How to tell if a Taurean man likes you
September 5, 2007 by Jeffrey Kishner
A Taurus man may be initially slow to express his affections, but once he acts on his feelings for you … you’ll know. Taureans are sensual beings, born under an Earth sign ruled by Venus, goddess of art, beauty and love. He’ll touch you with a sensitivity to how you needed to be treated — whether you’re firm clay that needs to be molded with insistency and penetration, or a fine silk garment that requires exquisite care.
Unlike many men, he knows how to pick a gift, having an eye for objects that bring you both visual and sensual pleasure. The Taurus man knows the value of money, and although he’s not as status-conscious as a Leo or Capricorn, he’s not unwilling to spend well on something that either lasts the test of time or makes the most of its limited lifespan. If your gift is not ruggedly durable, it will be heartbreakingly beautiful in its ephemerality.
Your Taurean may be of the more gruff variety — he’ll tend to your garden (wink), mow your lawn, and trim your bushes. But perhaps most importantly, he won’t give up. This fixed sign doesn’t quit until he gets what he wants — and if he covets you, he’ll persist with an admirable stubbornness that will either win you over or have you filing a restraining order.
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kemi you said about belly dancing then he said he knows some other belly dancing…..IS HE BEING TRUTHFULL????? or was he testing you again
or just saying that to get a reaction
as a taurus lady we find it hard to let go off people we have known for a while it wldnt surprise me if he will be back in contact..
but you have to do whats best for you. so if that means movin on so be it.. by the new year you will have moved on from him completly.
the only thing is he might come back and want to make a move.. as far as i know as a taurus klady it is hard for me to break up with someone iv had a physical relationship with iv felt really bad or emotional about breaking up with someone.
SO KEMI im not sure he wld of taken it lightly but im not a man so who knows xxxx
keep your chin up work on yourself and yo knowmaybe he will kick himself one day xxx
thanks everyone for your support, all the advice really helped me. I have a goal for myself and that is to not have any contact with him for the next week or so. Its going to be hard but I really want to work on improving myself. Ive always been confident, lively, and secure about myself when I wasnt interested in anyone. it seems like all that changed when I met him and I want the old me back. so I’m going to get out and get to socializing like I used to. I guess i got so bogged down with him because of college and work being the only thing in my life and him being the only person I could talk to about it. thats something that I dont want to go away between us and I do plan on talking to him again but only when Im good and ready. Until then its all about me and my pursuits and challenges. The first thing I did though was apologize to him for my moody and melodramatc way, lol, its that time of the month and my hormones are really insane right now. but im going to keep my word on not talking to him. We’ll see what happens.
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about your post about him asking if you want it or using him, mine asked me that before. it was funny cuz he’s the one who told me we were only hanging out, then he asked if he’s a chess piece i’d only play if i want to.
they are not good with making a choice. you have to lead them on but you cannot be direct, and you can’t show him that you’re so into him. he’ll be turned off. when we’re going out before and it was not defined if we’re only “hanging out” or officially bf-gf, my ex-bf started to contact me and would like to start over. i thought i have to make a choice if i want to go out with him cuz i don’t want to lead him on if i wasn’t also sure with myself. i then asked him if he wants a no-strings-attached-friends-with-benefits kind of thing or if we are dating exclusively. he asked me what i wanted(?) i have to avoid that question so i threw back the ball to him. i said, look..i can give you sex only, it’s good but if i’m ready to have a relationship you have to understand that you won’t be seeing any of me. i said that assuming he only wanted sex from me…i was able to get the response i wanted to hear…
he said, “i like you, don’t say that. we are exclusively dating. it’s just that it will take time for me to fall in love. i want you and i can’t bear the thought that you’ll be having sex with another guy anytime soon.”
after that, i just let him be. waited for that time to fall in love as i was also not there too myself. i like him that time but not too much to love him. he really surprised me when he asked me if i can be his girlfriend. prior to that, i held back and didn’t say a thing about my real feelings everytime he was asking me if i wanted to say something to him. as i was saying, they make decisions…but to go there, you have to make a bold move to lead him on but not exactly saying what you really feel.
to anotherariesgirl and others.
so yea, i’ve come to find out that i probably turned my taurus guy off because I showed him that I was way to into him. the funny thing is, I talked to my friend Kevin about him, and he told me that he’s had a crush on me for a while. . . wtf. so now that this has occured, im kind of like oh. Im not going to use my friend as a rebound guy but I’m definantly going to hang out with him more and see where things go and slowly get over my taurus crush and be his friend only.
so my cousin told me a story today about a man and a woman.
There was a woman named Lilian, and a man named Mark. Lilian started working at a business company with Mark and when she first met mark, she had a thought in her head that Mark was the type of man that she would marry and see herself spending the rest of her life with. She and Mark hit it off well and became great friends. However, Mark didn’t share the same feelings as she did and didn’t see her that way. Well, as time went on, Lilian slowly became depressed and soon she started to go to consuling to try to get over him. she even left the country for a few months to get away from him. eventually, she was able to get over him but knew she had to come back and face him. so she did. when she arrived, she tried to stay away from him as much as possible so that the feelings that she was finally able to push away wouldn’t come back. Then one day, Mark approached her and said, ” I don’t think I could go a day longer without being near you.” It was then that they got married soon afterwards.
So this is a true story, my cousin actually attended their wedding ealier this year in May i believe. The point of this story is to understand the fact that if there’s a guy out there that you like and it’s meant to be, then let it be. Let it come to you, never force it because then it will never be. If it doesn’t come to you then know that it was an experience that you won’t forget. Things happen in the time that they require, and I bet some women have been waiting a long time for things to occur between the men they like. but thats how life is I guess. And this comment isnt meant to be taken to heart by anyone. If you want to read and listen to the story I told then you’re more than welcome to. This story is more for me because as I try to get over my feelings for the taurus guy i like and slowly regain who I am as a woman, I need something to read and something to encourage me as I take a month long break from him and explore my horizons. I think I’ll be okay now
Awe crud.
This is just as I feared. A taurus man is just a tauruas man.
I am an uber agressive and independent scorpio woman-who is driving her taurus man crazy.
Funny thing I did not plan to keep this guy around-he was supposed to be just a….stress reliever so to speak. Sorry ladies, but you know we scorpios are the ultimate in sexuality…even trumphing the might taureans by far.
Funny thing that happened with him….and he got really mad at me! “Is that all you want from me…sex”! I did have to laugh over that one-come on…really?!
This guy for over 2 months keeps telling me he is falling hard for me. Lately after just a couple of drinks…tells me he loves me.
Yeah.Ok.
I like him…alot…as a person…as friend and a “F….Buddy”. It’s a good relationship as far as I am concerned. And truth be told sexually I really really like him…..the man has such stamina and primal ways-things I crave!
We scorpios have a real dark side to us….and low and behold he is not afraid to go there. Being as strong as I am…yes that does include physically…..he is stronger than me…which is really important to me in bed, and surprisingly vice a versa just as important to him-go figure that one out!
But we play hard….in and out of the bedroom.
Now he is changing the rules though.
He gets mad at me because I wont share my inner self with him…says I am cold as ice, and really mean sometimes to him….but that he is tough enough to take it. (Really?!…so why even bother to mention that if he is?)
But he can be similar to me as well. Difference is…it doesn’t bother me.
He like many of the taurean guys you all have mentioned here has ask me many a time-what do I want in a man. So I made him a list. ROFLMAO! Seriously….most of it was quite humorus….he loved reading it! But my biggie was Be real and dont play games without giving me the rules in advance. So far he waffles….a lot. He like to show his temper….so do I, and mine is way worse than his. He is afraid we are going to end up killing each other over it. But I assured him that he had no worries on that front, as he was not capable of beating me-LOL.
Could I fall in love with someone like him. Probably…if i let myself. But I do not trust him. My instincts are very very good-to the point of being spooky. He has problems, issues with himself….and I can overlook that, even help him with that. But the one thing I can’t get past is his selfishness. We talk all the time and damned near ever conversation is about him. Normally-I don’t mind-I really don’t want to share my self with him yet. But damn it if he is going to pull the “I love you” card on me and want to get that in return….or the possibility of that, I have to review EVERYTHING….and I am seeing things about him that do not please me from that perspective.
Everything is at his pace-which is a snails. To hear him talk-he is a fast mover at most everything-NOT! He gets aggitated with me, cause I am always on the move-says I need to learn how to relax-but I am relaxed on the move all the time.
It does not seem to matter if I might have any needs-which if I do, I really do not share those with him yet….but if he wants to go to the next level-he has to have the capacity to include me and my feelings in our conversations.
Hey-he chose to open up that door….not me.
I obviously make him feel really good about him self. And I think he is in love woth that feeling….not me. I just think he has not separated the two in his own head yet. And I dont want to get hurt when he finally comes to that conclusion….after I have invested my self in him emotionally.
He wants to know what it is I see in him. What is it I am so attracted to. I only tell him the things I know he will benefit from, and I tell him he will not get any more out of me at this time…..to go further would require “ME”…yes….me to invest myself in a relationship with him deeper than what we are now.
This just baffles him.
I am thinking that apparently there is not enough room in a relationship with him for all three of us….him, me and his ego. Although just him and his ego
We get into arguments lately. He being subborn, and me being willful-they are ferocious and long lived. And I always win.
Because thats what we scorpios do best.
He is learning this the hard way.
He is very frustrated with me at present, because I will not give in unless I get what I want-at all cost. It is just killing him too.
Well this last one, I wanted to know what his perspective was on us dating exclusively. Saying outright-I want to know what the rules are so I can play your game too. He wants to know why does everything have to be a competition with him? Just my nature I guess-either your a worthy opponent-or your outta here. I can’t respect him if he can’t keep up with me. And there is nothing sexy about that.
He felt like I was pushing him-yet he could not say it was an unfair question. So he says yes we are….and by the way…was that what I wanted? I never gave him an answer. Because I have not decided yet. And that stems from my lack of trust in him. And he has a love affair with what ever local pub/bar and grille is around at the moment-citing his need to “unwind”. I think he either is, or is becoming an alcoholic to be honest. And that is weakness. And I will not tolerate weakness.
One of the things on my “what do I want in man” list was….”So you have some bad habits-so do I….as long as they are not dangerous-you can most likely keep them and still hang out with me”….but it did not say I would fall in love with him with bad habits…dangerous or not. He would have to clean his act up and “BE A MAN” not a boy.
I also told him that I beleived him to be lazy about our relationship…if you want your garden to grow-dude…ya have to tend to it. He admitted he had been and apologized for that….and asked me to give him more time-citing being hurt badly before and being very jaded now.
Sounds like an excuse to me….smells like fear to me.
And I told him so.
Which prompted him to say “F..k You”….followed by him hanging up on me. To which my thoughts were….a bit cold…..”How immature of him….and unworthy of me”….”i have things to do, places to go, people to meet”…and so I did.
That was thursday, and surprisingly I have not heard from him since then….not even a text message.
Now….lets take a vote….should I just leave it alone and call it a wrap, wipe him off my feet and go on to the next guy, or be strong enough to swallow my pride and call him first this time?
@RowdyRaven, what would be the point of calling him? If he’s acting in ways that you wouldn’t/won’t tolerate and you seem like you just want to have fun, why would you call him? Let it ride. He’ll probably call, then you’ll have to decide what you want to do from that point. For you is it all a game; just something to do?
Precious,
At first-yes it was all just a good old fashioned hook up. Then friendship set in. Now he has is changing the metrics of that. I will not deny developing fond feelings towards him-otherwise we would have never become friends. And yes, I do care about him and his well being ect.-who wouldn’t for a friend. And it has been a lot of fun. Is it a game? No. I would not say it is a game, how ever, we did not go into this for a long term relationship-that was crystal clear up front, and his understanding of that was the only reason we continued the “hook-ups”. When he suggested hanging out….we had been hooking up…well every night for a month. So it did not seem like a big deal, but more of a logical extension of what we had already been doing.
As it turns out-we make for great friends.
Apparently this must be a die-hard clincher for Taurus men-cause not but two weeks after that….after a particularly heated “all nighter” in the sack (woohoo I love those!) came the admission of the “I am falling hard for you”.
And to be honest I was starting to fall for him-but I never told him that, I just said that was so sweet and that I knew he was, and that I really liked him too.
Then it was an almost every other day thing….how hard he was falling for me.
Like he was trying to convince me that I should be doing the same with him at his new pace. Talks about what a life together and children might look like soon started, and I allowed open discussion on the subject which went surprisingly well.
And on the night-2 months into all of this that I finally told him I thought I might also be falling hard for him, and then he did it….he sprung the “I love you” on me.
I don’t care who you are….or how cold you might think you are…..when you sleep with some one-yes every night for two months+ straight-and they say and do ALL of the right things-your heart is going eventually become open to them.
I am no exception.
I just have not voiced what I feel to him, the way he has of his own feeling to me.
Why you ask?
Because I do not trust him that much yet.
Oh but I trust him enough to have all this crazy good sex with him all the time?
Yes.
I took a chance. And damn am I glad I did! I took the bull by the horns and ran with him. I do not regret a minute of it either. If I had to do it all over again-I would not change a thing.
But-I am as willful as he is stubborn. And he needs what he needs. And I need what I need. Either we will meet in the middle or we won’t. To me it is logical.
And I think it all depends on just how badly he wants me.
I have heard it said that a scorpio and a taurus either make it or break it, and that it takes a really exceptional pair to make-because they are so similar….and hardheaded.
I will give some if he will. But he has to do it first.
He is always “testing” me, so here is his test….give a little bit….that will help build the trust I need to take the next step.
That might sound cold, but I will protect my heart at all cost-that is not a game. That is self preservation.
But if you have any suggestion-I am all ears.
Rowdy, I get everything you’re saying. I’m all for self reservation too; if you don’t look out for yourself, who will. I was on the other end with a Taurus, where he felt it but he kept hiding it. So I’ve asked myself the same question I asked you, why call, why bother, if you two aren’t really on the same page. In a way you are, but he just has to prove himself. And again, I totally understand. And being a water sign myself (Pisces), although I am emotional, I like to protect my heart too.
What would/could he do to prove himself to you; so that you’ll trust him? Even if it’s a little?
Precious,
Damn….you had to ask me that question didn’t you?
You know we scorpios are keen on our privacy, I did sort of invite that question I suppose. LOL
Well I guess that means that I do have to admit it…at least to a small degree that….yeah….I do love him.
Oh great. With those four little words I just opened my own door to heartache didn’t I?
It is strange not seeing him or even hearing from him since thursday now. I makes me a little sad-I was getting very used to him being with me every day/night.
I miss him.
What it will take….the proof I need, I might not get.
I need him to stop drinking every day.
Two reasons why.
Number one-I need to know if he has a problem-I do not need an alcoholic in my life.
Number two-I need to know this is real, and not some alcohol induced state of being.
I do not think that to be an unreasonable request.
But I am thinking it will start another fight-him accusing me of pushing/forcing him-when all he just wants to do is “unwind”….which sounds like an excuse to me to. Which may be where everything in the untrustworthy arena stems from on my end…..my ears keep hearing excuses….which makes me mad as hell. Which makes him mad as hell. Which makes me become enraged and furious for his trying to turn the tables around on me as though I am the one who did something to make him mad first-which is dead wrong. And then I get to be very dangerous at that point. And I will not give in. He finally gets tired and gives in.
Lately, it is this cycle. I will not tolerate that kind of behavior. To me it is untrustworthy-akin to trying to hide something. And I do not give him any slack….I hold his feet to the fire over it. And he does not like that one little bit.
But he always keeps coming back.
That is until now.
I was particularly vicious this time.
I think I may have frightened him a bit.
We have had plenty of arguements, but they have never lasted so long that we didn’t see each other the same day/night.
What he fails to understand is that the only thing he is accomplishing at this point is to make me even madder at him.
Time will not cure this-but only makes it worse.
I am scorpio. And I am vengeful to the core.
I am loosing patience and I will wash my hands of him and never look back.
I am hoping it does not come to that though.
as much as they like challenging women, if you are so hard to please, they’d be gone forever. not that i am saying you have to lower your standards for this guy. if you have a checklist of your ideal guy, then stick to it. compromise is an alien word to them. if you are officially an item, then maybe he’ll give in. he’ll look for someone easier to deal with, if it’s too much work.
Whether he stays or goes-I wish he would just hurry up and make a decision. I can’t stand all this waffling around. It is just so un neccessary. I do wish him to stay, but not at the expense of lowering my standards. The choice is his….which I got an anonymous call earlier…and they just stayed on the phone listening to me saying…”Hello”? So I am pretty sure its him-coward!
I am thinking he is trying to figure out to call me back and not get his head bitten off. I may…..give him a break….maybe.
Here is my list….he loved it and very frequently compares himself to it.
What I want in a man
Loyalty to me…to us-much like he would be to his best friend.
Respect for me as a human being and friend. I know this must be earned.
Someone who will appreciate my own unique talents-ok not all of them, just the ones that would be meaningful and notable and valuable by anyone’s standards.
Intelligent, curious and passionate.
Men are afraid of lots of things and that is ok, however he needs to be courageous, manly and brave when it counts the most-not 100% of the time.
I want him to teach me his version of “communication”-that way we can both speak the same language.
A take action kind of man is most attractive to me.
A man with some meat on his bones….yeah I do mean muscle. I would want for him to want to take care of him self-I don’t mean a fitness nut, I mean a balance that is healthy and normal. He is supposed to have a potbelly and love handles eventually! But when a man holds me in his arms, I want to be held by him.
A man with a high sex drive. I mean really-in overdrive. And some imagination. Definitely an aggressive nature is best. I am sick to death of having to initiate, and chase/catch them. I want a man both physically strong enough and brave enough to make me submit….and mean it!…..or at least make me want to submit. He has to be stronger than me. That is crucial.
Values-gotta have some values, beliefs, dreams, desires, hopes, plans, ideas.
He needs to have friends of his own, and not be afraid to make some new ones either.
A sense of adventure.
The desire to be a part of a winning team.
Focused.
Has purpose and direction in his life-long before he met me.
He can be dirt poor or filthy rich, as long as he is not stupid about money….no gambling junkie please!
Self motivated.
Outwardly-publicly charming is negotiable, privately charming is required.
Be a man…know what that means for yourself as a man.
Patience is a virtue that is nice to have, but not required.
Must have a few flaws. Perfection will not be tolerated!
Maybe having one creative bone in your body would not be a bad thing.
Talent-in the bedroom-if you are not already experienced, don’t come looking for me as I am not a teacher. I don’t want you to experiment with me to discover what pleases you south of your bellybutton-you are a grown man and should know your own body –with plenty of sexual partners already under your belt to know this. Only then can we learn together-that’s just my opinion and I’m sticking to it.
Other talents-outside of the bedroom-everybody has a few-know what yours are and hone those skills….know yourself as best as can be expected.
Someone who is serving or has served in the armed forces…it is a fact the armed forces helps build character in men. Just ask them.
Must embrace his own manliness….no girly men or metro sexuals allowed!!!!
A man who understands that too much humor is too much. A serious side to him is just plain good balance.
A dark side doesn’t hurt either…as long as he is not obsessed about it.
Confidence…as in self confidence….if they need me to help them build theirs-then we are both in big trouble.
Must like to have fun.
Must already know what he likes-doesn’t matter if I like the same thing or not-he just needs to have things he likes before we meet each other. And he needs to stick to them. He can add more new things if he wants.
Should be capable of making a decision all by himself-and within a reasonable time frame too.
The capacity for tenderness, sometimes being sweet and gentle with me works ok too.
A sense of humor-that is important, but it is also important that it stay in check and not lead him around by it. LOL
Must love and be passionate about music. He should have a favorite or two of genres, be also be open to most kinds of music, or at least tolerant.
No liars. If my ass looks fat and I asked-you have to tell me.
No cheats. Infidelity will not be tolerated even once….I have a lot of land in which to bury his body parts on.
Some one who cares enough about me to want to know how my day went, to take an active interest in my hopes, dreams, desires, goals, and yes sometimes even my problems.
He will share himself with me-because he wants to….not because he has to.
Must like the south…..the beach….racing, hunting, fishing-salt water and fresh water, hot summers days, trees and grass, horses, dogs, cats-are negotiable-but must tolerate them, traveling, staying at home, boating, motorcycles/ATV’s, camping, trucks 4 wheelers and big rigs, good comedy shows, a variety of movies, his own hobbies, socializing at least a little, good cold beer, bbq, at least 4 vegetables, himself, and me.
He should want to find out who I really am.
Doesn’t have to like my friends, but does have to tolerate them.
Jealousy is only allowed when it is appropriate.
He can’t own me until there is a ring on my finger. Even then his ownership rights are somewhat limited. Possessiveness is charming is small quantities….and within reason. That is a two way street.
Needs to have good sense. You just can’t fix stupid.
Also needs to have good instincts.
Self awareness is never a bad thing.
When a man feels like he may be falling in love-he should say just that with out fear. And likewise when he is sure he has fallen in love, he should admit it to me.
Some moodiness is ok, it is normal however-drama kings are not allowed.
Ego maniacs are a waste of everybody’s time.
Don’t ignore my request for information-even if it is of a personal nature….my question will not just disappear into thin air. If you don’t like my question-tell me why-maybe I am crossing the line by asking?
So you over analyze….so do I….all I ask is that you reach some kind of conclusion eventually.
Can you measure your own self worth? I can.
Bob Segers’ song-“Like A Rock” is a strong, beautiful, meaningful song-full of passion and transcendent of time….its an anthem for each of us…..if you think it is just a commercial tune for Chevy Trucks-you can leave right now.
We should be able to get along most of the time.
He should enjoy my company.
He is male, I am female-subspecies tomboy….and he must appreciate all that goes with that, and really like that about me.
If I tell him I’d rather have power tools for my birthday or Christmas, he should honor this. And he should be happy as hell that this is my nature…especially since he can borrow them from time to time.
I’ll support his hobbies if he’ll support mine.
Give me clue’s all year as to what he might like for a present at some point.
Have some kind of faith.
Do not be afraid of technology-accept it is a part of our modern lives and roll with it.
Be willing to learn new things.
Nobody likes continued education later in life-grumble all you want about it, but just ultimately do it.
Everybody has to go see the doctor every so often….bitch and moan, but at the end of the day-go get er’ done.
A little OCD are we? Ok-me too, just tell me how yours works and we’ll get along just fine.
So you have some bad habits-so do I….I have tolerance, so long as they aren’t harmful, you most likely can keep them and still hang out with me.
This is my space, that is yours….sometimes I need mine-just like sometimes you need yours. I will respect that of you as long as you respect that of me too.
I have a side to me I won’t show the world, but eventually I will show you. I expect the same in return….and when you do-I promise to guard that secret with my life.
Can you keep a secret? I can. If you can’t-I need to know this up front-before I share mine with you.
True violence will not be tolerated, I will kick your ass 50 ways to midnight if you make any attempts at this with me. Heat of the moment arguments are one thing, taking a swing at mean means I will take the gloves off and it will get nasty for you. Remember I am a tomboy-we don’t call the police-we just fight back-hard.
Understand that your intentions do count.
Everyone makes mistakes, most of them can and will be forgiven….2 that can not be….infidelity and intentional violence. All else is good.
Want me at least as much as I want you.
No headache is ever so bad that I wont want to have sex with you….return that favor please. That’s what they make aspirin for.
I like it when a man has different sexual moods….I can be as bad a girl as you want me to be and as sweet to you as you want. Just don’t pop it on me at the last minute….build the mood you want in advance-give me fair warning and we could go where ever you’d like.
I vow never to get bigger than you are if you vow never to get smaller than I am.
I want to love you, and that doesn’t come overnight…it builds through time, effort, and experience…and it comes naturally. So just kiss me and lets get started.
If you strive to be a better man, I’ll strive to be a better woman-then we’re both winners.
I am a bitch sometimes, just like you are an a******.
I don’t mind a fight, I really love the making up though.
If you want a Barbie doll, go to toys-r-us and buy one. Me personally I would rather have you than a G.I.Joe….your a lot more fun…and anatomically correct!
I like to drink beer, rum and coke, and shots of crown royal…sometimes just sipping a glass of crown, even a big old iced down glass of Baileys-any of these I get along just fine with. But don’t ask me to drink very much Tequilla, Everclear, Moonshine or Jack Daniels-they bring out my evil twin and then we will all go to jail….or the morgue which ever comes first.
I have good communication skills….my problem is that I do not easily share “Me” with just anybody….it takes me a good while to trust that to you, so try to be patient with me. Once I do you will wish I would just shut up.
I am not lazy. Nor should you be.
Call me by my first name, not hey girl.
Surprise the hell out of me by just taking me in your arms and kissing me…cause it feels so damned good.
I can feel your doubts and fears, let me be a source of strength for you, and the one you want and need to be there for you. I wont let you down.
When you hold me-do from your heart….let the world melt away and focus on just us in that moment in time…even if it is only for a minute.
Be real.
I don’t have all the answers….but maybe bits and pieces.
Fear, in moderation helps keep us alive and well.
I want to know what your hopes and dreams are….don’t you want to know what mine are?
Please, please, please, don’t be careless with my heart or my feelings.
I don’t expect you to read between the lines-I will speak clearly to you so you won’t have to.
I want you to make sacrifices for me-only out of the love in your heart though.
I got your back. You got mine?
Never do something that you wouldn’t want me to do.
I won’t embarrass you if you don’t embarrass me.
I would rather you be more frisky for me when your sober than when your drunk…hey I’ll take it when I can get it, but when your sober I can see the depths of how much you mean it. And that’s just way hotter.
If you catch me standing naked in the kitchen frying some chicken and mashing some potatoes, well….you know what to do. Oh the dilemma!
Be nice to me-please.
Remember I am a woman and I am supposed to have a gentle nature about me…..hhhmmm….me…well maybe not so much….but I am a woman….just saying try not to stomp all over my feelings….whether you understand them or not.
I will only make fun of you when you really, really deserve it. I expect nothing less than the same in return.
How are you gonna keep me on my toes if you don’t give me a hard time?
“Whether he stays or goes-I wish he would just hurry up and make a decision.”
then you’re in for disappointment.
sounds like one helluva guy for that long list
Actually….he is one hell of a guy.
So I am going to just have to give him a break on this one.
He called and he is on his way over here now.
Since he made his mind up-I wont be disappointed….this time.
I am outta here…..let the make up sex begin!
@Rowdy, you are crazy girl…lol. I luv the list. Long, but many important things.
“I want him to teach me his version of “communication”-that way we can both speak the same language” ….Good point. This would defintely make things a little easier.
So the great bull came back to me last night and it went very well. For the moment its all good. I plan to take it one day at a time with him.
I may have figured something out about him that might help someone else somewhere.
In choosing to be with him, I am coming to the realization that yes, it is my choice, and I will be merely along for the ride except for one thing….I get to steer the bull.
Its a nice quiet simple process really, he is the means by how we will get to where we are going, leading him to feel in control of the journey. However I am steering him on where he will be taking us.
Its kind of complimentary really, and because it is a team effort, and he gets the credit for getting us there-he is emensely satisfied, me too-because we did actually get there.
I saw several references to Taurus me being slow, or dumb, and since I do not have any previous experience with them, I wanted to ask-is that supposed to be one of thier traits? Mine is really very intelligent, and chooses his pace for what suits him at any given time. Personally when he does act “dumb” or “slow” at getting something, I sense that it is nothing more than a ploy….a means to an end-which is why I frequently call him out on stuff. And further more, I think he gets mad mostly because the jigs up-which in turn really does force him into admitting….whatever I called him on to begin with.
I call that a tactical maneuver of the physcological kind. A distraction from reality designed to confuse and buy time.
So-for me…for us….I just need to read between the lines, see what it is he wants to buy time for and be diplomatic about the approach…there by never having to call him out-and letting him know the jig is up, and making it seem like it was his idea from the start.
Utter madness! The lengths we will go for them is amazing. But if it works-then were both happy. And it worked perfectly last night/this morning.
At least we can be on the same page. I am curious about something…does a married commited taurus man keep the same predictable patterns forever when they are truely happy and satisfied whith thier lives? It is funny, but I sense a change in him now, a seriousness about “us” that was only half hearted before.
Can anyone expand on thier experiences of what this transition might look like in a taurus man-behaviourly speaking….when going from wild single man to exclusive dating….to a good measure of commitment to the realization and effective begining stages of creating his new family to married life well beyond these stages. It would be interesting to hear this if anyone has had this experience here and can/will share it.
@rowdy,
you might wanna look around for “naughty by nature” or “taurus guy.” afaik, they are the same person. he used to be married but had problems with his wife, which i think was because of jealousy issues.
i forgot which topic it was, but someone mentioned taurus men undergo different transitions during a relationship. one thing i have observed though is that they are all sweet in the beginning, they seem to fall in love faster but they might not admit it. they might say those 3 words when you least expect them to say it. they easily get bored but they hardly initiate a break up. they’d stick along for a while and they might test you just to regain their security in the relationship.
it is quite a job dealing with them, so i guess taurus men are not for the faint-hearted.
you are lucky that you two are just starting out. you can browse other topics and see the usual problems we got with these men. if you are still young and pretty, just go with the flow and do not take it seriously until you cross that bridge. i used to be in that spot but i had some personal problems that caused some issues between me and bull. however, we are trying to make our relationship work. overall, they aren’t really much of a problem if you are the type of person who likes to take it slow. they aren’t that hard to please but can be quite a handful if they have mood swings.
anotherariesgirl…..thank you….you are very very insightful, and I must admit….I do respect the way your mind works.
Funny thing you mention the still look pretty part, as I have noticed it seems unduly important to him, as when we are out an about he will pull me close to him an tell me how I get him all hot and how much fun it is to see all these other men just drawn to me/drooling over me, and they know they can’t have because I am his. I laugh about that and really kinda find it a bit superficial to tell ya the truth, but hey if it works for him-ok.
I have been looking around and I see what you mean about problems with Taurus men. Also noted many of your post…which is where my compliment to you comes from. Also several others who have some really great post-I like seeing the interactions you all have-it does make for good information actually. But-yes, they seem very “one way”….thier way or the highway! LOL That is why I am looking ahead, becasue he does seem more serious and really sincere…..I want to see what may lie ahead and if it is worth pursuing….or just a trail of tears….so to speak. But there is little there about this part. Seems most everything is from/about the singular male taurus 18 to 33 or so…..which is not really giving me the insight I seek. But maybe I am overlooking something(s) of great value….I need to check again.
I have noticed that you are totally right….the fall in love faster than I would have thought, and he had these “test” I had to pass-according to him. Woohoo-ha ha, I passed them. (That was said sarcastically by the way) So then he is the one who is all gung-ho and he expects me to be ready, willing, and able to move at his new faster pace in this. Whoa there taurus boy….you haven’t passed my test yet. What?! I dare to test him! ROFLMAO! Yep. Now I am the one with the slower pace, and he does not like that one bit. Yet my pace has not changed-his sped up and he percieves it this way-LOL. Now he is all worried about “my test”….which takes time. Talk about make him crazy…..I think he is at wits end, but he wont give up. And that to me is pure inner strength, and I am very attracted to that, so I won’t give up either.
Sick and twisted isn’t it?! LOL
Still….he has work to do to get me to cross that bridge….you know….the one he is standing on right now and waving to me to come join him on. He might get bored waiting on me, but so far he just stands there shouting at me, and jumping up and down on it like a little kid-LOL.
I think I may have seen these mood swings you mentioned, but I do have a question for you……do they tend to get deppressed every so often? If so, could they really need thier own space to fight it internally?-maybe that is a reason the disappear every so often? Maybe they have to be alone-or have emotional freedom to fight it inside?
Just a thought….but I would like to hear yours on that subject if you don’t mind.
@rowdy,
thank you and i’m glad i could be of help..even though i’m having problems dealing with mine myself lol
yes, they are drawn to pretty girls *cough* lol. but not really the type of “pretty” that most jealous women would consider slutty, if you know what i mean. i’m actually plain-looking but i dress a lot and i think they like seeing girls who are so feminine, trendy, and takes good care of herself. they like when other boys look at their girlfriends but as your relationship deepens, he might get jealous. first time my bf met me, i tell you, he asked for my picture to show to his friends lol. one time he told me that a coworker of his that i’ve only met through xbox live was asking when will they meet me. another guy overheard their conversation and he said, “___’s gf is hot. saw her in the hallway one time but ___ showed up behind her.” he said he’s proud to have a gf whom other guys think is hot. you’d get a lot of praise from them when it comes to your looks, but they also do like to hear compliments from you.
they go nuts if they cannot crack you. when i met my bull i even warned him that i am a complicated girl because i have radical views in some aspects of life. i think he even liked me more when i said that. he might try to coax you to say how much you like or love them, but i can attest that it is best to wait until they profess their feelings. if he feels like you can easily drop him or if you don’t care that much how many girls run after him, he might want to go exclusive with you.
about getting depressed, they are normally happy people and if they ever encounter a minor problem, he will try to hide it to you. my guy actually spilled some taurus secret, i asked him why he’s rude to me sometimes but i think if he’s with other people he won’t treat them the same. he said, once he lets someone in his life, he’s not afraid to show that person how he really feels inside. you’d know that he’s comfortable with you if he would have these outbursts while you are with him. however, when it comes to financial, career and problem with loved ones, he might prefer to be alone and deal with these problems first. they are afraid of showing their weaknesses as people perceive that they are strong, manly and happy-go-lucky.
dealing with them is really up to your preference on how a relationship should go. if you are looking for something really serious and for keeps, you need a lot of patience and understanding. you have to be open-minded but at the same time you’d have to set your limits. they are quite immature and sometimes you’d have to explain to them your opinion about life and love in your perspective, or other people’s perspective before they could understand you.
maybe you’d say that it sounds complicated yet i tell you they are not so hard to please. just imagine yourself having a kid, and you’ll get what i mean lol. yes, they are like kids…give them the food they like, treat them how they want to be treated, they won’t listen if you force yourself into them, somewhat selfish, etc.
so since you two are just starting, if you really want him to pursue you, you should observe him discreetly. if he tells you a story, listen and take note of it, especially if it is about his childhood or family. it will tell you a lot of things. find out about his favorite food, color, scent, movie, song, or whatever his hobbies are. i surprised mine on his birthday showing up with his favorite biscuits and gravy, wore clothes of his fave color, put my hair in pigtails because that’s his fetish lol, and i made reservations in a Mexican restaurant because he told me his birthday falls on cinco de mayo. he was surprised that i remembered all those things and he could not remember when he told me about it. you have to treat them how you want to be treated, most of the time they would reciprocate.
anotheraiersgirl…..as expected-your thoughts are fabulous! You are a veritable encyclopedia of taurus mans’ behavior! LOL
Being a scorp-it is true, he can not crack me, and it is driving him nuts too! But also being a scorp-I will take my time-because time is part of what it takes for me-so it seems that may be a good thing for him. And now his pace has changed-he says he loves me, and yeah-he is almost to the point of being pushy about trying to coax the same out of me. He is always on about getting confirmation from me that all I want is him and no one else. So I think he is afraid I will drop him and find someone else. Also lots of other women are drawn to him and tend to flirt with him quite openly, and him being a flirtatious soul, he will do the same back easily. As long as he does not chase after them-its all good with me-which is funny cause somehow it makes him want to show me he is committed to me in front of them. Madness I tell you-LOL
My taurus has that same rudeness to me, which i counter with a degree of smart assness back to him-most of the time he loves that. Weird huh. He is always on about how we have to communicate well with each other to avoid misunderstandings…which is to say-that is just an oxymoron when it comes to thes taurus men isnt it?! But I think you are absolutely right about explaing my perspective of life and love to him-when we argue it is becasue he did not understand where I was coming from. Then thru the argument and my explaining it to him-he then gets it. Unless it is something I want from him that he percieves as being pushed or forced into something.
The more I see, the more convinced I am that he is really only 8 or 9 years old inside-roflmao!
I do know what you mean about the stories he tells about family. He had this aunt who basically raised him. And she had really good values and was tough on him, but also very supportive and loving. He keeps telling me how much I remind him of her, and even thogh she is passed on, he says she would have really liked me becasue I don’t give him any slack and because I am tough enough to put up with him and take his crap. He makes these references and comments often. So it is not likely that I could miss one of them. But I like that he does this-because being a scorp-I need to understand his nature-what makes him tick. Life is much easier for me once I have this part down-becaue it becomes second nature to me, allowing me to focus on more pressing things. Like multi-tasking-lol
I think i may have been taking his telling me about him/family/friends a little less as a training tool for me, and more as a selfish thing from him. Maybe I have got it wrong. That he tends to recycle these stories often, I am thinking the message is in the story, and he must feel that I haven’t gotten that message yet to be repeating them so often.
One thing you said at the last…” you have to treat them how you want to be treated, most of the time they would reciprocate.”….it is the “most of time” part that concerns me. In many ways-when it comes to a relationship, I can see where he could be lazy, and I wont tolerate that…..well up to a point that is, but then if it is too frenquently this way I see it as a sign of weakness and that wont do for me-I am all about inner strength as well as outer. He knows this, and it is funny-like he does not want to let me down…or loose me…he really strives for this. Like if he was being lazy for a minute-he will try very very hard to make up the difference.
I always keep telling him that his actions will speak louder than words ever will with me. And he has done some really remarkable things to show me that too. Enough to actually impress me-which is hard to do. And I always go out of my way to praise him for this when he does….even long after-which he really really likes.
So if you dont mind my asking, what has you bull been doing that is getting the best of you?…I mean from your view point is it mostly a bad behavior or a lack of behavior? Doesn’t that seem to almost describe them…to have…or have not…to have or have not! (Rinse and repeat!)
that’s so funny — encyclopedia of taurus. i think you will only have to experience one or two, to tell their behaviors. to be honest i never realized that they have similar traits until i made comparisons between my current boyfriend and an ex who’s a taurus. then when i came here, i was like…oh my god, are we dating the same guy? are they twins or what? lol
about being a smartass, yeah they sometimes like it. just don’t be one if he’s in a bad mood or he’ll unleash all his anger on you. to communicate well with them, you have to be his best friend too. my bull mostly shares stories about him after we had a couple of drinks. sometimes before we go to sleep if we’re still not sleepy. again, like a child lol. after you bribed them with food, drink a back rub or scratching his back while you two are talking…he’d be more receptive to suggestions and your opinion.
try to learn tactics from the aunt he always tells you about. my bull’s mom like giving him goodies on friday. for him, fridays are all about having fun and getting his goodies from me. if he tells you he reminds you of his aunt, she’ll be the gauge of his ideal wife. i got it from my boyfriend. one time he’s having a hard time cutting the steak cuz he’s left handed and a bit clumsy. i had to cut it for him cuz he looked like he’s struggling and i was almost halfway done. he smiled and said, “my mom used to do that for me. she said i might meet a girl one day and she would cut the steak for you.”
about your question, i don’t think the exact words would be a bad behavior or the lack of it. i think it is his lack of judgment for bad behavior. since he’s a spoiled kid, he expects that people should cut him some slack on how he behaves. for him, his mom never punished him for doing such things that’s why i should cut him some slack, if not, tolerate his behavior. the problem is, you cannot tell him what’s unacceptable for you at first. that would make him think you are trying to control him. this is where me and my bf had misunderstandings. he didn’t know that what drives me mad is the fact that he doesn’t get what i was explaining. he thinks i get mad at him because i lose my control on him. it took a while before he understood me cuz he would always avoid “the talk.” he interpreted it as clingy-ness. i can compare it to losing composure whenever a child throws a hissy fit in public…and nothing could make him stop that you want to disappear on the spot.
i think that is the difficult part but i cannot think of a way to change on how to deal with it. because for you to have their heart, you must nurture this behavior. after a while, you’d want him to stop. he’s gotten used by your nurturing that he cannot understand why would you make him stop. if i compare this again to a child, it’s like breastfeeding a baby and make him drink from a cup as he grows. whatever those bad behaviors are, it really depends on your own definition.
for me, i’ve accepted the fact that he’s quite lazy sending texts or even giving me a call. we see each other on a regular basis and he used to come up here all the time. i told him i want some room for spontaneity and i don’t want us to get bored with each other. thus, i am tolerating this bad behavior of not getting in touch with me all the time. they might seem talkative but they don’t really have a knack in sending sweet notes regularly. there’s a couple of long e-mails he’d sent early in the morning whenever he wants to apologize. you’d be surprised with his revelations. they don’t write long e-mails and say something cheesy just to lie.
i’m curious why you say your guy is being lazy. in what ways is he being lazy?
anyway, i will reply to you tomorrow if ever you have questions lol. i’m on the other side of the world.
look ladies…Taurus men will Never physically hit u…its like walking on water (for me)…i havent hit any woman in my entire life….(used to fite wit my sis wen i was 10 and yunger)so dont worry bout tht….
the funny thing is…wen im pissed of at my gf…i get turned-on…the anger turns into hunger…i guess…and wht follows is really amazing…
Taureans r lazy yes…but only towards stuff they donot consider important to them….like for me…if i havent hit the gym on a particular day i will go even if its 12am and i have work in the morning…
Taureans will rarely say hurtful things to u…if he says “i miss ur ass” then he actually does miss ur butt and evrything tht its attached to… hehehe…whts rude bout tht??
dont expect feelings for urselves at any point in time from us…
we are DAMN lazy…y dont u ladies hit a farm…look at the bulls there…men r quiet alike…lazy…muscular (atleast i am) and not very tall…but broad shouldered…dont ever think tht just cuz we dont call or msg u means we r ignoring u…were just not the keep-in-touch-type…deal wit it ladies…
dont feel hurt or left-out wen u dont get a msg frm us on ur birthday…we WILL forget…and apologise fervently….
damn i dont feel like concluding this msg….heheh
“the funny thing is…wen im pissed of at my gf…i get turned-on…the anger turns into hunger…i guess…and wht follows is really amazing…”
arrggh…this is so true. my bf tells me how cute i could get whenever i get angry. he also looks forward to makeup sex. sometimes he’d tell me that he’s gonna take out his frustration on me…and i expect a rough and wild night lol.
funny thing, i always get that “i miss your ass” messages. he’d call me several weird pet names. like “lil s***,” “love machine/box,” “squirt” (go figure), “lil worm” (this i don’t get). it takes a dozen of names to annoy me but i just call him big guy and he gets angry.
Wulkure…
Please help clarify a few things if you don’t mind kind sir….
quote….”Taureans r lazy yes…but only towards stuff they donot consider important to them”
I think this is really a “man” trait, but it does appear that if that man is of the Taurus persuasion it is magnified a 1000 percent. lol
So the real question is….how does the taurus man work it out in his head and in his heart…to take that step past his own selfishness on this stuff he does not think is important to him?
Really it is selfish, and we all…all of us have that in us to some degree-but taurus man wears this trait like a badge-it is really profound in them for some reason….well I agree with you, I think the taurus man must see the value for himself to feel it is worthy of working on-no matter what it is.
So how can we (females) help to make it a “value-added” issue for “him”?
Also one other thing (question)…quote…”dont expect feelings for urselves at any point in time from us”.
Is this because there is little to no value in it for Taurus man personally?
If it does not benefit him…his self, then it is not important to him-right?
But it could be a pressing issue that he has to address-if he wants bad enough to keep what he has, which may bring on feelings of being forced or pushed-which he will probably resent-right?
So then how in the world does the taurus man get from doing the things he detest….like paying taxes etc….or anything he does not have personal gain over doing….like a chore of some kind….to actually doing those things he hates to do?
Just saying it is an intersting (and frustrating) thing to observe this behavior in the taurus man, and I bet it is something sooooo sinple we women just over look it outright. Something like ….these are the things I have accepted as “Must do’s”….I don’t like em, but I don’t have a choice, so I will do them. Then there are the…I don’t “have” to do these things…..and so…I am not going to.
Pure, simple, blatant, honest.
Doesn’t matter if it comes off as selfish to anybody else, all that matters is that ultimately it is his choice, he gets to make for him self, and that is that. No one gets to question his choices for himself-that is not thier place to do-they will just simply have to accept it for what it is-his choice.
Which if this last is correct, then the issue is really with us women and not the taurus man. He is what he is, and there is no way anything can change (or should) that. We will either accept it and roll with it, or we wont.
I think that anotherariesgirl really is the closest to having taurus man pegged, and her personality seems fairly right on from a taurus mans perspective-not so concerned with trying to change him or make him do something as much as just trying to co-exist within the boundaries of what both he and she will consider acceptable to the other.
And that requires an amazing inner strength from her….which I suspect her taurus man not only sees, but is highly attracted to.
Taurus man loves to be loved…more so than any other sign. So I suppose we should just give that to him and he will be happy. Kind of like a beloved pet…feed them well, care for them and pay them lots of attention/praise and do not expect anything in return-for if they choose they will give you something and you’ll be happy to get it when they do. lol
anotherariesgirl…..
Well….I went ahead and cut my Taurus guy loose this morning…via txt msg.
I have decided he does not have what it takes for me. I did wish him the best, and I do mean that-he really is a hell of a guy…..just he wont be my guy.
He will never be capable of meeting my expectations, and to continue to try really is a waste of my time…and his too. I would be foolish to try, and only setting myself up….and him too for misery in the future. That is not fair to either of us. So it is more humane this way I think.
I saw yet another post of yours-you are really quite an amazing person….and here is a quote from it…..”sounds unfair, right? but then reverse the situation. i guess people don’t really like dwelling on negativity. if you are depressed, take it out here, on other things and forget about love for a minute. then face him as a strong woman. he’s weakness would reflect upon him. either he’d see you as a catch or he’d tell you that you deserve someone better. my taurus even told me that he looks up to me when it comes to confidence in facing problems. doesn’t matter if i fail or succeed, what matters is the lesson that i would learn from it.”
This is sooooo insightful! Like I said-you truely are amazing.
You had asked me a few post back, quote…..”i’m curious why you say your guy is being lazy. in what ways is he being lazy?”…well it is more the culmination of a few things…
that he fails to see his own self worth
that he has problem with this and uses alcohol to numb him self
and….I am a strong woman, and that has refelcted his weaknesses back onto himself 100 fold, and he apparently does see me as a catch, yet he tells me that I do deserve someone much better than him.
He is being a hipocrite here in this last one. I get that he has self doubts, and my confidence and independence just magnifies that in him. I also think that it depresses him. He wants me badly, and all that I can give to him, but he also is jealous of me at the same time. A bit of a love-hate realtionship?
He does not feel like he has anything to give me, and wonders why I would be interested in him at all. I have told him-it is not what he can give me materialistically, but what he has inside of himself…who and what he is that he can give me, and that I want the most. Since he does not see his own self worth-he does not understand this, or beleive me. I can not help him with that-it’s a lone path he must walk to discover that one.
I am sure it does not help matters that I am financially stable, and he is not. Which matters not to me-and he knows this. But I also made sure when we started to continue seeing each other that he knew upfront-I was not a sugar momma. Who knows-I may have set the stage for failure right then and there given all I know about him now. It still does not change the way he sees himself-or did even before I came along.
My opinion is this…..if we actually did develop a serious relationship, it would most like be a toxic one for both of us. I am not perfect-nor would I want to be-how boring would that be! But he has real self-induced issues and his own problems that I can not possibly resolve for him-nor should I.
If he could heal himself, fix his own problems and come back to start-fresh and strong and true to himself-like the bull is supposed to be, maybe he would stand a chance with me. But not right now. All I can do is see his weaknesses and watch him suffer over them.
And that is almost tormenting me….as it makes me feel sorry for him. He is apparently too lazy to look into himself-recognize his own collateral damages and repair him self…for the good of himself. Even if it has value for him directly.
I know these things that have lead him to feel this way about himself-he has shared them with me. See-I did pay attention to his stories! I do not discount that it will be very hard work he will have to do on himself, but ignoring it will not make them go away or even any better. And certainly numbing himself to it all will not as well. He can not go on indefinately like this. It will wear him down to rock bottom-it is already this way and Mr.Bull-stubborn as he is-he keeps trying to fight it in his own unique ways.
He is drawn to my strength, and wants….no needs to lean on me. But I am not going to enable him to keep spiraling downward. Tough love.
He is going to have to hit rock bottom in order to pick himself back up again. And I wont abandon him, I will be his friend-a true friend. But I will not allow romantic involvement as a pacifier for him. If that means he will find another romantic partner-so be it. I was his friend before I was romantically involved with him. As his friend I do want him to have happiness-with or without me…..1st and foremost. I am not that selfish.
So anyways, while it is not the optimum happy ending, maybe the right kind of good can come of this in the long run.
Thanks for letting me vent.
hi rowdy,
lol actually i am too smartass for my guy. i do however believe that we cannot change a person, regardless of gender or sign. but like some of us women discussed in another thread, we think women are more open to compromise and we are flexible.
like me, i have some bad habits that i can’t get rid off. i am aware of it and i want to change it, but somehow i keep going back. one ex of mine complained that i am childish. he’s a leo, btw. i admit that i am, i think that is an aries nature which draws taurus men closer. my mom knows my habits well, so she knows how childish i could get when i become impatient. the leo guy pointed out that behavior but i learned how to deal with it through my taurus. my bull is also child-like, so my dominant-self takes over whenever he behaves that way. how can you expect 2 kids to lead a relationship anyway? LOL
i have read an article, which is not totally related to astrology, but it tackled about communication in a relationship and psychology. i would try to find it sometime and post it here. it says more on parenting our “inner child” and becoming emotionally-separate. this is somehow in conflict on how the bull wants to be treated. bulls like their “inner child” to be taken care of their partners. if we don’t, then they refuse to trust us. before i read about this article though, i find myself sometimes how to deal with his inner child.
for example, if he tells me, “you look beautiful.” i know he’s trying to flatter me but when he tells me that all the time, i sense that he’s waiting for a similar validation. i tried saying, “you look good on your shirt.” he didn’t like it and became insecure. then when he told me again how beautiful i look, i corrected him. i said, “thank you. i know, i am beautiful.” lol, maybe you’d think, what an airhead. but when i changed my response to that, he asked me if he also looked good. you know that is equivalent to a girl asking, “am i fat?” and a guy can’t say yes to that.
sorry if this adds a bit of confusion. my message is, if we remain confident, sensitive but not too overly-nurturing with the taurus men, they will in turn gain their confidence and will be able to give us the attention we want. we do not need to over-analyze our actions and behavior towards them, as the relationship would become too mechanical, like following a clockwork. i think this is the key to a great relationship though, may it be with a lover, a family or a child. we must learn to validate our own feelings first, face reality and then share ourselves to others.
going back to taurus men, like i mentioned before, i’ve dealt with a taurus ex. my experience was quite different from what i have now, though they share the same traits. my ex is older, i was still young when i was with him. i was 21 when i met him and was 23 when i left him before i came here in japan. he was all into me. given the chance, i would swap the same situation with him but with my current bf’s persona. i never did the cooking. the only time i cooked for that guy was on his birthday. i was more lenient but still somewhat immature when i was with him. he took care of me, introduced me to his friends and family. everyone thought we would end up together. he was also kinda lazy when it comes to sending me messages or calling me. he’s always late. what really turned me off when he began slacking off with his career, until he became a bum…and kinda don’t wanna do anything about it. so there…you see, i didn’t do anything special. his friends actually think i was a bad girl for dumping him but his dad knew the real reason as he tried to reach out to me. took him a while to recover, at some point he became suicidal and obsessed.
the similarities that i have experienced though is, when you start to ignore them or when you’re emotionally content with yourself, they begin to chase you. this will not be visible while your relationship is still transitioning from getting-to-know-phase to dating exclusively. this would become evident when your relationship deepens and he might be considering on stepping it up a notch. if only my ex was secured career-wise before, i think we’d have 4 kids by now lol.
yeah, i guess the issue here is with us. they will eventually mature if you show consistency of handling situations under pressure. stay focus. if you lose control, you still stand a chance.
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i posted my first response before i read your succeeding post. that’s all right, girl. i have a strong feeling that you know what you want. you don’t have to feel sorry for dumping him. just be there for him as a friend.
if you have sensed in my first questions with you, i tested you about how you really feel about this guy and asked your ideal man. i wanted to know if you’re up with the bull-chase. this is about you choosing your path. this is about you knowing what you want to have. if he didn’t even meet 50% of your checklist, you’d just end up changing him in order to achieve your ideal guy. i have a shortlist compared to you though. the deal breakers with 2 ex-fiances were — 1) he has no ambition to improve his career; 2) he is a flirt and a crybaby
i think your confidence that drawn him to you reflected his weakness. sometimes, they do see us as a competition. my guy would sometimes battle with his insecurities though he doesn’t show it to me as he knew i do not like crybabies and weak guys. but i interpret this as a strength on further improving his condition rather than let me go with some other guy with probably higher qualifications. but hell, with my career i cannot find that guy. i’m asian and most asian men i’ve been with are not used to women being ahead in the career department. most guys i dated mentioned that they want me to stop working if we get married. i can’t stop working. working is my distraction and my sister depends on me.
my current bf has no issues with me working but he has this misconception about my job. i am in the IT field and too geeky for a girl. i play guitar, play manly video games, i drink like a guy, i cook and almost do everything by myself lol. my guy thinks i am a jack of all trades and he equates working in tokyo for an IT company as something spectacular. i told him, it’s all in the title. any job can be spectacular if you enjoy it and you learn all the secrets about it. with the recession going on in the US and his friends back home all getting married and stuck in their town, he thinks that what he have now is spectacular. you know what made me feel great? he said recently that, “i am proud of myself. i have a nice apartment because of my hard work. i have all the entertainment and the nice flat screen in my living room. i am here in japan and traveled some places. but what amazes me until now is that i have a great beautiful girlfriend who’s also making her own money.”
so i guess, if they have all of that, they are ready for anything. he didn’t realize he has all that until i pointed out how happy i am with my job even if i ran into some problems.
so sorry with the long posts lol. wish you luck rowdy. give us an update if you find your guy, even if he’s not a taurus.
Wow Rowdy…ur all serious talk….
well much as i run away from the serious issues of my life…i eventually end up facing them….
ahh man this is gonna be a long answer….
ok let see…have u ever tried to teach something to a lil kid?? do it…and if u succeed…try followin the same techniques on ur Taurus man…
ive said this a zillion times…picture us like actual bulls…if you shout and scare us…we will run like hell ( possibly trampling over you) into the safety of our forest and will close our minds forever frm tht particular topic….
Talk to ur guy softly…tell him u are being mature and r treating him liek one…donot go all gogogaga on him….dont pamper him….dont ever treat him like a kid….he will take the easy way out and his excuse for ignoring ur wants wud be “hey anyway im not capable of handling any of this so to hell with it”
Talk to him with a str8 face…tell him its important to have a happy union…to be compromising….
U kno the BIGGEST problem Taureans have…Change ( ive had to change myself soo much for my family tht i dont recognise myself anymore in short….ive become a bit less selfish)
To change ur man will be like operating on him with out knocking him out….yepp the transition is tht painfull…we completely reject all changes….
and TBH…( man my herd is gonna disown me for this) if a Taurean cares for u…he Will change for u…i care for me ffamily so i listened to them and changed somewhat…but for any of my gfs….nope ( my true Taurean came out for my girl/s…hehehehe yeh im evil…guess thts y they nevr last long…makes sense….)
will answer ur 2nd question lat8r….
Aaaahhhh..Taurus men I swear!
Wulkure…hey dude….man thanks a lot for the advice.
Seems he is doing this whole “change” thing all by himself….I try to cut him loose thinking it is best for both of us, and he does a 180 on me-go figure. He just wants to stay with me. Apparently I must have gained his trust and become that comfortable thing for him he wants the most, casue he is really going out on a limb….even by my standards. I asked him tonight-what did you groqw a new set of balls or something?….he laughed and said….”yeah…something like that”….”you’ll see, now you gotta trust in me”.
Funny thing is I think he really means it.
Well, we shall she what all this is about I guess.
hi rowdy,
i hope that you read one of my newer posts in the topic “if i back off from taurus…”
reason why i want you to take a look at it, i remember you said that your taurus is workaholic and he drinks, maybe because to forget his problems.
well, i’ve learned that they really do worry a lot. by a lot means they are carrying the whole world’s weight on their shoulders. their laid back and outgoing personality is only a disguise.
i got my boyfriend to open up more about himself last saturday. i learned a lot, and things he never told me before and now i understand where all his insecurities come from. he kept a hidden anger to his sister and her husband during the times his mom died. they had problems regarding money and wealth that his mom left him. according to him, his mom gave him her house since his sister (half sister) is already married. but she didn’t have a written will, so when she died, she wants to get half of it. his sister did all the paperwork since he joined the navy. his car, house and almost everything he was left with were sold, but he hasn’t received any money until now. i asked him why his sister did that. i mean, he was an average joe back then and the least she could do is give him the money to start over by himself. he said, “yeah! thank you for agreeing with me!”
i think he’s trying all his best to prove them wrong and at the same time please me. he’s working hard because he knows that he’s got no one to turn to if the same thing happens again. he said it felt good that he was able to get out that heavy feeling on his chest. i told him, if i only knew why you are so paranoid, then we won’t be having all this argument. so little by little, we are working on his fears lol. his main concern is to get an advancement in his job since he might get kicked out if he doesn’t advance in a number of years.
i promised to help him review with his exam. i’m trying to get him into motivation. i think there are two kinds of them. they all worry too much but there are ones who overwork themselves and there are ones who just go with the flow who ended up like losers. i think if i had not told him about my taurean ex, he won’t be showing as much effort to look responsible in my eyes. i also noticed that he often asks for my opinion about him being responsible and achieving all of what he has now through his own efforts.
if this guy you are going out with would just keep himself on track, i would say that you’re the one who would bring that change in his life. because if not, he won’t be running after you and asking you to trust him.
gotta agree with anotherareis ….again….
actually…a bull wil very rarely go all out and not give a rats-crap about work and life in general…as long as we have sme1 to rely on….we will be so careless tht the world can perish and we wont even blink….but soon as the bull is solely responsible for his/her chow….watch where tht takes him…evry Taurean ive met has gone thru a major setback , a shock tht brought him to his senses and out of his stupor….
if there is any community tht remains high with out drugs…its the Bulls….
heheheehhe…we r ALWAYS in a world of our own….taking our sweet time to get stuff done…..including sex, ladies……( u never complain about tht huh???)
“as long as we have sme1 to rely on”
– hmmnn wulkure, so by this do you mean, you guys really use people as long as you can use them?
@anotherariesgirl, I think they do use people as long as they can. But of course they don’t look at it that way. In their eyes it’s being there whenever, whereever they need you to be; regardless if they’ve been “gone” for weeks or months. Just jump when they say jump. I’m sure it shocks the hell out of them when it doesn’t work that way. (IMO)
so i think prenup is the best way to go with the bulls huh? LOL
it’s just sad they often learn the hard way. my bull already learned his lesson, but the annoying part is he became a cheapskate cuz he knows he cannot rely on anyone lol.
are bulls often momma’s boys? my ex is a momma’s boy. my bf, only if his mom’s still alive, i think he’d never leave her side. i’m just wondering if most of them are like that.
Anotherariesgirl and Wulkure….
Actually it is him going out on a limb in his work and his personal lifestyle to prove to himself and me that he can/will get the impossible done. And him trusting me…..he calls me for help-advice etc. The economy sucks and it is a bad time to try to switch jobs…but a great time to buy his own 18wheeler-his own business. So as hard as he has worked-life has been working against him-you know.
He has been so worried-wracking him self to find a way to do this. (yes I think drinking a lot to cover it all up for the time being)
There are ways, but it really requires being very crafty and patient right now. Also being extremely focused on dollars spent versus dollars saved-which can be very very hard for him to do-because it means he has to cut out anything that is not strictly for survival-like food….but he can cut out alcohol as it is not a necessity-that really kills him too-lol.
The part about him changing is in this last-he is changing himself to take advantage, where is before he simply would not budge.
And since he always felt he had nothing to offer to me, he is wanting me to be patient with him while he gets this done…wanting me to trust in him that he can get this done. Make sense now?
RowdyRaven
did u get the comment I left on the Scorpio Kink page?
yes and peinfully accurate my Precious….we dont use u…it just ends up happenin tht way….
but yeh we bulls have it the hard way in life….cuz this trait is inherent to Taureans…
but its rare tht a Male Bull relies on any female for any of the necessities of life…cuz its a disgrace on our manhood….
we r very conservative wen it comes to treating our women….including sisters and mothers….veryyyy protective….( i mean i am,i nevr let thm go out alone wen im around)….
man im thinkin of writin a book on Taureans and how to get beyond our their thick hides…thru to the real guy…hehehehehehe
ill thro in my experiences wit other zodiacs….
rowdy, ugh the waiting game lol. i think we’re all in the waiting room.
Wulkure I just enjoyed watching your comments on the bull. You amuse me! honest and funny at the same time *smile*
hope u found ‘em usefull too…
“your comments on the bull”
i AM a bull, Blue….so the comments are actually wht i feel bout questions being asked here…
thnx tho..
to all Noobsss…plz go to the other threads….u mite find questions u wanna ask have been askd & answerd……
So happy today with my taurus lover. i think if you explain your feelings and put your foot down you can get what you want.
as you may of read from my other comments i am a taurus women and truley believe that if you dont tell me how your feeling about something i might not know as i am not a mind reader so yesterday i had to pull my lover up for putting everyone else 1st maybe being with his ex and even thouh i did like him the fact that he worked so hard i didnt think he had time for me.
he text back saying sorry cld we meeet up b4 he had work around 2 in the morning i said yes thinking ok i can ask him what i need to know and get to the bottom of this,… WHAT A DRAWN OUT PROCESS. i ended up saying no im not seeing you at 2 if you want to see me make it another day when you have time for me.. because i knew he started work at 4 i felt that he wld finish early and could see me then.. he insisted on 2 and txt back sexy if you change your mind.
i felt we was locking horns at this point so i txt YES I AM SEXY>>> ITS A SHAME REALLY.. ok
so today after thinking why do i bother i get a messege askin what im doing today so i told him his like OK I WILL BE OVER IN 2HRS after work.
I was so excited to know that i had been strong enough to put my foot down with him by not allowing to come at 2 in the morning but also the fact that he had taken on board what id txt him about my feelings.
im like a flustered girl around him and he always calls himself my toyboy but i did let him know i wasnt happy about being let down over the weekend and he explained about work i also asked about his ex he said IV TOLD YOU THE ANSWER ALREADY which is no. so i said well you know at the beginning i said to you is this just sex you want?? and you was like NO BABE ITS NOT JUST SEX!!! . I said i think you was wrong cos it is just sex really isnt it?..HE looks at me and SAYS well do you think it is??? i said well yer but ok its more then sex..i love the way he turned that question back on me.
taurus ay people think im a charmer.. my lover seems to be so reasuring like everything is ok it will be fine dont worry stop worrying.. but he dont seem like a charmer he phones all the time and txt thinks im gorgeous and is full of compliments. when we are in each others company its the best feeling ever…
so why do i panic so much when i dont get to see him lol (that sounded a bit crazy .. i get fed up when he lets me down or cant decide what his doing).. it makes me think i wonder if we should cut the male tauruses some slack as from what i have read on other post most the women when there with mr taurus feel loved and cherished even if he is a bit of a mystery.
i told him today as i taurus women i express my feelings you dont as a taurus man.. but when i think about it the compliments the phonecalls what they say and how they react to you in the bedroom are some of the ways of them expressing how they feel..
i know tauruses wont bother with you if they dont care about you xx
thanks guys i know that was long but try and look at the bigger picture xx
and yes they love there mums sisters and daughters alot. my lover as 3 brothers but wld rather confide in his sister then his brothers(interesting)
i think u just have to observe and listen it is important then maybe ask questions later about the more serious subjects.
i have shown my fella that i do like him lotsssss but at the same time there is a risk that if he dont fix up im gone.
ONE MORE THING do any of your men get comfort from knowing where you are its like my one likes to know im indoors. if i go out and he rings me its like when u get in let me know… or on the weekends he will be like ok i might be in your area so you know keep ur phone on just incase i come up…
so im back on this site because the taurus guy i like is confusing me again. so we didnt talk for like all of two days when i told him that I needed to separate myself from him. we didnt talk all weekend and monday morning he IM me and acted like nothing was wrong and before i could tell him i was busy and get off he tells me that he’s looking for a job (since he was laid off from his last one), trying to make a cover letter and wanted me to proof read his paper (which he never even started on!) so we started talking again. well he told me about a highschool girl that he was talking to now and how they were just friends and you know I was like whatever right. and their hanging out. well recently a guy that I met like two months ago contacted me out of the blue for no reason after a month of not talking. well he asked me out and I was excited because its been a while since I’ve been on a date with a guy. Well I told my taurus friend out of excitement and to see his reaction but of course, him being a taurus man, he seemed uninterested and acted like he didnt care whatever. but you know he asked how i met him, what happened between us and i told him that we met at my job but he didnt work there, he was there to see a friend and you know he tried to talk to me then but i didnt pay attention to him because i wasnt feeling him like that, I was still stuck on my taurus guy. and the guy still ended up with my number because my co-worker gave it to him without my knowledge. anyways i told my taurus guy all this and i told him i wasnt sure if i want to be in anything serious right now just because Im in college and its crunch time right now. but the taurus guy was telling me that maybe i should give him a chance. well today he changes the conversation and is like so hows your “new pimp doing” because the guy im talking to is like 27 maybe 30 and Im like 20-21. and i Know he was joking but it still made me think why would you care how he’s doing if you acted like you didn’t care before? and we got into a deep conversation about what i find necessary in a guy and it seemed as if he was thinking and absorbing what i was saying, like he was taking notes. and then the conversation just ended. The thing is when I asked him about the girl he was talking to he was very short like we’re just friends, she has too much s*** going on in her life and its really annoying talking about it with her. so from that statement it told me that he wasnt into her like that and it was platonic. And this weekend we’re going to hang out. and the funny thing is before he wouldn’t come down to see me, he came to see me to go to the concert and that’s when we did the deed that one time and I told him that we couldnt do that again if he wanted to remain friends. well yesterday when i asked if we were still on for this weekend and he said yea and he told me that even though his car was f’d up and he was low on cash he would come down here, two hrs away and take me to dinner and whatever. and I said no because he came here last time and it wouldnt be fair so I’d go up there to see him. I just thought that to be odd because he never seemed to go out of his way for me before. I dont know.
And yesterday when we got onto the subj of the guy im “talking” to, he suddenly switches up and starts playing youtube videos of this techo artist we like who went to africa and Im african. It was a love song too and Im like wow. and then we get onto a conversation about how talking isnt as strong as showing how you feel and it made me think about the video he showed me you know. and the day he talked to me about proof reading his paper he says he feels emotional and plays a bunch of love songs but refers to the beats of the songs as what he likes most. so Im not so sure whats going on. what do you guys think?