Waiting for a Capricorn to come back after a breakup
November 14, 2007 by Jeffrey Kishner
Capricorn is ruled by Saturn, the planet of delay, as well as success earned after years of effort. After a breakup, you expect Cappy to run back into your arms? Think again.
It doesn’t matter who ended the relationship. If you broke the goat’s heart, Cap will be even more cautious than usual about asking for another chance. Rejection only makes Capricorn try harder, but would any sane person try to scale the same barbed-wire fence twice?
If Capricorn ditched you, the decision wasn’t made lightly. This sign thinks about long-term consequences to any action, as well as how it will affect Cap’s reputation and social standing. A decision was made, and it’s likely to be the final word.
In the unlikely case that Capricorn returns to you — well, it could take months or years! Cap may not be as slow as Taurus, but the goat is much more serious. A thorough analysis of benefits and liabilities will be done before Cap makes any moves.
You don’t impulsively propose a merger of two corporations. The board of directors has to be convinced that the risk is minimal and that the shareholders will be happy. The deal has to pass muster with the Securities and Exchange Commission. This process doesn’t happen overnight … so in the meantime, keep yourself busy. Check out the Wall Street Journal — there are other healthy stocks you can invest in.
Comment below: How long did it take your Capricorn to come back?
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I am a capricorm woman, and i never got back to any of my relationships that i broke up with. It’s not in our nature to dwell in the past. One we move on we move on for good. We are highly confident individuals so we know that sooner or later we will meet our very own Mr.Right. So, guys if a cappie lady breakes up with you, that means it is time for you to move on.
well im a male leo .. a very lost leo because its been six months since my ex a cap left me.. because of my over cheating and lying that i used to do .. we when out for 5 years and im 21 and shes 18 now .. honestly i regret doing all those mistakes but i didnt mean to do them cause i was young and i didnt realize nottin.. now that she left me i realize so much and want to become and im going to become a better person.. i miss her so much and truly love her, i try moving on and seeing whats out there but im unhappy i just want her back but she doesnt want to know anything about me .. i just dont know if i should keep waiting or to truly move on.. also i aint mad that she left me because shes happy and she aint getting hurt but i truly love her and i know i change .. and i could become that men she always thought of me as.. but how long do i wait ..??? please someone help me
I am also a Capricorn woman and I have to agree with the other Capricorn woman’s comment. Once a relationship is over, it is over. I have never ever gone back. But I’ve never ended a relationship abruptly either. I place a great deal of painstaking thought into what I’m going to do, so when I make that final decision I’m usually at peace with it. I have never had any regrets and I love to move forward. Although I ended my last relationship it has been many, many years since then and I haven’t had or found anyone else yet, but in the beginning I just wasn’t interested. I was so deeply hurt behind the break up even though it was my choice. Now I’m ready to move on with my life and love meeting people. Just waiting for mr right to show up.
cesar,
To put it bluntly, you blew it. She ain’t coming back! Move on.
I disagree.
I had a Capricorn girl for 1.5 years. I am a Scorpio.
Let me try giving the bigger picture. We met in a club and it was a hot ons. I liked this girl very-very much, more like the “first sight” syndrome. Being a Scorpio, obviously I started digging (not nagging). I just needed to figure out every thing, know everything I can, and give her better than that (we are hungry for challenge and appreciation). Trust me; I can accept everything and anything. Even if she was a prostitute and I am taking her out of that; I would be ready. Only thing is, she should tell me so honestly.
But what I found was just too much. She tells me how much she loved her ex. He had to marry some other girl for some reason; even then she helped him to prepare for new life; she enjoyed every moment with her ex; she even met him few times after his marriage; she will seriously consider marrying him someday he divorces; in some intimate moments she would circle her fingers around my mouth unknowingly (her ex wears Vandyke type beard), etc.
I swallowed my continuous hurting ego for 8 months.
But then the bomb shell; no she was not “disappointed by men” for 3 years before meeting me, but just 3 months, and few other.
That was just end of it for me.
Why she had to lie? I still don’t know.
I loved her and hated her so much after that.
For next 7-8 months it was all her hard work which kept us going; I also kept on doing my duties as a bf (half of me didn’t want to let it go either).
Finally somewhere it just fell off.
I will admit that she was the best relation I have had, even though just one and half years.
Sorry for my bad story telling skills, but now my question will be;
Isn’t it true that she wasn’t over her ex for long after he was gone?
That means Capricorns are not “Once it is over, it is over”.
My advice to Capricorns will be; tell your Scorpio that he/she is the one who rescued them from the bad past experiences. But not literally though; we can smell the untrue. Impressions do better than words.
does this go for capricorn men asweel… my scenario (me = sag girl)..cappy guy asked a mutual friend for us to be introduced and for me to give him my fone number (i said no that if he wants it he has to ask me)and then he gave me his number.. after 2 days i text him and den he asked when he can see me ..things were okay from then on. it got to like about 2/3 weeks into knowing each other and then he started ignoring me.. and den out of the blue text me asking about me weelbeing and wen the next date would be. anyways this ignoring thing began to continue and den i decided to give him his own medecine and do the same which backfired.. we had an argument and den i didnt speak to me him until 2 days later..sending him an explanation message about my actions which he failed to reply to.. a further 3 days later i fone him…he was ignoring my calls…wen he finally picked up …he asked why am i calling him? (that HURT)…in which i angrily explained myself…to which i said i would call him back…he then again replied OH SO NOW YOU WANNA CALL ME BACK?… (That then just pissed me off)…i called him continuosly in which he didnt answer…i foned off another fone..to which he answered and said he was busy…i called the next day again he did the same thing ignoring my call and i called off another fone to which he picked up…we were talking and i kept saying to him if he didnt want to talk to me anymore…he could just say. to which he replied…i would tell you that i dont want to speak to you…if i decide not to theres no problem between us..we will pick up where we left off.. i said okay kool.. he said he would be free on a monday.,.. i said to him to call me …and see where things go .
that monday came and i never heard from him and havent since then…to which i heard the following wednesday from my FLATMATE..that at a party both him and her were at…he approached her to ask for her fone number…his friend has also asked mysame flatmate out previously aswell ..to which (according to what she told me) she never gave to him.
why would he do this?…was it his way out?…did he spite me?…was he lying?
As a cappi I was in a relationship for 7 years always trying to make it work or giving him the benefit of the doubt that with time he was going to mature. It took a long time but once a made up my mind that he just wasent the one I just left abruptly taking all my things and leaving him behind. To this date I dont want to talk to him,see him or have anything to do with him. Staying friends is not my style it is what it is. But its the best thing I have ever done!
i am a true capricorn female, 20. i just broke up with a capricorn/aquarius mix-jan.21. he was 3 years older, but much, much younger emotionally. it is true that a capricorn puts 200% into their relationship, to make it work, before walking away. in this particular case, it took me a month to figure out the heart of the problem in our relationship, and why i was encountering so many doubts. it was not a decision i took lightly, i took the decision of leaving very, very seriously and it was very difficult for me to actually come to the point where i COULD leave. for a while, i knew in my heart i had to leave, because we were not right for each other, but i was not able to let goo. and then, there came a time, after a month of fighting and the same problems reoccurring, that i just saw the light and found the strength to say it was over. and he did have trouble letting me go, but i made in clear it was over and there was no working things out, we could never go back and it was better off we were not together, and he let me go. and i can tell you, i will not go back. it was a painstaking decision to make to leave, but by the time i said, its over, i was already gone from him. i knew in my heart it was the right choice, because i thought things thoroughly through, and maybe one day he will be able to see what i saw-although we had our good times, in the end, we were bringing out the worst in each other. one tip if you’re dating a capricorn-control your temper in arguments. we like logic, not emotional, angry displays. if they tell you, after quality time spent analyzin and thinking about the relationship, there are things they need changed and need to see improved-really make an effort to change. agreeing is never enough. as the saying goes, actions speak louder than words. and if you agree and dont act, a capricorn WILL feel betrayed, angry and disappointed by you. so, respect them, their thoughts, and try to maintain discussions between them, rather than arguments, because they resent people who argue with them constantly. a capricorn, afterall, does love to be the Boss. if you respect them and treat them with love, i can assure you, you will have a partner who loves you as deep as the deepest seas, and the highest of mountains cannot keep them from being with you. they will always be at your side, through the best, and, more importantly, the worst of times. give them love, and they will give you life.
I am a Capricorn woman as well and as the other Cap women have said, I agree a 100%. We put a lot into the relationship. If and when we decide to leave, we put a lot of thought into it and consider the future consequences. And if an ex leaves us, we normally don’t go back. Ever. Once the relationship is done, it’s done. That’s it. We move on.
Now saying that, I have a Venus in Aquarius and I hop into relationships way too fast and end up losing interest rather quickly. But, I long to find my soulmate and marry him for life. Commitment is mandatory in any relationship. But, I am always afraid I’ll end up with the wrong guy who isn’t my soulmate. So, I keep searching. I am after all a romantic at heart. It is a curse to have venus in Aquarius, I will tell you that.
Anyways, there was one time I did go back to a relationship (on/off for two years) But then realized it would never work, so I put it in the trash for good (he was an Aries, go figure). A couple of years later, as of a month ago, I left a Sagittarius man (Venus in Scorpio) because he was emotional distant and always extremely busy. Would talk to me only once a week for five minutes, if I was lucky. It drove me bonkers, so I decided to leave after debating months on it.
I finally did and hopped into another relationship soon after, which I now regret, because in fact I actually miss my ex-Sag. I wish to go back to him, but highly doubt he will allow me to waltz into his life again. Sags do not forgive easily. I lost his trust the moment I left. And this is also the first time I have ever “wanted” to go back to an ex of mine, the other time I was pressured into doing so. I left the Sag because I was impatient and didn’t feel like waiting on him to put effort into our relationship when he didn’t seem like he wanted to, plus he lives four thousand miles away from me. So, the physical distance was a definite problem. We both agreed on that.
Anyways, depending on a Cap’s entire chart, for the most part, they won’t come back unless they really love you (even if they are the ones that left, which is very rare). Otherwise, they move on and expect you to do the same.
My Capricorn boyfriend broke up with me in a roundabout way. He kind of snuck his way out of the relationship because he was unsure of his decision, and for good reason.
He came back to me within three months. A lot of people were talking trash (his dad’s side of the family and his player friends), and while he defended me some, he got tired of it and grew suspicious. The issue was that I didn’t have a job (I’m a student) and we were living together. I cooked and cleaned and played housewife (only a temporary job, thank God) and he never had a problem with it. Then his family members started making fun of him for being “whipped” and letting me live there for free… AND told him that I was using him for a free place to stay and as soon as I got a degree and could leave him, I would. I had no idea that these thoughts were being put into his head, and me getting a job turned into an expectation that he secretly had for me. (Go figure, Capricorns don’t open up about what they need easily). Needless to say, I am no mind reader (though I come close), and we broke up.
Well, I am a devoted, caring and loving Virgo and he soon realized that what they were saying was untrue and that he had a great girl after all. It makes sense that they got to him though, because nothing scares him (or maybe, all Capricorns?) off worse than having to think that he is with a girl who is using him. Plus, he is someone who needs constant approval from the people he seeks it from, so their constant disapproval really messed with him. It didn’t help that we were fighting because of our miscommunication either.
The point is, they lost in the end!! I am the girl he has wanted to marry since day one of our relationship and without me his world was (admittedly) turned upside down. He came back full force and opened up to me about what he needs and now we are living in pre-wedded CapVirgo bliss
And (thankfully) he spends much less time talking to the toxic, jealous people in his life.
I am a Pisces, and if there is one thing that I ran into, in terms of my experience with Capricorn men…they have a really hard time letting go of Pisces women.
I don’t know if it’s because of our dreamy nature, and how we tend to flounder around in life, like the merry sailboat at sea, and the Capricorn insists on being the anchor and enforce some discipline in our lives.
Well, strangely enough, my best friend is also a Pisces. Her birthday is a day after mine, and we both happen to have Capricorn ex-boyfriends with Virgo mothers.
When my best friend went to school in another state, and tried to break all ties with her Capricorn ex, including the friend territory, that Capricorn was so persistent, and sent her text messages, and wanted her back in his life. When he even drove all the way out there, he even tried to kiss her, which she immediately refused and threw him out of her place.
A similar thing happened to me, where even when I went to the point to delete my myspace account, and took my Capricorn ex off of my friends list on facebook, my ex-boyfriend still sends me e-mails! None of which I bother to respond to. He even took my other myspace account that I can’t log into anymore, and put it in his top friends since I took the other one down.
Holding a torch or just plain creepy?
Even when we were in a relationship he would talk about the ex-girlfriend…I honestly think that the Capricorn male has a hard time either letting go, or letting go of a Pisces woman.
Unless they meet someone even more amazing in the future.
I am a Scorpio, and we are the people who might make ur life a living hell however its always for a reason. A dishonest person will get the worst of us but the bad part is instead of just finishing a relation we like to torture the one who gave us the pain. Anyhow I regret having a relation with a Cancer as they are way to emotional and lie about everything even though a scorpio can see every lie coming from them and still they keep being emotional and liars. I cannot generalize but then yea they r very emotional.
To every scorpio out there if u ever get in a relation with a Capricorn . . . do not mess it up. They r the best soul mates for us. We share every possible aspect of life and ambitions. I regret breaking up with a cappi girl long time back as I was a kid then and struggling with my career it was hard for me to address all the issues ongoing in my life then and she felt I was hiding something from her, but the truth was a motorbike accident had taken away my health and my career and I was struggling to make one while I was too embarrassed to be honest about it and things led to worse and I regret breaking up with her.
Though our ego’s are so big we never even approached each other for a second chance, I left the country and she moved to another city . . now I achieved my ambitions and feel so empty without the one I really felt myself with. If u feel u have that special someone, don’t mess it up because u r too young or silly like I was 6 years ago
I am a Taurus female that dated a Capricorn male. He was a capricorn almost to the TEE. AN alpha/dominate male type. We went to college together and we had the same circle of friends. We had no attraction to each other initially BUT the more we hung out the more we realized there was something there. I am the kind of person that like keeping our dating private. So we went on dates, etc. And one thing led to another. THe sexual chemistry was great!! We kept it under wraps for awhile but soon ppl started to see that we were Smitten and dating. Things went really good the first couple months. We spent a lot of time together. We each organized events at school, we had a lot in common. We had the same friends, were both in organizations, were both the oldest child of the family, loved the idea of having kids/marriage/family, traveling, making money, having a nice home. etc. I think he was really attracted to me because I was low key, kept to myself, take care of myself/appearance held my own, and had very strong work ethic. In the beginning we communicated well (in conversation and in conflict). We really understood each other and it felt like we could tell what each other was feeling and thinking without saying anything at all. I helped him with things/$$$$ when he needed it to show him that i was supportive, cooked for him, cleaned for him, etc etc. But i started to notice that the dating scenario wasnt at all balanced. In the beginning, we both were giving and getting. Towards the end, I was giving EVERYTHING and he WAS THE TAKER. MY MISTAKE..I WASNT EVEN HIS GIRLFRIEND. He was a social butterfly (which from what i hear most caps arent)? This started to get to me a little bit because He was over the top at social events. ALmost like he was always putting on a show. It was kinda turned off by this because I grew up in this area. He hasnt even lived in the state but a couple years. If anything, I feel I have way more STATUS (and it comes naturally to me) but then he tries sooo hard to get everyones approval. I dont want a guy that is POPULARITY AND STATUS obsessed. I kinda felt like he had an identity crisis or that he was fake. I KNEW THE REAL HIM IN OUR PRIVATE TIME TOGETHER BUT WHO HE WAS IN A SOCIAL CIRCLE WAS SOMEONE TOTALLY DIFFERENT. He was more interested in climbing up the college social ladder than he was having a meaningful friendship/relationship. So a couple months of bliss turned into a total disaster. he pulled a 360 on my ass. The man i thought I knew wasnt the one I thought that WAS. Like the other user stated, he never answered his phone when i called (and that is pretty bad considering I hardly pick up the phone to call anyone). I caught him multiple times with different girls. He would have parties at his house and wouldnt invite me or ppl that I was close with. In addition, I dont think he was completely over his wack ass ugly scorpio girlfriend that went to school back east. They were still doing that “we are best friends” “friends with benefits” type s***. She was soo jealous and con-i-vinG. I didnt even know her but i could just tell. If ANY girl wud comment on his facebook she would be right there, putting in her two cents. I knEw from the beginning i wasnt even going to try communicating with him that route. in fact after we fell out i deleted him from my facebook. When things didnt work out between us all he would do is blame it on me and say that he didnt want a girlfriend and how it was my fault cause I was tooo emotional. emotional? for wat? getting sick of being treated like crap? calling your ass out on being such a fake? idk Sex with me started out as very slow and intimate to later started to become rushed and outright disrespectful. I started to notice that he had a drinking problem as well. It just amazed me to see such a intellegent, ambitious man THAT I KNOW DEEP DOWN IS LOVING sell himself short and dipict himself to me to be such a selfish MOOCH, non committal, unloyal, coldhearted, distant, abuser, AND A HOEBAG. I really cared for him and I know deep down there is the man i fell for. I dont miss him..but i miss the idea of the good times we had and i wish we met each other when we were at mature places in our liVES., Maybe then it could have gone somewhere. TAURUS AND CAP HAVE AN AMAZING CONNECTION I THINK DEEPER THAN ALL THE OTHER SIGNS..BUT THEY JUST CANT QUITE GET IT TOGETHER. renee zellweger (TAURUS) WAS WITH JIM CARREY (CAP)DIDNT WORK OUT. Now he (JERRY) is with scorpio Jenny mcarthy. BLAH* THEY ARE SOO WEIRD TOGETHER…NOT MY IDEAL COUPLE..SORRY; NOW RENEE IS WITH BRADLEY COOPER (ANOTHER CAP) AND ALL I CAN SAY IS THAT I HOPE IT WORKS OUT?? BUT I THINK RENNEE WILL BE LIKE ME..SHE WILL GET WRAPPED UP IN HIM AND GET SCREWED OVER. WATCH MY PREDICTION WILL BE RIGHT! I really self destructed and lost control in this dating situation and i never want to do that again. CAPS ARE ALL ABOUT CONQUEST. WHEN THEY RELIZE THEY GOT U AND THEY KNOW THEY HAVE CONTROL they will cross boundries. Even though it may NOT be intentional and EVEN if they like you..they USE PPL. I really have a lot of hurt from this, but realize that it was a lesson learned. I pray about it and ask that i just forgive him b/c i know that even tho he caused me hurt that he is a good person. I had to remove myself from all of our mutual friends and seeing him for an entire year. Just recently iVE BEEN able to see him and be OKAY. Im not ready to be cool again. no hugs, hellos..nothing..we just arent there yet. If we get there.. coo..if not..it is what it is.. BUT NOW i hang out with our mutual friends b/c i will not let him have the power over me. I go out/party, talk to other guys, I HAVE goals to move away from here soon, find a good career, and just enjoy life. DONT GET ME WRONG THO..IT TOOK A YEAR OF ISOLATION TO GET TO A BETTER PLACE.I no longer have that feeling of my heart sinking to the bottom of my stomach when i see him. The minor tension is still there but the feelings have subsided. When we stopped dating, I noticed that I was better by myself. I graduated school and got deans list/straight A’s my last semester. Leaving a CAP alone and just moving on is the best way to go about it. CAPS ambition and rational outlook will only get them so far..if they cant put themselves in the shoes of others, they will struggle in their career and other relationships. especially in relationships, they like the hard to get, “unemotional”, “unavailable” types and those will be the type of women that play games, leave them heartbroken and SCREWED OVER. KARMA. IT will only make them more coldhearted then they already are. It wont be til they are 40 to get some sense! CAPS are overrated and get WAY to much praise in the zodiac websites. LIke all signs..they have SERIOUS ISSUES. i also had a boyfriend of three years that was a scorpio. In actuality though i think i am highly compatible with Capricorns. I just have to find the right one. BUT FOR ALL THOSE TRYING TO GET THE CAP THAT “GOT AWAY” BACK. LOOK AT IT THE OTHER WAY..HE SHOULDNT OF LET U GET AWAY. MY ADVICE: Building up yourself is the best revenge!
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I have an EXTREME interest in a CAP male. I am a Virgo female. He and I dated when we were 13 in middle school. Since the break up back then we’ve seen each other around through the many years. I am now 26 and he will be 26. We’ve gotten intouch with one another a couple years ago (2007)out of the blue he stopped calling me. Ive now this year touched based with him again, i asked him about why he stopped calling he said, because of our two different lifestyles and did not want to corrupt mine. However about 5 months has passed and he and I are still ok. We sometimes “whenever he has free time” talk about his life momments and things that he think about. We have really deep conversations… He told me he still likes me, but only wants to be friends. Ive had one of his friends tell me he thinks im too good of a girl and he also have said he wants to get his life together before becoming serious with anyone. We have been intimate and even though he mostly text and might call about twice every 2-3weeks. I’m always available when he wants me for anything. Even with the little communication he double checks if i am mad and he apologizes. I really want more from him, but want to keep my word with being his friend for the fear of running him off, but he assures that wont happen, but he at the same told me i shouldnt put anytime away for him either (talking about confusing). I have no clue what to do. I feel i likes me, but has NO WAY what so ever of telling if he does. I need advice from a CAP….oh one other thing, about the second time we were intimate, he didnt call me for a week and then text congrats u passed… I DONT UNDERSTAND WILL SOMEONE HELP…
To “NeedAdvice”
Check my first comment to see some history of my Virgo-Cap love story. It should give you some insight. My Cap is also a bad boy and I am also “too good” for him. However, he has known 100% from the very beginning that he wanted to be with me. Maybe yours does too, who knows? The only way you will find out is if you move on. You cannot let yourself be available to him because, if anything, it is ruining your chances that he will ever be looking for a committed serious relationship from you. As far as he is concerned, he gets to run around and do whatever he wants and you will just be waiting there for him. Sure, he might feel bad every now and then, but if he really cared he would stop playing these games with you. You need to let him know what it’s like to not have that caring sweet girl there to support him and wait for him. He’ll get a little scared and come to you with a proposal of dedication… or he will move on with his life and not care. Either way, you need to stop doing this to yourself!!!! It might hurt to be rejected in that way but you don’t want to try to wish for a relationship with someone who doesn’t want the same thing… that would be a much longer hurt, because it is a waste of your time.
Read He’s Just Not that Into You. It will help!!!!!!
Thanks a lot “AUD” I will try my best to not be so available. However he has thrown out a lot of tricky things that leave me confused..Every now and again he calls me friend, then baby, then sweety,sweetheart, and then friend again. He also thanked me for being so wonderful..So im am totally CONFUSED and screaming…but im afraid to walk away from him for the fear of losing him. Knowing that ive waited so many years for this 2nd chance, but then again if he wants me in his life, he’ll make sure im apart of it.. Thanks alot.. and I will read” He’s Just Not That Into You…and will tell what I thought of It..
Then again, I doubt I will have to read it. I’ll just tell him how I feel and how uncomfortable I am with, hope he remains my friend,and focus on my life!! You really helped me become more confident in this descision “AUD” thanks!!!!
I am a pisces virgo rising cap moon that had a 4 year off and on relationship with a cap cap rising cap moon. We have been broken up for almost 4 years now, and he just openly confessed his love for me. He swears that he thinks about me ever day and misses me. He can’t date and be happy because the girls he dates are not me. When we were together he was so COLD and distant. We shared no real emotional bond as far as I am concerned. Now he swears to have been in love and missing me for the last four years. Puzzling! absolutely puzzling capricorns. I would fight his confession but I have quite a few mutual friends that have told me all along that he misses me. I just can’t understand this. I think this particular cap forgets to fall in love until AFTER his love is long gone because I felt the whole time as if he were in love with his ex before me the whole time. Good luck dealing with these guys ladies! I know he is a good guy in there somewhere
My cap broke up wih me and was back within a week. He tried really hard the following week but is now back to his aloofness which is fine, sometimes he can be intense and I have learned that these breaks are necessary for the both of us. I just wish he would decide what the heck he wants and stick with it, my advice, patience and staying busy, let him know you can survuve without him and he will be begging you to come home with him.
“CAPS ARE ALL ABOUT CONQUEST. WHEN THEY RELIZE THEY GOT U AND THEY KNOW THEY HAVE CONTROL they will cross boundries. Even though it may NOT be intentional and EVEN if they like you..they USE PPL.”
“You cannot let yourself be available to him because, if anything, it is ruining your chances that he will ever be looking for a committed serious relationship from you. As far as he is concerned, he gets to run around and do whatever he wants and you will just be waiting there for him…….It might hurt to be rejected in that way but you don’t want to try to wish for a relationship with someone who doesn’t want the same thing… that would be a much longer hurt, because it is a waste of your time.”
Those 2 statements epitomize my relationship with my ex cap. He was also extremely promiscuous before & after me, though I believe he was faithful while we were together. He was the kind of guy that sleeps with all his female friends…. I never understood the type of guy that sleeps with all his friends, it seems so disrespectful to the people you’ve been with. He just expects everyone to be ok with everything he does, if you disagree you simply wont be a part of his life for very long. Dont be a “good girl” and try to show him that you’re devoted to him. He wont respect that (maybe unless he’s old) he only wants to chase, once he feels he truly has you, the game is over & he checks out, even if the relationship hasn’t ended yet.
Hello, all.
I’m beginning to fall for a Cap man myself. He’s not new…. only that we reconnected in July of this year after having not spoken for years. This is what I feel our relationship is like: short periods then periods of long absence. I met him in 2002 when we were really young (early twenties) and reconnected AGAIN (we’re 28 and 30 now…) Back in the day when we met I had isues with a guy I was seeing in the military… the man who did a number on me, and then married someone else. I met my Cap on one of those off periods wit the military guy… and we kept seeing each other over the years. In 2005, we got together for two weeks but I commenced arguing with him because I hardly saw him. I deleted his number. In December/January of this year we connected through facebook… he found me… and then I called him in July… we caught up, talked about getting older, and reminisced… then he started touching me… I said that if we were going to do it this time, we’d have to do it for real… m,eaning a relationship… he seemed to be on the same page… we kissed, which with him is always amazing and started necking. He came back the next day.. saw me.. said I looked scrumptious and said he missed me. I was like ‘already?” He spent the night, the said he had to go to the barbershop and said he’d call me later. When it got to about 7 pm, and I hadn’t heard from, I called him. He said he had gotten caught up with something for his mom at home. Oh, and he told me he is helping out his mom and some others financially right now. Then I didn’t see him for two weeks. Finally, on a Sunday he came to me… and whenhe did he had explained he needed to be away from home… that he came to me because I had said I could make him feel better and he had said he was going to give it a try. I was hurt b/c I hadn’t seen him in forever and I said, “Yeah, that was when I cared.” He made a motion to get off from the sofa and said he’d call his cousin. I said, “Stop being silly,” pushed him back on the sofa and straddled him. I then came clean to him. Before I had called him in July, I was trying the online dating ting and had gone on dates with two guys that went well enough for a second date. The second dates had been scheduled, and since my Cap wasn’t coming to see me and under guidance of my roomie, I went on those dates but found myself thinking about HIM so I knew I had to cut hose boys loose who were maybes even without him. I broke down crying telling him, that dating was a liberating experience and an empowering one b/c I got to make the choices. I’m really a serial monogamist at heart. I told him that these men call me and court me and it hurts when he doesn’t. He has said things like, “You’re a 10+ but I’m not going to jump through hoops for you.” I told him I had ended it with those guys because of my feelings for him. I didn’t even kiss those men on the second dates! I asked him if it would bother him if I were to continue, he said “Possibly.” Jokingly, I got off his lap and said, “Well, until that answer is a “yes” I’m going to continue.” Of course he knew I didn’t mean it. He was laughing at my retort. And I knew his “possibly” was the closest to a “yes” I was going to get. We’ve argued about him being slow to open up. And as time wore on, his first job at Dish Network went into transition where they are taking over the East Coast. That coupled with his UPS early hours job started killing his time. I t got to the point where he would call around midnight or 1 am and fall asleep on me on every phone convo. So I knew he was working hard. But resentment was building in me because I couldn’t see him… our convos were turning into hour long debates and arguments. He would say things like he wouldn’t spend th night with me on a day he had work the next morning… and I would be like why not? We hardly see each other! Why not make the concession? I asked him when I was going to see him again. He said he didn’t know and that if he knew, he would tell me. I asked him if I was going to see him before the New Year, and he said yes. I was like how can you tell me that but not tell me when it’s going to be over (the transition?( He said , “I don’t think it’s going to take until January.” So weeks turned into 6 weeks!!!! And though we spoke every day… which became every other day, then every two days…. I became more hurt. One last Thursday in the middle of September he stopped calling entirely. In that convo, he became aggravated and asked me why I turned every convo negative with my questioning. I also asked him if he was seeing someone else. He said no. I believe him. He keeps telling me he wants to see me… I’m like… so why aren’t yo here? Well, I haven’t heard from him since. I just recent activity on facebook on his profile where he is commenting to other people. I have called him, and last week I sent him a poem I wrote about us. I feel uncomfortable dialing his digits. I really want a real go with this guy. I am really upset. Because he stopped calling without any explanation? We were having resentful convos prior to the last convo, so I’m really confused. Any advice on what he might be thinking or what he wants? I’m remaining faithful to him despite the offers that have come my way. I want to wait it out with this guy…
I’m a Scorpio Girl & had the best relationship of my life with a Capricorn guy. We never fought,were extremely connected, always laughed, were together everyday, and treated each other both like gold. I knew him so well that I could even read his face all the time what he was thinking whether good or bad. We almost agreed on everything. He told me he loved me, that I was his soulmate, had our kids names picked out, etc. I could tell in his face though if I didn’t have the same opinion as him on a topic, he be wondering maybe she’s not the one. I would totally call him out on it & I would say stop thinking that. He would admit it & be freaked out that I knew. We were perfect for each other & our relationship was like a dream. But I’m not perfect as an individual and either is he. I felt like I went from being perfect in his mind to him questioning my every little stupid move. I could see it on his face & I’d have to remind him no one is perfect, but I was pretty damn close to it for him. I use to do that when I was younger find one little really dumb thing wrong with a guy & dump him cause he wasn’t the one. We got in one & our only dumb argument. It was emotional and that was it. I couldn’t believe it was over, still can’t just like that. I learned Caps don’t like emotion (Scorps are extremely emotional)& that you can’t even talk about the relationship after it’s over cause they will avoid it at all costs. I feel he treated me the best during the relationship, after it was over he has contacted me to see me then flaked many times. For me, I’m so sick of his crap. I realized to stop asking him about the relationship, even know I want answers very bad. I know he won’t deal with that. I act very friendly with him now even though in my mind I’m pissed & frustrated, because that is the only way to get to him. But I can steal hear it in his voice on the phone that he is scared to see me, yet he continues to ask me out every couple months then flakes. This is extremely hurtful, mean & childish to me. He says now that I was the best girlfriend, every girl should be like me, he knows he will never find better, etc. and he is right. We were almost the most perfect couple. But for some reason, he won’t let himself reconnect with me. DO CAPS EVER REGRET BREAK-UPS, Especially if they were over stupid things??? DO THEY EVER SAY SORRY??? I have said sorry a million times for my fault in the fight & my part was pretty much that I just got over emotional once. (Which is kinda normal for a lot of girls, at least once a month they are going to get emotional guaranteed cause of their monthly thing anyway). He has really hurt me after the break-up & he knows it. I have never gotten one sorry & we both know I deserve it. SO CAPS CAN NEVER DEAL WITH A GIRL GETTING EMOTIONAL EVER? I mean how do these guys get married if they can’t deal with any issues, because no matter how happy you are issues over the years come up. I trusted him so much, now I feel I can’t believe one word he says. I feel like now he just tells me what he thinks I want to hear just so he doesn’t have to deal with me. COULD HE REALLY JUST STOP LOVING YOU LIKE THAT & NOT EVER CARE ABOUT YOU EVER AGAIN??? I almost feel like the best relationship I ever had was fake & a big lie now and that’s what hurts the most. Also he is friends still with all his other exes who have treated him like crap & cheated on him. I’m the only one who treated him good and he still hardly talks to me and I don’t chase him or call him. Yet he always calls his other exes and talks about his relationships with them, etc. I don’t want to talk to him about other relationships, because we are not at that point but I did think we’d always be friends cause I thought we were extremely close. All my exes are mostly my best friends and even know we are not together anymore, I know they all love, care and respect me. With the CAP, I feel he doesn’t care at all about me, love me, or respect me. Yet the girls that treated him like crap deserve his attention??? It’s so annoying. Yea great I was his best girlfriend, yet in his eyes that doesn’t mean anything. I could see if I was stalking him or calling him all the time/chasing after him, but I don’t at all. We have contact maybe once/twice every couple months, sometimes him/sometimes me. But I just get the feeling that even know he only asks me to do something (& flakes), that he really could care less if he ever sees me again. I don’t get it at all!!! I feel like he made the biggest mistake of his life and when he is 60 maybe he will realize it. I know he is never going to find better than me & I use to think I wouldn’t either. But now it’s been a while & I don’t like how he treats me now, so I know I can find better. IS HE EVER GOING TO GET IT???
For any CAPS, iS There anything I can do or say to him to rectify the situation?? Is there any way I can get him to stop flaking and just at least see him? We really have had no closure at all & it affects my life greatly. I’m basically at the point of giving up. I never ask him to do anything after the break-up. It is always him asking me and then he flakes. I do want to see him very badly. I don’t tell him that ever, but I know he can tell I want to see him.