Why do some Aquarius women cheat?
September 27, 2007 by Jeffrey Kishner
An Aquarius wants the unfettered right to do what she pleases. Government and religious institutions only serve to squash her freedoms, and they must be overthrown! Down with the morality police!
Face it — rules are made to be broken, and who better to flout the laws of God than an Aquarius? If she wants to lay down with her neighbor’s wife, she’ll do it! Independence means more than being able to move out of your parents’ house and pay your rent. It’s about expressing yourself in spite of society’s rigid constraints.
As for the cuckold, well he ought to be liberated enough to be beyond antiquated notions of fidelity. Faithfulness is not about submitting only to your husband’s sexual desires. It’s about being true to your unique erotic impulses. To do otherwise is to court death, to be a caged bird yearning to explore the expanses of the heavens.
In a truly egalitarian society, we’d be able to sleep with whomever we want (consensually, of course). Is it any wonder that the dawning of the Age of Aquarius coincided with the Free Love movement? There are so many sexual opportunities in life! There’s nothing wrong with shacking up with one person, but why does the “couple” label have to have so many shackles?
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I am Aquarius sun, moon, rising, and I never never cheated on someone. I do not even have a desire to cheat. I am very loyal. My desire for freedom is not to have different people to have relationship with. That is so superficial. I have a desire to have a freedom to engage in work that I love. freedom to pursue my spiritual growth. etc
Are you sure she’s cheating on you? She might be expressing her freedom for a short period of time.
I’m an Aquarius sun/rising and I would NEVER cheat on a partner. I find it morally wrong to do so or even to associate with people who do so as well.
Aquarians are often seen as the sign of universal love and friendship to all. This means that we can have a large amount of guy/girl friends yet our loyalty is what keeps us tied securely to our partner.
I would never cheat. I would go my separate way first but try to remain friends. I would have to have some closure. I hate to leave things messy and I want to be friends of course.But what one most always keep in mind when dating the aquarius female. We’re beautiful, smart, charming, witty, friendly, sociable and out going. Which naturally attractds a variety of different people to us but if we’re with you. We’re with you. If your taking us for granted we’ll bring it to ur attention and kind of bargain with you. And if that does not work we will seek other options. I’m naturally just not a relationship oriented person so please make it worth my while : ]
I fell so in love with an aquarius erotic woman. Now that she married another man she reaches out to me for emotional support..the pnly problem is i am going through the pain again because she is lusting after another man and possible woman and never calls me .. I need to leave it be because she is married its just she is so hot..and so erotic..its all lust.. I must say Aquarius are the best at lusting and wanted to be lusted after.. hugs
Yes it’s cheating per say but, we are the type of women who loves the adventure of sex and taking control of our lives (no man will trap me). You only live once and I really enjoy flirting, lusting, teasing men who play hard to get, having no strings attached sex with men I’m extremely attracted too, having friends with benefits relationships while being married and somewhat emotionbally loyal when I choose to. Am i bad for being like that? My husband is a sagg and he is cleaver like many saggs at acting all innocent. I play the model wife role when needed but, stick to the motto out of sight out of mind. A lot of the men who are my friends I have had sex with and know of my husband (I invite them to parties why not they’re friends) although hubby has no clue what we were/have been up to. I can’t see myself being 100% faithful for the rest of my life. To me that would be hell.
I am an Aquarian Girl. I never wanted to get married. So I found it difficult to be tied down/faithful with just one guy. However, when I did finally end up getting married I found it as simple as deciding to be faithful – I was faithful…UNTIL he cut me off sexually speaking. Sex once every three to six months, for eleven years….no can do. I ended up having to divorce him.
Cheating is morally wrong and immature. Why be in a relationship if you’re going to cheat, Why not just be single? Aquarian Women do not cheat!! If you are a pisces-aquarius cusp…then maybe. Not me, I am an aquarian and we are loyal. When we say business, we mean business. If you want a relationship with an aquarius woman you have to abide by the rules of being loyal and loving to her and she will return the favor. if you are NOT loyal to her she will rather leave then to cheat, we have very high standards and cheating back on you will classify us as being a hipocryte and stooping to your level of deceit. nuh uh we are to good for that—too good to be true actually!
Aqua-Pisces cusp (I`m one too) I kno exactly what you mean, I have cheated on bfs in the past and do not regret it! whenever i had a bf I knew it wasnt like i was ever going to marry him (I am not being tied down ball and chain) so if i came across someone i fancied i jst went for it, Yes rather upsetting for him, and yes it is selfish but i honeslty couldnt care less!If i really likes a guy inwould not cheat at all, but if it wasnt a serious thing then i was always out drunk snogging a stranger…Look down at me all you like but I like to have fun! No boundaries, I`ll try anything! Yes I am wild and a bit eccentric but i lead my life the way i want. Ifi ever did commit and fell in love and he cheated, then maybe i would know what it feels like, But thats probably not going to happen, yes iam quite emtionally oblivious and emotions are confusing and ireelevant things that seem to get in the way!(Gosh dont i sound mean haha)
I have a sharp tounge and i manage to ruffle feathers everyday and I love it!
I`m not really a b**** though. I do have a nice side honest. I expect i will have comments 2 ridicule everything I have typed but hey everyones different, I know and acknowledge my faults, I am trying to mature and grow up! I am just enjoying life and oushing myself to heights not many people will tempt to go!
Nothing worse then being a sheep sticking to what is “socally right”!
So if her Bday is Feb15th and she is have struggles with her husband then there is a man at work that she meets up for trainings who wants her so bad and says all the nice things she wants to hear.
Will she sleep or have sex with him on the road? she says oh i dont care if he has a crush on me i am married..Then again she spends hours talking to this co worker and the lust is spilling out of her mouth .. makes me wonder will she cross the line.. I experienced the same thing with her a yr ago A lesbian wanted her so bad i know she spent so many hours on the phone having a romance with her. She admitted they became very close now that les is after her so bad because of that past romance and lust that she crossed the line with.
My question to aquarius-pisces cusp is have you caught any STD’s based upon that life style. Playing Russian Roulette in time that will bite one..
Actually the question i have is did you make a sex film with a guy.. I would say you have made a film.
This Aqua babe did make a film once SEX film with a guy that made her so hot making it.. Well she makes it sound like it was his fault and he became obsessed with her and she got the film back from him.. I know that is an aqua fantasy is acting out sex in a public risky place and making a film of there hot sex??
No point in cheating. Polyamory, open relationships, dating two guys at one time, that’s all okay because in those situation what is implied is that THERE’S HONESTY. CHEATING is different. It’s lying, its deceit. There are plenty of guys that are fine with dating you and not getting serious. As a girl you should be able to do all of the three above with no problem, esp. being an Aqua girl.
You are really all cowards. Sorry but this is true. You feign that you don’t need insecurity, yet most of you have said you won’t leave the nest until you see the other nest is open and that you can swing from one branch to the another without letting go of the first until you are safely in the other nest.
That’s so ridiculous. Just drop the ball and chain and be free and date/sleep with who you want.
Also, I see what Leo is the axis of Aqua. A lot of you sound just as egotistical, cocky and needy and controlling as Leos (shudder). It’s just the other side of the coin. Like a baby you need so much attention and emotional nurturance when you want it but then you need your space when you want it and when you fall in love with someone they should know its special…blah blah blah.
I have a lot of Aqua in my chart, esp. now, and I just find a lot of what everyone is saying as needy and annoying, kinda like Cancers (shudder).
Wow Aquariangirl you waited 11 years???!!! I couldn’t do that. I would have told him flat out I am having sex with another guy if you don’t start f*cking me and if he didn’t and I couldn’t for some reason get a divorce then I would tell him tonight its the night seeya going on my date.
Then again I’m never getting married so I wouldn’t have a problem with the whole needing to have the state break my contract thing…
PiscesLibraVirgo WOW when is your bday..I dated a Libra oct 15th and she at a snap of a finger ..F…another guy with no hold backs.. Her answer was well we were laying down next to each other how was i not to let him..haaa
Terrible thing is she has herpes 2 now. thank god she re married and staying obedient.
Its all about emotions and feelings.
I’m a Pisces/Aries. March 19. I’m a Libra moon, Virgo rising, hence my screen name. But its my Scorpio side that brings out the need for sex and honesty and being in only one pie at a time-even if that means telling people we are DONE, whether we live together/remain married for necessity or not.
But yeah that is the problem with people “running around” if they are not being rational/careful/clean about it. This is why Virgo is quincunx Aquarius. These two sign’s traits do NOT get along, I’ve seen it.
My Virgo side doesn’t get along with Aquas because they are so erratic internally that most of them have a mental reality and mental values that are completely opposite to the neat freak, health freak mentality that comes with most Virgo types. Even moreso than Pisces sometimes, since opposite signs can always draw from each other’s traits. It’s like Aquarian minds don’t even consider the types of things Virgos do, or if they do they ignore these things and think its not that important and get back to their erratic lifestyle.
There are ways to not get STD’s but it involves setting strict rules for yourself which are both Virgoan and Saturnine (but it seems many Aquas are anemic to this). It’s not just about deciding what you will and won’t do and contraceptives, there are actually medication/herbs that can prevent some STD’s if taken before/after or on a daily basis to boost your immune system.
Apparently also if you have the cold sore virus in your body you are like 70% less likely to get the other Herpes.
I don’t consider myself pisces cusp even tho i’m 2/16 bday but i’m aqua thru and thru. I will say this about cheating. for most of my life I never understood cheating. if u no longer want someone, get rid of them. if its (the relationships’s) time has passed, its passed and that’s life. quite honestly I always looked somehwat down on people that cheated as if they were weak, wishy washy, escapists, etc…UNTIL I hit my mid twenties. I was in a commited monogamous relationship for 5years. I never even SAW another man, almost as if men didn’t exists. my partner was my BFF, my lover, my soulmate. and truth be told it was a very volatile relationship that went on for 7years total (another 6 off and on afterwards) . but even still I was faithful…until one day, one more offense, and I just snapped. like a switch got flicked & all of a sudden there were men EVERYWHERE…and they all wanted me, flattered me, held me up on unreal pedestals. and yes. I cheated. as silly as it sounds it lasted three weeks. I was MISERABLE. I was confused. I went to leave my partner…not even to be with the other guy but just to not continue being dishonest. aquas aren’t trying to have their cake &eat it too. we’re not prone to actual affairs. that’s way too emotionally complicated. my partner asked me to stay & I did, but due to my inexperience at that time in life, months later, when my partner did something to further offend me on an emotional level, I just checked out. I hooked up with everybody that I felt moved to &like other aquas, felt no guilt about it. but I was smart enuf to forwarn myself &the guys exactly what they were & to kno their place. cruel? maybe. honest? absolutely. to this day I don’t feel regret. I will tell all men this, if you leave ur woman at home, spend more time voluntarily away from her than with her,there will be some other guy looking to pick up the pieces. vice versa too women! if u only see ur needs & NEVER validate theirs, there’s always a bitch around the corner that’s gonna make it allll better.
Ha thecountess, you are such an aquarian! I love it! Typical rational thinking. We are ahead of everyone else as far as logical thinking goes.
Everyone else go on and bash on us because obviously you don’t get it. You seem not to understand our point. Why is it that you are talking about us being needy? i don’t get it.
The topic is about cheating. Why do some aquarius women cheat? In actuality we do not cheat unless our partners have driven us out of love being that we are emotional abused, disrespected, etc.
Sometimes I feel like I will never find a man to keep up and deliver the same qualities that I have in me and if I do find someone it will never be a harmonious relationship because they will disappoint me somehow.
she loves multiple romances or husbands.. so were all lusting for her and she get hot..from it..I guess porn is in her blood
Countess:
I think it was clear that you were not getting what you truly wanted/needed from this guy. At least not ANYMORE. A lot of times people can get sucked in when they are in a wonderful relationship and lose track of what’s going on internally, even if the other person is a soulmate, BFF, etc. Did you ever date around much, or do what you’re doing now, BEFORE you got with this guy? Because 6/7 years sounds like ALOT. Maybe your body/mind/spirit realized that hey you needed to experience another way of relating before it was too late. Or maybe it wasn’t about the timing as much as the necessity.
I’m 25 and I could not be with someone that long. I just don’t think so. I haven’t had many relationships or dated much (due to the Uranus, Virgo and Pisces in my chart) even though guys ask me out all the time. My longest relationship was like 10 months. I think 6 years would be pushing my need to be alone/be with someone else/ or have a less traditional relationship (in terms of bring other lovers or sexual partners into the mix), unless we could find something else to occupy ourselves that is difficult, unusual, exciting or unconventional: like living in an obscure forest in New Zealand, or working on rebuilding a community or a with refugees, or inventing some new machine, or being nomads.
Hurtin Scorp, really that is WHAT SHE WANTS. So I think you should get over it. And find someone else who compliments you more.
There is nothing wrong with her needs; people have different needs. The only thing WRONG about this situation is that she lied to you.
Whatever:
Read this thread. There are a lot of needy people on here. They list their needs and then claim they are not getting what they want while they too are denying what their partners want by cheating. I guess they aren’t putting themselves in their partner’s shoes, and that is uncaring and selfish. Personally I think a lot of people are seeking something from someone else they should be providing themselves. FREEDOM, SPACE, LOVE, EXCITEMENT that needs to come from inside first, and from their own lives.
Here’s a major difference, I think, between a lot of Pisces and Aquas: Aquas say they don’t think they can find a man that does ___ ____ and more _____. Pisces BELIEVE they can find whatever. I’ve never IN MY LIFE thought I can’t find a man that fulfills all my needs. Actually I am pretty intuitive so I don’t need to waste my time with someone because I know right away if they can do this or not. When I change/they change then I find someone else who compliments ME.
It would be rational if you just like cheating, if the lying, the two timing, the thrill of doing something bad and getting one leg up on your BF/GF gets you HOT. That MAKES SENSE. I UNDERSTAND THAT (but no one on here has really said that).
But for those who are not getting what they want, in abusive relationships, etc. who cheat this is purely irrational. MY ADVICE IS TO STOP WASTING YOUR LIFE WITH THIS PERSON AND GO FIND WHAT YOU NEED. There is no reason to cheat BECAUSE you aren’t getting what you want from someone because its lying to yourself.
Truth is you’re not getting what you really want out of the people you’re cheating with PLUS the BF combined. That means you are still losing. I think some Aquas lack the belief that they can find this person who is extremely intellectually stimulating, can give them their space and at the same time emotionally provide for them and what else they want.
PISCES JUST BELIEVE THE SOUL MATE/PERFECT PERSON IS OUT THERE. We are not cynical about it so that is why we swim away and keep swimming away until we find this person. In the main time be honest to yourself and the other person, because when you are two timing you actually HAVE A LOT LESS FREEDOM. Which is why I don’t get why Aquas do this.
Whatever:
Also, I don’t know if the Cusp statement was directed at me or not, and I don’t know how much you know about astrology, but the Sun doesn’t go into Aqua or Pisces the same time every year. Those dates people list on astrology sites are just estimates. Also, if you were born on 11:00 PM on the 16th you could be more of a cusper than a person born at 12:01 AM. My Sun is at 29 degrees 30 Pisces, I am a cuspie.
If you believe in cusp signs, and some don’t, know that many astrologers use 2 even 3 degrees. It really depends on what you feel but from the way you write I’d wager that you are possibly on the cusp. You should get your chart done, if you haven’t already. It will also highlight aspects of your personality that go beyond the stupid inaccurate sun sign predictions. Like I said, don’t know how much you know about astrology.
Pisceslibravirgo,
You know as open minded as I am, you’re right I may be in denial. I’m a walking contradiction and who know’s I may be a cusp. Honestly te cheating part i don’t do, I rather end the relationship and be free to do as I want. I have been cheated on and It hurts me bad. To a lot of people sex is just sex, is fun, riske, etc. To me is an act of love and would only do it if i’m in a comiited loving relationship but then again i have done it out of pure attraction but mind you i was single. While in a relationship there is no other man i rather have sex with then the man i am with.
You are also right about wanting to be with someone that has some qualities that i lack (as you say needy) but isn’t that what a companionship is about?
I can see where you are coming from with your free spirited perception, being that you’ve never been cheated on, you don’t plan to marry, etc. I can understand why you are so independent in the way you think. Believe me I think the same sometimes but i don’t deny that i believe in fairy tales and i do want my prince charming just for me and only me. i don’t want him to cheat on me because if he does it means that he doesn’t fully belong to me. When that happens I move on. Hopefully one day i will and I will not ruin my chances by cheating on him only because i want to have fun, sex is not fun to me if it’s not with a special person I plan to build and give him my all and vice versa. How do you plan to find that special someone if every oportunity you get you use it to deceit them? Therefore i don’t cheat!
Pisceslibravirgo,
You know it’s funny you say i may be a cusp. I was born on Feb. 12 and my venus and mars are in pisces, but my moon is in aquarius so I believe that’s where my rational and stubborn thinking comes from. Since you know so much about astrology what more can you say about these placements?
AQUA woman detecting advice..
Okay I am still in love with a very attractive.. actually extremely attractive woman who married a man after 4months of sleeping with him. I feel in my spirits and known he is a bad seed. He doesn’t really work but closes a deal here and there and she slave works.. I am sure he is a player and have a hit on the side or maybe i am wrong and its her who is the problem.. Anyway she created a romance witha fellow worker. she talks to him ALOT i would say 4 times a week and sometimes late i heard the LUST in her voice on night.. I know the AQUA lust and i thrive for it.. Anyway a number of times i asked her about this other guy in a nice way and the answer is i am the problem.. and that she will pray for me as if i hve a problem..Well recently i never can get hold of her.. I sent an EMAIL and in the subject line it says ” The Secret is out” and in the body of the email i said and i have the photos. Well she called me 8 times missed on my cell and once at my house.. NOW THAT S RARE, she was in fear and paranoid worried.
Well Saturday she calls me an di pick up.. AND the fist thing she says is what is the secret and i avoid the questions.. again please please please just tell me what is the secret.
Well we got into it.. AND she became a scream rage maniac and blamed me for her emotions and never wants to talk to me.Well in the rage where she was talking over me.. WHEN I ASKED ABOUT THIS OTHER MAN ” Caught” she said later that i was assuming.. Well I went thru the identical catch in trouble with her a yr ago with a her aunts lesbian gf who wanted to get down her pants so bad. THEY SPENT HOURS OF ROMANANCE on the phone. and time together are there house.. UNTIL one day she was the lesbian being possessive.. of her.. and a light bulb went off when i said that is your aunts GF lover..we argued over if the aqua was bi would i be mad.. well no but the SAME ROMANCE LUST i was tomenmted.
IS this what this feb15th aqua bae is all about..the guy from work wants her bad.. and she said if he has a crush on her oh well she is married.. I did not hear her say what are u crazy im married.. It was like if we can keep a secret thats it.. when they meet up again on there company training trip.
I just wanted to confirm has she got involved with a lust fantasy with the guy from work. My take is YES and i m wondering how bad things are at home and would she go for it all the way. I want to put another spin in her head i want her to confess as she did when i cuaght her with her husband .. Haa i dig the worse secrets right out of the stump
Whatever:
Oops sorry whatever I MEANT THAT COMMENT TO COUNTESS. If you can tell me your birth time and year I can tell you more.
Venus in Pisces and Mars in Pisces, there are easy explanations for both. They can be found all over the net but one good site that combines all the best ones (I think) is scribd.com. Go there and type in “Mars Sign House Aspect” in the search box. It will take you to a document by Mesagirl titled the same. Type in the same for Venus, interchanging Venus for Mars. When you click on the document you can search for stuff. Type in Pisces in the search box for the document. Also you can look up all your other house placements.
THECOUNTESS:
Also, I don’t know if the Cusp statement was directed at me or not, and I don’t know how much you know about astrology, but the Sun doesn’t go into Aqua or Pisces the same time every year. Those dates people list on astrology sites are just estimates. Also, if you were born on 11:00 PM on the 16th you could be more of a cusper than a person born at 12:01 AM. My Sun is at 29 degrees 30 Pisces, I am a cuspie.
If you believe in cusp signs, and some don’t, know that many astrologers use 2 even 3 degrees. It really depends on what you feel but from the way you write I’d wager that you are possibly on the cusp. You should get your chart done, if you haven’t already. It will also highlight aspects of your personality that go beyond the stupid inaccurate sun sign predictions. Like I said, don’t know how much you know about astrology.
Hurtin Scorp, you are doing the Scorpio FIXED OBSESSIVE thing and really you need to stop. I know it’s hard, I have three planets in Scorp and in my 3rd house. When I get on something I can’t stop thinking/writing/talking about it. It’s intense and I want to probe all sides of it. I understand its hard to stop but
YOU NEEEED TO TAKE A STEP BACK AND
GET A PERSPECTIVE.
Okay, so just stop and let her go.
Think of the passionate, committed, all consuming, loving relationship you could have with another girl, this one amazing and beautiful, who feels just like you do.
I just want to again catch her in all of her lies. I really adore her and I hate when someone i was so good to lies right to my face.
She snared
She said some harsh things to me.. and knows I have all secrets.
How dare she use me.
@ whatever – i have read many places that aquas are notorius for feeling no one will really “understand” them and so sometimes they stay in some unproductive relationships becuz hey, there is a benefit in just finding someone you can stand for long periods of time! Also being not incredibly emotionally demanding or needing much from our relationships, we don’t EXPECT alot from our partners. This is not a bad thing. Expecting never made anyone do anything. Fear and motivation make people do things. Expectations more often than not lead to resentments. And also let’s face, no ONE has the SAME qualities we have to offer, not even other aquarians! We are so brilliantly mad that our uniqueness practically overrides everything else. However, we are the first to appreciate some odd or unusual quality someone ELSE may have and then set out stubbornly to incorporate them into our world. Not POSESS! Oh no. Incorporate. Possbily intertwine if we want to be poetic about it. Freedom must be preserved at all costs. CAuse really for us anything less would be slavery or concubinism in a way.
@piscesvirgolibra – i’m smiling on the inside at you because you so remind me of all the pisces I’ve known in my life, including the ex I cheated on. To a certain extent you are correct, I wan’t getting what I needed. But let’s face it, most relationships people aren’t getting what they need, simply because they’re looking for someone else to give it to them. Give it to yourself and you’d be surprised how little you actually DO NEED from a partner and how much more you enjoy your union. But my actual REASON for cheating, at least in my opinion, was simple lack of knowledge of how to handle my situation. The first time I cheated, I just got caught up in a moment and then let it progress by letting my ego get flattered where obviously after 5 years of a relationship, that doesn’t happen quite as often. Not to mention, you’vve aquired many problems that haven’t always been worked out correctly in that amount of time. This isn’t really anybody’s fault. Again it’s just lack of knowing what to do about things, inexperience. For example, my ex being the typical pisces would “swim away” as soon as things hit even what I consider minor bumps in the road. It took him literally the first two years of our relationship to stop packing up and moving out every time we got into a fight. MY BFF another pisces used to do the exact same thing to her boyfriend. And yet in your need to protect yourselves, I don’t know if your kind always sees the damage it does to the other person, especially if you perceive this person to be “stronger” than you in some manner. For me this behavior came across as someone who was unstable in their feelings towards me. Tho it ceased as we got older, alot of subconcious damage was done that still permeated the relationship well into later years.
As far as believeing in fairy tales and your perfect mate, you DEFINATELY sound like my pisces BFF. And it is very true us aquas don’t really lean that way. We’re more likely to think that concept is a little silly and impractical, but we do find it amusing and unless you impose it on us, by not accepting our flaws (as we all have them, aquas with quite a few strange ones)we’re more than happy to let you carry on with this fantasy and will even try to partake in it at times to actually BE what you want if its correlates with what we actually ARE…but only to a certain degree. it’s no much that we don’t want perfection, we are quite the perfectionists ourselves, but that we think perfection is actually IN imperfection.
And yes, cheating sevrly limits freedom which is why i don’t find many aqua women or men particularly prone to it. Sex for shear sexual gratification or better yet,experimentation, however, is a whole different aspect for us. And we know most signs don’t see it that way. Which is why aquas have a tendency to be single for such long periods of time. We know it is difficult for people to understand this and we really don’t want to do anyone harm. We are humanitarians after all. But in my experience, it does take a certain amount of experience and maturity to learn to balance these concepts so as not to honor these ideas and not emotionally destroy people in the process. Also, and again i’m just speaking my from own observations, aquas I don’t believe take cheating with QUITE the emotional impact as some other signs, especially the water signs. Not to say it doesn’t hurt us when it happens, but we do have a certain ability to detach from the situation, and sometimes, even understand where the other person was coming from if given enough time to process it all. However we can obsess and get stuck in our pain if we’re not productive in our constant analyzation of WHY this all happened in the first place.
@hurtin scorpio – i just want to pick you up by your little stinger and pat you on the head until it’s all ok. I’m currently seeing a scorpio, which has been quite an adventure considering how different our natures are. i know how possessive and obsessive you guys are. And I realize it’s just your nature. You too, like aquas, have to get to the “bottom” of things. Us aquas like to rise to great heights and look down and see how its all connected. Same goal. Two different motivations. Also being a fixed sign myself, I understand the compulsion, the inability to walk away from something even, and more likely, if it’s driving you insane. So i won’t tell you to let her go. Because I know you can’t. But maybe you could use some of your scoprio gifts to better handle the situation. I know you want her to admit, to be validated in your attempts to make her see the error of her ways and ultimatly regain your power that you KNOW what’s going on and are no fool. But you are obsessing and its not good for you little scorp. And it’s counterproductive. Do you have an art or creative outlet you can refocus this obsession on? Pour all that turmoil and angst into? Or have you considered getting your “ultimate revenge” by burning her from your soul, eradicating her from existence, making her NOTHING? She sounds very lusty, maybe your idea of her is actually more lusty than she is. Maybe that’s your attraction to her. Are you obsessed with a real person or your perfect idea of what you made her to be? Just throwing that out there. Either which way, she DOES belong to a sign that is not easily (or ever) posessed and whether what she’s doing is right or wrong, at this moment in time you will not have her fully, 100% mind body and soul like you scorps really want. Quite honestly, most aquas can only give two out of the three at given time I find. Part of us is always somewhere’s else it seems. But that’s an air sign for you.
Idk who was asking me about other planetary aspects. Someone mentioned mars/venus correlations. I’m aquarius in mars (as is my DOUBLE scorp) so very into the freaky sex. Capricorn is in venus and my rising. Kind of an odd contradiction in my opionion. Very willing and able to be sexually free and open but very conservative and cautious in actually settling down into a relationship.
My moon is in libra if that makes a difference to anyone.
Hmm I just realized my scorp’s moon and his venus are the same(saggitarius) like MY venus and RISING are the same. that’s kinda peculier.
@pisceslibravirgo – PS: you must lean more towards the aquarian side at times because your description of lenght of relationships and the strange conditions that must exists for those relationships to be so lengthy is are actualyl quite similar to my own. Before my ex, even going all the way back to middle school when i first started dating, I had a THREE month expiration on guys. After I split with my ex, I was amused to find the same rule still stood! I remember at at two months with my ex, I almost bounced and I told myself, “just wait until he does something REALLY annoying and then kick his ass to the curb.” And the weird thing was…he never did. And about a few weeks after that i found myself totally wrapped up in that dreamy pisces love, like nothing i had experienced before. But even when we hit our year anniversary, i was in shock! I think there were two reasons that relationship lasted so long. 1.) I think he was one of my soulmates, meaning there was something very important i needed to learn from him. to this day, the crap i went through with him totally sculpted who i am now as a person. Like true karma, the “bad” things I went thru actually made me a better person and my life, ironically, much easier. and 2.) Like i said it was volatile. There was always something to occupy my mind. some tragedy to overcome or some issue that needed to be fixed. Also due to the age I was at when we met, the specific years i spent with him were very formative years in becoming who you are as a person. Separation after a while became as undesireable as wanting to cut off your arm. He essentially was, and still is in a way, a part of me.
Now i have myself a very weird double scorpio after 6 years of single life. And this “relationship” has been going on for about a year and a half. And really, it’s only existed this long because the scorp makes sure to keep ALOT of distance between us, which is maddening and yet intriguing at the same time. And scorps are sooooo fun to analyze with their weird covert behavior. I freakin hate it and LOVE IT! But everytime he rushes in a bit closer, a bit longer, and KNOWING what scorps are like in terms of wanting to fuse with you and posses you, i get a tiny little but all too real panic, like “do i really want this? Can i give this person all of me? Do i HAVE TO give them all of me? What if i get sick of him? What if i wake up and just can’t breath when he’s around?” And the list of questions go on and on until i tell my brain to stfu and just go with it.
uugghhh…
Countess-
Yes I kind of understand your position more than others on here because you aren’t the “serial cheater” that many who have posted on here seem to be (for what I believe is no reason according to my ideology, which I’ve explained here).
About the swimming away thing…I think most Pisces know it hurts but alot of the times we give, give and give, and we’re not getting much back or back what we need and even arguments, talks, don’t lead to negotiation and compromise from the other person. So we just take off.
That’s the good Pisces. The bad Pisces can’t deal with anything and swim away as a way to escape. Some of them swim away because they can’t handle the emotions in a relationship or the need for commitment or the Libra type relating that relationships are so about. When Pisces relate, many merge into the person too much and find their need for space and alone time is compromised by their want/need to merge. Most of the time this is their fault and is internal but it doesn’t change the fact that it happens. There’s a conflict and the only way to resolve it is for the Pisces to BALANCE but that doesn’t happen.
Anyway this merging process freaks them out. It’s like a fish dying in murky water. They swim away to a clearer, more refreshing area of the ocean (which is all very similar to Aquas and why I don’t understand why more Aquas and Pisces don’t date, except when I consider how many of both signs are insecure and/or young and therefore many Aquas get scared and many Pisces too clingy even though that’s the last thing a Pisces needs).
Libra rules relationships because relationships are about balance, are about weighing ideas and tasks so that you two can function as a unit, yet a unit of TWO PARTS. Pisces is about imbalance, inequality and merging with a person, and finding the person that reacts and allows you to react without even having to speak-because they just KNOW, because they intuitively get you and all your needs and because in a way THEY ARE YOU, as they are INSIDE YOU feeling all you feel.
This does happen, as does the soul mate thing. I’ve known quite a few Aquarians that do believe in the soul mate. And when I said perfect partner I meant the perfect partner for a certain person. But you should know that Pisces, being the opposite of Virgo, sees what others call imperfection as perfection. What goes wrong is when Pisces are blind to other peoples faults to the point of delusion and those delusions cause problems for them and others. It seems that is more like what you are describing.
Also it seems like those Pisces you described were trying to make someone their soul mate or their perfect person, or idealize traits that weren’t there. That is different from what I’m talking about.
There are people that are right for you and people who aren’t. And people who are more right and more wrong for you than others. There’s real love and then there’s an incredible love that borders on, or is, soul mate or twin flame material. It’s the same with people who have never truly been in love. They don’t understand what the Pisces is talking about until they are hit with that arrow.
Countess @ your 2nd post:
I’m a moon in Libra too!
Yeah I am very Aquarian but I think that most Pisces have been hit with the Aquarian bug due to the Uranus in Pisces transit and also that Aquas have been hit with the Pisces bug due to the Neptune in Aqau transit. This mutual reception is amazing because these two signs, and the things they rule, can FINALLY understand more about each other. Uranus right now is going through my 7th house and will hit my sun next year. I have a 7th house sun.
Well I never dated until college-due to my family’s beliefs, but yeah after then I didn’t have long term relationships. Since I could remember though I’ve favored nerdy, brainy, ultersmart, genius types or eccentric types-I just can’t do dumb guys. This has made me look pretty weird to a lot of people (esp with one guy I was with who was 7 inches shorter, and quite frankly CRAZY) who think I should be dating the football player, jock, ultra tall hottie type which is sooo stupid. Then these people wonder why they keep meeting jerks and their relationships suck.
But yeah my relationships have all been pretty intense. There was a Scorp that was volatile. He just didn’t get it that I didn’t like him very much and we were never going to be together. Manipulated my beautiful fling type thing I had with a Aqua…anyway.
There was the Cancer (and I will not go back there again…..no more CANCERS GOD!!) who I had a okay home life, and amazing sex with but like you said with your ex, there was always some new drama or cryfest and he was soooooooooooo emotional and SMOTHERING!!
I am now trying to stay not only single but NOT in love with someone (or someone new since I am forever in love with my twin flame…but it seems this can’t really be helped). In the past even when I was single I was rapt up in wanting to be with another person that I couldn’t be with for some reason (sometime for years). I think this is because that’s all I had in highschool, due to my family beliefs. But also this is a Pisces thing. I really need to focus on myself. Its kind of hard being a Sun in 7th house and Pisces though. I think I’m meant to have serial relationships that are as intense as the lives serial killers must live.
I understand the Karma/transformational thing. From my chart it seems I’m meant to have karmic, transformational relationships, but recent transits have made me realize I need to stop and get grounded. Me and this new Aqua have been in love for almost 2 years now and we haven’t even ever touched. It’s crazy. It is so complicated I can’t put it into words but this person isn’t married but we’re not together. It’s the most frightening thing I’ve ever felt and it blows my mind to think what has happened and what I feel is even possible. I really think he is my twin flame. I know I swam away and I know he’s kind of confused about what happened but….its too long of a story.
I’ve been through such an intense transformation, its like the universe scooped everything out of me with a spade. I’ve cried and been extremely depressed and even suicidal at some points (Saturn is going through my 12th tho). I’m still waiting to see what will be put back in/what I’m going to put back in. I literally “DIED” this past year, that is what I feel. So yeah, watch out if your chart is prone to these transformational relationships.
I just want to bust her in her lies.. Im sorry Aqua girls but when it comes to lying i just feel satisfied on making sure your were caught.
haa
I was put through torture after 2 men , 1 lesbian , 1 husband and now her lover
terrible she is never happy.. There is a verse in the bible about the good samaritan woman John 4
13Jesus answered and said unto her, Whosoever drinketh of this water shall thirst again:
14But whosoever drinketh of the water that I shall give him shall never thirst; but the water that I shall give him shall be in him a well of water springing up into everlasting life.
15The woman saith unto him, Sir, give me this water, that I thirst not, neither come hither to draw.
16Jesus saith unto her, Go, call thy husband, and come hither.
17The woman answered and said, I have no husband. Jesus said unto her, Thou hast well said, I have no husband:
18For thou hast had five husbands; and he whom thou now hast is not thy husband: in that saidst thou truly.
19The woman saith unto him, Sir, I perceive that thou art a prophet
PiscesLibraVirgo,
You’re a pisces and crazy in love with an aqua. What is it about this union, I can’t explain? i have been with a pisces for a year and well i can’t describe the feeling that was brought over me so fast so soon. It’s an unexplainable force that unites us. why???????? i will never get it and yea i also walked away and i will never tell him how much i miss him and how much i want this to never end. It feels like a dream that i don’t want to end. Even though we broke up for two weeks now and agreed to be friends we still love each other but it’s a long story like you said. Words could never describe or put a title to this connection between a pisces and aquarius!
Whatever-
Yeah no kidding. I FEEL THE SAME WAY. Felt that way with the first Aqua I was with too. I would just lose time with him and the sex was INSANE.
But this Aqua….well if you see our synastry chart its OVERWHELMING. It’s out of this world. And I haven’t even touched him. I know if I did I would be done.
It does feel like a dream. Even now, almost two years later…I love him unconditionally, I feel like he is me.
Yeah I just need some time right now. It took me a year to sort out all the confusion, pain, and realize that the transiting planets had used him and our experience as a vessel for transforming my inner and outer life.
I know I will talk to him some time, but I also have more self work to do. I keep saying maybe in another 2 years…haha.
I think since you have some planets in Pisces that this makes a major difference. Your synastry chart could be off the charts. You should look into that.
You know, just last night i wrote a letter to him that I will not give to him. I just wrote it to pour my feelings out to him but don’t really want him to read. I don’t think we are ready so like you i am giving myself some time and I definately think he needs some time to learn or improve himself. It’s so ironic mostly everything you expressed in the above comment is like as if you read the letter and repost as from you (female pisces) to (male aqua). You know I’ve noticed that the female pisces feels the same emotion for the aqua man as the aqua girl feels for the pisces man. Weird!
Whatever-
Hmm, I’m not sure I get you. Cause wouldn’t that mean they feel the same thing as us? Or are you saying its a gender thing.
With my guy, its kind of like looking into a mirror. Even though he has different planetary placements our chart mirror each other a lot. For example, his Aqua sun is in his 4th and Uranus is conjunct my IC. Things like that. It does seem like he and I feel the same things.
PiscesLibraVirgo,
I guess what I’m sayong is that it could be a gender thing.
As far as the planetary placements I have no clue how that works.
I’m a man, Taurus sun and Virgo rising. What is going on with Aquarius women? Seriously, I want to know. I have not found Aquarius women cheaters per se. They don’t let it get there. No limits! They do not want to be tied down or confined in any way (that’s the line), but it’s funny to me how flighty they get when I am not even doing anything to try to restrict their options. Being like, “You can do whatever you want! I want to be a good friend and for you to be happy!” makes them feel restricted. It’s ridiculous. In one situation, OK I fell hard and wanted to know early where she stood on relationships and commitment, but in another it wasn’t like that at all. In both situations, the flighty behavior was the same. The only thing constructive I have to add to this is that you Aquarian ladies should try to figure out whether the other person is trying to tie you down or you are just having a knee jerk reaction that sends you flying to the next one, and the next one, and the next one, out of habit or just plain insecurity.
alot of it is knee jerk reaction. we “assume” if you’re into us you’re going to want this traditional relationship, which oten ask us to change things about ourselves we really dont want to or feel we should need to, that you’re going to want all our time, that the walls are going to close in and we wont be able to breath.
But on the other hand, we only learned this because its happened so often. i find, a little two steps forward one step back is the best way to go about it.
It is interesting what TauVirGuy is saying. Reminds me of what my Taurus Ex used to ask a lot…”what is going on?”…when there is nothing that is going on and I just get really puzzled. I wonder what kind of “flighty” behaviours TauVirGuy is refering to do. I find that “You can do whatever you want! I want to be a good friend and for you to be happy!” is not really restricting our options per se, it’s just not giving us an option either. If we were already happy doing whatever we wanted, why did TauVirGuy need to say that…
OMG… it’s so TRUE. I always find myself having erotic fantasies about every other man BUT my boyfriend; I never understood why, and my friends, none of whom are aquarius, couldn’t relate; I have cheated, and I hate being tied down. I regret hurting the people I love, but they have hurt me, in different ways. Is it an aquarius trait to bounce back?
Spell Hi..So what are you trying to say I adore two aquarius woman.. I mean im EFFIN crazy about them..yet THOSE secrets are deep..
So please share your secrets with us. You say you regret hurting them yet they hurt you..I mean I must say its so important to be healthy and not play get back .
My secrets? I have a horrible problem letting go, or at least I USED to, before things in my life sort of changed for the worse, and now I have grown up because of it. Before my dad was diagnosed with cancer, I was a very flighty, mysterious, aloof girl. You see, I loved relationships, but I hate hate hated being tied down, because i’d always end up wanting to go off and explore the male species. However, I could also get pretty jealous of any other women who entered my man’s life. My first serious relationship was with a Scorpio….as you can imagine, it was constant mind games. Very exhausting, but somewhat thrilling. I loved the chase, the scenes, the drama…
Now, I am not the same girl I was.
My heart has been broken, and i’ve grown up.
I definitely still need time alone, which I know men have problems with sometimes, or at least the guys I dated did…
But, now, I only want ONE guy.
c: did any of that help?
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spell wow.. im like wowed over you.. i am a scorpio my email is pcsgroup@hotmail.com hugs
Im a cap. venus aqua. mars libra my boyfriend is Scorpio venus sag mars scorpio. All I can say is I cant breathe. He is ALWAYS around. I think this led me to cheat with Aqua. He makes me feel alive.