Waiting for a Capricorn to come back after a breakup

Capricorn is ruled by Saturn, the planet of delay, as well as success earned after years of effort. After a breakup, you expect Cappy to run back into your arms? Think again.

It doesn’t matter who ended the relationship. If you broke the goat’s heart, Cap will be even more cautious than usual about asking for another chance. Rejection only makes Capricorn try harder, but would any sane person try to scale the same barbed-wire fence twice?

If Capricorn ditched you, the decision wasn’t made lightly. This sign thinks about long-term consequences to any action, as well as how it will affect Cap’s reputation and social standing. A decision was made, and it’s likely to be the final word.

In the unlikely case that Capricorn returns to you — well, it could take months or years! Cap may not be as slow as Taurus, but the goat is much more serious. A thorough analysis of benefits and liabilities will be done before Cap makes any moves.

You don’t impulsively propose a merger of two corporations. The board of directors has to be convinced that the risk is minimal and that the shareholders will be happy. The deal has to pass muster with the Securities and Exchange Commission. This process doesn’t happen overnight … so in the meantime, keep yourself busy. Check out the Wall Street Journal — there are other healthy stocks you can invest in.

Comment below: How long did it take your Capricorn to come back?

About Jeffrey Kishner

Jeffrey Kishner is founder and publisher of Sasstrology. He is a licensed mental health counselor and has been doing astrological counseling since 2001. Jeffrey has been published in print magazines including The Mountain Astrologer and Dell Horoscope, and has written online for sites including AOL, Tarot.com and StarIQ. Jeffrey has also been heavily involved in the astrology blogger community. Read his personal blog at JeffreyKishner.com.


  1. I’m an Aries woman as well and I need your advice. I really hurt my male Capricorn feelings by putting out business on social media because I was angry and he won’t talk to me. He told a friend of mind that he is done with me. I really love this man and I’m genuinely sorry about my actions . I want this man back in my life what should I do

  2. You may not even see this reply as it is now 2016. I just wanted to say you give me hope… I’m an Aries in love with a Capricorn guy. And oh, what a challenge!

  3. Hello FakeMagic, my Aries sister!
    Thanks for posting. Amazing the similarities expressed in sooo many of these posts. They run, act distant, won’t communicate even when asked direct questions, and lean towards selfishness. I had one month of Bliss with my Cap. Then he needed more space, then more space, can we just go back to beings friends?
    Now he and I have known each other 16 years and just recently admitted feelings we had way back when. We have both been in long term relationships where neither of us have felt were right for us and decided to give ‘us’ a chance. It’s been difficult living 1200 miles away and having to untangle ourselves from our current situations. I didn’t mind taking our relationship back to a more platonic level (which with the distance between us equates to not using terms of endearment or flirting with each other), but I have really deep feelings for this guy (I was in love with him way back when, too), and I can’t just shut off how I feel. And being Aries, I am very demonstrative of how I feel. Aries can be very forward and open. Lucky dude – he never has to guess where he stands with me or how I feel about him! But for me, I have no fucking clue what is on his mind. Since suggesting we just be friends until we are both free, we went from texting every day to I was lucky to get one a week, and now it’s been two weeks since I last heard from him. Because we had some misunderstandings with this transition, I’m not really sure how he feels now. I just don’t get how you can really feel something for someone and then just cut them out of your life almost completely! That just doesn’t make sense! At least not in my Aries book of open honesty. So yeah, have to agree with that they have a hard time with relationships and I have gotten lame excuses that I saw right through. And yet, I can’t walk away…

  4. parmesh (capricorn) says:

    So you really want your Capricorn back huh, I’m a capricorn too as far as i could think, that he might be looking for someone better than you but if you were a real deal then he might come back to you. The thing about capricorns, is that they will make you realize where you made mistakes and what are the consequences, so start remembering and writing all the mistakes you made and apologize him for the things you did, he will accept you, just don’t cheat on him and be sure to correct your mistakes if you want him back. He is just waiting for you to realize your mistakes. After that you’re in his playground so don’t do anything stupid. ?

  5. Hi Parmesh,
    I don’t know if your reply was to me or someone else’s comment here…
    The only ‘mistake’ I can think of that I could have possibly made was that I have been very demonstrative in my feelings and expressions of them. Not like I have had much opportunity to make many mistakes as our relating had been through texting since we live over 1200 miles apart, and were enduring the extreme complications of distance plus both of us in relationships we would have to terminate to be together. He wanted us to return to a more platonic way of relating because he started feeling guilty that he was having an emotional affair with me, even though he plans to leave his wife. But it is hard to even have a friendship with someone who shuts you out and won’t even respond to any texts. It’s now been over three weeks since I last heard from him. I love him, but I give up. I’m not into one-way relationships. So maybe he’ll come around someday, maybe he won’t. I would wait for him if I knew he still wanted me, but ignoring me does not indicate to me that he values our relationship, so c’est la vie.

  6. capricorn girll says:

    once cappi taken decision they will never look back regardless of their true feelings… but if u love him please make first move and go back to him. if he truly loves you he will forgive you and accept you. but do remember not to repeat the same mistakes u did in first time otherwise no chance will be left for you… Good Luck..!!!

  7. VirgoChick87 says:

    My soul mate is a Cap. We met when we were both in a rough spot in our lives. I have never stopped loving him and its been years! We didn’t have any closure. I knew as long as I was around, his ex would keep his son from him. So as much as I loved him I just kinda disappeared so that he could be with his son. That’s all settled now. I just recently reached back out to him. He is currently in a realtionship?? Ahh I can’t stop thinking about him. We are supposed to be meeting to talk and get closure…but he is hesitant of meeting me in person. I think he doesn’t want to fall back into all of those old feelings. The sparks fly like crazy when we are near each other. I wish he would let go just a little and see what happens. But he is a Cap?

  8. VirgoChick87 says:

    I’m a virgo, and Mercurys retrograde hit me HARD this year!!! My soul mate is a Capricorn. We met in a difficult time in our lives. We were both battling addiction, and met at the rehab center we were in. To our surprise we lived in the same city hours away. He was married, but they were on the verge of divorce. We started out as just friends, but the connection was obvious and undeniable. We had to attend out patient classes after rehab and we were in the same class, again SURPRISE! It’s like it was meant to be and the love gods were holding all the doors WIDE open. I remember the mounting tension. Just sitting next to him I felt like I was going to burst out of my skin. One day I was giving him a ride to his vehicle, I stopped at a stop sign and he un buckled his seat belt. Before I could even comprehend what was happening his lips were on mine. It was one of the most honest and passionate kisses of my life. His wife went to her ‘parents’ house every weekend. I still find that odd and don’t think that’s where she really was (she is now married to a woman). So we made plans to meet at a hotel. We kissed and he said ‘I can’t do this I have to go home’ and he left. I was obviously devastated. But the next day he called and asked me to come to his house. So I did. From then on we were both head over heels for each other. We would meet even if we could only see each other for 15 mins. We just HAD to see each other and couldn’t keep our hands off each other. He opened up to me. Told me his deepest darkest secrets, and I did the same without hesitation. He was very possessive (mind you he was still married). We had several discussions about our future together. We wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. I will never forget the night he called me crying and telling me that he wished he had met me first, started a family with me. He told me he felt like he was cheating on me, and not the other way around.I wanted nothing more than to be with him, I still want that!! Well fast forward 6 months. His wife, of course found all of the text messages and phone calls. He didn’t try to be careful. They had both already checked out of the relationship emotionally. Well he told me that we should take a break and cool things off while the divorce was settled. But he couldn’t stay away! For another year we were on and then taking a break, then back on then another break. All because he was terrified of losing custody of his son to her. As much as I loved this man, I pushed my happiness to the side and I pushed him away. I knew as long as we were together he wouldn’t get to see his son, and he could not stay away, but lord knows he tried. So I got no closure as I just walked away. I felt like it was the right thing even though it killed me. I have been with my rebound from my cap now for almost 6 years. I don’t love him. I never have. I was waiting for my cap to come back to me. Well obviously that wasn’t happening. So I reached out to him after 6 years asking if we could maybe rekindle things. He replied back, telling me that he had a gf now, and he didn’t know if they were going to be together forver or one more day, but that he couldn’t do that to her bc she had been there for him through ‘mad shit’. Well fuck! So was I. I was with you when you were married. Not what I wanted!! But I couldn’t control my heart. So that comment made me angry. He told me that he understood what I was talking about needing closure between us, but he was unsure about meeting me?? I got the impression that he doesn’t want to get caught all up in his feelings. I wish he would just let go just a little!! See where things go. Bc I know his feelings for me are still there. He e-mailed me again letting me know that he hadn’t forgotten about me. Called me ‘boo’. Like UGH!! DON’T CALL ME BOO UNLESS YOU MEAN IT.

    It has been 3 months since I first reached out. He didn’t respond until a month and a half later. Then he-mailed me about 2 weeks ago, and then again last week calling me boo. So I am beyond confused! It seems like he was hesitant and still is, but is contacting me more frequently with less time between each contact. That gives me some hope, but I don’t want my heart broken all over again.

    I just want to ask how he has been? How his son is? I want to hear his voice and see his smile. Ugh it’s driving me crazy!! I just wanted to say that I feel ya girl.

    Still waiting on my Cap. I have been reading his horoscopes and every single day it talks about the doors being held open to the past and second chances. And each time he has reached out his horoscope mentioned the lines of communication being open. So Maybe I will hear from him again on Wednesday??

    UGH!! I hate this hopeless lost feeling that I have.

  9. Hey VirgoChick.
    I have Virgo Rising 🙂
    Anyway. Just read your story. My heart goes out to you!!! Why does this all have to be so fucking hard?!!! At least yours is contacting you. Funny above I said I was giving up on mine… Lord knows I tried, but I can’t get him out of my head. I think about him everyday and I don’t want anyone else.
    So I had gone a little over a month without hearing from him, but I kept writing to him. Finally the day after my bday, he texted me back answering my last text to him asking if we could start over. He said he thought we probably could. Said he and his wife were selling their house and moving into a rental. Then said things weren’t as bad as he can make it in his head and that he was going to stay there and in his relationship unless some action from the Universe were to end his relationship. The way he worded it was vague… like does he mean he is really going to try to work things out with them or is it a tolerable situation to lay low in while he waits to see what happens? (maybe waiting to see if I’m serious enough to get out of my relationship and get my own place which I still plan to do as soon as I have the money to do so… Another long story, can sum up to say I’m in some kind of karmic soul contract relationship where I love him, but not in love with him and have never felt like we really connect on a deep level but had a kid right away and I’ve sacrificed what I wanted for our kid to have his family… long story, lol).
    He even forgot my bday, but remembered two days later. Got one more little text interaction with him four days after that when I sent him a song. I was surprised he sent one back to me! I was grinning from ear to ear for the next five hours just because he responded to me (doesn’t take much to make me happy, lol). I thought this meant that we were finally going to resume a more frequent communication again, but I haven’t heard from him since – that was April 26 and today is May 23. I have continued to reach out to him writing and sharing my thoughts, feelings, and what I am learning in life (I’ve been going through tremendous life lessons and soul growth), even though he never writes me back, which triggers all kinds of insecurities and fears. Seems I have no choice but to be patient and wait for Life to unfold as it will. This, undoubtedly, has been one of the hardest things I have ever gone through. I hate being completely shut out. I wish we could at least talk. I think I’ve been stripped of any expectations at this point. If he knows he doesn’t want me then I wish he would just tell me so I could let this go and move on. But he won’t answer that question and has left everything open, which gives me hope that there is still a chance. Waiting is hard, especially for Aries! And I’m willing to because I can’t see being with anyone else, so what choice do I have? I would be so happy for even the smallest of reassurances to let me know that this thing is mutual and I’m not all alone in this. This stone cold silence scares the shit out of me that he doesn’t feel the same way, but doesn’t want to hurt me (we’ve been friends a long time and I know he genuinely cares), and I feel like such a pathetic obsessed creature, hopelessly in love with him.

    And you should see our chart synastry! Fucking incredible! I have 4 Yods with the apex at my Sun/Saturn conjunction at 29/28 degrees Aries. He also has a Yod that sits exactly on mine with his Aries Ascendant at 28 degrees sandwiched right between my Sun and Saturn. My Venus is opposite his Uranus/Vertex conjunction, and my Vertex is conjunct his North Node. We have many more aspects between our charts, but those are the most significant. And they are pretty significant! And I wonder if there was any chance that he is immune to the intense magnetism between our charts. Maybe with both Sun and Moon in Capricorn, he is extremely capable of controlling/hiding his emotions. I pray all the time to my Spirit Guides to tell me what is going on with him. I even reach out to his Spirit Guides and ask if they can clue me in. And meanwhile, I have to keep myself from getting too sad, or mad, or damaged by my fears that would sabotage my ability to be with him in the future should that finally unfold.

    Did I just write a novel? Lol, this was actually a pretty summarized version of the whole story. I hope things work out for you and your Cap. Will you keep me updated on your story here? At the very least, we can be a support group of two here as we navigate the murky emotional dramas. Hugs to you!!!

  10. VirgoChick87 says:

    Hey girl. Is there a way to send private messages on here?? If so send me one so I can give you my email. So my cappy actually ended up emailing me again the day after I posted here. So last Tuesday. He told me that he was doing a lot of job searching, and that we shouldnt email bc his current GF could access his email to post resumes. He also said he had decided that we could meet in person!! Yay!! Hopefully…if he keeps his word. Which he always has even if he was REALLY slow about it. He gave me his phone number, but told me to let him contact me first??! Huh?? Why did you give me your number then???? is this a test??!! Cause I might have failed it?? Or passed?? lol hell I dunno. So damn confusing. After a week of watching the phone (seriously) I sent him a text that said ‘…?’ about an hour ago. No response as of yet.

  11. Omg! Capricorns and their tests, right?
    But then the Ruler of Capricorn is Saturn, Lord of Tests himself.

    Well, he has agreed to see you. That’s a step forward. I’m sure he has been hesitant knowing the sizzle between the two of you! I’m sure he has been evaluating his feelings for his current gf knowing that being around you will be facing extreme temptation. Or maybe if he is just questioning everything, he knows that simply standing in front of you vibing it out will answer all his questions.

    I sure wish I had the opportunity to stand in front of mine and vibe everything out. God, I think if I was standing within 25 feet of him, I would have a fucking heart attack! We live over 1,000 miles apart, and he still has this profound effect on me! I can’t imagine how electric it would be up close! Lucky you to have gotten to experience intimacy with yours. That’s a bond I do not have with mine. When we met at a job, I was already pregnant and with the father. I’ve never cheated on anyone, didn’t believe in doing so, but I have strayed in my mind. IDK, some people think it’s the same thing and just as bad, but I think there’s a difference between thinking something and actually acting on it. And not to go off on the topic and morality of infidelity, but sometimes you can’t help feeling something, and our society is very good about making people feel guilty and repress their feelings – which can cause worse problems later. Anyway, there was something about this guy that intrigued me. I got as close to him as I could that would not be crossing any lines, which meant friends and I got hugs sometimes. Funny, he got with this girl and when she met me, she was convinced he and I were having an affair. We never admitted liking each other, but we could feel it. I guess his gf felt it, too, lol. Anyway, never told him until this year. Sometimes I wish I hadn’t because it’s changed our friendship. For the first month, it was like the Honeymoon period – we finally came out and were ecstatic that maybe we could finally be together after all these years! Girl, I was in Bliss! I was so happy that I had finally found ” The One” and it turned out to be my cherished friend that had drifted away over the years. It felt like the Universe had pulled us back into each other’s lives and now we had the chance to give ‘us’ a chance. Only we couldn’t just rush into each other’s arms and live happily ever after. No, we had to be over 1,000 miles away from each other and both of us unemployed and entangled in long term relationships. Could it be more fucking complicated?!!! Well, I suppose it could, lol. But this is enough! Seriously. So I don’t know that there is any way to PM here. Friend me on FB and then we can PM. I used my middle name here. My first name is Savine. I should be pretty easy to find I think.

  12. VirgoChick87 says:

    Hey girl. For some reason I cannot view your profile to get your last name on here?? Just friend me on Facebook! My name is Brooke Charlton and type in Alabama. Send me a message so I know it’s you? I just wanted to discuss some things I would rather not on a public board?

    I keep trying to give up. But I just cant!! Before everything he was my bestfriend, and I miss his dry witty sense of humor. The guy I have been with going on 7 years now is Aries. We aren’t compatible astrology wise. We arent compatible at all. He has a lot of anger issues which he takes out on me verbally and mentally. I have been in a physically abusive relationship…honestly I would rather be hit. Those wounds heal with time? We have been through hell and back. We lost a son who was premature, he lived 45 mins. After that I just wanted my baby in my arms. We kept trying. I had 6 miscarriages in between my loss and my Rainbow baby who will be 2 in September. I should have taken that as a sign. I have tried to get him to leave and work on himself. He won’t. Says nothing is wrong with him and that its me. He is always right. He is a narcissist.

    I know my crappy doesn’t want to get caught up in his feelings. I just wish he would let go of the reins just a little bit. But what he has is stable and secure. It’s been years since we spoke. But he is that person I can always go back to and vice versa. He doesn’t know that I could offer him stability and security also.

    He told me on the last email that he couldn’t ‘explain me away’ that his new girlfriend knew the ‘whole story’. I like that I can’t be explained away…but I wanna know what he told her??! Still no word since the text message? I’m going to whip out my tarot cards and try not to be biased which is so very hard when doing your own reading??

  13. Funny, I’m an Aries with a Virgo guy. I know all about the incompatibility between these two signs! I think the only way we have gotten by so long is that I have Virgo Rising and he has Aries Rising. It has been a firsthand observation how the signs differ in expression with Ascendants compared to Suns.

    I can relate to verbal abuse and that our issues “come from my problems and have nothing to do with him.” Ha. Yeah, ok.
    I sent you a friend request. 🙂

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