Sun – Leo, Moon – Scorpio, Venus in Virgo, Mars and Ascendant in Cancer. I have experienced the same regarding love as you are feeling. Just talk to the girl as your friend and continue to see where it is going.

I think I find difficulty in converting a friend relationship to love. Do you get the same?

just cause someone is sexy, pretty, cute (scenario #1),..doesn’t mean you really like them, click with them, want to build something with them,…you just think they’re attactive and should leave it as that.
But when you are truly attracted to someone, physically, intellectually, emotionally, etc…I have confidence in you being a Leo that you’ll make the kill!!

I really appreciate your words for me. It opens my eyes and heart even though deep down inside me I realise that too. As I am getting older by day, I try to change myself and my view too. Although, it is not easy to change my negative side like in my previous messages. Perhaps, it is because I feel lonely. But I will survive =)

Regards,

L1onHeart

~Eme

Sorry, yes, you’re a Cancer ascendant and your Moon is in Scorpio. I was wrong but given those two signs, you’re even more intuitive and psychic than I originally imagined.

It sounds to me like you have it pretty bad. And there might very well be some very good reasons why she’s single. You are seeing her from the outside. What you see is not necessarily the way she experiences life or sees herself, do you see the distinction I’m making? This is often the case in human relations and it is a HUGE mistake for us to project what WE see with what the others experience. This is why we often see beautiful women who are convinced they’re hideous–they’re not always lying or trying to get our attention, you know. Some of them really and truly believe that. As a Scorpio Moon, you may already know that the way people experience reality is not necessarily what is truly real. Either way, don’t concern yourself as to why she does or doesn’t have a boyfriend or whether some other guy will get her attention. You’re looking at it backwards! Your first concern is to figure out if SHE is a worthwhile person to trust your job or your heart to. And you may not know this (nor she) for a very long time. I’m talking years here, possibly. And I’m talking from experience. I had to wait two years until I figured out who it was I truly loved. TWO YEARS and I’m a woman who’s nearly 40. And he knew and he waited. We didn’t even touch, not for puritanical reasons but bc we couldn’t. The reward is that now we really know who we’re dealing with. I know who he is and he definitely knows who I am. Now, we don’t know each other completely bc human beings are complex and you can never truly know someone else; but we have a pretty solid idea of the other–without idealizations. Are you getting what I’m trying to get at? The reward of waiting is that we both know how we feel about each other. We trust each other and we are incredibly grateful and happy to be together. Time has given the relationship certainty, solidity, depth and… an unexpected eroticism bc we had to wait so damn long! Even sitting next to him, fully clothed is an erotic experience. That’s a huge secret, lionheart, that no one will tell you bc few people know it: wait, take your time, find out who you’re really dealing with and what you feel and act only when you know 100% about how YOU feel. Also, think how beautiful it was of him to have the patience to let me figure it out on my own. That was so loving! No ultimatums, no tantrums, no power trips. I came to him on my own bc I knew that I loved him and by the time I did, there was no doubt in my mind.

Right now she may very well look wonderful but she may not be such a great girlfriend, who knows?

~Eme

Thanks for your advice =)

First of all my moon is not in cancer but in scorpio, I think you got it wrong there. Nevertheless, I agree with what you have posted. One of the reasons for my doubtful feeling, it is because I work together with her in same place so if we start relationship if it doesn’t work out it will be awkward for me if I have to meet her in work place. Over the years, I have learned that I am good listener than a talker. I also learn that I am really quite good at gathering information, observing, paying attention to detail as well as analyzing undetected. Therefore, I already believe I will do what you have posted about without you telling me as this is the only thing I am good at, I guess. We actually quite often eat together in group during lunch and dinner. Perhaps, we have it two or three times a week. So yes I think I have to learn her as a person not as projection of my mind but it is always difficult for me to do it though.

I guess it is good time for me to learn about my feeling too whether I am really like her or just my fantasy. As you know, it always hard for me to express my feeling to her unless I am really sure that I like her and she likes me too. This thing will put me on disadvantage though, as you know she may fall for other guys. I can say that she is outgoing person and many guys interested in her as she is attractive and charming lady (I still wonder why she is still single though it is not hard for her to get guys if she wants too from my observation and information). I guess this my negative scorpio moon comes into play, I got very intense feeling telling myself why I cant be a charming guys too where I can talk to her very easily or may be why I am not bla bla …..and at night I always have her on my mind. This intense feeling really torments me like fighting demon inside myself. It is not novel experience for me though I always felt like this in the past too.

In the end, I guess it is hard for me to change I still need to go slow as it is my nature and hopefully one day I really can find my true love because I always believe happiness will come in love. The question is am I fortunate enough to feel love?