detective skills (the spidey sense).
But who says Scorpio needs to be locked and loaded? Can’t she have enough trust to let down her guard, to leave the sharp utensils in the kitchen? Although I would not go so far as to describe Scorpio as innocent, I can imagine a young scorpion falling deeply in love, willing to connect completely with another — no games, no ammo. If she gets burned by her first lover, then the stingers come out. She toughens up and resolves never to let it happen again.
But there is a beauty in her initial willingness to go to the depths in a relationship, and it is a shame that she may not recover that all-consuming passion — for how can she love truly, madly and deeply when she’s packing a pistol? She may be possessed by desire, but as long as her inner Mars is at the ready, she’s destined to remain separate.
Comment below: Are you Scorpio who’s been dumped? Share your stories.
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“But who says Scorpio needs to be locked and loaded?”
Which reminds me of the old fable about the Scorpion. (Was it Aesop’s?). Q: Why must a scorpion be “locked and loaded”? A: Because it’s in their nature.
Nice blog btw
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I’ve never been dumped. I cannot imagine if I would have been. I think it would have been a serious blow to my ego as a teen.
well i have read/heard about Scorpio methods on dumping.. but is it possible do you think for a scorpio to say he is finished with a woman, then backtrack?
It is a beautiful thought to remember that there are so many ways to play each sign and energy. It is always a choice as to how we use our signs (which we all have all of them!)
As for Scorpio, I have plenty of this energy to comment on how deep they can hurt and go through being “burned” – they don’t always pull out first.
Sometimes it is the opposite. Sometimes they want to truly “love till death do you part” – so that even in retched unhappiness, they will not give up – and if you have 2 people with that- BOTH have plenty of this Scorpio stuff in their chart – neither one will give up the relationship (I’ve been thru one relationship like this and I am in another like this now!!!)
It can actually be that neither wants to admit that they gave up; and so neither will!
With my ex- and I; we did not talk for 2 years and when we did (we both have pluto exactly squaring our Sag sun’s and he has Scorpio rising while I have Scorpio descendant w/venus, mars, and jupiter their)we both SWEAR that the OTHER one is the one that left – and we will probably NEVER agree on it!!!
What hogwash. I’m a double Scorp and I’ve been dumped several times, as well as doing the dumping. And I just have to laugh at all these boneheaded stereotypes about Scorpio. I think a cartoon caricature could be made of every sign (anyone want to run with that?). The difference is that too many people throw around the caricature of Scorpio as if it were the truth. The only knives I own are used to cut vegetables.
Amen.
Hey Moni,
You’re right there’s exceptions to every rule
The fat, plain and ugly ones get dumped regularly because their self-esteem is in the gutter anyway. Mind you this probably holds true for any of the signs.
Sometimes fish only swim one direction too, like when they’re on a hook.
Hey Jeff get your Sun off my Chiron already
Or wear a lampshade
@Dramatoso, did I shine a light on your wounds?
Actually, I’ve gotten dumped when things have gotten too intense. I tend to attract men who are drawn to my intensity and then freak out and change their minds. True to form for Scorpio, I’d say.
OH HELL ALL’S WELL THAT ENDS WELL!
I am a Scorpio and have been dumped once and I never even thought it would happen. It was by a Pisces…and when he dumped me I just told him okay, he asked “what do you mean okay?” I said okay. My pride was HURT, HURT, HURT, and as soon as it happened…I was thinking how I would handle him. But deep down inside of me I knew he was going to regret it and he was just talking out of his ass.
And what do you know…a few hours later he’s asking for me back.
I was happy but I said NO.
A couple of days later he asked for me back and I said No again.
I meant it but I didn’t mean it.
This continued for three years, us going back and forth, we would interact physically and share our emotions with one another which were very deep but we never “got back together”…well we never said we did or agreed on it. We just let it flow. But I kind of kept my “distance” or tried but he knew I loved him and I knew he loved me.
And then he moved really far away =]
I wonder if that is why so many Scorpio women fail to orgasm? Seems like an oxymoron since they are considered a sexy sign, and yet strangely enough they are the ones documented to have the most problem in this department. They give pleasure but seldom receive it.
Where is it documented that Scorpio women have the most difficulty achieving orgasm? I know at least one counterexample…
“Although I would not go so far as to describe Scorpio as innocent, I can imagine a young scorpion falling deeply in love, willing to connect completely with another — no games, no ammo. If she gets burned by her first lover, then the stingers come out. She toughens up and resolves never to let it happen again.”
That’s what I usually see happen. It can occur as far back as middle school. Not many know or care about things that happen way back then. I’m not even talking about just Scorps right now.
You have to be careful being emotionally precocious without having your own stingers ready. When you’re naive and young, someone not as emotionally developed as you can stampede right over you. Can’t necessarily put all the blame on them..they weren’t ready. But that’s usually when the stingers start happening.
It’s kind of funny. When they decide to take the risk again and find something truly worth that risk, they start wondering why they put up all those walls and defenses.
a therapist in Toronto with a Master’s and a couple of other certificates on the wall of her office
Nice Photo….I’m a female scorp and I like it
Think I used one just like it.
Now really I don’t think we are all that way it depends on what we experienced combined with how we take our planets but guess I should not comment I never have dated a female scorp
btw Dramatoso Scorpioso has progressed sun in Sagittarius
known for expanding on a truth so one size fits all
even if it gives you blisters
Can Dramatoso Scorpioso share her birth information so that this blogger can run her chart?
No. I don’t care to be scrutinized, that’s my job
“Can’t she have enough trust to let down her guard, to leave the sharp utensils in the kitchen? Although I would not go so far as to describe Scorpio as innocent, I can imagine a young scorpion falling deeply in love, willing to connect completely with another — no games, no ammo. If she gets burned by her first lover, then the stingers come out. She toughens up and resolves never to let it happen again.”
well, that’s what truly happen to me just now. And its not only about love either, also about friendship.
The only people i trust soo much in recent years are my bestfriend and my bf, which happen to be my 1st bf.
we broke up because racial problem from my parent and i went study abroad. But we’re still cool, chatting and joking around frequently. And when i came back for winter holiday 2007, i found my ex and bestfriend are going out.
And that hurts like hell, i felt betrayed by my closest one, and i just tell to myself to not trust anyone that deep again.
oww and my ex is Pisces and my bestfriend is Cancer.. blame the triangle
This LunarChild has had 9 months to decide what to do with my scorp, we now live separately, really not seeing one another. Too hard f/me. I recently found that due to his childhood maternal deprivation, his adult effects from his disorder was the reasons for so much emotional abandonment on me. I feel I must stand by him for hopeful recovery. Depending on outcomes, we should be able to reunite. I love this man, but can’t do any more mental masturbation and emotional hurt. AND ‘BOUT BUCKING TIME…..
I’m a scorpio and I’ve been dumped. I’ve always managed to convince them out of it. But a relationship where you have to CONVINCE anyone isnt worth it.
I’ve always gotten dumped for being too intense/introverted/nagging/etc.
I only nag after feeling like my emotions aren’t returned. Then I turn more vicious.
In the beginning I am not vicious, I am kind and generous until I get rebuffed or see someone pulling away. That’s when I become vicious. I don’t know if this is a characteristic of scorpio, or just a characteristic of women!
I am a scorpio and I’ve only been dumped in my first relationship. I did it every time from then on.
As for the first time, I wanted to break up with him first, but I had a hard time getting used to not being with him after a long relationship, so when he suggested we should try again, I accepted. Then he dumped me a week later! I was very offended. We went out so that he could tell me that and I tried stupid things, like persuading him to stay. When I saw it didn’t work, I counted aloud all the things that were wrong with him and to my surprise – got him crying. I felt sorry, but at the same time proud. It was the first real feeling of revenge for me! Sick, I know, but I still remember that feeling. (second time was when I almost got cheated on and I completely misused the trust of my unknowing boyfriend and soon after ex and ruined some business of his).
I hate when people try to make a fool out of me. Some said I was too jealous and obsessive. That poor guy, second bf, made me feel guilty, so I stopped checking up on him. A month later, I still decided to take a look. I found a load of mails from another woman, taking me for a fool and flirting with him. What bothered me was that he never replied with ‘hey, you’re going too far, I love Jessy’, but just acted amused and flattered instead. So I took that revenge and made sure he would not remember me as a powerless fool.
I really wish I could stop being jealous. But if my mate is interested in another woman, what else should I think?? Last time I wasn’t jealous, but then I got bored and realized he wasn’t for me.
Oh, and I’ve known promiscuous scorps, faithful scorps, seemingly asexual scorps and clingy whiny obsessive scorps. Some very different people with this sign.