Anyway thank you Wulkure. Last night I decided to drop him a joking message, out of my surprise he responded back right away, said me he miss me like mad. But what surprised me the most is when he said "Ok, I promise I will try to change my behavior, you know it is because I want to be helpful and want to help with your problem but I wont try to help anymore if you don’t like"

I was really surprised, but now he is becoming distant, doesn't send so much contact. But I guess it's ok and I'm very happy it's for the first time I heard him saying about (trying to) changing at all.

thanks for your thought on my issue, it is hard to on my side as i do not have patience..remembered i discussed with him before we became official like over 1 month ago, i told him that my dad was not happy about the fact that i was dealing with a married man, and then i asked if we need to take a break until he resolved his issue, then he assured me that he will do it as soon as possible but not the moment as he was dealing with his mom's sickness at the time. then he told me that he needs to deal with his mom first..and then to create a little financial base…he kept repeating it to make me stay… then i listened to him but right now, his mom passed away, and he is working on his financial…but it seems too slow for me…i just do not understand why he needs to get his finanical secure and then push for divorce… i just did not get it , or maybe i am not a man or not a bull… it does not make sense to me…

i know he seems like that kind, but i think i need to work on my patience. i have been very patient with him and i can not imagine where i got those strength and patience to stay this far…as i am always on fire… we discussed last weekend and i told him that loving someone is not easy at all, he agreed with me..he said" love itself is a difficult matter.'
since my roomate was gone for a trip to italy, this home is all to myself now. he decided to stop by on saturday afterwork and then leave on sunday afternoon.. i will see how it goes.. hopefully there would not be any dramas then..
how was your bull??haven't heard you talking about him for a while…stable?

Your bull seems like the kind of Guy to commit, solely to you. However, I think that some of the drama pushes him away. Once the drama drastically decreases, you will see more of the bull. Remember, he is ultra sensitive. The more he is comfortable with you, the more he will be around you and he will push for the divorce himself. Remember, they are sloooooooooooooow to move. Try and be patient with him. Trust me, he will come around.

if you can remember before, i had a discussion with my boyfriend about marriage and moving in. i'm the type who holds onto promises. i told him if he's taking me for a ride, then there's no need to prolong the agony. i told him to set me free and we would both be happy. if i stay with him, he has to give me a reason why i have to and why he thinks he's the one for me. he made me a promise, and that's what i've been actually waiting and hoping for.

i was scared that he would leave and all the taurus disappearing act will happen to me once he does. you know how they are, "out of sight, out of mind." i told him my fears, he asked me how can he assure me. i just asked him to tell me i can hold on and everything would be okay. so he promised an engagement, something for me to hold onto, it will be like 1-3 years from now. we have an agreement that the latest time for me is 30 lol. cuz my family has history of having a difficulty in giving birth during 30's.

you just have to approach him with the right timing, with an open mind, with a calm heart. if he becomes defensive, don't flame it, let him talk and talk back only when he is done. whenever i do that, he cannot accuse me of nagging. cuz i keep quiet until i have composed myself. when i'm provoked, that's when i feel rage and i can't stop talking lol.

you can do it, but like i said, take it one step at a time, you just have been officially dating for him. for now, get busy with yourself and your career. if you can take care of yourself he will be inspired and do well in his job. his financial insecurity is the number one factor here. they tend to want all of the things they want in life done first before they could go back to you. that's why they keep you for now, they don't want somebody to have you while they do that. selfish, yes, but like what the things mentioned about them, you can trust them when they devote themselves to you. i guess your guy is just starting to realize that. just be firm of your principles and your wants. don't compromise if you think it's too much.